FFFC

SweetnSassy23

The sleep training threads drive me insane.  I don't understand how people can't do basic research. Many are starting entirely too early and quite frankly, their actions show a great deal of disrespect for LO. 

I get it, I'm tired too. But I'd rather be tired than let my LO suffer. I don't understand how people can be so selfish when really they're sleep training to benefit themselves, not their kid.

tracij12

Agree @SweetnSassy23!

i think this was my FFFC the last time we had this thread, but I miss the days people got called out for not using the search function. Our board is (sadly) pretty slow so no reason for repeat threads in the same day/week!

FatPony

Our board is super slow. There was so much more going on when we were all pregnant! 

MariahOBrien

Yeah. Our board is kind of lame now. I don't even recognize half the people using it. Where my regs at? 

vamomtobe

I am a selfish mommy who wants to sleep train to benefit me.

I'm going to ask about it at LOs 4 month well visit today.  Sometimes it's more than being tired.  When you haven't gotten more than 2 hours of consecutive sleep in six weeks and you can no longer function as a mother, wife, or human being in general, go ahead and criticize me for going that route but I could care less.  That's not an exaggeration, by the way.  I have not slept more than 2 hours straight in six weeks, and most nights it's more like 45 minutes at a time.  I have bruises on my body where I literally am punching myself to relief frustration at night rather than scream because I don't want to scare LO or wake my son sleeping across the hall.  I cracked the screen of my cell phone by biting it one night after rocking LO for half an hour for the 4th or 5th time that night, laying her gently down, and hearing her cry 2 seconds later.  I snap at my husband, I have no patience with my son, and I am scared I might hurt myself more than I have so far.  I was thinking I might have ppd but I think it's simply sleep deprivation.  

So yes, I am selfish but is that always a bad thing?  Am I really the only one who will benefit?  I'm pretty sure LO will be a better rested, happier baby if she could also sleep more than an hour or two at a time.  I'm waiting until her appointment so I can be sure there are no underlying reasons like reflux that might be causing her to wake hourly.  And if you have done research, you'll understand that sleep training does not equate with letting LO suffer.  There are methods that don't involve crying, or minimize crying.  

It doesn't hurt to keep in mind that the mothers who are posting here about it may be more than simply "tired" but don't want to post the personal details.  

SweetnSassy23

@vamomtobe

I get what you're saying. My LO1 didn't sleep through the night until 19 months, and up until that point we got up 4X a night. Tired didn't begin to describe it. I adjusted to LO and went to bed ridiculously early to get more sleep cumulatively. I absolutely understand your point.

At this point in my life I haven't slept more than 5 hours at a stretch in two years. I feel beaten down and exhausted. I'm not going to let my kid scream because he can't communicate.  Thirsty, hungry, teething, ear ache, tummy ache, scared, overly tired, sick, bored....IDK what LO is, but we'll figure it out together. I try to see things from LOs perspective and it drives me batty to think of a baby crying endlessly (and sometimes needlessly) when they have no other form of communication. 

Methods that don't involve crying often take longer and many parents don't have the patience. It just seems like people don't really do the research and they half try a solution, and can't figure out why it doesn't work.  Probably shouldn't have posted this when many of us are in the midst of the 4 month wake. It's brutal.

danniellemichelle

Once my daughter arrived I pretty much did everything I turned my nose up to while pregnant. 

breast feeding: BF'ing all the sudden was so important to me. Tried everything I could to do it, now I exclusively pump 

cloth diapers: now I am making them on my own and can't wait to have enough to cloth diaper full time 

co-sleeping: I used to take a nap with my daughter and loved it so much. I still miss her while she's sleeping 

baby-wearing: now I am a full-time baby wearing mama wherever we go

Lesson learned: I'm a total hypocrite and not afraid to admit it  

SweetnSassy23

danniellemichellexox said:

I love baby wearing and don't care about the funny looks I get when I wear my daughter out and about  

edited because even though this is FFFC my original confession would have possibly started some issues lol 

Meh. Throw it out there. The board is slow.

MariahOBrien

@danniellemichellexox yeah, do it. I'm intrigued now. 

danniellemichelle

@SweetnSassy23 darn I thought I changed it quick  enough before anyone saw  

I had originally put that I love Jimmy Kimmel's "A message for the anti vaccine movement" video. I thought it was hilarious. 

My my favorite part is when the doctor says "Hey remember that time you got Polio? No you don't. Because your parents got you vaccinated."  

MariahOBrien

midge519

It's Sunday but I have one. My fiancé was gone to a concert last night and I loved it. Got some alcohol to slowly drink since LO hasn't been sleeping much. My confession is I wanted to just down my drink and have a few, feel a little tipsy and crash. Of course I didn't and took over an hour to drink my drink but gah I would have loved to get drunk for the first time in a long time!

vamomtobe

@SweetnSassy23 I hope you get some well-deserved rest!  I am all about going to bed ridiculously early, that's what you have to do.  We were lucky with my son - it took about a year until he slept through the night, but once he started, he was consistent and we enjoyed two years of actual sleep at night.  Update on LO #2, had her appointment and I didn't even ask about sleep training.  I don't know why, I just couldn't even bring it up.  I did ask for some help on her getting up hourly, and the advice given was to wait 4 hours to nurse her from her last feeding before bed, and just soothe her to sleep other ways when she gets up.  I guess doc's theory is that I've gotten her used to having little "snacks" throughout the night.  So hopefully it'll pay off but the last two nights have been a bitch.  Usually when she gets up at night she barely cries because I nurse her right away, but she is not liking the switcheroo with the paci.  So much for no crying ugh.

SweetnSassy23

@vamomtobe

Thanks for the sleep vibe. No bueno though. LO was a beast last night. I'm not even sure I got 4 hours sleep. So I'm at work and tired and in a bad mood. I'll get through though. 

Yeah, pacis don't always work for my LO either. When he's made up his mind to eat, that's all that will work.  My little slept through the night when we weaned. So I only have a year or so to go with this one...

If I'm up at 9 it's a "late" night. When did I get so old?