August 2016 Moms

July 2nd Baby Shower - Would You Go?

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edited February 2016 in August 2016 Moms
If your friend had a baby shower (BBQ in the evening) on July 2nd, the weekend of July 4th, would you go? Or would you skip it to go to a family BBQ?
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  • I'd skip it but send a gift, ideally send a gift along with someone who is going. (otherwise, just have it delivered)



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  • Our big family cookout is always on the 4th so we would be free on the Saturday before.


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  • Is that the only chance you'd have to see your family? If so, send a gift. If there are other family gatherings at other times in the weekend, go to the shower.
      


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  • It depends on how close you are with that friend. I personally don't like attending baby showers, especially if I only know the mother-to-be, so I'd skip the shower, but send a gift. But if you're close to her and see your family often other times, I'd maybe go to the shower.  
  • I have a friend who wants to throw me a shower on 4th of July weekend. I was thinking that it wouldn't be a good idea since a lot of people have set traditional plans or go out of town. If I was in town I would go but I often go out of town or have friends visiting that weekend.

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  • This depends on so many factors. My family has a lot of people go out of town for the 4th so it would never fly for me. H's family usually does a cookout but it may not be on the Saturday, it could be Sunday or the actual 4th. I'd only skip the family cookout if it were a really close friend and I could somehow swing going to both. I wouldn't normally skip a whole family gathering just for a shower. 
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  • When you think of the two which one would you most regret missing? 

    Are they at the exact same time? I feel like more information might be helpful. But I agree with PP it would depend on how close I am with that friend and how often I get to see my family. 
  • Wow. What a horrible choice of date. Send a gift.
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  • Tnallen107Tnallen107 member
    edited February 2016
    @Hannah0726 Well, I am actually trying to decide on a date for my shower.

    I am military, and all of my family is spread across the world. July 2nd is the only date that they can all come in for the shower, but I didn't want to offend those who actually live in town. At this point, I don't really have another option. If it is a problem for other people, then they won't come. But it is important to me that my family be there and together. Most of my close friends have said that their plans aren't until actual 4th of July, so I don't know that it will end up being a big deal. I just wanted an overall opinion on what is acceptable. Plus, here in Texas, most of the emphasis is put on Memorial day, not Independence Day. We are planning on having a late evening BBQ for the shower anyhow, so it will be more low-key. I hope it doesn't offend anyone. 

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  • I'd go. We normally don't celebrate until the day of.
  • I'd go for sure.  Then again my birthday is around 4th of July , so I know the struggle of having a party coincide with people's 4th plans.  
    But the 4th of July is a holiday ...most people have off and celebrate then ...I don't see why they wouldn't go on the 2nd.  Unless they were just finding an excuse to skip.   (Which is sad ). 
  • It would depend on if I had a better offer since the whole weekend is typically full of parties.  I avoid holiday weekends for events like weddings/showers/etc.  I've gone to things on holiday weekends and it always puts a sour taste in my mouth.
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  • We always go to the cabin 3 hours away in the poconos together during 4th of July so all the little cousins can play together. So technically I'd be unable to go. But I also could reschedule to go to the cabin right after the shower.... So....

    i guess it depends on your relationship with her?
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  • Assuming it is a relatively close friend, I would choose my friend.  In my world, people only have one baby shower--for their first baby.  It is a once in a lifetime thing for that friend.  A family barbeque will happen every year. 

    I recently gave up a work trip to Japan to host my BFF's shower.  For the Mom-to-be, it is an important event.

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  • Did she come to your shower or will you be inviting her to your shower (if you are a FTM)? I
    personally would go to the shower unless I had another engagement that was extremely important. 
    My DH and I usually host a 4th of July party at our house on the fourth and both friends and family are invited. I wouldn't expect someone to skip a friends baby shower just to come to our BBQ. We have the party every year a shower only happens once. 
  • Since it's a three-day weekend, there's always the chance that the family stuff would be on Sunday, July 3 instead. 
  • No way that you could fit in both? If not, family BBQ of course. Send your gift with someone who is going or pick a good time to grab lunch or something of that sort and give  her the gift then. IDK just a thought
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