As a STM there is no real "sleeping in however late I need/want"; there are no recovery days/ times catching up on missed sleep, sleepiness nights, after and during sickness, or after or during "vacations" ever now for years. For more about vacations see this: https://dadandburied.com/2013/05/28/the-reason-parents-are-always-so-tired/
I am now fully aware I traded sleep for kids. And during the baby stage I turn into a mombie many days (super sleep deprived mom). But hey at least it was a great trade.
I typically sleep well, though this week LO has started kicking me every time I roll to a different side. Last night was awful mainly bcuz SO is sick and his usual snoring is bad but his sick snoring is unbearable! I woke him up every time he woke me up and it didn't work. I found some ear plugs in my junk drawer downstairs fell asleep for an hour then had to pee, AGAIN! I got like no sleep. He's working until 7 tonight finishing up some loan projects before he takes his new VP position Monday. So I'm taking a nap when I get home from work and specifically told him NOT to wake me when he gets home, I'll wake up on my own haha.
The most useless advice Moms of babies get is "Sleep now." Oh really, because I can bank my sleep? That's a thing now? So when I'm tired from a sleepless night I can just go to this "bank" and make a with drawl? This advice seriously stressed me out with DD. I'm not letting it this time. I admit that it's great training for those months when I'll be up multiple times a night, and especially when I go back to work and still have to get up in the middle of the night. I know that I can somewhat successfully manage on less sleep then I'd like. That's why they invented coffee!
First time mom here. What drives me crazy is that even though I don't sleep great at night, my husband and I love to "sleep" in or lounge in on weekends. Do you know how many of my friends with kids have said "uh, you realize there is no more sleeping in when you have a baby, right?" Me in my mind: "WHAT? Really?? I thought I could sleep all I want!" Helloooo! Why should I stop trying to sleep in now, just because I won't be able to the REST OF MY LIFE??? Rant over
On a similar note, our twins were in the nicu for a long time. People would say "sleep now, before the girls come home." I know they meant well, but would you sleep well with your children in critical condition in the ICU? I don't think so. I may have slept less when they came home, but I slept much better, and the knot in my stomach started to go away once they came home. PSA: If you have a friend/sister/cousin/coworker that has a baby in the nicu, please don't tell them they are lucky because they can sleep through the night with their kid(s) in the nicu - they are probably waking up to pump anyway!
Mama to Three Girls: Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
Sleep when you finally get "comfortable" until you have to pee, and then the dog decides that once your back in bed he needs to pee. Repeat 4 or 5 times a night with leg cramps in between and not being able to get back to sleep because you're wide awake.
But hey, we will be a little more used to no sleep when our babies come, right?
I finally had to just relax and let go of the idea of a full nights sleep. It makes it so much more manageable to be at peace with three trips to the bathroom, a dog laying on your legs, baby twisting around and then your glorious 5am alarm.
Re: "Sleep until the baby comes!"
For more about vacations see this:
https://dadandburied.com/2013/05/28/the-reason-parents-are-always-so-tired/
I am now fully aware I traded sleep for kids. And during the baby stage I turn into a mombie many days (super sleep deprived mom).
But hey at least it was a great trade.
PSA: If you have a friend/sister/cousin/coworker that has a baby in the nicu, please don't tell them they are lucky because they can sleep through the night with their kid(s) in the nicu - they are probably waking up to pump anyway!
Mama to Three Girls:
Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
But hey, we will be a little more used to no sleep when our babies come, right?