I'm not much of a petifores-and-tea or poopy-diaper-game baby shower and went for a coed hangout instead. I didn't think it would be a big deal, since most of the showers I have been to in recent memory have been coed, but boy was I mistaken.
My brother in law (DH'S oldest brother) asked why he got an invitation and then, when DH said he was going, told him not to forget to bring his vagina.
When my host went to send out invitations, she freak out texted me "why are there men on your guest list?!" This about a month after I gave her my guest list and was sure we were on the same page about what I wanted.
Anyone else having a coed shower and dealing with this type of shade throwing? How are you and DH dealing with it?
Re: Getting flack for coed baby shower?
DS: Born 5-17-16
But what I want to know is why no one seems to be able to manage to respect the wishes of mom to be? When we get married everyone always says, whatever the bride wants etc...but then we have a baby and it suddenly becomes whatever everyone else thinks/wants!!?!? Since when is that ok? It drives me absolutely insane. My MIL flat out told me I was not allowed to have ANY input into my shower, knowing how uncomfortable it makes me. But no one cares. I can't wait to throw that back in her face when I remind her this is my child and not hers and I don't want her opinions. Makes me so angry.
Rant over.
Sounds like your BIL is razzing your DH but if it gets worse I would tell him to back off. Its not like you're going to make him where a tutu and change diapers.
Either way I feel it should be your choice. My opinion was asked about what I wanted in order for my wishes to be executed. Who wants a baby shower thats not "them"?
We are having a huge taco bar and hang out.
The girls only shower was nice too, some of my students/athletes came and we all made scrapbook pages. But very different and I utimately enjoyed the co-Ed one more.
ETA: this was for DS1 over 4 yrs ago! Seems to be even more common today...
The only disadvantage about co-ed is that the guest list can really get crazy (not to mention including kids!!). We are probably going to have 50 people at ours. I can see where some hosts may not appreciate the extra expense.
My dad is hosting a couple of my DH's friends while we are faffing downstairs over cake and baby clothes. I want to make him feel special as well!
I was thinking of doing a Emergency Fatherhood kit with a book about becoming a dad, energy drinks and sweeties, a couple of vouchers that says 'It's your turn' and stuff like that.
Any suggestions of gifts for dads-to-be?
With DS, my mom, sister and SIL threw us a "family shower." I was raised in a small town and called all my friends' parents and parents' friends by their first names. They've all known me since I was a baby. So the shower was at my parents' house, my dad cooked, and my parents' friends, my childhood friends, and their kids were all there. It was pretty awesome. One of my dad's friends didn't show up along with his wife and daughter (I grew up with the daughter and her dad coached my basketball team) and my dad literally called him and said, "I know it's a baby shower, but THIS shower you come to!" He showed up 20 minutes later.
It was super fun, relaxed and enjoyable. I highly recommend the co-ed shower!