I had awful morning sickness and it comforts me to see that I'm not alone in having not gained a ton. I went into my anatomy scan freaking out because I was worried I wouldn't have eaten enough to nourish my baby because I wasn't putting on much of any weight. I've always been someone who struggled with my weight so for me, it feels like the one thing my body normally does well (putting on weight) it is failing at now when it really matters. I'm also due at the end of June so my baby is a lot smaller weight wise than you ladies due at the beginning of the month. Just some perspective from the low side of the weight gain spectrum.
Pretty much all of this. I am also due at the end of June, so like pp said, those due at the beginning of June who are 24 weeks may have gained more than those of us that are just 20 weeks. Those weeks are major! Not to mention we all started at different points weight wise (some average, some overweight, some underweight) before we were pregnant. And we all gain weight differently. My boobs haven't grown really at all, maybe half a size at most, but I'm still in my regular bras.
I just had my 20 week appointment today and thought for sure I had gained ~5 pounds since I definitely have a bump now. Nope still at my pre pregnancy weight. I asked my doctor about it, and she wasn't concerned. She said as long as I'm eating normally, the baby will get what he needs, and you can burn more energy growing a human. She said don't worry, the weight will come.
I don't weigh myself at home, because like other's said the individual number itself doesn't matter. I only get weighed at the doctor and that's good enough for me.
Like Alohasoprano I didn't vote either. I will tell you that during my first full pregnancy I gained a LOT throughout and a lot even during first tri. However this pregnancy I am having trouble gaining. Every person and every pregnancy is different.
I have a question about all this. Do I calculate based on my starting weight or my lowest weight in this pregnancy? Because those are two very different numbers!
I've always been on the plus/curvy side and struggled with eating disorder issues since I was a teen, so it's really difficult for me to talk about any weight gain and see it as a positive thing. I started my pregnancy at 226 and dropped down to 208 (-18) and have gone back up to 213 (+5 from lowest, -13 from prepregnancy). And every day I look at myself in the mirror and it kills me. I hate every damn inch of my body and hate how it is changing. And it makes me feel guilty because I know I'm supposed to be eating healthy and gaining weight and taking care of my body for my little man, but the truth is when I see any sort of change in my appearance or gain on the scale it makes me miserable.
So as much as I understand that this poll/post is generally meant to be good natured, I can't help but despise it for bringing up my weight in comparison to myself or anyone else and the way it pits us against ourselves and each other.
I refuse to step on my scale at home anymore . Before I got pregnant I lost about 50 lbs . I have struggled with weight my whole life and so did my mom and sister until they had kids . The fact that the number on the scale was going back to where it was terrified me . Looking in the mirror I still feel good about myself but when I see that stupid number I freak out and go into an automatic bad mood ! So I decided that unless my doctor says I need to drastically change something I don't need to know what that number is . I also step on the scale backwards at the doctors office because I refuse to let it affect me when I should be happy and excited about growing my first . Last time I checked I was up 9 lbs about a month ago and it affected me for almost 3 weeks because of the larger number on the scale .. So stupid how a darn number can affect that much !! In some ways I'm curious to know but on the other hand if I'm happy and my baby is healthy then I don't need to know what the darn scale says personally! It's so hard but I'm glad we can all talk about it since there is obviously a huge bulk of us that are struggling with it !
@NicknShan I feel you and I know you probably get this a lot but try and ignore that little voice that tries to make you feel bad. I was really tiny pre-pregnancy (5'1, 113 lbs), gained weight with my first pregnancy and didn't have time to lose it before I got pregnant again because I got a BFP a month after my D&C. I haven't weighed more than 120lbs in 8 years, and while people will say "that's nothing" for me it's a big deal. I avoid the scale (I know this isn't right to do either, but it works for me) except for the Dr's because if I feel good and Baby is healthy I'm not gonna freak out.
That being said, I've gained about 15lbs this pregnancy so far. Not a lot for most people but like I mentioned previously, it's a lot for me. Dr isn't worried, so I'm not. I try to watch what I eat but the girl likes chocolate and I deserve it (because I'm growing life).
Just for whatever it's worth (and probably not worth that much since we all have our weighing routines established) I have NO idea how much I've gained. I had anorexia for a chunk of my early 20s and since then I feel comfortable telling my doctors to weigh me backwards. I honestly get on scales backwards as a habit now. I wish I was able to see the numbers and be accepting (props to those of you who can), but I still think now I might fixate on them and I have enough to worry about in pregnancy! I have no idea how much I gained with my daughter, but it all seemed to normalize quickly through breastfeeding. This time, I definitely looked a bit softer after 3 months of no exercise but I'm reasonably happy with my shape at the moment (back to exercising) so whatever. Anyway- just thought I'd put my approach out there. My doctor is awesome about it and I know she'd tell me if there was anything to worry about either way.
Just for whatever it's worth (and probably not worth that much since we all have our weighing routines established) I have NO idea how much I've gained. I had anorexia for a chunk of my early 20s and since then I feel comfortable telling my doctors to weigh me backwards. I honestly get on scales backwards as a habit now. I wish I was able to see the numbers and be accepting (props to those of you who can), but I still think now I might fixate on them and I have enough to worry about in pregnancy! I have no idea how much I gained with my daughter, but it all seemed to normalize quickly through breastfeeding. This time, I definitely looked a bit softer after 3 months of no exercise but I'm reasonably happy with my shape at the moment (back to exercising) so whatever. Anyway- just thought I'd put my approach out there. My doctor is awesome about it and I know she'd tell me if there was anything to worry about either way.
Really good advice. I'm a recovering bulimic (can't say recovered, past tense, because I'm fairly certain I will always have relapses). We are all responsible for knowing and managing our own triggers. And if we can't talk openly and honestly about our pregnancy experiences -- including weight -- here, where else?
I don't remember how much I weighed when I got pregnant, but I can estimate. My SO is a personal trainer so prepregnancy I was training almost daily and was in my best shape ever. Then life kinda hit me and I stopped going as much and I know I gained a little back. My estimste is that I've gained 15lbs this pregnancy. I feel huge, but I try not to be hard on myself. As a PP said, my breast alone have gone from a C to a DD. I eat healthy and I've always been a healthy eater. So I'm not worried that my baby isn't getting the nutrients he needs. I find it crazy though that I feel like a whale some days and yet when I tell people how far along I am, I am always told that I don't look it at all. Even though my stomach has gone from flat to round in the front within a few months, I still have patients going "Wait, you're pregnant?!" Lol
I am up 25lbs already. I am wondering if its in part due to my SPD cause i really cant move around very much. But im trying to not get too upset about it or anything cause i figure i will just deal after the fact. The midwife isnt concerned at all.
Lol I'm the only one that has voted for "more than 25 lbs". This poll has officially made me cry. But unfortunately it seems like there's nothing I can do to prevent myself from just gaining weight. I'm not eating any differently than I had pre pregnancy. This is my first. I'm just hoping I'm not any more of a whale by the time I give birth. That being said, I've read that it this stage in pregnancy is where the majority of the growth happens so I'm sure I'll continue . Blah.
My appetite has gone THROUGH THE ROOF these past three days. This is definitely one of those "major growth" spans. I can't stop eating. Anyone else feeling this way? (I'm 22 weeks)
Lol I'm the only one that has voted for "more than 25 lbs". This poll has officially made me cry. But unfortunately it seems like there's nothing I can do to prevent myself from just gaining weight. I'm not eating any differently than I had pre pregnancy. This is my first. I'm just hoping I'm not any more of a whale by the time I give birth. That being said, I've read that it this stage in pregnancy is where the majority of the growth happens so I'm sure I'll continue . Blah.
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You might be the only one that voted for it, but I can assure you, you aren't the only one gaining that much. This is part of the reason why I hate comparison posts. The people who tend to post/vote will (by and large...no pun intended) be those who have not gained or gained just a little...because people don't like to be judged....and people who are gaining more, likely already feel bad about themselves....because our society is obsessed with weight. *end rant*
My appetite has gone THROUGH THE ROOF these past three days. This is definitely one of those "major growth" spans. I can't stop eating. Anyone else feeling this way? (I'm 22 weeks)
Yes. Week 19-23 I gained 8lb ... honestly, my eating hasn't even changed *that* much (if I was counting calories in). I'm expanding in a very big way nonetheless.
@RNMegan0711 I agree with @mkemommy you are definitely not the only one in that boat, you're just the only one who felt comfortable to share the info... don't beat yourself up! And every pregnancy is different, some gain weight all up front, some evenly throughout, some don't gain until the end... just trust your body!
My appetite has gone THROUGH THE ROOF these past three days. This is definitely one of those "major growth" spans. I can't stop eating. Anyone else feeling this way? (I'm 22 weeks)
Ya, I had two breakfasts today. I made a smoothie with blueberries, a banana, plain Greek yogurt and almond milk, finished it and realized I just wanted more food so I ate a bowl of Cheerios hahaha
I only weigh myself at the doctor's office so I can't remember what my last weight was but I know it was a healthy amount and in an expected range. I gained 32lbs with my first son and I expect to gain the same amount this time - between 30 and 35 - although I'm eating healthier and drinking far fewer milkshakes this time
@RNMegan0711 I was in the 20-25 category when I voted but I was teetering. Preeeety sure I'm in the >25 lbs category now. I was upset about it, but I really don't sit around eating junk all the time so I'm just trying to accept that this is how my body is doing the pregnancy thing. Also a FTM. You are NOT alone.
I had a doctor’s appointment on Monday and she weighed me at
+16 pounds and gave me a lecture on gaining too much (I’m pretty overweight to
begin with). I tried to explain to her how the number was crazy because I’m +8
(I weight myself everyday, and I’d already been disappointed with the +8). The
reason for the scale in her office was having downed 64oz of water (4lbs)
before the appointment (I was tired of waiting in the office until I could
pee), water retention from the salt in all of those potato chips I ate during
the superbowl the night before (I don't normally eat super salty anything),some serious constipation, plus winter clothes
that were SIGNIFICANTLY heavier than my last weigh in. Anyway, the doctor just
gave me this look like I was being unhealthy and obviously had no idea what I
was talking about or how to take care of myself.
It really pissed me off.
BECAUSE I’m overweight is exactly WHY I’m watching the scale so closely.
Honestly, all I care about right now is my BABY’S health, and I wouldn’t do
anything to jeopardize it. Now it’s Friday, and my scale is actually showing
only +6, no where near +16. It just pisses me off that my doctor wouldn’t trust
me enough to know my own body more than someone who’s met me on 4 separate occasions.
@rnmegan0711 I gained 80+ pounds with my first and by this point I was up at least 40 pounds. This time I've gained around 15. Every pregnancy really is so different!
@MistKeeper sorry that sucks. You don't need to be made to feel bad. could you just indicate you prefer not to be weighed at your appts? If you're tracking yourself you can keep tabs on when to bring it up to doc if you're concerned?
@RNMegan0711I too cried at this post. I didn't comment Bc I get very nervous talking about weight, most* often I hear that I'm 'too skinny' to worry, care, understand etc but what you said just resonates with me. I knew opening the thread that it would bother me, but couldn't not open it. I feel guilty and uncomfortable with my weight gain, not solely Bc of the amount, but because of my choices. I don't eat healthy. I've eaten more junk during this pregnancy than the past year. I haven't exercised since before IVF. I didn't post in HDBD this week Bc I felt self conscious after this post and Bc I know when I see my mom this weekend she'll comment on my weight and note again how she gained no more than 5lbs (or something ridiculous) with each of her 4 pregnancies and lost it all the second each baby came flying out her perfect vagina. In her mind I am and always have been overweight and for a post like this, if I've gained more than the absolute minimum, I hear her in my head chastising me. As soon as I see her tomorrow it will be: "my goodness, how much have you gained already? Should you eat that?" Or if there are guests around: "She's very different then I was, I couldn't gain with my pregnancies, no matter how many shakes I ate!" I'm mad at myself for letting this and her bother me at all. I comment everywhere, but here I just lurked...
It's all SO ridiculous Bc my shape isn't because of diet or exercise regimen, it's simply how I am made. I have no clue how much I've gained since my last appointment 6wks ago because I refuse to have a scale in my house, I'm terrified of becoming obsessed with each single pound, whether it's 6 or 26.
I don't care what size a woman is, it just makes me sad that we can't see our truly banging selves. I love all shapes and think women of many sizes are gorgeous. The HDBD thread is my favorite, everyone is so beautiful to look at. My mom, in her mind once some unimaginably thin size, is now a healthy, curvy size 16 and looks sexy as hell for her age. But she hides in pictures and never has anything good to say about herself. She's eternally trying to lose 20lbs and can't do this or buy that or whatever until she has. She literally hates her body along with mine and anyone who doesn't fit that idea of perfection that's stuck with her. It makes me so sad that she missed so many years of enjoyment in her shape and in others.
I love that I can see everyone as beautiful despite the way I was raised, but hate that I still struggle to enjoy my own body while I have it. Not saying yeah or nay to the thread, just trying to share since you @RNMegan0711 were brave enough to. Anyway, thanks for your post.
@RNMegan0711I too cried at this post. I didn't comment Bc I get very nervous talking about weight, most* often I hear that I'm 'too skinny' to worry, care, understand etc but what you said just resonates with me. I knew opening the thread that it would bother me, but couldn't not open it. I feel guilty and uncomfortable with my weight gain, not solely Bc of the amount, but because of my choices. I don't eat healthy. I've eaten more junk during this pregnancy than the past year. I haven't exercised since before IVF. I didn't post in HDBD this week Bc I felt self conscious after this post and Bc I know when I see my mom this weekend she'll comment on my weight and note again how she gained no more than 5lbs (or something ridiculous) with each of her 4 pregnancies and lost it all the second each baby came flying out her perfect vagina. In her mind I am and always have been overweight and for a post like this, if I've gained more than the absolute minimum, I hear her in my head chastising me. As soon as I see her tomorrow it will be: "my goodness, how much have you gained already? Should you eat that?" Or if there are guests around: "She's very different then I was, I couldn't gain with my pregnancies, no matter how many shakes I ate!" I'm mad at myself for letting this and her bother me at all. I comment everywhere, but here I just lurked...
It's all SO ridiculous Bc my shape isn't because of diet or exercise regimen, it's simply how I am made. I have no clue how much I've gained since my last appointment 6wks ago because I refuse to have a scale in my house, I'm terrified of becoming obsessed with each single pound, whether it's 6 or 26.
I don't care what size a woman is, it just makes me sad that we can't see our truly banging selves. I love all shapes and think women of many sizes are gorgeous. The HDBD thread is my favorite, everyone is so beautiful to look at. My mom, in her mind once some unimaginably thin size, is now a healthy, curvy size 16 and looks sexy as hell for her age. But she hides in pictures and never has anything good to say about herself. She's eternally trying to lose 20lbs and can't do this or buy that or whatever until she has. She literally hates her body along with mine and anyone who doesn't fit that idea of perfection that's stuck with her. It makes me so sad that she missed so many years of enjoyment in her shape and in others.
I love that I can see everyone as beautiful despite the way I was raised, but hate that I still struggle to enjoy my own body while I have it. Not saying yeah or nay to the thread, just trying to share since you @RNMegan0711 were brave enough to. Anyway, thanks for your post.
I'm so sorry to read this. My mom has always been really hard on my about my weight too. I've struggled with anorexia and body image issues for years. Eventually I sat my mother down and told her that if we are going to have a relationship, she can not comment on my weight. She no longer does, and our relationship is the best it has ever been.
My husband is amazing and always makes me feel beautiful, even when I don't see it myself. However, the ironic thing is I've never been more proud of my body than I am right now. I am the biggest I've ever been, too.
It may be cheesy but I am growing a human which makes me feel strong, powerful, purposeful and beautiful!
I hope that you can feel this way too soon, because pregnancy really is a beautiful thing! (Constipation excluded, of course)
My appetite has gone THROUGH THE ROOF these past three days. This is definitely one of those "major growth" spans. I can't stop eating. Anyone else feeling this way? (I'm 22 weeks)
Yes! I seem to always feel hungry this past week or so. Constantly craving sugar too, which is not good. It probably doesn't help that toddler has been sick and up 4 times a night, puking for two of those times. I'm tired and I crave sugar and chocolate when tired.
I'm 10 pounds under my pre pregnancy weight and it's something I struggle with on a daily basis! Was 17 pounds under but I have managed to gain some of it back. I was small to begin with so losing all of that weight just made me look very very sick. Which I was! But baby boy is healthy so I'm just gonna keep trying to get where I need to be!
@RNMegan0711I too cried at this post. I didn't comment Bc I get very nervous talking about weight, most* often I hear that I'm 'too skinny' to worry, care, understand etc but what you said just resonates with me. I knew opening the thread that it would bother me, but couldn't not open it. I feel guilty and uncomfortable with my weight gain, not solely Bc of the amount, but because of my choices. I don't eat healthy. I've eaten more junk during this pregnancy than the past year. I haven't exercised since before IVF. I didn't post in HDBD this week Bc I felt self conscious after this post and Bc I know when I see my mom this weekend she'll comment on my weight and note again how she gained no more than 5lbs (or something ridiculous) with each of her 4 pregnancies and lost it all the second each baby came flying out her perfect vagina. In her mind I am and always have been overweight and for a post like this, if I've gained more than the absolute minimum, I hear her in my head chastising me. As soon as I see her tomorrow it will be: "my goodness, how much have you gained already? Should you eat that?" Or if there are guests around: "She's very different then I was, I couldn't gain with my pregnancies, no matter how many shakes I ate!" I'm mad at myself for letting this and her bother me at all. I comment everywhere, but here I just lurked...
It's all SO ridiculous Bc my shape isn't because of diet or exercise regimen, it's simply how I am made. I have no clue how much I've gained since my last appointment 6wks ago because I refuse to have a scale in my house, I'm terrified of becoming obsessed with each single pound, whether it's 6 or 26.
I don't care what size a woman is, it just makes me sad that we can't see our truly banging selves. I love all shapes and think women of many sizes are gorgeous. The HDBD thread is my favorite, everyone is so beautiful to look at. My mom, in her mind once some unimaginably thin size, is now a healthy, curvy size 16 and looks sexy as hell for her age. But she hides in pictures and never has anything good to say about herself. She's eternally trying to lose 20lbs and can't do this or buy that or whatever until she has. She literally hates her body along with mine and anyone who doesn't fit that idea of perfection that's stuck with her. It makes me so sad that she missed so many years of enjoyment in her shape and in others.
I love that I can see everyone as beautiful despite the way I was raised, but hate that I still struggle to enjoy my own body while I have it. Not saying yeah or nay to the thread, just trying to share since you @RNMegan0711 were brave enough to. Anyway, thanks for your post.
*huge hugs!!!!* sounds like we have grown up in similar houses. You are beautiful my friend. My mom told me yesterday on the phone as she cried and listened to me cry about my weight that her biggest regret was being critical of her body around me. She said she never knew it would end up hurting ME and making me just the same. She said she prays I never do that around my daughter.
My mom is a nurse, she says of you don't gain enough it's possible your body will leach calcium and whatever else it needs from your bones. Which will do a number on you in the long run. Don't be afraid to gain weight, carrying a baby is just temporary!
Re: How much have you packed on?
I just had my 20 week appointment today and thought for sure I had gained ~5 pounds since I definitely have a bump now. Nope still at my pre pregnancy weight. I asked my doctor about it, and she wasn't concerned. She said as long as I'm eating normally, the baby will get what he needs, and you can burn more energy growing a human. She said don't worry, the weight will come.
I don't weigh myself at home, because like other's said the individual number itself doesn't matter. I only get weighed at the doctor and that's good enough for me.
So as much as I understand that this poll/post is generally meant to be good natured, I can't help but despise it for bringing up my weight in comparison to myself or anyone else and the way it pits us against ourselves and each other.
That being said, I've gained about 15lbs this pregnancy so far. Not a lot for most people but like I mentioned previously, it's a lot for me. Dr isn't worried, so I'm not. I try to watch what I eat but the girl likes chocolate and I deserve it (because I'm growing life).
Married: 12/16/12
TTC #1: 06/15 BFP #1:07/13/15
D&C: 08/28/15
BFP #2: 09/26/15
M: 06/03/16
BFP #2: 02/12/18
L : 7/26/18 (SIUGR, micropreemie)
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Me: 29 / Hubster: 31
Married July 2010
DC #1 Oct 2013
DC #2 EDD June 2016
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My appetite has gone THROUGH THE ROOF these past three days. This is definitely one of those "major growth" spans. I can't stop eating. Anyone else feeling this way? (I'm 22 weeks)
Yes. Week 19-23 I gained 8lb ... honestly, my eating hasn't even changed *that* much (if I was counting calories in). I'm expanding in a very big way nonetheless.
I had a doctor’s appointment on Monday and she weighed me at +16 pounds and gave me a lecture on gaining too much (I’m pretty overweight to begin with). I tried to explain to her how the number was crazy because I’m +8 (I weight myself everyday, and I’d already been disappointed with the +8). The reason for the scale in her office was having downed 64oz of water (4lbs) before the appointment (I was tired of waiting in the office until I could pee), water retention from the salt in all of those potato chips I ate during the superbowl the night before (I don't normally eat super salty anything),some serious constipation, plus winter clothes that were SIGNIFICANTLY heavier than my last weigh in. Anyway, the doctor just gave me this look like I was being unhealthy and obviously had no idea what I was talking about or how to take care of myself.
It really pissed me off. BECAUSE I’m overweight is exactly WHY I’m watching the scale so closely. Honestly, all I care about right now is my BABY’S health, and I wouldn’t do anything to jeopardize it. Now it’s Friday, and my scale is actually showing only +6, no where near +16. It just pisses me off that my doctor wouldn’t trust me enough to know my own body more than someone who’s met me on 4 separate occasions.It's all SO ridiculous Bc my shape isn't because of diet or exercise regimen, it's simply how I am made. I have no clue how much I've gained since my last appointment 6wks ago because I refuse to have a scale in my house, I'm terrified of becoming obsessed with each single pound, whether it's 6 or 26.
I don't care what size a woman is, it just makes me sad that we can't see our truly banging selves. I love all shapes and think women of many sizes are gorgeous. The HDBD thread is my favorite, everyone is so beautiful to look at. My mom, in her mind once some unimaginably thin size, is now a healthy, curvy size 16 and looks sexy as hell for her age. But she hides in pictures and never has anything good to say about herself. She's eternally trying to lose 20lbs and can't do this or buy that or whatever until she has. She literally hates her body along with mine and anyone who doesn't fit that idea of perfection that's stuck with her. It makes me so sad that she missed so many years of enjoyment in her shape and in others.
I love that I can see everyone as beautiful despite the way I was raised, but hate that I still struggle to enjoy my own body while I have it. Not saying yeah or nay to the thread, just trying to share since you @RNMegan0711 were brave enough to. Anyway, thanks for your post.
My husband is amazing and always makes me feel beautiful, even when I don't see it myself. However, the ironic thing is I've never been more proud of my body than I am right now. I am the biggest I've ever been, too.
It may be cheesy but I am growing a human which makes me feel strong, powerful, purposeful and beautiful!
I hope that you can feel this way too soon, because pregnancy really is a beautiful thing! (Constipation excluded, of course)
Baby #2 Due 3/7/20