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October 2015 Moms
SweetnSassy23
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FFFC
SweetnSassy23
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The sleep training threads drive me insane. I don't understand how people can't do basic research. Many are starting entirely too early and quite frankly, their actions show a great deal of disrespect for LO.
I get it, I'm tired too. But I'd rather be tired than let my LO suffer. I don't understand how people can be so selfish when really they're sleep training to benefit themselves, not their kid.
Re: FFFC
i think this was my FFFC the last time we had this thread, but I miss the days people got called out for not using the search function. Our board is (sadly) pretty slow so no reason for repeat threads in the same day/week!
I'm going to ask about it at LOs 4 month well visit today. Sometimes it's more than being tired. When you haven't gotten more than 2 hours of consecutive sleep in six weeks and you can no longer function as a mother, wife, or human being in general, go ahead and criticize me for going that route but I could care less. That's not an exaggeration, by the way. I have not slept more than 2 hours straight in six weeks, and most nights it's more like 45 minutes at a time. I have bruises on my body where I literally am punching myself to relief frustration at night rather than scream because I don't want to scare LO or wake my son sleeping across the hall. I cracked the screen of my cell phone by biting it one night after rocking LO for half an hour for the 4th or 5th time that night, laying her gently down, and hearing her cry 2 seconds later. I snap at my husband, I have no patience with my son, and I am scared I might hurt myself more than I have so far. I was thinking I might have ppd but I think it's simply sleep deprivation.
So yes, I am selfish but is that always a bad thing? Am I really the only one who will benefit? I'm pretty sure LO will be a better rested, happier baby if she could also sleep more than an hour or two at a time. I'm waiting until her appointment so I can be sure there are no underlying reasons like reflux that might be causing her to wake hourly. And if you have done research, you'll understand that sleep training does not equate with letting LO suffer. There are methods that don't involve crying, or minimize crying.
It doesn't hurt to keep in mind that the mothers who are posting here about it may be more than simply "tired" but don't want to post the personal details.
@vamomtobe
I get what you're saying. My LO1 didn't sleep through the night until 19 months, and up until that point we got up 4X a night. Tired didn't begin to describe it. I adjusted to LO and went to bed ridiculously early to get more sleep cumulatively. I absolutely understand your point.
At this point in my life I haven't slept more than 5 hours at a stretch in two years. I feel beaten down and exhausted. I'm not going to let my kid scream because he can't communicate. Thirsty, hungry, teething, ear ache, tummy ache, scared, overly tired, sick, bored....IDK what LO is, but we'll figure it out together. I try to see things from LOs perspective and it drives me batty to think of a baby crying endlessly (and sometimes needlessly) when they have no other form of communication.
Methods that don't involve crying often take longer and many parents don't have the patience. It just seems like people don't really do the research and they half try a solution, and can't figure out why it doesn't work. Probably shouldn't have posted this when many of us are in the midst of the 4 month wake. It's brutal.
breast feeding: BF'ing all the sudden was so important to me. Tried everything I could to do it, now I exclusively pump
cloth diapers: now I am making them on my own and can't wait to have enough to cloth diaper full time
co-sleeping: I used to take a nap with my daughter and loved it so much. I still miss her while she's sleeping
baby-wearing: now I am a full-time baby wearing mama wherever we go
Lesson learned: I'm a total hypocrite and not afraid to admit it
Meh. Throw it out there. The board is slow.
I had originally put that I love Jimmy Kimmel's "A message for the anti vaccine movement" video. I thought it was hilarious.
My my favorite part is when the doctor says "Hey remember that time you got Polio? No you don't. Because your parents got you vaccinated."
@vamomtobe
Thanks for the sleep vibe. No bueno though. LO was a beast last night. I'm not even sure I got 4 hours sleep. So I'm at work and tired and in a bad mood. I'll get through though.
Yeah, pacis don't always work for my LO either. When he's made up his mind to eat, that's all that will work. My little slept through the night when we weaned. So I only have a year or so to go with this one...
If I'm up at 9 it's a "late" night. When did I get so old?