@ahernandez16 the next time someone says that I would say "What's wrong with being black?"
On another note, while at work someone walked up to me while in a group and put their ear near my stomach and said what's going on in there. I was so shocked and pissed off but because I'm at work I tried to keep my composure while saying "don't ever do that again". Goodness!!!
It hasn't happened yet, but I'm just waiting for a stranger to touch my belly so that I can touch theirs back. Ha! I remember hearing of giving that response on the Sept 2012 board. Someone, please do this. I'm not sure if I am gutsy enough.
It's our third kid so people are quite curious as to whether or not we tried to get pregnant this time. Really? You want to know about our birth control practices? How much detail do you want on how, exactly, this happened?
Hi! I was on S12 for a short time too, but I had trouble keeping up because DS1 was so needy!
This is our third also so I get a lot of "were you trying to have them so close together?" Yes we were, but that's really none of your business.
The worst comments I've gotten have been related to this being our first girl after two boys. "You're done now since this baby is a girl right?" Or "I bet you're so happy it's not another boy aren't you?"
Well I'm not sure we're done after 3 regardless of the fact that this baby is a girl, and I'd have been thrilled with a third boy! Boys are awesome!
Haha, I get the "Just you waits" all the time. It's gotten to the point where at work I don't me tion anything bad about my pregnancy, even if someone asks how I'm doing, I lie and say everything's great and I have no complaints, even tho there's a child's foot pounding on my too full bladder and I'm basically existing on Tums at this point.
@michellabanana Why do people think this is the renaissance and women have to be shut away for their third trimester. I've has students (I work as a MEDICAL magnet school...where students are studying to enter into Pre-med programs) ask me "When are you going to stop coming here?"...ummm when my water breaks? I'm a teacher, not a construction worker. If I am lucky enough to be healthy until the end, I'm going to work until the end...why is this so shocking?
This makes me so, so glad I am basically a SAHM. Although last time I was pregnant we had just moved and were checking out churches and it was the dreaded "meet and greet time" (side note--why is this a thing?) and someone came up to me and asked for a hug (this was our first time at the church)--and since I'm not a touchy feely person, I said no thanks and offered my hand for a shake. She said "too bad, I'm a hugger" and hugged me. I almost walked out right there. Being 38 weeks pregnant probably didn't help anything. Someone else at that church just walked up to me and rubbed my belly.
This makes me so, so glad I am basically a SAHM. Although last time I was pregnant we had just moved and were checking out churches and it was the dreaded "meet and greet time" (side note--why is this a thing?) and someone came up to me and asked for a hug (this was our first time at the church)--and since I'm not a touchy feely person, I said no thanks and offered my hand for a shake. She said "too bad, I'm a hugger" and hugged me. I almost walked out right there. Being 38 weeks pregnant probably didn't help anything. Someone else at that church just walked up to me and rubbed my belly.
Wow. Why do people have so little respect for personal space?! Good grief.
Lord help the first stranger that tries to touch my belly unpermitted...I can see the news headlines now. Seriously though, why do people feel they have any right at all to touch a baby belly without being granted permission? I don't get it.
Seriously. .. this is why I keep my "friend" circle small.... half these comments sound like the people were joking or being playful and you guys are on here just ragging on even your own family like they are stupid... glad your not in my family .... smh
I haven't had anything too crazy except all the people who feel sorry for me that neither baby is a girl! Also, all the people I barely know who asked if I got pregnant with twins naturally. Really? Boundaries people!!
My sister also had twins and right after they were born some strange lady came up to tell her at Walmart to tell her that the reason there are so many twins is because God is making up for all the abortions!! People are crazy!!
Seriously. .. this is why I keep my "friend" circle small.... half these comments sound like the people were joking or being playful and you guys are on here just ragging on even your own family like they are stupid... glad your not in my family .... smh
Seriously. .. this is why I keep my "friend" circle small.... half these comments sound like the people were joking or being playful and you guys are on here just ragging on even your own family like they are stupid... glad your not in my family .... smh
About an hour ago, I walked out of a café with my lunch, and a complete stranger said "careful... don't eat too much... see what happens?" while gesturing towards my belly. I think he was flat out implying that I was fat, without realizing that I'm almost 7 months pregnant!
My sister also had twins and right after they were born some strange lady came up to tell her at Walmart to tell her that the reason there are so many twins is because God is making up for all the abortions!! People are crazy!!
It would have been tempting to say, "Well, no, then I would be having quintuplets." ... Smile sweetly, walk away while that crazy bitch's brain explodes all over aisle 7.
TTC#1 since May 2011
BFP #1 June 2011 m/c@6wks
BFP #2 December 2011, EDD 8/21/12, born 7/21/12 at 35w4d
Seriously. .. this is why I keep my "friend" circle small.... half these comments sound like the people were joking or being playful and you guys are on here just ragging on even your own family like they are stupid... glad your not in my family .... smh
Seriously. .. this is why I keep my "friend" circle small.... half these comments sound like the people were joking or being playful and you guys are on here just ragging on even your own family like they are stupid... glad your not in my family .... smh
Seriously. .. this is why I keep my "friend" circle small.... half these comments sound like the people were joking or being playful and you guys are on here just ragging on even your own family like they are stupid... glad your not in my family .... smh
Seriously. .. this is why I keep my "friend" circle small.... half these comments sound like the people were joking or being playful and you guys are on here just ragging on even your own family like they are stupid... glad your not in my family .... smh
Seriously. .. this is why I keep my "friend" circle small.... half these comments sound like the people were joking or being playful and you guys are on here just ragging on even your own family like they are stupid... glad your not in my family .... smh
I have several aunts who have never had children. One of them asked repeatedly when I was going to stop driving during my last pregnancy. She also believes that you shouldn't hold another woman's baby if you are on your period.
@ahernandez16 - I gotta say, I feel your pain lady though the comments you are getting are just weird. Everyone feels the need to comment on what color our baby will be (H is Indian, I'm Scandinavian). I get curiosity so I'm usually ok with it if it comes from a genuine place. We also get "mixed babies are so cute!" comments a lot, which, again, I really don't mind per se but I do find it a bit awkward since no one makes comments like "white babies are so cute!" or "black babies are so cute!" just mixed babies apparently.
I've heard some doozies so far other than that including "Any day now, eh?" (at 22 weeks...so, yeah, no) and the worst was "Wow, you've really packed on the pounds!" (oh gee, thanks) which I heard after someone else told me "You've lost weight!". I give up on why people feel the need to comment on my body.
I have coworkers telling me all the time "you just wait..." all the time and like most of you have said, it's annoying because I get that my stomach is going to get bigger and sleep is going to get harder and heartburn is going to get worse and basically according to all of them my life is going to suck. But this is all new to me. I don't really need to be told "you just wait..."
Really the only person I can take saying that stuff is my mom. For whatever reason, when she says you just wait, it doesn't bother me at all. Maybe because I know she's coming from a place of love and we have the best relationship. From anyone else, it's just annoying.
I have coworkers telling me all the time "you just wait..." all the time and like most of you have said, it's annoying because I get that my stomach is going to get bigger and sleep is going to get harder and heartburn is going to get worse and basically according to all of them my life is going to suck. But this is all new to me. I don't really need to be told "you just wait..."
Really the only person I can take saying that stuff is my mom. For whatever reason, when she says you just wait, it doesn't bother me at all. Maybe because I know she's coming from a place of love and we have the best relationship. From anyone else, it's just annoying.
So happy this isn't just me. My mom can say or do something and it'll get an eye roll or a "really mom?" but my MIL or someone else will do the exact same thing and I'll get legitimately angry. I know they're all coming from a place of love but for some reason anyone but my mom doing some of these things is just irritating.
The "just you wait" comments are so annoying. I'm complaining because I'm uncomfortable now and I'm still going to complain when I'm 40 weeks along because I'll be uncomfortable then too.
I posted my first (and only, so far) bump picture on Facebook at 20 weeks and said that I was 50% through this pregnancy and 100% over being pregnant and put a little preface at the end that read...
"and yes, I know... 'Just wait.'" People thought it was hilarious.
Seriously. .. this is why I keep my "friend" circle small.... half these comments sound like the people were joking or being playful and you guys are on here just ragging on even your own family like they are stupid... glad your not in my family .... smh
And it's YOU'RE. If you're going to insult us, spell it correctly.
I totally love letting strangers go on and on with "just you wait" because they have no idea that this is my 3rd baby. Sometimes I play along and pretend to be legitimately shocked or concerned by their warnings. Their bull shit usually gets even more hilarious at that point.
H just reminded me about a run in with a woman he remembers as Episotomy Lady from Whole Foods, also encountered in pregnancy #2. She advised that I make sure they cut me "down there" and add a "Daddy stitch" for later, wink wink. We went for blueberry breakfast sausage and left with post partum vagina advice. H finds it hilarious that this happened while we were buying sausage. He's a 12 year old boy sometimes.
I haven't had anything too crazy except all the people who feel sorry for me that neither baby is a girl! Also, all the people I barely know who asked if I got pregnant with twins naturally. Really? Boundaries people!!
My sister also had twins and right after they were born some strange lady came up to tell her at Walmart to tell her that the reason there are so many twins is because God is making up for all the abortions!! People are crazy!!
Thank you for helping correct the Horrible Era of Females Doing Abortion® with your Extreme Double Pro-Life® act of twinning! What the hell? Is this for real- what in the Walmart is going on with people that makes them obsess over this shite?! Get a life!
But seriously- twins sounds like double the fun to me- (I am biased and would LOVE 2 of my boy. I can't wait to give him a brother soon!)
I have several aunts who have never had children. One of them asked repeatedly when I was going to stop driving during my last pregnancy. She also believes that you shouldn't hold another woman's baby if you are on your period.
I don't understand. Science is real Auntie, this is not.
Seriously. .. this is why I keep my "friend" circle small.... half these comments sound like the people were joking or being playful and you guys are on here just ragging on even your own family like they are stupid... glad your not in my family .... smh
HAHAHA! How did I miss this!?
To be fair, I rag on my own family to their faces also... not just anonymously on the Internet.
I have several aunts who have never had children. One of them asked repeatedly when I was going to stop driving during my last pregnancy. She also believes that you shouldn't hold another woman's baby if you are on your period.
I don't understand. Science is real Auntie, this is not.
It's apparently a wives tale, which I have heard more than my fair share of growing up in a Mexican family. I have no idea why she is the only person I have ever heard say this in my entire life. I actually just googled it and quite a few members of random Baby Center boards believe this to be true. HAHAHAHA
When I was pregnant last time I was working as the EEO Officer for a law enforcement agency in the state of New Mexico and I got tons Tons TONS of comments about how I was going to have such a cute "Anglo baby".
I was also told that getting pregnant would defo stop the lesbian rumors. Wut. (Being an unmarried, educated white woman can mean only one thing: Bubble Kiss Pillow Fight All Girl Panty Party!)
Seriously. .. this is why I keep my "friend" circle small.... half these comments sound like the people were joking or being playful and you guys are on here just ragging on even your own family like they are stupid... glad your not in my family .... smh
Seriously. .. this is why I keep my "friend" circle small.... half these comments sound like the people were joking or being playful and you guys are on here just ragging on even your own family like they are stupid... glad your not in my family .... smh
And it's YOU'RE. If you're going to insult us, spell it correctly.
I have several aunts who have never had children. One of them asked repeatedly when I was going to stop driving during my last pregnancy. She also believes that you shouldn't hold another woman's baby if you are on your period.
I don't understand. Science is real Auntie, this is not.
It's apparently a wives tale, which I have heard more than my fair share of growing up in a Mexican family. I have no idea why she is the only person I have ever heard say this in my entire life. I actually just googled it and quite a few members of random Baby Center boards believe this to be true. HAHAHAHA
Mexican wives tales are insane. I have heard that I need to eat what I'm craving when I'm craving it or my baby will come out looking like my craving???
Also a Mexican coworker told me once when it was raining and I had forgotten my umbrella that I needed to go home (during work) and take a shower because it was bad luck to only get the top of my head wet?
I have several aunts who have never had children. One of them asked repeatedly when I was going to stop driving during my last pregnancy. She also believes that you shouldn't hold another woman's baby if you are on your period.
I don't understand. Science is real Auntie, this is not.
It's apparently a wives tale, which I have heard more than my fair share of growing up in a Mexican family. I have no idea why she is the only person I have ever heard say this in my entire life. I actually just googled it and quite a few members of random Baby Center boards believe this to be true. HAHAHAHA
Mexican wives tales are insane. I have heard that I need to eat what I'm craving when I'm craving it or my baby will come out looking like my craving???
Also a Mexican coworker told me once when it was raining and I had forgotten my umbrella that I needed to go home (during work) and take a shower because it was bad luck to only get the top of my head wet?
My favorite is the safety pins on your panties during an eclipse. Or maybe the one about owls being the Bruja. Ooohhhh. The one about lifting your hands over your head is going to make the cord strangle the baby. There are way too many to choose from. They are all insane!
Oh good god. I had a brand new coworker I barely know and DO NOT like (she's very clearly got a drug problem) come up to me and start roughly massaging my stomach to see where the baby was and make him move. Without asking me. I bluntly informed her she was well on her way to a bitch slap and now she doesn't like me either. Boo. People think it's perfectly alright to discuss my size and weight in front of me like I'm not there (Apparently there's quite a divide, some people think I'm too small and others think I'm too big. I get no opinion in this, nor does my doctor). My husband is half Native American, the white half of his family has made several comments about how I ruined his bloodline because he was supposed to marry a Native girl (Her name is Kourtney, she's from an entirely different nation, and they dated for six weeks when he and I were broken up. We're friends, she has a little girl with a very nice man from Kenya). The Native side of his family calls me daily for baby updates and to talk about how excited they are. I was buying Spaghetti-Os at the grocery store and the cashier stared at me for a full 30 second before asking who they were for because eating things like that could make my baby "retarded". Actual word used.
Lurking from May 16, I just had to comment when I saw this thread! Yes, people say totally crazy stuff to me nowadays- especially this doozy from my grandmother---- my shower was last week, my grandma comes up to me and starts asking me about my OB and the hospital I'm delivering at... She then says, "I'm so glad it's a good hospital, I would sure hate to lose you if something terrible were to happen". WTF!! Who says that to a pregnant woman... At her BABY SHOWER...?!? Ugh thanks for the bad mojo, grandma!
I have several aunts who have never had children. One of them asked repeatedly when I was going to stop driving during my last pregnancy. She also believes that you shouldn't hold another woman's baby if you are on your period.
I don't understand. Science is real Auntie, this is not.
It's apparently a wives tale, which I have heard more than my fair share of growing up in a Mexican family. I have no idea why she is the only person I have ever heard say this in my entire life. I actually just googled it and quite a few members of random Baby Center boards believe this to be true. HAHAHAHA
Mexican wives tales are insane. I have heard that I need to eat what I'm craving when I'm craving it or my baby will come out looking like my craving???
Also a Mexican coworker told me once when it was raining and I had forgotten my umbrella that I needed to go home (during work) and take a shower because it was bad luck to only get the top of my head wet?
My favorite is the safety pins on your panties during an eclipse. Or maybe the one about owls being the Bruja. Ooohhhh. The one about lifting your hands over your head is going to make the cord strangle the baby. There are way too many to choose from. They are all insane!
I made sure there were no owls in the O.R. when I had my c-section last time!!! But then, we got a pack & play that is covered with adorable owls!!!!!!!!!!! With an owl mobile. Very scary. not.
Re: People are strange. When you're.... pregnant.
On another note, while at work someone walked up to me while in a group and put their ear near my stomach and said what's going on in there. I was so shocked and pissed off but because I'm at work I tried to keep my composure while saying "don't ever do that again". Goodness!!!
This is our third also so I get a lot of "were you trying to have them so close together?" Yes we were, but that's really none of your business.
Well I'm not sure we're done after 3 regardless of the fact that this baby is a girl, and I'd have been thrilled with a third boy! Boys are awesome!
Married: 12/16/12
TTC #1: 06/15 BFP #1:07/13/15
D&C: 08/28/15
BFP #2: 09/26/15
M: 06/03/16
BFP #2: 02/12/18
L : 7/26/18 (SIUGR, micropreemie)
Although last time I was pregnant we had just moved and were checking out churches and it was the dreaded "meet and greet time" (side note--why is this a thing?) and someone came up to me and asked for a hug (this was our first time at the church)--and since I'm not a touchy feely person, I said no thanks and offered my hand for a shake. She said "too bad, I'm a hugger" and hugged me. I almost walked out right there. Being 38 weeks pregnant probably didn't help anything. Someone else at that church just walked up to me and rubbed my belly.
Lord help the first stranger that tries to touch my belly unpermitted...I can see the news headlines now. Seriously though, why do people feel they have any right at all to touch a baby belly without being granted permission? I don't get it.
My sister also had twins and right after they were born some strange lady came up to tell her at Walmart to tell her that the reason there are so many twins is because God is making up for all the abortions!! People are crazy!!
Married: 12/16/12
TTC #1: 06/15 BFP #1:07/13/15
D&C: 08/28/15
BFP #2: 09/26/15
M: 06/03/16
BFP #2: 02/12/18
L : 7/26/18 (SIUGR, micropreemie)
BFP #1 June 2011 m/c@6wks
BFP #2 December 2011, EDD 8/21/12, born 7/21/12 at 35w4d
BFP #3 October 6, 2015. WHAT???
(Dang it! Beat me to it @KOR121
I've heard some doozies so far other than that including "Any day now, eh?" (at 22 weeks...so, yeah, no) and the worst was "Wow, you've really packed on the pounds!" (oh gee, thanks) which I heard after someone else told me "You've lost weight!". I give up on why people feel the need to comment on my body.
Really the only person I can take saying that stuff is my mom. For whatever reason, when she says you just wait, it doesn't bother me at all. Maybe because I know she's coming from a place of love and we have the best relationship. From anyone else, it's just annoying.
I posted my first (and only, so far) bump picture on Facebook at 20 weeks and said that I was 50% through this pregnancy and 100% over being pregnant and put a little preface at the end that read...
"and yes, I know... 'Just wait.'" People thought it was hilarious.
And it's YOU'RE. If you're going to insult us, spell it correctly.
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H just reminded me about a run in with a woman he remembers as Episotomy Lady from Whole Foods, also encountered in pregnancy #2. She advised that I make sure they cut me "down there" and add a "Daddy stitch" for later, wink wink. We went for blueberry breakfast sausage and left with post partum vagina advice. H finds it hilarious that this happened while we were buying sausage. He's a 12 year old boy sometimes.
But seriously- twins sounds like double the fun to me- (I am biased and would LOVE 2 of my boy. I can't wait to give him a brother soon!)
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HAHAHA! How did I miss this!?
To be fair, I rag on my own family to their faces also... not just anonymously on the Internet.
I was also told that getting pregnant would defo stop the lesbian rumors. Wut. (Being an unmarried, educated white woman can mean only one thing: Bubble Kiss Pillow Fight All Girl Panty Party!)
Also a Mexican coworker told me once when it was raining and I had forgotten my umbrella that I needed to go home (during work) and take a shower because it was bad luck to only get the top of my head wet?
People think it's perfectly alright to discuss my size and weight in front of me like I'm not there (Apparently there's quite a divide, some people think I'm too small and others think I'm too big. I get no opinion in this, nor does my doctor).
My husband is half Native American, the white half of his family has made several comments about how I ruined his bloodline because he was supposed to marry a Native girl (Her name is Kourtney, she's from an entirely different nation, and they dated for six weeks when he and I were broken up. We're friends, she has a little girl with a very nice man from Kenya). The Native side of his family calls me daily for baby updates and to talk about how excited they are.
I was buying Spaghetti-Os at the grocery store and the cashier stared at me for a full 30 second before asking who they were for because eating things like that could make my baby "retarded". Actual word used.
my shower was last week, my grandma comes up to me and starts asking me about my OB and the hospital I'm delivering at... She then says, "I'm so glad it's a good hospital, I would sure hate to lose you if something terrible were to happen". WTF!! Who says that to a pregnant woman... At her BABY SHOWER...?!? Ugh thanks for the bad mojo, grandma!