March 2016 Moms
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Scared FTM - need advice
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hello ladies, I will try to keep this short as possible. Five days ago I had a bad nosebleed. Stopped it in about 30 mins. The next day I had another one start at 5 am. It didn't completely stop for 36 hours. I ended up hospitalized, with 4 units of transfusion due to major blood loss. Every effort is being made to stop the bleeding without undergoing a surgery with general anesthesia. But I have been told if I have one more episode, I have no choice. Our little man is doing wonderfully, thank goodness. But my OB has stated that regardless of how or when we get this under control, my dream of a natural labor is done for. I can chose between an elective c-section, or a "passive labor" in which I am induced and Baby is pulled out with a vacuum. I am trying so very hard to not stress, as either option will most likely result in our little man getting here safe and sound. Just highly emotion and worried, since no one has seen anything like my situation. I've had the easiest, most problem free fun pregnancy up until this horrible incident. Just wondering if anyone has had to make a choice like this before. Any advice??
Re: Scared FTM - need advice
What is causing the awful nosebleeds? Have you had them before?
No matter how you deliver, the end result of a healthy baby and mommy is ALL that matters. Keep repeating that to yourself. Disappointment in not having a natural deliver is okay and warranted to feel. But don't let it eat you up, you're going to do what will give you and your baby a healthy start.
Stay positive, you're getting excellent care! Good luck and keep us posted!
I think the fact that you are being given a choice is great, but personally I would choose the c-section. My concern with the passive birth would be if something went wrong and they had to do a c-section anyway. For me, the feeling of being out of control and going into labor thinking I was having a normal birth and then at the last minute having a c-section was harder than if I had just known and expected and prepared for it. Also, I am no medical professional, but when my son was stuck after 4 hours of pushing I asked about a vacuum birth and the doctor said I would not want him to do that to me because it would be much harder to to fix potential damage that could be done to surrounding organs if things got intense and they had any trouble getting him out that way than it would be to recover from a surgery where things were done precisely. Of course it depends on how far up there the baby is when they use the vacuum, but that would be a bet I don't know if I would be willing to take. What if the baby doesn't descend on it's own? If you aren't going to be able to push at all it seems like there is a good chance the baby would not be really far down the birth canal before they had to use the vacuum. Also he said if the baby goes into distress during that process it is a lot harder to get them out and could require a very emergency c-section or other internal damage from the vacuum, like bladder damage etc. that would last forever. These are probably questions to ask your doctor. I am obviously not an expert, but maybe the rates of success with passive labor would be good to research. Good luck whatever you decide! The outcome of a healthy baby and mama are most important! Just one of many tough decisions as a new parent
I had an emergency c-section with my first due to his large size and 22 hours of labor after my water broke. I was told that with my second c-section coming up, that it would be completely different. With an elective c-section you are not given an epidural but a spinal nerve block that numbs you from the chest down. My OB said that most women don't feel pain and say, "That was it? It's over already?". So, I believe this surgery, for me, will be much different and less painful.
I will pray for you and I hope you get some answers and have a smooth delivery. Take Care!