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Why do people feel the need to question your name choices for your baby?

kbequette08kbequette08 member
in June 2016 Moms
I always get people asking what we're naming our son so I tell them and then they seem to think I should have some huge significant reason as to why I chose that name. Cant I just pick the name because we fell in love with it and it balances nicely with our last name? I think people seem to think we choose names because so and so that was their name or its biblical or whatever. Just makes me wonder. I mean half the names I love for our future kids have been picked out back when I was a teenager dreaming of my family one day lol



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  • Diesel615Diesel615 member
    I hate how people think they have the right to an opinion about everything for our baby's including names. This is one of the reasons I'm very quiet about a lot of choices for my baby. Only my H and I know the name, and we're keeping it that way until he's born. I have no reason for the name I chose, I just liked it and it popped in my head one day and my H and I both agreed on it. That's a good enough reason for me.  People just like to hear themselves talk or feel they have influence or something. I donno.....
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  • MellBabyPeepsMellBabyPeeps member
    This is why we stopped sharing the names we've chosen.  It's only natural to react to a name. I know I've done it in the past. 
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  • kwife15kwife15 member
    That and more unsolicited name opinions are why we are not telling. Plus I feel like I have to see the little guy before naming him anyway.
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  • laurendiaz02laurendiaz02 member
    People will always have an opinion on everything including what doesn't pertain to them. Lol. If you love the name, that's all that matters!  It's your kid so do what you want
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  • kbequette08kbequette08 member
    I only tell people outside of my family because they aren't friends with me on Facebook so they cant exactly blab it to the world. I've only told my immediate family but have asked them not to post on Facebook the name until he's born and we're not either. I just wondered if I was the only one who gets this. I mean they weren't mean or anything they were just wondering how we came up with that name.



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  • BabyboyS2016BabyboyS2016 member
    We also are keeping it a secret, because someone somewhere knows some guy who was a jerk with this name or whatever. We chose it because it is special to us and their opinion doesn't matter to us. Our family actually heard us mention it as a possibility before it was decided (and subsequently decided it would be secret), so they won't be entirely shocked by the choice. 
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  • goldie987goldie987 member
    I think a lot of it is people having an idea in their own mind about what the name will be and when they hear your choice, it doesn't match with what they've been thinking.  Kind of like how there's always complaints about books turned into movies, everyone pictures it in their own head differently so they don't like the view someone else had.  Does that make any sense at all or am I just sounding like a crazy person? 
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  • crdocrdo member
    We've decided our baby name choices are classified to avoid anyone offering "suggestions" (as if I would let someone else have any part in naming my baby!), opinions, or whatever. Just easier for us. 

    Some people have issues with control, lack of boundaries, or less frequently are just nasty people, but those that simply want to know whether there's a special reason behind a name choice are merely curious and making conversation, I think. 
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  • BringmemylongswordhoBringmemylongswordho member
    People give opinions because until the baby is born, everything is abstract.  If they don't care for the name, or prefer different styles, it feels "okay" to voice a concern or opinion. As far as they know, they’re helping you by pointing out something you might have missed. Whereas once the baby's born and legally named, it's too late to "help" so why bother possibly upsetting you. 

    Example
    Friend   "we're going to name our boy Cohen!"
    Me: "are you sure? Are you aware of its origin and meaning in the Jewish community?  Have you thought about how that might affect him when he's older?"
    Compared to 
    Friend  "this is my baby, his name is Cohen!"
    Me "*cringing* What a cute baby."


    So, if you don’t want people's thoughts on a name,  don't tell them.
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  • lm45678lm45678 member
    This is exactly why we're not telling anyone! We love the names we've chosen and that's all that matters :)
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    DD Born 6/23/16
    Baby #2 Due 3/7/20
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  • splsmama2016splsmama2016 member
    I've already told a select few our daughters name. And I've already told people off about their opinions. 

    Example: 
    Friend- "Have you decided her name yet?"
    Me- "Yes, its Sydney Paige"
    Friend- "Thats cute, but I really like Emma or (insert another name I can't remember)"
    Me -"Oh thats cool, but my parents dog is an Emma and you can name your next kid (insert said name) when she comes around. H and I like the name we have chosen, and its not up to everyone else to pick her name. Thanks for your opinion though."

    The ONLY person who has REALLY complained about her first name is my 8-year-old niece who can't quite grasp the Syd-Knee all the time (sometimes comes out as Cindy or Syd-uh-nee), so she has decided that until she can get it right, she's going to call her baby cousin Syd. And I'm ok with that because she's 8. And she's my mini-me. 

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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
    sdLindenberg said:
    I've already told a select few our daughters name. And I've already told people off about their opinions. 

    Example: 
    Friend- "Have you decided her name yet?"
    Me- "Yes, its Sydney Paige"
    Friend- "Thats cute, but I really like Emma or (insert another name I can't remember)"
    Me -"Oh thats cool, but my parents dog is an Emma and you can name your next kid (insert said name) when she comes around. H and I like the name we have chosen, and its not up to everyone else to pick her name. Thanks for your opinion though."

    The ONLY person who has REALLY complained about her first name is my 8-year-old niece who can't quite grasp the Syd-Knee all the time (sometimes comes out as Cindy or Syd-uh-nee), so she has decided that until she can get it right, she's going to call her baby cousin Syd. And I'm ok with that because she's 8. And she's my mini-me. 
    I love your name. If we were having a girl, our baby would be Sydney. I love that name and I've loved it since I was in HS. My husband loves it too. We're having a boy, and we are keeping his name a secret from our friends and family for these very reasons. 



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  • Sydney&MattSydney&Matt member
    Ours is Henry for a boy and DH and I keep getting weird looks when we tell family members, it drives me nuts because Henry isn't even that uncommon of a name!

    @sdLindenberg and @huskypuppy14: Sydney is a wonderful name, I have loved it for 27 years :)
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  • jwilly87jwilly87 member
    We have told our possible boy name to our friends and family but only because it is SO's name so there really can't be any judgement for it! Our possible girl name will be a secret to everyone (besides our mom's) until she is here... Team green makes it kind of easy to not tell! 
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