We didn't find out with our first and are not finding out again. For the first few months, my husband wanted to find out but I kept saying no. He always looked during the ultrasounds but couldn't see anything. After a while he warmed up to the idea and doesn't want to find out this time or other future times. He said it was fun not knowing. When out son was born and it was announced that he was a boy, my hubby kept smacking me on the arm saying, "did you hear that, it's a boy!" Lol.
We haven't decided yet. We found out with our first, which my husband didn't want to. So I told him we could wait on the second, but now that it's here he isn't sure. Our kids will be sharing a bedroom so we will have to adjust just a little for a boy so that's the only reason we are leaning away from Team Green
We will be finding out. I am way too impatient to wait. I love the idea of your husband telling you after you give birth and not receiving tons of gender specific clothing at the shower, but there is no way I could hold out that long.
Me 29 I Him 26 Married 4/22/16
TTC 9/2015 **TW** BFP 2/1/16 I MC 3/21/16 (11w) TTCAL 6/15/16 BFP 3/23/2017 Team pink! Quinn Leigh EDD December 1, 2017
I am a planner and I want to know. I like finding great bargain deals and even this weekend a perfect example came up. A stroller/baby seat with pink flowers was on sale $100 cheaper than the more neutral looking set. If it was reddish/pink, I'd be fine.. but with the flowers, my DH and I didn't feel comfortable buying it if it were a boy. Right now I'm preferring blue and aqua shades, which works for either sex. I do like some of the pp's ideas of keeping the sex between DH and I, or keeping it within a VERY small circle of trusted family (grandmothers). We are finding out because we are having NIPT completed at 10-12 weeks.
I am also (flame if you want, I don't care) I huge fan of gender reveal parties.
No flaming here! I LOVE the idea of a gender reveal party. It has the element of surprise while still allowing to plan accordingly. This LO will be my 2nd but DH's first, so I had been thinking a gender reveal party with gifts optional would help us fill in the gaps we have since DD is 6 (so car seats have expired, etc...) while not making it a full fledged 2nd shower for me. DH seemed to like the idea, too, since that makes it more man-friendly.
Countdown to Baby H! Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
We plan to find out because this is our first but we are not revealing the sex to anyone until birth. That way my impatient self gets to know but we still get to keep a secret
I don't know what to do! I want to find out ASAP but my DH wants to be team green (not that he is aware of that phrase, lol). I am a total planner/ crazy impatient type of person and he is the opposite, so I'm not surprised that we're on different pages on this. I do think it would be an amazing surprise at birth but I just want to knowwwwwww. Not sure what to do!
We will be finding out. I have several friends who were team green, and to hear it from them it sounds so exciting to wait to find out. But I have like zero self control, so it's out of the question for me.
My fiance says he absolutely does not want to know. Because he did not have that element of surprise with his 1st babies. I on the other hand can't wait. We are already calling our LO Peanut and referring to him as a he. Occasionally we mix it up and call her a she.
I like the idea of not finding out, but I am impatient. Mostly because my storage is full of way too many boy things and if this is a girl I'm shipping half of it off to consignment. Maybe if we go for number 3 I'll go green....maybe
I'm Team Green. DH really wants to find out. I have agreed that we can find out at the anatomy scan. I think DH feels like finding out is a good way for him to bond with the baby (he hates calling baby "it" and not "he" or "she"). I want him to feel involved in decision making and finding out the sex before the baby arrives isn't worth the argument to me.
We're going to find out. Besides being impatient, I view it as a way to bond as well. At least right now in the first tri it all still seems so surreal! Being able to call the baby by its name will make it more real to us I think!
We're finding out, but not telling anyone except our parents. Then at the shower we will do a gender reveal so that we don't get a bunch of gender specific stuff and clothes that we didn't register for.
DH and I definitely want to find out. I'm team "don't tell anyone the sex until after the baby is born" but I haven't run that one by DH yet! In a twisted way I kind of like keeping secrets from our families, we haven't even told them about the LO!
We're not finding out. This may be the naive hope of two first-time feminist parents, but we don't want to make sex and gender a big deal in this kid's life, other than to talk to him or her about it in age appropriate ways. It might be pie in the sky, but we're trying and this seems like a good place to start.
I always thought I would be team green and want it to be a surprise. I knew a few kids growing up whose parents got told one gender at the US and they popped out the other and I didn't want my kid to ever feel like I wanted them to be anything other than what they are... but now that I'm actually pregnant and we have more accurate testing I really want to find out, the curiosity is killing me, but I think we'll keep it a secret from everyone else.
My DH leaves it up to me. We didn't find out with our first and it was really fun. Our family all guessed the sex and my sisters argued about it. We found out with our second and that was also really fun. I want to find out again this time.
I am so impatient and I want to plan the baby's room and clothes and decorations. I am planning on doing a gender reveal party though, so I won't find out at the ultrasound, but with my family at the same time.
We didn't find out the first time by mutual agreement and I really had to work on DH to find out the second time, but he's so difficult when it comes to agreeing on baby names that I wanted as little margin for error/guessing as possible. My kids share a room that's decorated with garden/bug/animal type stuff so it can be done when it comes to nursery planning (although their nursery looks nothing like the ones on Pinterest, so maybe don't listen to me).
After reading this, I think we're team publicly green, and then do a reveal at the shower. We're planning more than one kid, and I'd rather have more gender neutral stuff than gendered, especially pink. (ILs have 4 grandsons and we're the last ones to have kids, so the potential to go overboard is there.)
After reading this, I think we're team publicly green, and then do a reveal at the shower. We're planning more than one kid, and I'd rather have more gender neutral stuff than gendered, especially pink. (ILs have 4 grandsons and we're the last ones to have kids, so the potential to go overboard is there.)
This is why I was team green with #1. I got all the big items at my shower and they're all neutral. People tend to go clothes crazy if they know the sex. My sister revealed at her shower and that was fun.
Team green all the way. This is oursecond baby and with our first we did not find out either. We had a water birth and I got to pull my baby up from the water onto my chest and look for myself and announce to my husband that our baby was a boy I will never forget how truly amazing it was. So few things get to be a surprise in life, if you are on the fence you won't regret waiting:)
I found out with my first two (both girls) but I'm really going to try to have some self control this time and go team green. I had two traumatizing births (one that seriously could have resulted in the death of one or both of us) so I have no happy memories from delivery. This baby will be a planned RCS and I would love the excitement of finding out in the delivery room.
We're team green. On DH's side there are 7 boys and no girls. At thanksgiving (before we even started trying) one of my SILs told me I can't have a girl because everyone is used to boys now. (WTF?!) I'm sure if we have a girl the pink storm will be intense but at least anything we get prior to birth will be gender neutral.
Team too impatient here! Also we're planners, so we'd like to get a jump on the room, selling/donating a lot of the old pink stuff if it's a boy, and debating on names (which will be a challenge!) I'd also like to crochet a baby blanket before he/she gets here.
Oh, I'm already knitting two baby blankets. Started them when we first started TTC. White and yellow. If you know how to Tunisian crochet (it's not much different then regular) I know a gorgeous pattern for a multicolored blanket. (In an earlier life, I worked at a yarn store and taught knitting and crochet to people- I'm very glad I am having a late fall baby, so many snuggly things!)
We are debating being team green this time around. With DD we wanted to know right away. I'll see how strong my reserve is when we get there.
If we do decide to find out the sex I think I might have the US tech seal it in an envelope so we can have a little celebration. Not a reveal party or anything, but maybe just for H and I, or maybe with just our families.
Re: Finding out the sex or not?
Married 4/22/16
**TW**
BFP 2/1/16 I MC 3/21/16 (11w)
TTCAL 6/15/16
BFP 3/23/2017 Team pink! Quinn Leigh EDD December 1, 2017
Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
Team Blue!
BFP: February 2016 EDD: October 17, 2016
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
In a twisted way I kind of like keeping secrets from our families, we haven't even told them about the LO!
TTC#2: BFP: 8-23-15 MMC: 10-29-15
DD 2: 9-15-16
DD 3: 9-16-17
If we do decide to find out the sex I think I might have the US tech seal it in an envelope so we can have a little celebration. Not a reveal party or anything, but maybe just for H and I, or maybe with just our families.