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Terrible move to the crib

jessicabonnerjjessicabonnerj member
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My little guy was a great sleeper. Sleeping 10-12 hours straight at night in his bassinet. He is 11 weeks and 14lbs. 2 nights ago we moved him to his crib in his room and now he is waking up for a night feeding. I am so upset. He naps in his crib during the day so I really didn't think this was going to be an issue. 

How has everyone else's baby dealt with the move to their crib?
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  • rachswirachswi member
    Ceridwen77 said:
    jessicabonnerj said:
    My little guy was a great sleeper. Sleeping 10-12 hours straight at night in his bassinet. He is 11 weeks and 14lbs. 2 nights ago we moved him to his crib in his room and now he is waking up for a night feeding. I am so upset. He naps in his crib during the day so I really didn't think this was going to be an issue. 

    How has everyone else's baby dealt with the move to their crib?
    I am not moving DD to her crib until after 6 months and we will see then if we are even ready. Sorry but I can't sympathize with you being "so upset" that your baby wakes once in a 10-12hr period to eat. I think you should just feed your baby when he's hungry and count your lucky stars you're getting such long stretches of sleep at this age. A lot of mamas here are nowhere near that point. 

    Also do remember this was a change for your LO and may just be a phase. You'll have to see how it goes. 
    This. As I'm up for the second time in as many hours, I wish I had a baby who slept that well. But also as @Ceridwen77 said, you just put your LO through a change. Things may settle down once he gets used to the change. 

    Also he may be waking because he realizes he's alone and it triggers that survival mechanism (the same one that is at the root of why cry it out is bad - your baby needs to know he's safe and protected). 

    Or it could just be things like difference in temperature and/or the fact that he's in a larger sleeping space and not used to having as much room as he does in the crib. 
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  • AmoLovesAudAmoLovesAud member
    You changed his routine.  There is always going to be an adjustment period when you do that.  And just 1 night feeding is pretty good at this age.  He could also just be lonely; even if LO can't see you in his bassinet, he can hear and smell you when he's in your room.  Many times my LO wakes in the night and goes right back to sleep when we reassure her we're there.
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  • Peanut1128Peanut1128 member
    Any time I have made a change to my sons sleep routine, it took him a few nights to adjust. Stay consistent on what your doing and when he is comfortable he will drop the night feeding again.
    My son is 10.5 weeks and weighs 14lbs as well, he eats at 8:30pm, 3:30 and then 7:30. I can tell he is not ready to drop the night feeding because he drinks almost his normal amount and immediately goes back to sleep. 
    Is your LO eating their normal amount or just messing around? When we moved from the Rock and play to his bassinet, he woke up and extra time or two each night but just needed to be rocked for a minute before going back to sleep. 
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  • kdoak2015kdoak2015 member
    You are so upset that he woke for one feeding? 
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  • kmd91kmd91 member
    Haha I'll play Devils advocate and say that with my son sleeping through the night, the one night he got up to eat it was harder than when that was the routine. But still, I was by no means "so upset."

    And honestly, when I transition him to his crib if right off the bat he sleeps in it fine aside from one wake up, I would call that a massive win. 
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  • rachswirachswi member
    rubirubi89 said:
    Maybe i'm the fatty of the bunch but even I would wake up to eat instead of sleeping 12 hours straight. The most i'll go without food is about 8 hrs. I'm assuming my 15lb son will do more often than that, because you know, babies. 
    Lol right? Since I've been nursing I usually have a snack in the middle of the night because I'm starving (and he's awake anyway). And my stomach is far bigger than my son's. 
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  • Peanut1128Peanut1128 member
    Fellow fatty here, I love my middle of the night nursing snack! 
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  • cdepperschmidtcdepperschmidt member
    rubirubi89 said:
    Maybe i'm the fatty of the bunch but even I would wake up to eat instead of sleeping 12 hours straight. The most i'll go without food is about 8 hrs. I'm assuming my 15lb son will do more often than that, because you know, babies. 
    Yes!!!!
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  • SweetTooth126SweetTooth126 member
    My son doesn't go to bed until 11pm and wakes up 2-3 times until he's up for the day at 7am.. Yeah your situation is not "terrible"!!!

    Married DH December 2014
    Expecting DS#1 November 2015
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  • kmd91kmd91 member
    Elyse1384 said:


    This is N15...correct?  A 3 month old is/was sleeping 10-12 hours???  My toddler sleeps that long.
    I know my baby isn't in the majority here, but he's been sleeping 10-12 hour stretches since about 9 weeks. I count my lucky stars every day. 
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  • Pontot31Pontot31 member
    kmd91 said:
    Elyse1384 said:


    This is N15...correct?  A 3 month old is/was sleeping 10-12 hours???  My toddler sleeps that long.
    I know my baby isn't in the majority here, but he's been sleeping 10-12 hour stretches since about 9 weeks. I count my lucky stars every day. 
    Shhhh.... Every time I bragged about my daughters sleep it got crappy. I learned never to talk about the good sleep!
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  • kmd91kmd91 member
    Pontot31 said:
    kmd91 said:
    Elyse1384 said:


    This is N15...correct?  A 3 month old is/was sleeping 10-12 hours???  My toddler sleeps that long.
    I know my baby isn't in the majority here, but he's been sleeping 10-12 hour stretches since about 9 weeks. I count my lucky stars every day. 
    Shhhh.... Every time I bragged about my daughters sleep it got crappy. I learned never to talk about the good sleep!
    I'm so convinced the 4 month sleep regression is gonna hit us like a ton of brick since he's been such a great sleeper from day one, I've been too lucky. I do a lot of knocking on wood when people ask how he's sleeping, haha
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  • helsbels222helsbels222 member
    Elyse1384 said:


    This is N15...correct?  A 3 month old is/was sleeping 10-12 hours???  My toddler sleeps that long.
    Right... my 6 yr old sleeps that long.
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  • VexedMommyVexedMommy member
    helsbels222 said:
    Elyse1384 said:


    This is N15...correct?  A 3 month old is/was sleeping 10-12 hours???  My toddler sleeps that long.
    Right... my 6 yr old sleeps that long.
    lol.  I consider myself lucky if my 9yr old does this.  Some kids are great sleepers, some learn to be great sleepers, some people just have sleep problems.  I'm really hoping that doesn't happen with this LO. 
    If there's something strange underneath the hood.  Who you gonna call?  Your Doctor.  If there's something weird and it don't look good.  Who you gonna call?  Your Doctor.  Immediately.  If it's new, painful, and possibly pregnancy related get your ass off the internet and call your doctor.  It's for your health and your child's. 




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  • gipfishgipfish member
    Yeah, I definitely wake up more often in the night when I sleep in a different bed than your baby did.
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  • taykerslaketaykerslake member
    How is this terrible? I'm lucky if Arlo goes two hours without eating. He's up every hour and a half to eat... His chubby cheeks and thighs can verify that! 
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  • NovemberSnoNovemberSno member
    I'm SO UPSET that this upsets you! One time in 10-12 hours? Wow. My LO is like clockwork on the dot every 3 hours! You should be thanking God you're getting 5-6 hours of stright sleep at a time. Many of us don't get that in an entire night...and those are broken up! My advice...count your lucky stars and quit complaining. 
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  • lindsayp916lindsayp916 member
    @jessicabonnerj in general I find this board to be kind and helpful, but I've been a little shocked at the snarky responses to your post. I guess you're only allowed to comment about your baby's lack of sleep if it's within certain parameters. 

    We transitioned to the crib around the same time as you (at 11.5 weeks, baby is now 14w), and she was sleeping 12 hrs at the time. The first 3 nights she woke around 4 to feed, and I expected that bc it was a big change, but I also realized she was in a growth spurt (eating more than normal, pooping less, outgrowing clothes etc). I made an effort to feed her as much as I could during the day, and things evened out and she went back to sleeping the full 12 hrs on the 4th night. I was expecting it to take about a week to transition though, so I would just be patient! 
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  • nmwheel1nmwheel1 member
    I'm very lucky with a baby who sleeps through the night.  Last feed is normally around 9pm and she typically sleeps until 8 or 8:30 BUT if she wakes for a night feeding I just feed her.  If she wakes for more than one feeding I just feed her.  I don't get upset because you know, she's a baby...
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  • Lolo427Lolo427 member
    lindsayp916 said:
    @jessicabonnerj in general I find this board to be kind and helpful, but I've been a little shocked at the snarky responses to your post. I guess you're only allowed to comment about your baby's lack of sleep if it's within certain parameters. 

    We transitioned to the crib around the same time as you (at 11.5 weeks, baby is now 14w), and she was sleeping 12 hrs at the time. The first 3 nights she woke around 4 to feed, and I expected that bc it was a big change, but I also realized she was in a growth spurt (eating more than normal, pooping less, outgrowing clothes etc). I made an effort to feed her as much as I could during the day, and things evened out and she went back to sleeping the full 12 hrs on the 4th night. I was expecting it to take about a week to transition though, so I would just be patient! 


    Hmmm, I think this is a solid case of : know your audience. Having some tact of wording when ,if you just lurk a small amount , you can see the majority of others are struggling with sleep deprivation here.  To me this is the equivalent of going to a group of dieting individuals and complaining how many calories a brownie Sunday has. Are OPs concern legitimate? Of course, sure; but maybe there's better commentary to add to the question.
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    Lolo427 said:
    lindsayp916 said:
    @jessicabonnerj in general I find this board to be kind and helpful, but I've been a little shocked at the snarky responses to your post. I guess you're only allowed to comment about your baby's lack of sleep if it's within certain parameters. 

    We transitioned to the crib around the same time as you (at 11.5 weeks, baby is now 14w), and she was sleeping 12 hrs at the time. The first 3 nights she woke around 4 to feed, and I expected that bc it was a big change, but I also realized she was in a growth spurt (eating more than normal, pooping less, outgrowing clothes etc). I made an effort to feed her as much as I could during the day, and things evened out and she went back to sleeping the full 12 hrs on the 4th night. I was expecting it to take about a week to transition though, so I would just be patient! 


    Hmmm, I think this is a solid case of : know your audience. Having some tact of wording when ,if you just lurk a small amount , you can see the majority of others are struggling with sleep deprivation here.  To me this is the equivalent of going to a group of dieting individuals and complaining how many calories a brownie Sunday has. Are OPs concern legitimate? Of course, sure; but maybe there's better commentary to add to the question.



    I don't know this mom, and I'm not going to judge the wording of her question- but I was under the assumption that the audience here was simply mothers of babies born in Nov 15- I also didn't know that posting more meant you got more respect from other posters. I have seen posters show tolerance about many things- why is a good sleeping baby's errant nights the tipping point? You say her concern is legitimate- regardless- This mom deserves respect for her concern. All moms deserve respect. When does the mommy shaming stop ? 
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  • lindsayp916lindsayp916 member
    Ceridwen77 said:
    lindsayp916 said:
    @jessicabonnerj in general I find this board to be kind and helpful, but I've been a little shocked at the snarky responses to your post. I guess you're only allowed to comment about your baby's lack of sleep if it's within certain parameters. 

    We transitioned to the crib around the same time as you (at 11.5 weeks, baby is now 14w), and she was sleeping 12 hrs at the time. The first 3 nights she woke around 4 to feed, and I expected that bc it was a big change, but I also realized she was in a growth spurt (eating more than normal, pooping less, outgrowing clothes etc). I made an effort to feed her as much as I could during the day, and things evened out and she went back to sleeping the full 12 hrs on the 4th night. I was expecting it to take about a week to transition though, so I would just be patient! 
    Really, you are "shocked" by the responses? Sounds about as dramatic as op being "so upset" she has to feed her 11w old once a night. 

    I'm clutching my pearls. Pick apart my wording all you want, I just don't understand why mothers of good sleepers are not allowed to post questions. 
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  • SquirtgunSquirtgun member
    edited February 2016
    ugh, gifs not working.  Never mind. 



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  • jessicabonnerjjessicabonnerj member
    I moved my guy from my room in a bassinet where he was happy as can be. I also liked having him close so I could hear his every move because he was just too big to fit in his bassinet to a crib in another room.  I wrote a post at 3am because my guy was waking up crying and I was looking for others stories where people had gone through the same thing and they had stories about how their babies started to like this new environment etc. 

    Instead I was chastised because your babies don't sleep as long as mine and I was upset that moving my baby upset him to the point he couldn't sleep.  

    Too bad I don't have a gif for that. 
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  • Ceridwen77Ceridwen77 member
    edited February 2016
    Lolo427 said:

    @lindsayp916
    At this stage of the game, most of the active posters on the N15 BMBs have been around quite some time ( after all it was almost a YEAR ago we all found out we were pregnant so 3-4 months into our babies, it's curious to see an influx of new members), but by no means are newer members not subject to the same respect value as everyone else. I promise you that if someone else were to complain about one wake up, others would comment in the exact same tone and manner.

    I can't stand the whole 'Mommy wars/shame' bullshit phrase. It's now so quick to be used if everything isn't all solidarity and butterflies and rainbows. People are allowed to have opinions, even if they are conflicting. There's no bashing her birth experience, her feeding choices, whether her son was circumcised or even her sleep method (or any other parenting choice here for that matter). She's not being called an unfit mother. It was simply that someone came out of the woodwork to ask a question that was legitimate and had commentary that then made the post unrelatable to most readers. She was given opinions and advice on the question part, and peoples response to her commentary. 

    Edit: spelling
    So well said. Especially the part about mommy wars. 
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