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May 2016 Moms
laurenmdrn16
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WTF Wednesday 3/2/16
laurenmdrn16
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Ok, I'm starting it off.
No one will be surprised that my WTF goes to my nurse leader. She is so incompetent it is scary! She just sent out a department wide email giving little updates about CPR training etc and snuck in there that they are not going to hire a full-time nurse for the other elementary school in the district (mind you, the previous nurse gave her notice at the beginning of January and left at the beginning of February so how they haven't filled the position is beyond me) and will instead have a long-term sub for the rest of the year. Ok, cool, whatever. But then she wrote who the sub is going to be. It is the same sub who I was told would be covering MY school during my maternity leave. I have already told the entire staff, some of my daily visit students and their parents that this particular nurse would be covering and I requested her because she had a good rapport with some of my more needy kids/moms. So I asked who would be covering for my maternity leave (which she has known about since the beginning of the school year) and her email back was super vague like "Oh, well, we have time to figure that out. I think it will be so-and-so, but not sure yet." EXCUSE ME?! I am leaving April 15th. I want time to bring whoever will be sitting at my desk up to speed. I have a very complex case load this year and super touchy staff that are very resistant to change and liable to take advantage of a new nurse. I am livid. This is not how a nursing department should be run. I really hope to hear back a definitive answer from the other districts I have applied to so I can just wash my hands of this whole situation. I have way too much pride in my work and integrity to not let this bother me, but I am slowly starting to train myself to just not care.
No one will be surprised that my WTF goes to my nurse leader. She is so incompetent it is scary! She just sent out a department wide email giving little updates about CPR training etc and snuck in there that they are not going to hire a full-time nurse for the other elementary school in the district (mind you, the previous nurse gave her notice at the beginning of January and left at the beginning of February so how they haven't filled the position is beyond me) and will instead have a long-term sub for the rest of the year. Ok, cool, whatever. But then she wrote who the sub is going to be. It is the same sub who I was told would be covering MY school during my maternity leave. I have already told the entire staff, some of my daily visit students and their parents that this particular nurse would be covering and I requested her because she had a good rapport with some of my more needy kids/moms. So I asked who would be covering for my maternity leave (which she has known about since the beginning of the school year) and her email back was super vague like "Oh, well, we have time to figure that out. I think it will be so-and-so, but not sure yet." EXCUSE ME?! I am leaving April 15th. I want time to bring whoever will be sitting at my desk up to speed. I have a very complex case load this year and super touchy staff that are very resistant to change and liable to take advantage of a new nurse. I am livid. This is not how a nursing department should be run. I really hope to hear back a definitive answer from the other districts I have applied to so I can just wash my hands of this whole situation. I have way too much pride in my work and integrity to not let this bother me, but I am slowly starting to train myself to just not care.
Re: WTF Wednesday 3/2/16
*tosses back Mucinex*
My company put up my position as a temp position for my maternity leave 2 weeks ago. The job post states:
Required Experience
- 7-12 years experience in private practice negotiating contracts and handling contract administration,
- 5+ years contract drafting and review.
I don't even meet those qualifications, who do they think they will find for a 12 week temp position with those qualifications? Needless to say, it's been 2 weeks and no responses. WTF.In other news, if that's what they think my job requires I guess I should ask for a raise at my annual review next week,
dont put your stress on me pricipal! I've got other stuff to worry about.
This is my first post in months. I've been lurking after taking a very long break from TB, and decided to dip my toe in again on WTF Wednesday.
My WTF goes to the doctors that keep trying to slip in new consults in my schedule (I'm a mental health counselor). I've been saying since JANUARY that I'm not taking on new patients. I'm now less than two months away from my mat leave. They aren't the ones that would have to explain to new patients that they can get to know me for maybe four sessions, then have to start all over with a new counselor. That can be really rough on some people.
BFP #1: 9/12/2015
DD: 6/1/2016
BFP #2: 1/16/2018 MC 2/2/2018
BFP #1: 9/12/2015
DD: 6/1/2016
BFP #2: 1/16/2018 MC 2/2/2018
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!I think I will end up ok, unless something unexpected happens like I go into labor 6 weeks early. But what about those people who are due say...two weeks from today? WTF do they do? And the people who have worked for this facility for years? Ugh WTF. I don't wanna deliver at the baby factory
Mama to Three Girls:
Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
Who does that!? Say what you want when I leave, but don't go and tell me you said it after the fact.
I told them both they were rude and they just laughed it off like I was kidding. Seriously...What the actual F***!
but yes! The Baby Brezza has really mixed reviews but bad reviews come from those who don't follow the directions I've found. It does require a tiny bit of daily cleaning, around 30 seconds or so. If you keep up with that it is fantastic!! I plan to use it this time as well.
I did promise my cousin that if I hit the lottery, I would by it in a heartbeat!
So after all the money stress over the last few months with surprise car costs and surprise medical bills we had a bit of a pleasant surprise. So DH has 4 other kids and 3 are now adults but his youngest is 17. DH pays almost $1800 a month to his ex for that one child. Two of the older kids ( in thier 20s ) still live at home and pay rent and buy food. They do not have private insurance, they all use the basic free NZ healthcare. This boy never ever has new clothing. He does not have a savings account being made for him to help pay for his schooling after high-school. He bought his own computer with saved up birthday and Christmas money. The school bills keep getting forwarded to our house from hers so she isn't paying that. Where on earth is $1800 going?! Don't get me wrong . . . if he was being provided everything he needed then fine whatever but this kid eats freaking canned soup every other night for dinner and is always in old clothes (all school here including public have uniforms as well) while they buy new TVs and sofa sets.
Whenever he would act up the ex would call and make us come get him to "deal with it" so at one point we thought that it would be easier on everyone if he just lived with us. He gets treated like a pariah so why not just have him with us? Welp . . . the first words out of this woman's mouth were "I'll do it if I can keep the child payments" WTF lady?!? At 13 years old he was staying up till 3am playing video games at home because no one cared enough to make sure he had a bedtime and everyone is up in arms wondering why he is flunking school. He can't stay awake for crying out loud! Ok . . . back on topic . . . I'm on a side rant . . .
DH has been trying to get the child support people to review but they just don't do that here. Child support is just a flat % of your pay regardless what its being used for. Annnnyways . . . The winning part is that they actually did review and lowered it to 1300 just in time for insane baby costs.
I have also failed to hold open the door for someone who might have needed the help (which I know because she got real snarky about it afterward), but what she didn't know was that I'd just had an operation on that arm and couldn't have held the door anyway. My shirt sleeve covered the bandages so she had no idea. But it wasn't a matter of just not caring.
Mama to Three Girls:
Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
Then she asks how much time I'm taking off for the baby, I tell her our work policy is just a month unpaid, but I'm just going to take two because I know I'll need it (small company, not protected by FMLA, but reasonable bosses despite unreasonable policy). She then proceeds to talk at length about how her DIL in California has the most amazing benefits with four months fully paid leave, with options to continue leave at partial pay, etc... Um, thanks! Because while I basically have the crappiest possible maternity policy short of getting fired for being pregnant, I still love hearing in detail about all the other amazing benefits that random people I don't know get! Oh, and why don't you just go ahead and floss my gums as hard as you can, that's making this whole thing way better. WTF!!
My in-laws get the WTF award today. Mainly my father-in-law. To start with my mother-in-law is bi-polar and is in and out of my father-in-law's life. She'll go a month or two of talking to him and then something happens or he gets on her nerves and causes her too much stress (trust me that part is true) and she backs off for several months. It's a never ending cycle.
A little background on the father-in-law. He's never had to do anything for himself like ever. Someone always did it for him. When DH's parents were still married, he made them go to his parents for supper every night. Literally every night. If he did not get his way he would emotionally control people via guilt trips, etc. He still does that to this day. In the 80s he suffered a back injury that put him out of work forever. However, he is perfectly capable of doing stuff. He has just had everything done for him/handed to him and refuses to do much to help himself. When DH's mom left when DH was in high school. DH had to take care of his dad and pretty much did not get to have a normal teenage life. My FIL puts DH on guilt trips all the time if he can't drop everything to do what he wants him to do. It is really really really really really bad. Really this isn't even just the tip of the iceberg as to how much his father has effed up his life.
My DH has had mental issues (depression/ocd) since he was a kid. He has been going to a shrink (b/c psychiatrist is too hard to type and/or spell) since he was a kid. He has been on medicines since he was a kid. He told me that he never talked to the doctor, but just came to get his refills. Doctor never made him talk. DH is not good at talking about his feelings. We have been married for five years and this year is the first he has really really really opened up to me. He talks to me a lot more to me than he ever used to. That is progress! So anyway his shrink had a massive heart attack late last year and decided to close the office. He stopped taking his medicine and thought he felt fine. Turns out the medicine has a half life where it still seems as if it is working and all. Well the half life apparently wore off a month or more ago. Since then my DH has been in a serious downhill spiral.
So somehow (not sure exactly how this happened) his dad helped him find another shrink and they are going to see the same doctor, but not at the same time. (they saw the same doctor before). My DH has expressed several times that he wanted me to go with him to help put him at ease with the new doctor and to help him remember some of the things he is dealing with. He happened to mention this to his dad last night. His dad then called him and told him that he did not want me going with DH to DH's appt b/c I might tell the doctor things about him. Basically he is afraid of the doctor knowing the truth is what it seems like to me. And told him they probably shouldn't have the same doctor if I go with him. He does not want the doctor knowing about him. He bascially guilted my DH by telling him that he was his daddy and would do anything for him blah blah blah. So basically DH has a guilt cycle issue and always feels like he has to make his dad happy even if it isn't in his best interest. Like I said this has been ingrained him since he was a kid. So I am apparently no longer needed to go with him. I'm not too happy about that, but he really does need to get on medicine. I checked out some other offices but they don't have new patient openings until June or July and we cannot wait that long.
So now fast forward to tonight. But let's backtrack to last Saturday. I was talking to his mom about how I was worried about him. And I started crying b/c I was worried about my DH. Somehow she twisted all this and told his dad that I was crying b/c his bs made my DH violent and he took it out on me. She also told him that I was mad for him making the appt for DH. Like WTF?!?!?! My DH has never been violent with me. He knows if he were to even try I would kick his ass. So his dad was telling DH all this tonight. I'm just like wtf. I told DH what we had talked about. But anyway now his dad wants to evict his MIL. His MIL lives in one of his properties that he rents out Happens to be the house we used to live in and my DH still has a LOT of his stuff in the garage there. About five cars he is needing to restore, and a bunch of car tools and stuff. So if he evicts her like he says he will, then that means we will have to rent a storage building or something and move all that stuff to a storage facility etc when we really need to be concentrating on getting ready for this baby. It just puts more undue stress on my DH.
Oh and did I mention that FIL does not like me b/c I basically don't let him get away with guilting me into anything and I tell it like it is and will stand up to him? I shut his bs down real quick when he tries to pull it on me. He does not like it when I do that b/c he gets really mad (in a passive aggressive way) and pretty much emotionally takes it out on DH.
That was the short version believe it or not. But tonight my FIL gets the WTF award. Also can I retro nominate him for the Twatwaffle award too? lol
First Pregnancy
Second Pregnancy
- BFP: 09/11/2015
- EDD: 05/25/2016
Baby Born04/15/2016
PGAL
Wow!! I am sorry. That sucks. I am sure you will find somewhere else and it will be just as good, or better, than the hospital you had planned to give birth at. As far as the classes, if you paid for them are they giving you your money back? They better!
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!