Crying right now, too much pressure.

brandicane · February 2016

I'm so hurt and embarrassed right now. I'm in tears and I know it's ridiculous I feel stupid but I've been trying to conceive for months and this month I used ovulation test. It was positive the day before yesterday and even darker positive yesterday ( I had sex both days) this morning with first urine it was still positive but lighter than before, and afternoon test almost negative so I wanted to have sex just to ensure but there's so much pressure and my partner just couldn't finish and I just feel undesirable and I feel like my chances of conceiving are ruined now because he didn't ejaculate inside me today. It's just too much.

Winnie81_Old · February 2016

This is just my opinion but I don't think you're going to get the support you're wanting after previously bashing the women of this community earlier. It doesn't work that way.

Lulucooks · February 2016

brandicane said:

I'm so hurt and embarrassed right now. I'm in tears and I know it's ridiculous I feel stupid but I've been trying to conceive for months and this month I used ovulation test. It was positive the day before yesterday and even darker positive yesterday ( I had sex both days) this morning with first urine it was still positive but lighter than before, and afternoon test almost negative so I wanted to have sex just to ensure but there's so much pressure and my partner just couldn't finish and I just feel undesirable and I feel like my chances of conceiving are ruined now because he didn't ejaculate inside me today. It's just too much.

Honestly, it just takes once to get pregnant. I wouldn't count yourself out.

Lulucooks · February 2016

Winnie81 said:

This is just my opinion but I don't think you're going to get the support you're wanting after previously bashing the women of this community earlier. It doesn't work that way.

I should do better to notice who is making posts.... ugh.... not cool OP

wintersong · February 2016

Performance anxiety is extremely common...it has nothing to do with your husband manliness or your desirability.

AndiPandi127 · February 2016

Look - I hear you and I empathize, but as mentioned in your previous thread, this board has a flow to it and you are going to get more out of it if you learn it. Read the pinned post, start temping, read TCOYF, hang out in the WTO and TWW threads where it's totally fine to talk about this.

FWIW, if you had sex the two days of your +OPK, you likely hit your window. I know it's hard to feel confident about it, but there's not much else you can do.

CajunSnowWhite89 · February 2016

You literally just made a post saying that we should stop TTC because we aren't mature enough to raise a puppy and now you expect us to give you advice and help you feel better?

Imm sorry you're having a bad day, but respect and support are a 2 way street and you definitely lost mine.

wintersong · February 2016

CajunSnowWhite89 said:

You literally just made a post saying that we should stop TTC because we aren't mature enough to raise a puppy and now you expect us to give you advice and help you feel better?

Imm sorry you're having a bad day, but respect and support are a 2 way street and you definitely lost mine.

Yes to the bolded! I just read the other thread. What in the world? Op, the same people read all the threads on this board...

jsassy · February 2016

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MrsDho11 · February 2016

kristah2 · February 2016

OP, use the WTO and TWW boards. It is the best way to become a part of the community and get support you are looking for. It will also allow you to support others and learn a hell of a lot during this process.

If you lurked around more you would see other members have experienced similar situations. However, you're last post, followed by this one, is not going to make them want to offer any advice.

sldp123 · February 2016

cabu14 · February 2016

I mean..

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Did this seriously just happen?

RatsPJ · February 2016

WitandWhimsy · February 2016

You now want our advice and support after you were rude to us?

beforeyou · February 2016

Once again, I'm just going to leave this here...
Maybe click on it this time.

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12613283/the-ultimate-ttgp-guide-newbies-read-this-first/p1

Also

brandicane · February 2016

Thank you to the women who have a little compassion and patience to answer my thread. All it would have taken for me to kindly apologize for mistakenly posting on the wrong section as it's my first time here, is for someone to point it out and not have 5 people calling me gross for posting pictures of opk test results. You should all know the emotional stress that we as women endure in this sensitive time and not be quick to bash the newb - so I apologize for being defensive but I was also hurt and offended. I thought I posted under trying to conceive. But I digress.

FiancB · February 2016

I thought you didn't like us. Kinda weird to pour your heart out to people you don't like.

If you make a mature apology and then join in on threads, you can recover from this. But somehow I don't think that's what's gonna happen here.

MrsDho11 · February 2016

Spoiler Alert: Mature apologies usually don't include the word "but".

Lulucooks · February 2016

brandicane said:

Thank you to the women who have a little compassion and patience to answer my thread. All it would have taken for me to kindly apologize for mistakenly posting on the wrong section as it's my first time here, is for someone to point it out and not have 5 people calling me gross for posting pictures of opk test results. You should all know the emotional stress that we as women endure in this sensitive time and not be quick to bash the newb - so I apologize for being defensive but I was also hurt and offended. I thought I posted under trying to conceive. But I digress.

No one called *you* gross. They said the pee sticks were gross. And honestly it's not even that we think it's gross, more of an overreaction to make it seem silly, because we have fun here.

I'm pretty sure the emotional stress I've gone through for 20 something odd months didn't excuse me from learning the rules of this community

MrsDho11 · February 2016

brandicane said:

Thank you to the women who have a little compassion and patience to answer my thread. All it would have taken for me to kindly apologize for mistakenly posting on the wrong section as it's my first time here, is for someone to point it out and not have 5 people calling me gross for posting pictures of opk test results. You should all know the emotional stress that we as women endure in this sensitive time and not be quick to bash the newb - so I apologize for being defensive but I was also hurt and offended. I thought I posted under trying to conceive. But I digress.

So, if I'm reading this correctly, you would apologize for screwing up if it wasn't for the fact that people got upset by you screwing up and pointed it out to you? So instead of apologizing, you're going to lecture us and justify it?

Honestly, this community is freaking awesome if you actually TRY to learn about the rules and not only demand ask for support but give it as well. You did something wrong. You got flamed. It happens, especially on the internet. Take your lumps, apologize (nicely and without backtracking in the same darn sentence), maybe give it all a day or two to die down at this point, spend that time lurking and seeing how things work here, then work on actually involving yourself in the community. Others who participate here regularly have come back from worse than you've done today.

LadyMillil · February 2016

I'm sorry I can't provide advice right now. I'm too busy picking out a puppy since I was told I'm not mature enough to be in charge of a human yet.

MrsDho11 · February 2016

@LadyMillil - that puppy! Pick that puppy! And then just send me pictures and videos all day every day.

I now vote that we turn this thread into a puppy parade!

RatsPJ · February 2016

Edit to add puppies!!

Neikoda · February 2016

My puppy loves me just the way that I am.
Hes Chewies biggest fan

br0co1ii · February 2016

lurker alert***because I want to play too!!!

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skiingstark · February 2016

sldp123 · February 2016

I'm with @MrsDho11 ...puppy parade!

MrsDho11 · February 2016

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Lulucooks · February 2016

Sorry, I'm a cat person

Neikoda · February 2016

@Lulucooks I know it's probably hard to believe but I take care of a puppy and a cat! Lol
Our new rescue Korra

MissAmeliaPond · February 2016

PensiveCrayon · February 2016

Here's my puppy contribution! (Yeah, I call every dog "puppy" so it counts in my book)

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@brandicane Sorry you're having a hard time. As other posters have mentioned, you're definitely not out of the game even though your partner had a bit of performance anxiety today.

As for the tone of this board, yes. We do get a bit harsh with drive-by posters. But please, please don't let that dissuade you from trying to join into the community. The best place to begin is by reading the pinned Newbie post and then posting daily in the TWW/WTO boards. There are get-to-know you questions each day, and a dedicated place for rants and raves. People are very supportive within these threads. There are also really fun non-TTGP discussions daily, such as tomorrow's Monday Bitchfest. (I think that's Monday. Ha.)

I've only been around for about a month and a half now, and already I've found the women on these boards to be incredible and welcoming. Yes, there are rules to follow. But I hope you'll give us another shot.

DiFazette · February 2016

Two birds, one stone.

mrsdee15 · February 2016

LittleMissTimeLord · February 2016

brandicane said:

Thank you to the women who have a little compassion and patience to answer my thread. All it would should have taken for me to kindly apologize for mistakenly posting on the wrong section, as it's my first time here, is was for someone to point it out. and not have 5 people calling me gross for posting pictures of opk test results. You should all know the emotional stress that we as women endure in this sensitive time and not be quick to bash the newb - so I apologize for being defensive, for not reading the rules, and for not understanding the community I was trying to participate in. but I was also hurt and offended. I thought I posted under trying to conceive. But I digress. I'll check out the pinned threads so I can become a constructive part of this community. I can't wait to get to know everyone.

Fixed it.

letyourheartbeyourguide · February 2016

Don't mind us, we're just getting in shape for the puppy parade.

mrsdee15 · February 2016

Totally unrelated, but @LittleMissTimeLord is your siggy gif from Crimson Peak? Because if so, excellent gif choice. I'll just be over here watching that over and over...

LittleMissTimeLord · February 2016

mrsdee15 said:

Totally unrelated, but @LittleMissTimeLord is your siggy gif from Crimson Peak? Because if so, excellent gif choice. I'll just be over here watching that over and over...

Yaassss, girl. That scene had me like...

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Everycol0r · February 2016

@LittleMissTimeLord is that movie scary? Because it has all my favorite people in it but... I can't do horror movies.

LittleMissTimeLord · February 2016

Everycol0r said:

@LittleMissTimeLord is that movie scary? Because it has all my favorite people in it but... I can't do horror movies.

Not really. I love horror movies and was expecting a horror movie but it wasn't quite that. It was more... drama thriller with supernatural elements? The spooky stuff isn't BOO! JUMP OUT YA SEAT! stuff and ultimately the movie is a lot more about the drama (and chemistry heyyyyyyy) between the characters than the supernatural story line.

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TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow

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