Facebook Group

Mom987 · February 2016

Hello ladies! A friend of mine (also due October 2016) and I have started a secret Facebook group and would like to welcome anyone who would like to join. I believe the best way to add members without being Facebook friends is via an email address. If you would like to join the group please feel free to let me know!

emmaaa · February 2016

I know others expressed (and I am in agreement) in a previous thread that it is way too early in our pregnancies and we are all new to knowing each other to connect IRL yet.

PeggyOlsonFTW · February 2016

joyful08 · February 2016

I think it's a little early for a FB group. I haven't even told my family I am pregnant yet. I definitely wouldn't want them finding out because I join a fb group. Maybe in a several months I'll be ready to join one but it's still way too early for me!

mslove03 · February 2016

I second that.

br0co1ii · February 2016

emmaaa said:

I know others expressed (and I am in agreement) in a previous thread that it is way too early in our pregnancies and we are all new to knowing each other to connect IRL yet.

And of course I can't find that thread either. No wonder so many new threads get started everyday. The search function is relatively pointless for some things.

PeggyOlsonFTW · February 2016

Andplusalso... You've never posted on this board before. Why would we join a group that a random first-time poster started?

Mom987 · February 2016

I just had my U/S yesterday and I thought I was September previously. I'm in a 2013 group started from The Bump. Obviously if you don't want to join, don't. Just letting you know it's there.

PrimRoseMama · February 2016

Mom987 said:

I just had my U/S yesterday and I thought I was September previously. I'm in a 2013 group started from The Bump. Obviously if you don't want to join, don't. Just letting you know it's there.

Right, but doesn't that seem creep-tastic to try to get folks to join a group with their personal info, when you aren't a regular here? On general principle, I am against FB groups this early. I am especially uncomfortable when it's a random soliciting me.

Mom987 · February 2016

This is how the 2013 group started. People just wanted an easy place to get together and talk. Many loved the FB group and we all joined the first week or two. Nobody is even friends on FB, it's just a private group with "public" profiles, meaning that we cannot see full profiles, only the "public" profiles that people have their own settings for. Since you are that creeped out, don't join. I don't care if you join at all. I am reaching out to an entire online group and some people may be looking for one.

AverageAsh · February 2016

Giving my personal info to your generic gravitar doesn't sound appealing at all.

alysie89 · February 2016

Because I love joining groups with people I barely know and then giving them access to my full name, town I live in and my email address.....

Mom987 · February 2016

I do not care if you do not join. I am just starting a FB group the way that the other one was started because there are people who ask for these FB groups.

housewifehobbyist · February 2016

Mom987 said:

This is how the 2013 group started. People just wanted an easy place to get together and talk. Many loved the FB group and we all joined the first week or two. Nobody is even friends on FB, it's just a private group with public profiles. Since you are that creeped out, don't join. I don't care if you join at all. I am reaching out to an entire online group and some people may be looking for one.

But isn't that what The Bump is, plus some extra anonymity for internet safety points?

Mom987 · February 2016

People have different preferences. Clearly people aren't interested but I wanted to let people know it's there.

nsquaredlife13 · February 2016

PeggyOlsonFTW said:

Andplusalso... You've never posted on this board before. Why would we join a group that a random first-time poster started?

:-P

But in all seriousness... I love my last BMB FB group, but we didn't start it until about 2 months before our babies were born. And even then it was a very selective and limited process. We need to get to know eachother before we start that kind of relationship... ya know?

AshleyGemini24 · February 2016

Not so sure I would like to participate either. For one I only talk to people on fb that I know personally. Second, without looking at the intro page, I couldn't tell you most of these women's first names. And as far as a place to chat, isn't that what TB is?

If you wish to start a FB group, by all means feel free to do so. This early in the game, I doubt you will have very many members.

_darth · February 2016

This looks dubiously spammy. Information security is serious business.

UponAStar16 · February 2016

Hahaha this thread made my morning and I didn't even get out of bed yet. I love a top-o-the-morning lmao. No thanks, I also don't want to be part of a secret group. Makes me think the only secret will be where my body ends up after the fetus is cut out at 8.5 months. So many things that are off with this idea and the followup explanations

wegme27 · February 2016

I am part of a secret Facebook group with my son's birth month but we didn't all jump over to FB until probably closer to the 2nd trimester. I think it's a little too soon.

missteacherlady16 · February 2016

How I feel when I see Facebook group invites this early on

Mom987 · February 2016

I didn't just make this idea up on my own. The other FB groups I am in started at the beginning with complete strangers. Apparently that's not the norm around here so I get it.

kewltif · February 2016

I love the idea of a Facebook group. No one can see the Secret Groups that you belong to. I find it so much easier to chat on there.

kewltif · February 2016

I think it's just ease of chatting. I don't like the Bump app. I find the facebook app so much easier to use.

PeggyOlsonFTW · February 2016

kewltif said:

I think it's just ease of chatting. I don't like the Bump app. I find the facebook app so much easier to use.

I find not sharing my full name, location and email address and chatting in relative anonymity easier, but to each their own I guess.

Michi1382 · February 2016

I'm all for a FB group (if you'll all have me) when the time is right and we are all further along in our pregnancies. My last FB group didn't start until a couple of months before we were due and it felt right for that group at the time, just as I'm sure everyone will know when it's right to do so with this group.

Mom987 · February 2016

Public FB profiles (if set up correctly) will only show name and picture. It does not have to show your town and I don't care how people are added but the two options I see available are via email or becoming FB friends. Lord knows that nobody wants to become FB friends so email is what I suggested.

kpalt · February 2016

My past BMB FB group set up after first trimester, and we still had to weed out crazies, one of which stole money from a care fund among other crazy things I won't go into detail about. We all thought we "knew" her well. I'm all for waiting this time around.

TNgoldengirl · February 2016

@kpalt Ahh I heard about that, unless it happened another time semi-recently. That's an awful shame!! I will also be waiting a while to join a FB group.

At at least if anyone else posts about starting one soon, I'll know to tag them here so they know where to go!

Mom987 · February 2016

Okay...so people sent money to online strangers? Won't be doing any of that but sorry that you went through that.

kpalt · February 2016

@TNgoldengirl No it wasn't recently, the BMB was in 2011. The fact that you know of another one that it happened to just solidifies the point though!

PeggyOlsonFTW · February 2016

@Mom987 I think the consensus about joining your Facebook group is a resounding "no". Let's just let this thread die already, shall we?

Mom987 · February 2016

I am only responding to what others have said. It's not like I'm bringing this up from a week ago and I haven't asked people to join AGAIN. I've said many times if they don't want to join then don't. This post was created yesterday and others are commenting. I am not the one keeping it from "dying already."

AverageAsh · February 2016

Mom987 said:

Okay...so people sent money to online strangers? Won't be doing any of that but sorry that you went through that.

That's kind if the problem with a fb group, the people in it don't feel like strangers and catfish types pounce on their prey.

kpalt · February 2016

AverageAsh said:

Mom987 said:

Okay...so people sent money to online strangers? Won't be doing any of that but sorry that you went through that.

That's kind if the problem with a fb group, the people in it don't feel like strangers and catfish types pounce on their prey.

Bingo. Our group wanted to do something for a mom that something devastating happened to, and the person overseeing the fund should have been weeded out, but was not. Everyone trusted her. It had been 6-9 months into the FB group, we didn't randomly hand over money to people the first week in a group. We all wanted to help a friend and someone took the money and ran (among ridiculous other things).

JamieK1882 · February 2016

kpalt said:

@TNgoldengirl No it wasn't recently, the BMB was in 2011. The fact that you know of another one that it happened to just solidifies the point though!

I remember this happening to a BMB back in 2014 also!

gatorMom2014 · February 2016

JamieK1882 said:

kpalt said:

@TNgoldengirl No it wasn't recently, the BMB was in 2011. The fact that you know of another one that it happened to just solidifies the point though!

I remember this happening to a BMB back in 2014 also!

I also remember one in 2014.

TNgoldengirl · February 2016

@JamieK1882 @gatorMom2014 yes I'm in J(an)14 and that's where I heard about it! So, it was sometime after that.

kewltif · February 2016

@Mom987 for the people who do want to join, how can they make a request with you?

wegme27 · February 2016

@kpalt yea you definitely have to weed out crazies!!! Haha. And be careful of fake pity stories. We had a few of those in my group.

Mom987 · February 2016

Hey @kewltif people can send me a private message to my inbox on The Bump with their email address. Then I'll send the FB group request to their email address for them to join. If you click on my username there is an option to send "private message" etc.

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