Trying to move on, still in shock

scifichick09 · March 2016

I'm moving over here from Sept 2016 board...like many others we had no warning. I was at an Oscar's party on Sunday and suddenly felt like something was wrong, stood up from my chair and felt a gush. Within minutes I lost a ridiculous amount of blood and lost the baby before I ever even made it to the ER. Its been hard, I was going in for my 10 weeks ultrasound on Tuesday, but instead it turned into a miscarriage appointment. Was going to announce to the office today...but instead had to explain why I was out for 2 days...and now I am learning I'm going to get a $2,200 hospital bill. Talk about insult to injury. I just don't even know what to do anymore. I feel so empty

zrain · March 2016

I'm so so sorry for your loss. What a shocking and terrifying thing to happen. I know what you mean about feeling empty. It's so hard to have a little life inside you one moment and the next it's gone. I hope you find the support you need from your family and friends. This board has been an incredible help for me. Make sure you take the time you need and don't feel like you need to move on right away. Grieve in whatever way you need to and take some time for yourself. *hugs*

BrightenMySky · March 2016

I am so sorry for your loss. It sucks and is devastating. You don't need to know what to do right now. Just take care of yourself. Can you take any more time off of work, or maybe do some work from home or shorter days? Please use this board however helps you, there are amazing, supportive ladies here.

scifichick09 · March 2016

I could take time off work, my boss has been very supportive, but I don't want to. I just feel like I need the distraction.

BrightenMySky · March 2016

@scifichick09 totally understandable. I am really glad your boss is supportive. I found out about my loss 2 days before we were supposed to be out on vacation, so it was relatively easy for me to just disappear from the office. I had a d&c on a Monday, and then had planned to return the following Monday (in part for the distraction), but ended up in the ER over the weekend so had a physical setback (and an accompanying emotional one) and ended up gradually working from home and then going in on Friday. I have found that sometimes being at work and being distracted was great, and other times I just needed to go home, cry in the shower, and curl up in bed. Days that I ignored those feelings until all I could do was sit at my desk and try not to cry were rough. I would just suggest that you do what feels right for you, which may change depending on how you're feeling, what you're working on, and if you get triggered (thanks, pregnancy announcement texts!). *hugs*

iceandsnowflakes29 · March 2016

So sorry for your loss ((hugs)).

ladipale · March 2016

so sorry for your loss.. i found out Friday that my Sept 1 due date baby stopped growing about a week prior. Terrible. Its impossible for me to figure out how to move forward.

XOXO

scifichick09 · March 2016

I'm so sorry @ladipale, all my love to you

fivetimesnoluck · March 2016

I am sorry for you both, @ladipale and @scifichick09. There is no rhyme or reason and I hate that you find yourselves here. Big love to you both.

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