@nwegman7878 I'm right there with you. MH has a stepsister who is 18 and has a 35 year old bf. A little backstory- Within a week of meeting, she let him tattoo his last name in her tramp stamp area. The tattoo is huge. Anyway, they had a baby and they're both hooked on heroin. The baby was born and the grandparents are fighting so hard to get them to stay with them in their house, but they'd rather live on the street. So they're homeless with an infant. It's so effed up and it makes me so angry.
I know what heroin can do to a person and how scary of a drug it is but they were in no financial/mature state to have a baby before the addiction. It's just not fair.
Me: 28 DH: 28
TTC #1 since Nov. 2015 Dx: Both tubes blocked, PCOS, DOR, RPL IVF Cycle #1 Dec. 2016 - 11R·11M·5F - Transferred 2 - BFP - Miscarriage - 0 Embryos Left
IVF Cycle #2 March 2017 - 5R·4M·3F - Transferred 1 - BFP - Miscarriage - 0 Embryos Left
Oh hugs... I'm so sorry this happened to your sounds like a super rough day. Take good care of yourself. I'm impressed that you even go to these things... I can't.
Thank you so much for the kind words I thought I had learned how to be ok and sociable at baby showers but this has proven me wrong. It's ok, because we are human and can only take so much. Today I disconnected and put some spa aromatherapy in a diffuser, read Atonement, and did yoga. It's been a great day.
2 Laps and 1 Abdominal Myomectomy 6 rounds of clomid 5 rounds of iui Several HSG's sprinkled throughout the years to up my chances of a BFP Several dilation of cervix because they suspect the scar tissue is hindering it from fully opening (partially adds to the severe cramps all month) IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide ER 12/1/2016
ER-Retrieved 22 eggs 10 fertilized 4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls FET 1/10/2017 Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017 FET estimated end of Feb, beginning of March
2 Laps and 1 Abdominal Myomectomy 6 rounds of clomid 5 rounds of iui Several HSG's sprinkled throughout the years to up my chances of a BFP Several dilation of cervix because they suspect the scar tissue is hindering it from fully opening (partially adds to the severe cramps all month) IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide ER 12/1/2016
ER-Retrieved 22 eggs 10 fertilized 4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls FET 1/10/2017 Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017 FET estimated end of Feb, beginning of March
Well, I was going to bitch about my migraine (currently at stage Trying-Not-To-Barf-At-My-Desk but getting dangerously close to Putting-On-Sunglasses-Inside)... but it seems minimal compared to some others. Sending good thoughts to all of you!
I've done that at work before. Turned off all the lights, shut the blinds and put on sunglasses. Bossman walked in all confused, but didn't say a word. No regrets.
Yes! I do the sunglasses inside with a migraine thing pretty frequently! I'm always like, "I swear I'm not a huge douche, but my head is trying to explode out of my eyeballs, and these are the only things stopping it from doing so!!!!"
Me: 30 DH: 32 ~~ TTC #1: Sep 2015 ~~ BFP: Mar 2016 ~~ Daughter: Nov 2016 TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
My MBF is that DH was just a shade shy of being asleep during BD tonight and the 2nd I stopped doing, ahem, my job; he decides to finally orgasm. THEN "yelled" at me for stopping in the middle of his orgasm. EXCUSE ME! 2 seconds ago you had your eyes closed and were nearly snoring and drooling. How dare I rest my fucking legs for 5 seconds. Shut your face and give me your sperm. I have EWCM and O is imminent.
This opportunity to vent is the best thing that's happened to me all day.
I had car trouble on Friday and had to tow my car to the shop. It seems that I may have been the victim of a drive by shooting! I heard gun shots Thursday night and reported it to the police--I didn't know how far away the shots were but now I'm thinking they might have been right in front of my house because the mechanic says something hit my car and tore through the whatchamacallit and the thingamajig and everything in between. Waiting now for a cop to come over so I can file a police report and hope that my car insurance covers the ~$4000 to repair.
My BFM (which now seems totally idiotic compared to someone's husband being deployed) is my MIL/family In laws. To make a really really long story short, DH's father died when he was in his teen's, and ever since he has been "the man" of the family. They depend on him for so much. At first I thought it was really sweet at how close he was to them, but now I fight really hard not to resent them. They are constantly borrowing money, asking for favors, needing him to fix something. With the exception of his eldest brother, who moved away, none of his siblings or his mom work. They just....exist. It's really hard not to get angry with them and in turn, him, because they take so much of his time and energy (and resources) away from us. It's a vicious cycle where they need, he does, I get angry, we argue, I end up feeling super guilty, then my feelings are swept under the rug and it starts all over again. And even though he swears up and down once we have a LO, things will be different, we'll always come first, I can't help but feel like that will never happen. (Which, here I am again, feeling guilty just for writing this all out loud). And the reason I'm bringing it up today is because we had a whole weekend planned to ourselves, that didn't end up happening because MIL's hot water heater shit the bed and DH had to fix it.
Are we married to the same man? My husband's father didn't pass away, but his parents split when he was young (5 or so). He's been fixing his family's houses since he was a teenager. When we first got together, I, too, thought it was sweet and cute that he would drop plans to fix something at his mum's house. And then it turned in to an every-day-off kind of thing, and I got sick of going with him on our one day off together to fix someone's something. And, he wasn't getting paid for it. Instead, his mother would constantly bitch that something else needed fixing, and he shouldn't complain about helping because she paid his cell phone bill, and blah blah blah. The only reason things calmed down is because I showed him how truly ungrateful his mother was. Hubby agreed to install a new tub and floor in her bathroom because her tub was leaking and the floor started to bow. We were there until 2 in the morning trying to finish it, and we both had to work the next morning, and she had the audacity to tell us we had to stay there until it was 100% done because she "couldn't go to work without a bath" in the morning.
Yes! Ugh what IS it with (some) MIL's?! Mine is rough around the edges to begin with (mommy dearest), but it's only amplified because she acts helpless. My DH too didn't realize how ungrateful she was until about a year and a half into our relationship when I couldn't handle it anymore and spit the truth out. Yes, she's his mother, and YES, he absolutely needs to respect her and care for her, but he doesn't need to kill himself trying to fill is father's shoes, which is exactly how his MIL treats him. But, I'm slowly chipping away at him that things could be different. Here's too us trying lol.
Re: Monday Bitchfest
hugs to everyone on this tough Monday.
I know what heroin can do to a person and how scary of a drug it is but they were in no financial/mature state to have a baby before the addiction. It's just not fair.
Dx: Both tubes blocked, PCOS, DOR, RPL
IVF Cycle #1 Dec. 2016 - 11R·11M·5F - Transferred 2 - BFP - Miscarriage - 0 Embryos Left
Fur-children: 3 dogs + 2 cats (all rescued)
6 rounds of clomid
5 rounds of iui
Several HSG's sprinkled throughout the years to up my chances of a BFP
Several dilation of cervix because they suspect the scar tissue is hindering it from fully opening (partially adds to the severe cramps all month)
IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide
ER 12/1/2016
4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls
FET 1/10/2017
Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017
FET estimated end of Feb, beginning of March
Fur-children: 3 dogs + 2 cats (all rescued)
6 rounds of clomid
5 rounds of iui
Several HSG's sprinkled throughout the years to up my chances of a BFP
Several dilation of cervix because they suspect the scar tissue is hindering it from fully opening (partially adds to the severe cramps all month)
IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide
ER 12/1/2016
4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls
FET 1/10/2017
Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017
FET estimated end of Feb, beginning of March
TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
I had car trouble on Friday and had to tow my car to the shop. It seems that I may have been the victim of a drive by shooting! I heard gun shots Thursday night and reported it to the police--I didn't know how far away the shots were but now I'm thinking they
might have been right in front of my house because the mechanic says something hit my car and tore through the whatchamacallit and the thingamajig and everything in between. Waiting now for a cop to come over so I can file a police report and hope that my car insurance covers the ~$4000 to repair.
Hugs all around.
The only reason things calmed down is because I showed him how truly ungrateful his mother was. Hubby agreed to install a new tub and floor in her bathroom because her tub was leaking and the floor started to bow. We were there until 2 in the morning trying to finish it, and we both had to work the next morning, and she had the audacity to tell us we had to stay there until it was 100% done because she "couldn't go to work without a bath" in the morning.
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
Yes! Ugh what IS it with (some) MIL's?! Mine is rough around the edges to begin with (mommy dearest), but it's only amplified because she acts helpless. My DH too didn't realize how ungrateful she was until about a year and a half into our relationship when I couldn't handle it anymore and spit the truth out. Yes, she's his mother, and YES, he absolutely needs to respect her and care for her, but he doesn't need to kill himself trying to fill is father's shoes, which is exactly how his MIL treats him. But, I'm slowly chipping away at him that things could be different. Here's too us trying lol.