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May 2016 Moms
sarawifenow
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Monday/Tuesday ticker change 02/08 & 02/09
sarawifenow
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Week/ fruit:
Rants/raves/symptoms:
Upcoming appointments:
Questions for the group:
GTKY: What is the biggest fear you are overcoming about labor/becoming a parent/STM+?
Rants/raves/symptoms:
Upcoming appointments:
Questions for the group:
GTKY: What is the biggest fear you are overcoming about labor/becoming a parent/STM+?
Re: Monday/Tuesday ticker change 02/08 & 02/09
Rants/raves/symptoms: Cole moves all the time now and kicks H. It is adorable and H can't get enough now. He is always running up to me and putting his hands or ear on my belly. I love it.
Upcoming appointments: Feb. 23rd for a regular OB checkup
Questions for the group: How's the heartburn? Mine seems to be constant still irregardless of if I eat or not. I finally broke down and had a Tums (which I loathe) and it helped so much I bought some more.
GTKY: What is the biggest fear you are overcoming about labor/becoming a parent/STM+?
I am actually getting really nervous about breastfeeding. I'm afraid it will hurt and that we won't be able to get the hang of it or I won't produce enough milk.
Rants/raves/symptoms: My upper back has been bothering me lately, especially at work. I cannot wait until my massage next week. My daughter accidently jumped on my tummy last night...I was really worried, but thankfully I've still been feeling movement just fine.
Upcoming appointments: Next Monday. Regular check-up and glucose test.
GTKY: What is the biggest fear you are overcoming about labor/becoming a parent/STM+? Thinking about L&D I'm not nervous at all. I'm ready to do it all over again! As for being a STM I am most nervous about getting out of the house with 2 kids! It's going to be quite the task!
@sarawifenow - this time heartburn hasn't been bad at all, but my last pregnancy I had to take Tums every night in 3rd tri! Luckily, Tums instantly did the trick. I kept them on my nightstand.
Rants/raves/symptoms: Lower back pain...mostly when I wake up in the morning. I've got pillows everywhere, between my legs, under my belly, I've got the snoogle...nothing seems to alleviate it. I MUST start a back strengthening regimen like yesterday. Second Rant: I called my OBGYN to ask for strengthening/stretching ideas and they literally told me to go online and google. WTF, office? You don't have some basic ideas to give out to people? UGH!
Upcoming appointments: 17th for glucose test.
Questions for the group: Anyone doing some sort of regular back strengthening exercises?
GTKY: What is the biggest fear you are overcoming about labor/becoming a parent/STM+? I have all the fears: Dying in labor, not being able to tolerate the pain in labor, how DH and I's relationship will be after LO gets here, not getting my fitness back, not knowing what to do with the baby, not being able to handle the sleep deprivation, not knowing certain things I'm supposed to be doing for LO, accidentally hurting LO (i.e. eating something he is allergic to and then having him have a reaction, getting hair tied around his toes --did y'all see that thread?), maintaining my career AND being the mom I should be. Yeah, I'm spinning these days. But then I feel a kick and I smile and hope that everything will be alright.
DS: Born 5-17-16
Rants/raves/symptoms: Nosebleeds all the time. Uuugh.
Upcoming appointments: Next week
Questions for the group: No
GTKY: What is the biggest fear you are overcoming about labor/becoming a parent/STM+? I think juggling learning to juggle 2 kids is on my mind a lot. Also, I'm not so worried about labor/delivery, but I am scared for recovery. Last time I had a really difficult recovery.
@sarawifenow YES to the heartburn. Mostly at night when I'm trying to sleep, but yeah, it's bad!
@vinerie Your fears sound so much like mine when I was pregnant with DD. I had no experience with babies and was scared of everything. I felt so unprepared despite extensive research/preparation. Since I somehow managed, I know you will, too!
DS: Born 5-17-16
Rants/raves/symptoms: Terrible hip and back pain, headaches... but love feeling LO move and kick.
Upcoming appointments: Today is my 1hr glucose test -_-
Questions for the group:
GTKY: What is the biggest fear you are overcoming about labor/becoming a parent/STM+? Everything. All of it being new to me.. I worry when and where it will happen and if SO can be there. Oh... and the pain. Not exactly looking forward to that either.
Rants/raves/symptoms: Headaches have come back pretty strong, more pressure in abdomen, and winded doing anything (including eating). However, I'm still sleeping without extra pillows or anything. Weight gain has picked up, but that is because I cannot put down cereal to save my life.
Upcoming appointments: Feb 18th for Glucose
Questions for the group: Anyone else's weight pick up in last couple weeks (between 22-25 weeks?). I'm hoping there is partially another explanation besides my eating habits
GTKY: What is the biggest fear you are overcoming about labor/becoming a parent/STM+? I'm definitely not overcoming it, but whoever mentioned dying during labor - yup. That's me. I'm constantly wondering if I should write letters to my baby and husband just in case. I know that makes me sound morbid, but it is what it is.
On hopefully a more relatable note, I guess that I won't get the 'nesting' urge. I have so much to do, and it just feels overwhelming with work and everything. Baby stuff can easily get pushed back, but there is only so much pushing back the date I can do!
Rants/raves/symptoms: I feel like I'm starting to slide into third tri exhaustion already. I went to my friend's bachelorette party this weekend and even though I took it easy I am still so tired two days later. Major symptom these days is killer heartburn and reflux. Zantac is my best friend.
Upcoming appointments: Friday for a checkup. I'm going to ask if I will be getting another ultrasound and when.
Questions for the group: I am feeling baby kick me right up near the ribs daily. Everything I read says my uterus is still only a 2-3 inches above my bellybutton making that seem impossible that he's up that high already. Is anyone else feeling kicks up there?
GTKY: What is the biggest fear you are overcoming about labor/becoming a parent/STM+? My two biggest fears are breastfeeding (will I be able to do it? how much will it hurt? will I make enough milk? and on and on) and sleep deprivation. I do not function well on no sleep and I am really scared about what it's going to do to my attitude and feelings on being a new mom.
I am actually getting really nervous about breastfeeding. I'm afraid it will hurt and that we won't be able to get the hang of it or I won't produce enough milk.
-- Agreed on that. I picked up book this weekend so I'm planning on looking that over, but I've also looked up the Le Leche League someone keeps mentioning. They only have a FB page with their info here, and I do not have one so I'm trying to find a work around. I'm sure the support on these boards will be tremendous as well!
Also - *knock on wood* I haven't had hardly any heartburn. Praying this lasts as long as possible.
@vinerie
Questions for the group: Anyone doing some sort of regular back strengthening exercises?
--I do not have any, but if you find some, post them! My back is probably my weakest area.
Still, I'm trying to be really mindful of what I eat (as much as I can. I feel like I have no willpower these days). I seem to generally make and eat good meals; it's the snacking that kills me.
DS: Born 5-17-16
@babyfmama I feel kicks or blows usually on my right side and yes its also rib height. I also feel like she literally snuggles into my rib cage sometimes because I'll get a hard lump on that side almost daily. Not sure about how big my uterus should be for 26 weeks but she is definitely up that high. Her kicks are visible up there.
Rib kicks just started for me (26w). I never had these with my first pregnancy so this is a new and uncomfortable sensation.
Not going to lie, sleep deprivation was really rough on me. I realized how impatient I truly was. All you can do is take it one day at a time and to accept help when it is offered!
Rants/raves/symptoms: @babyfmama kicks to the ribs constantly lately. I'm finding myself moving around a lot to get her to stop making me so uncomfortable. I've had zero complaints this entire pregnancy because it really has been easy - except I'm starting to feel a bit slower lately.... Tired more quickly, harder to get out of sitting positions or bending over... DH is struggling with the new slowness. I keep reminding him he's been spoiled with me until this point - he's not buying it lol.. But he loves feeling her kicks!
Upcoming appointments: 2/10 for glucose test (thanks for the reminder to check, I forgot!!)
Questions for the group: any STM+ have tips on getting DH a bit more adjusted? I feel like we've both fallen into the "we know we are having a kid but keep pushing things off". I'm a very uptight/type A person and I've been so chill and ok with pushing things off that it is scaring me haha - now DH has fallen into the same chill mode and I'm wondering if that makes us abnormal and how we can kickstart this (please don't misconstrue this as lack of excitement, we are so very excited, we just are just going with the flow!)
GTKY: What is the biggest fear you are overcoming about labor/becoming a parent/STM+? I think the stress of not knowing what to do those first couple weeks until you know what your baby wants/needs. DH has been very busy with work lately and is overwhelmed and I'm just fearful of how he will react with a newborn and everyday work stresses as well. Maybe it's just me and stereotyping, but I feel women are more equipped to handle multiple stresses at a time and it's just not as simple for men.
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
Rants/raves/symptoms: Backaches and muscle cramps, mostly in my calves and inner thighs. I've been drinking so much water, but the leg cramps won't go away!
Upcoming appointments: Feb 24th for glucose test. I thought they were going to do it at my regular OB appointment next week, but they are sending me to an outside lab for it.
Questions for the group: For you STM+, in what ways did your relationship with your SO change after you became parents? What about your lifestyle in general? What were the biggest challenges? Biggest surprises?
GTKY: What is the biggest fear you are overcoming about labor/becoming a parent/STM+? I'm not that worried about labor. I have a really high pain tolerance, and I'm planning to get an epidural anyway. I'm much more concerned about how this LO is going to change my lifestyle and my relationship with MH. MH and I are really close, we very rarely argue, and we have a fun life together (enjoy the same hobbies, take last minute trips together, etc.). My biggest fear is that having a screaming infant waking us up at all hours of the night and not always being able to find a reliable/trustworthy sitter so we can enjoy our time together (we have no family anywhere near us) is going to damage what has been for the last 8+ years a very happy marriage. Obviously, our relationship is going to change, but my biggest fear is that it won't change for the better.
@AliciaD39 Me, too. At my OB appointment last week, I had gained 7 pounds (I've been gaining 3-5 per month for the past few months). I haven't changed my eating or exercise habits, so I asked my doctor if there was another reason. She said that the baby usually hits a growth spurt around this time (I'm 25 weeks today), so she often sees more weight gain during these weeks but that it usually levels off again after. I'm hoping that's the case, because the number on the scale wasn't one I was comfortable with, especially with a few months left to go!
And for everyone that's talking about weight, I gained the most in between 24-28 weeks. I had gained 15 pounds up until this point, but put on almost 10 this month. My Dr. didn't seem concerned and I had to ask her about it. She said it wasn't ideal, but it's expected and to just be mindful of what I'm eating and how much exercise I'm getting.
--He brought home paint chips and made a big show of giving them to me and telling me he was excited for me to make my choice. He asked me every couple days until I chose the color.
--He did all the research on the strollers (I know, I suck). Then he suggested we choose from 3 options (instead of the 87 options at the store).
--HE planned a date night on Saturday that included a trip to BBB beforehand. We had an hour to spend there before getting to our dinner reservation and so we looked at gliders during that time. He chose the restaurant and movie. I think him making some non-baby decisions made it easier for me to make some baby decisions, if that makes any sense (decision fatigue is a thing!)
So, yeah, it's taken some effort on his part, but I'm definitely doing a lot more baby stuff. WE also picked out two goals for this week, which include each of us calling our insurance so as to figure out which one LO should go on and me calling daycares and him researching gliders. Breaking it down and having him organize the plan has really helped. I know this sucks for you as not only do you have to carry the baby but also perhaps do all this mental labor to get him started, but I will say, the last few days I've been in major baby mode, so it has worked, apparently.
DS: Born 5-17-16
Rants/raves/symptoms: Rants - none really. I'm having a little trouble with the whole breathing thing when I bend over to tie my shoes
Raves - Just watching baby kick. I LOVE IT. I love with DH can feel it and see if too. He came up behind me the other day and hugged me then just led this hands on my belly and I was like, "what are you doing"? He said he was trying to feel the baby kick and I told him he wasn't even moving. lol
Symptoms - Being tired! I think I've had heartburn a couple of times now, but nothing terrible or lasting. I am still sleeping okay for the most part. I have been getting some leg cramps though, which is weird because I drink a TON of water. I am constantly drinking water. I mean constantly.
Upcoming appointments: I had one today. Everything went well. I got my order to have the glucose test. My next appointment is March 7.
Questions for the group: I can't really think of anything.
GTKY: What is the biggest fear you are overcoming about labor/becoming a parent/STM+? Where do I even start? I am worried that my relationship with my DH will change and not in a good way. We have a great relationship and I don't want that to go away. We rarely fight and when we do our fights don't last. I'm afraid of what to do when the baby is here. Will I know what I am doing? Will I be a good mom? How will I breastfeed? I know skin to skin right after birth is important, but how and when do I try to get him to nurse? Will he try it on his own? Will the nurses help? How much bleeding and discomfort will there be after birth? I'm worried about the pain. I have a pretty high pain tolerance, and want to try to go through it without an epidural, but I don't know that I'll be able to. I know that if I feel like I need it, I will definitely get it.
@AliciaD39 Yes! I have noticed my weight gain has picked up and I am 25 weeks today. The last couple of appointments I had only gained about a pound a month. My last appointment I was 118.8, this appointment I was 121.4. I talked to my midwife about it and she said it's normal at this point. She said she expects me to gain a pound a week now.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!My H and I have made an active effort not to let having 1 child change our lifestyle too much. We still travel, and play golf, and go hiking; we don't have a babysitter or family close by, so usually DD just comes along with us. We want her to grow up sharing in the things we love. It definitely complicates things and requires a bit more planning, but if you're both on board you can make it work! We honestly don't go on many date nights (again, no sitter), but we do spend time together most nights after DD goes to bed, whether it's watching a movie, binging on ice cream, or playing video games. We were kind of lame like that before kids, though, so maybe that's why it doesn't seem so bad.
I guess my encouragement for you is that having a kid does mean lifestyle adjustments, but it doesn't have to mean the end of the awesome things that you and your H share. Just one piece of advice--it's SO tempting to try to keep score about who is doing more, sleeping less, etc. Don't!! Remember that you're on the same team, and your marriage can come out even stronger.
I have this fear about making the adjustment to 2 kids... But hopefully we can find a way to make it work.
Rants/raves/symptoms: swollen feet and ankles that are sore all the time, heart burn on and off. Otherwise not a whole lot except sometimes painful movements!
Upcoming appointments: had one today with the high risk doctor and all looked good, otherwise not until March 1 for our regular check up.
Questions for the group: what kind of prep are you doing now for labor/arrival of baby(ies). I feel like I want to get a move on with some of that stuff (birth plan, etc) but don't even know where to start.
GTKY: What is the biggest fear you are overcoming about labor/becoming a parent/STM+?
For labor and delivery just all the unknowns. I am painfully type A control freak so not having any idea of what's going to happen is stressing me out. About becoming a parent? Not a lot about the daily mechanics but of making sure I raise good people and still keep up with my life outside of the girls.
@sunshinebins I'd start with simple internet searches and go from there! Natural birth plan, different types of pain interventions offered at hospitals, csection info, etc... If you really feel lost I think a birthing class might help too!
Rants:I officially waddled the other day. I was hoping to be special and not look like a duck..mission failed.
raves: LO is such an active baby! I love feeling her movements and kicking. She definitely loves music. Kicking increases as soon as music comes on!
symptoms: Heartburn struck for the first time ever the other night. I thought I was dying. Perhaps I was over dramatic but it hurt! Other than that still the usual hip pain, insomnia, and bleeding gums.
Upcoming appointments: 2/25-OB return
Questions for the group: none.
GTKY: What is the biggest fear you are overcoming about labor/becoming a parent/STM+?
For labor it's making it through without anything horrible happening. I'm a FTM so I'm trying to go in prepared!
As far as becoming a Mom, I just fear I won't be able to do it all or that I will somehow screw up.
Rants/raves/symptoms: The back pain is horrible. I've dealt with this for years because of being very top heavy, but it's nearly unbearable now. Also had some serious nausea or heartburn, not really sure what it is, but it's stupid and it needs to stop. My hubs bought me a prenatal massage for Valentine's Day, so i'm pretty stoked about that.
Upcoming appointments: Thursday morning for the dreaded glucose test.
Questions for the group:
GTKY: What is the biggest fear you are overcoming about labor/becoming a parent/STM+? First time mom here. I'm actually really having a lot of anxiety in the past week or so about the labor process. I have a very high pain tolerance, but labor has just been an idea or figment for the past 6 months. Now it's becoming very real to me that in 3 months or less, I will be pushing out a human. I'm scared that i'm going to have to have a C-Section. I'm just feeling a lot of anxiety about it all which is strange, as i'm not a worrier. Emotionally, i'm just trying to prepare myself for life to be different.
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
Rants/raves/symptoms: I am on Team Heartburn specializing in disgusting and painful burps. So attractive and all that splashing acid is great for my voice...ugh.
Upcoming appointments: Was supposed to have one Monday, but there was a stupid blizzard so I rescheduled for Tuesday, but don't know what the plan is for the week re: snow closures and my MIL's wake/funeral. Honestly, I was bummed when the office called because I am sure they have the results of my 3 hour glucose test, but didn't say anything over the phone. Working in healthcare, I know that that probably means it is not good news. I have already prepared myself and am living the GD lyfe.
Questions for the group: To all those with toddlers, what is the protocol with a wake? I am struggling if my son should be at my MIL's wake on Thursday. I sent an email to my sister-in-law to see what she is doing (she has a 4 year old and an 18 month old), but haven't heard back. Just wondering if anyone had any experience or perspectives on this.
GTKY: What is the biggest fear you are overcoming about labor/becoming a parent/STM+? The CS recovery with a toddler. I am terrified. I know that I had a unique experience last time so this time will be very different, but it was still kinda horrendous and I don't know how it will work with a very active 2 year old.
Rants/raves/symptoms: A few headaches, some heartburn, random insomnia. Nothing too bad. My rave is feeling those sweet baby kicks (still low and not even close to my ribs yet!).
Upcoming appointments: Regular OB appointment in two weeks, including glucose test. Follow-up ultrasound on March 2 to check the placenta previa situation.
Questions for the group: None today!
GTKY: What is the biggest fear you are overcoming about labor/becoming a parent/STM+? Because of a history of loss and infertility, my biggest fear still is losing the baby. I have general anxiety, of course, regarding how bad labor will hurt and how in the world breastfeeding works (seriously, what an odd system). But I'll wait until May for that.
Rants/raves/symptoms: back and hip pain in full effect. No control of my emotions... thanks hormones!
Upcoming appointments: Thursday 24 week check up.
Questions for the group: none
GTKY: What is the biggest fear you are overcoming about labor/becoming a parent/STM+? The unknown!