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Sadness

NYCMom1NYCMom1 member
edited March 2016 in October 2015 Moms
So I have two DDs now and I love them both so much and am so glad to have sisters...when we found out our second would also be a girl I went through a little depression.  Since having my daughter, there is no disappointment until I find out that someone I know is having a boy and I get so sad for a few days. 

Anyone else feel like this?  It drives me crazy.. I really wish the sad feelings would not happen, I'm really tired of it!




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Re: Sadness

  • dAsch14dAsch14 member
    I would hope the disappointment goes away a little every time you hear of a couple struggling to conceive. Many people out there would be over joyed to have and dream of a healthy baby every single day.
    Next time you feel sad say a prayer for those couples who are struggling. 
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  • NYCMom1NYCMom1 member
    I understand why you would reply this way to me and I do pray for those struggling to conceive as someone very close to me is going through just that.  One of the reasons I posted on here is because I can't tell anyone close to me that I feel this way.

    I know it seems like it's a terrible thing but the depression is real and it keeps happening to me and I want to have it stop. When someone is struggling with something it's very real to them even though it may seem silly to someone else.  No need to add to my guilt, trust me it's already there! 
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  • KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
    I understand your feelings OP. I went through that when we found out LO was a girl. DH really wanted a boy, and i always wanted a biy first. I grew up with an older brother and it was an amazong way to grow up. We were really close so when he passed away it broke me. I had prayed and hoped that our forst baby would be a boy because every little girl deserves a big brother. We had a hard time getting pregnant so i feel blessed to have a healthy baby, but everytime someone i know has a boy i get a little sad. I feel like my daughter is going to lose out and i also feel like i am not a good enough woman to teach her how to be a woman. 
    Girls are scary! 
    Is this the last baby youre planning? Maybe God wanted to maoe sure your little girls had their sister before he threw a boy into the mix :) 
    Im sorry i dont have any advice, but my heart goes out to you. I understand how hard it is to be so torn between being happy and being sad. 
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  • NYCMom1NYCMom1 member
    Thank you for being understanding!  This is the last baby we are planning on and I think that is why it has hit me so hard.

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  • mommav83mommav83 member
    I get it, my first was a boy and I was so disappointed, I think bc it wasn't planned and I was not super excited about the prospect of being pregnant so young I felt a girl would take away some of the sting. I love my son more than anything and 10 years later I got my little girl but I get it. 
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