@js8812 Most likely I will have my in laws living with me (they travel between all of us kids) and a BIL. It's not ideal, but we have a big house so MH and I can be on one side of the house with LO, and everyone else on the other. We have rules, and if it comes that your BIL does stay with you I would have a heart to heart with hubby that the rules WILL apply to BIL. As far as taking care of baby goes; it's your house- don't let them make you feel put out!
My BIL is a college senior and just asked my H if he could live with us this summer for his internship. Starting in May. He also asked if his girlfriend could move in, too.
My H wants to help him out and I appreciate that, but he does NOT see my point of view at all. We need this time to adjust to our new family without any outside stressors. This is our first baby and let's be honest, I have no idea what I'm doing. I don't want to feel cooped up in the nursery or my bedroom every time I want to nurse. If I have a breakdown and just need to cry I don't want to feel like a weirdo for doing so. I don't want anything to negatively impact my first few months with baby. If the timing were different, it would be a different story.
I'm just annoyed that 1) my BIL would put us in an awkward position by asking us that and 2) that my H seems to be more on his brother's side than trying to understand where I'm coming from.
I definitely don't feel like I'm being unreasonable here. Please tell me if you agree or disagree with me. I need some feedback so I don't feel crazy!
I agree with PP's. You're NOT being unreasonable. It's like you said, what if you wanna walk around with your top off cuz your breasts are uncomfortable? What if you fall asleep while nursing on the couch? What if you need to cry at 2 in the afternoon.
On your BIL's end, what if he and his GF want to have crazy sex? What if he's up late or has a hard day the same time your LO has a hard day? It's hard to relax while a baby is crying.
I get where your DH is coming from, is pretty much do anything for my brothers, but I don't think it's a reasonable situation for either of you.
@js8812 How close are you to your MIL? Maybe you can have her knock some sense into your husband and BIL about how hard it'll be for a first time mom right after birth without added roommates.
The people at Ashley Furniture/Service Dept are TW's! We bought a sectional back in JULY! That arrived damaged in several places... the corner/wedge section needs to be recovered so they have to order the piece of fabric... they have ordered this piece and been to my house 3 times since July and always have the WRONG piece!!! Saturday he was back again and it was the SAME flipping story... sorry, wrong piece.. have to re-order... 8-10 days (when it takes a hell of a lot longer than 8-10 days) hence it being February and this damn couch is still not fixed. It has me so livid... we will never purchase from them again. PERIOD. At this rate I'll be lucky to get the couch fixed before it turns a year old... ok... that is all -_-
Agh this makes me nervous @kp90! It's not the Jessa sectional, right!?
Can they not just order you a whole new piece? I think after all this time I would be causing problems and asking them to just replace the whole thing if they're not capable of fixing it!
@jenly17 I'd have to look at my papers again for the exact name but its a dark brown, big sectional. If you're waiting on anything from Ashley furniture just pray to God it doesn't arrive damaged because its taking FOREVER to get it fixed.
@jessicab0627 I never thought about asking them to order a whole new piece. I think I'd feel better if they did... unless that piece also arrives damaged. Ugh. I just want it fixed so I can stop dealing and stressing about this BS.
Definitely ask to have them replace the whole thing. We did that with our coffee table from them and we had it in a week.
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