@Shelby00519 - Ditto what PP have said; I had a bunch of samples of types/brands of formula. I actually was never tempted by them during our time even though the first couple weeks of BF were difficult. I think it would've been different if DD hadn't been gaining weight, though. My difficulty with BF was with the pain I was dealing with versus baby's latch and weight gain. I definitely wouldn't buy anything ahead of time, but it doesn't hurt to have some samples at home just in case.
So crazy to hear about the shaking experiences of others, bc I experienced that big time once I had an epidural. It sounds dumb but the shaking was one of the worst parts of labor for me. I always assumed it was because of the epi but now after reading everyone's experiences I'm not so sure.
@juliaL13 My understanding is that it can be from the epi - when I watched the video on epidurals required by my hospital, it noted that shivering or shaking can be a side effect. So, when it started, I wasn't too freaked out, although my DH kept trying to find more blankets to cover me up, convinced I was freezing.
I apologize if I missed this but I didn't see it did anyone poop on the table and or also vomit during labor? I just want to find out how accurate this whole nasty process is.
@Lindsayleigh1989 I did poop a little bit with my first. The nurse was amazing and quickly covered it up and it was nbd. I didn't even know it happened until I asked my sister. I didn't vomit, but know others that have.
Honestly when you are in the moment you don't give a shit. You just want your baby out safely.
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@kdm06c oh I don't care if it happens I'm sure it will be as nasty as the rest of pregnancy haha just more curious when I've heard you "will" poop on the table
For those who've had a c section before how did it go? I'm having a planned one and in actually a bit more nervous about that than when I delivered my daughter.
@Lindsayleigh1989 I didn't poo but I did throw up! It was more like dry heaving since I'd had nothing to eat for so long! As an L&D nurse so many women poop, it means your pushing correctly! The nurse cleans it up right into a bag that is on the end of the birthing bed, no big deal at all! Vomitting is also a good sign in labor, can mean you are entering transition phase of labor, the pressure from the vomitting can put extra pressure on your cervix to help you dilate!
@Lindsayleigh1989 I honestly have no clue about the pooping. DH didn't watch what was going on down there and when you're pushing a baby out, my guess is you don't notice if you happen to push something else out. ;-)
I wasn't nauseous at all and I did not have an epi. My step-MIL thought I was crazy for not wanting one because she couldn't get one with her oldest daughter and was throwing up constantly. I think it's a very real possibility, probably more so if you are prone to nausea/vomiting the whole pregnancy. Sorry!
Pooping and vomiting?! Where did this whole "giving birth is a beautiful thing" crap come from? It really sounds like a crock of shit. Figuratively and quite literally lol. Not to say it's not totally worth it but geez.
Doing some research about vomiting during labor even though I'm a STM because I'm a nerd... Apparently the drugs from an epi make you much more likely to vomit so my step-MIL's personal experience may be unusual. I figured what she said made sense because intense pain can cause nausea. I've had this with the occasional migraine.
@whataboutscience in my birthing class last time around I remember the instructor saying vomiting was not uncommon during transition, but more common during unmedicated births.
My 2nd C/S was planned. It was wonderful. It was calm, low key and every one was laughing and joking. I was comfortable thr whole time. Breastfeeding started in recovery, and I was walking with in hours. It was a great experience.
@Lindsayleigh1989 Yep I pooped. I knew it when I did but, didn't really care. My nurse had towels under me and it was gone before I even knew it. I have heard of women who research how not to poop... and I think that is absolutely crazy! This was the very last thing I was thinking about.... in fact because they tell you to push like your taking a shit, when I did I knew I was doing it right lol .
@Lindsayleigh1989I'm pretty sure I pooped, but they didn't announce it. When it was time to push, my doctor told me to push like I was pooping. One of the nurses immediately threw something away, so I'm guessing that I did. But, it was also a quick and easy way for me to figure out exactly what muscles I should be using to push.
I apologize if I missed this but I didn't see it did anyone poop on the table and or also vomit during labor? I just want to find out how accurate this whole nasty process is.
@Lindsayleigh1989, I didn't poop but I never got to push phase. I did however vomit because of contraction strength.
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014! DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
For those who've had a c section before how did it go? I'm having a planned one and in actually a bit more nervous about that than when I delivered my daughter.
@Tm14, I had a c/s. It wasn't planned but had to happen because my water broke early and my body didn't start up labor within the 24 hour window (even with a stupid amount of pitocin). It was far more emotionally difficult for me than physically difficult. I had a fairly easy recovery and felt good enough to resume 'normalish' duties (cooking, light cleaning/laundry, etc) at home within a week. I felt so good that I decided to cut back on my pain meds... BIG MISTAKE. My biggest lesson learned is take it easy and take your meds. They say 8 weeks recovery for a C/S for a reason. Don't push yourself.
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014! DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
For those who've had a c section before how did it go? I'm having a planned one and in actually a bit more nervous about that than when I delivered my daughter.
Mine was pretty rough, but DD was really stuck in there. There was nurse on the OR table pushing on my stomach, while OB was yanking on DD. Instead of 6 weeks of no exercise and lifting, I had to do 12 weeks. It sucked hardcore, BUT....if it was that traumatizing, I wouldn't be having another baby. What gave me hope, was the fact that this one will be a scheduled c-section (and I am actually going in for a "family centered cesarean this time), and my last one was an emergency after 28 hours of induction/labor. Almost all of my friends have had c-sections (first one unplanned, second one planned), and they all said the second c-section was a breeze compared to the first. Mostly because it was planned and they didn't have to spend hours in labor, and weren't exhausted by the time the c-section rolled around. They also said that it was easier for recovery, because they knew what to expect, and the weirdest part was that they had to walk down to the OR and the second time, they had more time to sit around and think about what was going to happen (whereas the first time, everything happened quickly and they didn't have time to process the whole thing).
@Shelby00519 (and any others who are or want to EBF) I highly suggest the FB group called Milky Mamas. They have been a WEALTH of information for those who are EBF or EP. After being a part of their community for a couple of weeks I know I will be able to accomplish my goal of EBF for at least the first 12 months.
I apologize if I missed this but I didn't see it did anyone poop on the table and or also vomit during labor? I just want to find out how accurate this whole nasty process is.
I've not pooped or vomited but I felt like I was going to vomit when I was close to having DD.
I have a placenta previa question for STM. Anyone diagnosed with a marginal previa at their a/s that migrated up by delivery? When did you confirm that it had moved? My midwife doesn't seem too concerned about it and said that it'll likely move, but I'm curious when we should check, because I've gotten conflicting advice and I don't want it to be down to the wire since our original plan was a home birth, and I'd like time to make other arrangements if necessary.
@Lindsayleigh1989 - Yep, I totally pooped. I had no clue at all until at some point DH just dropped that bomb on me. I don't remember how it came about but he just flat out said 'you pooped.' It was very matter-of-fact.
@elenabrent I had a complete previa with ds that was discovered at 18 weeks. I had an u/s every 4 weeks and by around 30 weeks it had moved up to be considered low lying and by 34 weeks it was a few cm away from the cervix and I was given the ok to have a vaginal delivery! Marginal is better than a complete so hope it moves up for you!
@Lindsayleigh1989 I didn't actually push for that long so no pooping on the table for me, but I have friends who have told me they did. They were mildly embarrassed but mostly just laughed about it and said the staff really made it no big deal. Some friends of mind didn't poop though, so it's not a given. I did labour for a long time and got to 10cm, and no vomiting or nausea for me.
Thanks everyone very helpful information! I promise to report whether I did puke/poop in delivery just kidding but in all seriousness your advice and insight is invaluable !
I had an unplanned c-section (not emergency, but was getting close to that). My overall labour and delivery and post-partum experience was not a positive one, but I can honestly say that my c-section was not part of the trauma. My surgical team was amazing and did a really great job.
I left the hospital 2 days after my surgery, and was able to shower the day after. When I left hospital they told me I could take the dressing off whenever, and leave it open to air. My staples came out at a week post op, with no complications. The first week I had some pain, but it was manageable and I was sent home with meds that are basically the strength of extra strength tylenol, which managed my pain well (after 1 day on morphine in hospital). I've heard of some people getting stronger medications post-op, but I wasn't offered them and didn't feel I needed them (although I absolutely would have asked if I needed it - it's super important to stay on top of the pain because once it gets to a certain level it's very difficult to "catch up"). After the first week I didn't need any pain medications aside from the occasional over the counter analgesic.
The first 3 weeks I tired easily and couldn't do much besides take care of DD. After 3 weeks I was feeling much better and wanting to resume normal activities, but DH really pushed me to take the full 6 weeks of restricted activities to heal well, and thankfully he did because around 5 weeks some mild-moderate (depending on activity level) pain came back. I learned at that point that what happens in the first 3 weeks is that the outer layers of skin heal completely, but deeper down the nerves are still severed so you feel numb. It feels like you're healed, but those deep layers are still repairing. Around 5 weeks is when the nerves begin to regenerate, so you start to feel the (normal) pain of healing deeper in the incision. A lot of women do too much in that period between 3-5 weeks and end up in a lot of pain at 5 weeks, or even do serious damage, so it's SUPER important to follow the post-op recommendations.
I have no residual pain from my c-section. I do have some numbness along the incision line, and at times will feel a prickling sensation in the area, but it's just mildly uncomfortable, not painful, and never lasts long. My scar has mostly faded and at first glance it looks like it's maybe 2-3cm long, because the edges are so light. My incision is well below my bikini line so if I was so inclined (or had the ab muscles) I could easily wear a skimpy bikini and nobody would see my scar.
I was able to breastfeed. Had minor supply issues for the first week or so which I believe was caused more so by the fact that DD was taken away for 17 hours after birth for monitoring than by my c-section, although the c-section may have played a role. I took domperidone for a few days to help with my supply, and supplemented with formula until it came in.
I'm having a scheduled c-section this time around and honestly feel very at peace with it. I think I covered most points but feel free to ask questions or message me if any other questions come up.
Re: pooping- in my Bradley class this week the teacher said "you can't open one door while keeping the other closed." So if you're pushing one thing out (yay baby), you might have to say hello to another (yay poop!). She also said that active labor usually gets most of the poop out of your system, so that takes care of some of it.
Ok, so I read this in another thread somewhere else (maybe June?). I have gotten rather lazy with my vagina presentation, in the other thread they talk about going into labor and having a nurse come in to shave you? Did that happen with anyone? I dont know why but the idea of having a stranger shave my bits freaks me out (yes I know I will get over my vagina shyness, but still this idea freaks me out at this point).
@mckcak23 I've never heard of that! I've always heard as long as things are clean they don't really care. Now I'm wondering too.
My question...is there anything I can do now to prepare my nipples for breastfeeding? Toughen them up at all? They are so sensitive, I freak when my clothing rubs up against them, I can't imagine a tiny human latching on. Am I doomed to suffer the first couple weeks or can I help myself at all?
@mckcak23 Ummmmmm..... that's weird! I was definitely clean, but was not shaven... and NO ONE shaved or did anything like that down there.
@megstervt I'm pretty sure on Kellymom it says don't try and toughen up your nipples. People will tell you that you're supposed to but I've always heard from actual breastfeeding sites that you're not.
@ninji15 I am pretty sure that I had to shit before I left.
I haven't had a c-section but I have never had to fart before I left. They did ask if I have had a bowel movement and they do listen to your bowels to make sure everything is moving though.
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Ok, so I read this in another thread somewhere else (maybe June?). I have gotten rather lazy with my vagina presentation, in the other thread they talk about going into labor and having a nurse come in to shave you? Did that happen with anyone? I dont know why but the idea of having a stranger shave my bits freaks me out (yes I know I will get over my vagina shyness, but still this idea freaks me out at this point).
The only thing I recall being mentioned on this topic is that if you do need stitches after tearing that your pubic hair can get caught in a stitch or something along those lines...
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Those that get meds can get it more 'severely' because the meds can exacerbate natures response to birth.
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DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
Baby #3: EDD, April 16th, 2016
Honestly when you are in the moment you don't give a shit. You just want your baby out safely.
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For those who've had a c section before how did it go? I'm having a planned one and in actually a bit more nervous about that than when I delivered my daughter.
As an L&D nurse so many women poop, it means your pushing correctly! The nurse cleans it up right into a bag that is on the end of the birthing bed, no big deal at all! Vomitting is also a good sign in labor, can mean you are entering transition phase of labor, the pressure from the vomitting can put extra pressure on your cervix to help you dilate!
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I wasn't nauseous at all and I did not have an epi. My step-MIL thought I was crazy for not wanting one because she couldn't get one with her oldest daughter and was throwing up constantly. I think it's a very real possibility, probably more so if you are prone to nausea/vomiting the whole pregnancy. Sorry!
I have heard of women who research how not to poop... and I think that is absolutely crazy! This was the very last thing I was thinking about.... in fact because they tell you to push like your taking a shit, when I did I knew I was doing it right lol
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014!
DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
Baby #3: EDD, April 16th, 2016
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014!
DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
Baby #3: EDD, April 16th, 2016
DD #2: EDD July 2016
Marginal is better than a complete so hope it moves up for you!
I had an unplanned c-section (not emergency, but was getting close to that). My overall labour and delivery and post-partum experience was not a positive one, but I can honestly say that my c-section was not part of the trauma. My surgical team was amazing and did a really great job.
I left the hospital 2 days after my surgery, and was able to shower the day after. When I left hospital they told me I could take the dressing off whenever, and leave it open to air. My staples came out at a week post op, with no complications. The first week I had some pain, but it was manageable and I was sent home with meds that are basically the strength of extra strength tylenol, which managed my pain well (after 1 day on morphine in hospital). I've heard of some people getting stronger medications post-op, but I wasn't offered them and didn't feel I needed them (although I absolutely would have asked if I needed it - it's super important to stay on top of the pain because once it gets to a certain level it's very difficult to "catch up"). After the first week I didn't need any pain medications aside from the occasional over the counter analgesic.
The first 3 weeks I tired easily and couldn't do much besides take care of DD. After 3 weeks I was feeling much better and wanting to resume normal activities, but DH really pushed me to take the full 6 weeks of restricted activities to heal well, and thankfully he did because around 5 weeks some mild-moderate (depending on activity level) pain came back. I learned at that point that what happens in the first 3 weeks is that the outer layers of skin heal completely, but deeper down the nerves are still severed so you feel numb. It feels like you're healed, but those deep layers are still repairing. Around 5 weeks is when the nerves begin to regenerate, so you start to feel the (normal) pain of healing deeper in the incision. A lot of women do too much in that period between 3-5 weeks and end up in a lot of pain at 5 weeks, or even do serious damage, so it's SUPER important to follow the post-op recommendations.
I have no residual pain from my c-section. I do have some numbness along the incision line, and at times will feel a prickling sensation in the area, but it's just mildly uncomfortable, not painful, and never lasts long. My scar has mostly faded and at first glance it looks like it's maybe 2-3cm long, because the edges are so light. My incision is well below my bikini line so if I was so inclined (or had the ab muscles) I could easily wear a skimpy bikini and nobody would see my scar.
I was able to breastfeed. Had minor supply issues for the first week or so which I believe was caused more so by the fact that DD was taken away for 17 hours after birth for monitoring than by my c-section, although the c-section may have played a role. I took domperidone for a few days to help with my supply, and supplemented with formula until it came in.
I'm having a scheduled c-section this time around and honestly feel very at peace with it. I think I covered most points but feel free to ask questions or message me if any other questions come up.
@mckcak23 I've never heard of that! I've always heard as long as things are clean they don't really care. Now I'm wondering too.
My question...is there anything I can do now to prepare my nipples for breastfeeding? Toughen them up at all? They are so sensitive, I freak when my clothing rubs up against them, I can't imagine a tiny human latching on. Am I doomed to suffer the first couple weeks or can I help myself at all?
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@megstervt I'm pretty sure on Kellymom it says don't try and toughen up your nipples. People will tell you that you're supposed to but I've always heard from actual breastfeeding sites that you're not.
@ninji15 I am pretty sure that I had to shit before I left.
Leave your nipples alone lol. Ouch.
I haven't had a c-section but I have never had to fart before I left. They did ask if I have had a bowel movement and they do listen to your bowels to make sure everything is moving though.
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The only thing I recall being mentioned on this topic is that if you do need stitches after tearing that your pubic hair can get caught in a stitch or something along those lines...