Age gaps

cm716 · February 2016

Dd1 and dd2 are 2 years 4 months apart. Dd2 and this baby will be 2 years 2 months apart. How far apart are your kids? If you're a ftm, then how far apart do you want your kids? Stm do you wish you could change your gap?

I was trying to get babies two and three 18-24 mos apart but mother nature didn't cooperate.

MSUgrad12 · February 2016

I want one more, but want to wait until this one is in pre-k. My boss told me how much she was paying in day care for both of her girls. I'm okay with waiting!

Curls919 · February 2016

I'm due less than a week before DS's third birthday.

Bubblegum5586 · February 2016

FTM here but I think 4 years is our plan!

lblu43 · February 2016

DS will be 7 a month after peanut is born. DH & I want 1-2 more, with 3 being a strong possibility. Identical twins run in my family on my mom's side. Last 3 generations.

Bookhousegirl · February 2016

DS will be 2yrs 4/5mnths when this LO is born. We want one more so we'll probably have a similar age gap for the next one as well.

AlwaysAforeigner · February 2016

DD1 and DD2 are 3 years and 3 months apart. Wanted a smaller gap, but had to finish my PhD first and then had trouble conceiving DD2. This LO will be only 20 months younger than DD2, which is nice on the one hand, but scary on the other.

kattyleigh · February 2016

DD and DS are 16 months apart (now 6 and 4.5) and it's the best thing ever. They are truly best friends and developmentally on the same page. It helped that DD was an easy baby though. If she had been as difficult as DS was then they would have been years apart. This third LO (another boy!) Will be 5 years younger than my youngest, who will just be starting kindergarten when I have him. I like the idea of starting fresh and having one on one time with the new baby.

bananers · February 2016

We would have preferred between 2-3 years apart but had a second tri loss last time and then needed to wait a few months for testing before we could try again, so they will be 3.5 years apart. While I'm sad they may not be as close while they are young, I try to focus on the fact that we will have had all this time 1:1 with DS1 and that daycare and college will be cheaper without as much overlap.

bananers · February 2016

lblu43 said:

DS will be 7 a month after peanut is born. DH & I want 1-2 more, with 3 being a strong possibility. Identical twins run in my family on my mom's side. Last 3 generations.

Identical twins aren't hereditary. Only fraternal twins are. So you can rest easy knowing it's just a huge coincidence with your family.

the_other_mother · February 2016

I'm a FTM. I would really like to have 4 kids. I'm hoping to have at least the first 3 within 18 months of each other. Obviously you can only plan so much and it's out of your hands, but that's what I'll go for.

Mrs. Schmeets · February 2016

My son will be 12 when the baby is born and my daughter will be 7.

AmandaG225 · February 2016

DD will be 2y 2m when #2 arrives. We will hopefully have 1 more but plan on waiting about 4-5yrs.

tisunge602 · February 2016

My son will be 2 yrs 9 months when this one is born. We wanted them closer together (like just over 2 yrs) but it took us awhile to get pregnant this time.

Pam973 · February 2016

DD will be 4yrs 9montha when this one comes it's a bigger fan then we originally wanted but I think it will be great. She is old enough to understand what's going on and wants to help out.

lblu43 · February 2016

Exactly @bananers

. At least that's my persuasion with DH.

searchingforameaning · February 2016

My first two are 2.5 years apart. When baby arrives there will be almost 6 years difference between baby and my youngest. I would have liked to have a smaller gap but for health reasons it did not work out like that... I'm hearing stories though from others will large gaps and how much they liked it and how it was helpful.

PJpeppercorn · February 2016

Ours will be 3.5 years apart. I'm thrilled with the spacing. We've had so much quality time with DD and I didn't feel like I needed to rush her out of the baby stage.

karaszoo1 · February 2016

I'm due Aug 4,same due date as my now 18 mo old he was born July 24.sooooo
Baby girl may potentially come the same week her older brothers turn 2 and 17 . Lol
I have always regretted that the oldest didn't have a sibling to grow up with and now he will be off on college when these two are little. He says he liked being an only child and now he's old enough to think the Littles are fun ,he basically thinks the toddler is his personal trained monkey and likes to show him off to his lady friends lol and when we had the baby his colic and reflux was so terrible I swore no more. til he turned one and suddenly I had that baby fever again. so I'll have kids 15 -17 yrs apart and 2 years apart lol sorry for the novel....

Jenniferk08 · February 2016

They will be 5 1/2 years apart. We wanted closer but last year I had a chemical pregnancy and had some trouble after that.

tinkerbell11210 · February 2016

DD will be 6.5 years old when LO is born. We live in a Chicago suburb so daycare cost was a huge factor in why we waited.

ohshenaniganz · February 2016

My first two are now 3 and 1 they are 20 months apart and this babe and my youngest will be 22 months apart.

DDRRT1982 · February 2016

My first two are 10 1/2 years apart. My second and third are 18 months apart. My third and fourth will be 20 months apart.

ramoseecology · February 2016

I'm a FTM and had been thinking of a large gap 4-5 years but I've gotten a late start (will be 33 when this one is born) so now I'm leaning towards a shorter gap of 2.5-3 years. I'm not sure what the best gap is and so much will be up to chance. I've heard a lot of varying opinions on what the best gap is both from the parents' perspective and the siblings' perspective--I find the opinions really interesting.

blond1230 · February 2016

DS will be 2 yr 10 months when this little one is born. Would have liked an even narrower gap but didn't happen! This gap is the same as I am with two of my brothers tho, and I did always like it growing up.

acciobaby123 · February 2016

Ds2 is 16 months older than ds2 and this one will be 12mo younger than my middle ahhhhhhh. It will be a learning process since my sister and I are 6 years apart

Fremdschamen · February 2016

My DD and this new one will be 3 years and 4 months apart. We wanted a smaller age gap-- when DD was born, I was planning to have another about 2.5 years later, but when the time came to try again, we weren't quite ready. We spend a lot of time talking about it and started trying so that they would be 2.75-3 years apart, but it took a couple of months and then I miscarried.

So, the gap is larger than I would like, but it means we only have 9 months of paying for full-time daycare for two, since junior kindergarten starts at age 4 here. And now that things are sinking in, I'm glad of the age gap because my daughter is "high needs" in that she needs a lot of cuddle and one on one time with me. I think the adjustment will be much easier for her at 3.25 than it would have been at 2.5.

smilormarie · February 2016

Exactly 3 years and I'm thrilled! We planned it that way. Although going into it I was thinking 18-24 months was perfect, it simply isn't. Both kiddos in diapers, super jealousy issues with the older kid, the older kid isn't independent enough yet, and there are things you might need for baby that are still being used for the older kid if they're too close so you either have to rush the older one out of it or buy two.

I have friends who have kids so are 6-7 yrs apart and they love it. I think 3-5.5 is great so they are old enough when the baby arrives but you aren't "starting all over again" if the age gap is too large.

cabee310 · February 2016

DS1 and DS2 are 6.5 years apart. DS2 and baby will be 4.5 years apart. Where I never intended the gap to be this large, it was really easy with the first being so far apart, I expect it to be similar this time.

angelob88 · February 2016

FTM but we will wait at least a year before we consider trying for a 2nd. I'm leaning more to 2 years a part so that they are close but still enough distance that I can give my body a break from pregnancy and enjoy being a family of 3 for awhile.

Sekerambo · February 2016

Ours will be 28 months apart which I'm excited about. My brother and I are 27 months apart and have always been close. We never fought growing up so I'm hoping to be as lucky with my own.

Kjohnson1426 · February 2016

Our first and second daughters are 2 years and 2 days apart. My second daughter will be 18 months when this baby is born. We love them close together.

huskymama725 · February 2016

SS will be 7 and DD will be 5.

katiedidthat · February 2016

My first two are 16 months apart and I loved that age gap. My oldest doesn't remember the days before his brother was here, so there was no jealousy and they are super close. And we didn't have to store baby stuff because as the older one outgrew it- the baby moved into it. They now share clothes at 2 and 3, too. This baby will be around 30 months younger than DS2. It's a bigger gap than we wanted, but since DS2 was a preemie, we were advised to wait at least 2 years. If we have a 4th (probably will, provided this baby is healthy and close to term), we will aim for 18 months again.

Ashers423 · February 2016

The age difference between dd1 and this baby will be 2 years 8 months

jmw386 · February 2016

DS was born December 2012, meaning the age gap with this baby will be over 3.5 years. We had been hoping for about 2 years but it wasn't in the cards, I guess. We had quite a bit of unexplained trouble conceiving this time around. We were 3 weeks out from our first RE appointment when we found out we were pregnant.

SkiChic626 · February 2016

They'll be 2 years and 6-7 weeks apart depending on when I schedule my c-section. I would have preferred them a little closer, but I wanted to be eligible for NJFLA again, which is every 24 months instead of 12 like FMLA - it gives me a whole extra 12 weeks!! It's probably for the best considering the cost of sending both of them to school everyday. Oy. I also learned that it takes you body a full 18 months to "refuel," if you will, between pregnancies so that you have all the best nutrients, etc. stocked up for the next baby, so it worked out that our FET was scheduled right around DD's 18 mo bday :-)

1faceinacrowd · February 2016

My daughter and step-son are 10 months apart, and they are very close. They will be 5 and 6 when this one is born and we'd like to have one more, though we're still debating when. We'd like our last two to be pretty close in age as well, so we talked about starting to try again when this DS is about 6 months old. It all depends on how we're feeling when the time comes though; having 2 babies in diapers and daycare would be expensive!

amccul20 · February 2016

our kids will be 26 months apart assuming this baby comes on it's dd:)

Ceventa · February 2016

DS and LO will be 2 yrs and 5 months apart. That timing is perfectly good with us, especially since we though it would take longer to get pregnant with LO so it's a nice surprise. My sister and I are 19 months apart and we are very close, so I'm hoping the kids will be close too.

mksfav · February 2016

There will be a 14 year age gap between my oldest stepson and this LO. Then 12 years and 8 years between my stepdaughter and youngest stepson. The kids are really excited, though I am wondering how the 8 year old will really feel once the LO gets here as he has been the baby of the family for so long and since he is dead set on a boy, a girl could really crush his dreams.

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