I apologize if this had been discussed, but where do YOU sleep? My husband goes back to work tomorrow and we haven't even really been sleeping in the same bed since bringing baby home. If we start out together, I end up on the couch before morning because baby is being fussy. I feel guilty when baby wakes my husband especially now that he's going to be going back to work, and I'm not. Should I just sleep on the couch? Anyone else feel this way? What does everyone else do? It's kind of really getting to me, and I'm pretty down knowing that I'll most likely be kicked to the couch.
Baby shares a room with us when I sleep in our room. When I move to the couch, baby comes with and sleeps in the RnP.
Re: Where do YOU sleep?
The baby is both of yours, so I wouldn't inconvenience yourself trying to avoid waking H. If he's anything like mine, he'll start sleeping right through it, anyway! Since I'm BFing, I do all the night wakings and he sleeps, so he can deal with a little bit of fussing
We have been married since September 28, 2013.
We had our first child, Zoey, February 7, 2016.
i get that he has to go to work, but it's not like I'm home eating bon bons. And we all know 'sleep when the baby sleeps' is a load of crap. We view my maternity leave, as if I'm working full time as usual, so we share our night time duties also.
I'm not happy about our sleeping arrangements but I know at least one of us should be sleeping and I'm Ebf so I'll be up anyway... I'm really hoping this baby figures out sleeping soon and we can go back to all being in the same bed!
If you're feeling really guilty (and you shouldn't) Maybe just take the couch on nights when LO is being super fussy?
If DH wakes up in the middle of the night, he (and the dog, lol) come up to bed. LO sleeps in a pack and play bassinet in the nursery which is right next door to our room. I keep the video monitor at a loud volume. DH can sleep right through LO's occasional shrieking...maybe it's a guy thing? Anyway, sometimes, especially if I just fed LO, I'll wake up DH and have him go check LO's diaper. This arrangement works for now...
ETA I agree with others that you might be surprised how quickly your husband gets used to baby's noises and sleeps right through them! If you're the one tending to the baby, I think it's okay for you to put yourself first and sleep wherever it works best!
It does get better and easier. Good luck to you!