Freaking Out About Gender Reveal

misspuppychow · February 2016

I had the Panorama done and got results back on Jan 27. My best friend called my doctor to find out the gender. She ordered a cake. We have a small party with family on Sunday during our normal Sunday get together. The plan was that we'd cut the cake and we'd be surprised along with our family.

Now as the event is only a few days away, I'm freaking out! The thought of cutting a cake in front of ~20 members of our family and a few close friends has me super nervous. They're all going to be staring at us to see our reaction. What if I don't react appropriately? What if I'm disappointed? I'm just super nervous about the whole thing. We're thinking about finding out today and then surprising our family on Sunday. My best friend who knows said she'll get a black balloon and fill it with pink or blue confetti and pop it for us on FaceTime (she's ~2 hours away).

Am I crazy? Am I just being a chicken because I'm impatient? Will I be disappointed in myself if I find out now instead of waiting?

jamiesc58 · February 2016

Take a deep breath...

now stop and think about it. Ask yourself "would I really be disappointed if it is a boy vs girl or the other way around?"

I don't think there is a correct or appropriate way to react as you are probably going to be crazy excited either way knowing you have a healthy baby in there. Did you cut a cake when you got married? Were there tons of people watching you then?

It makes sense that you are nervous. This is a huge thing! I would love to find out with my family and closest friends if I was patient enough. To know that you have already made it this far without finding out is great! Would you rather find out over facetime? I think you would love to add pics to the baby book of how surprised you are when you cut that cake.

Whatever you decide, have fun!!!

misspuppychow · February 2016

Adding to the temptation, my best friend who is 2hours away and cannot come to our party Sunday (medical resident - has to work) is SO bummed she cannot be there. So she's offered to drive 2 hours to my house and do the reveal in person.

Sekerambo · February 2016

We did a reveal at midnight on New Year's Eve among our closest friends and family, with my dd. I was so convinced I was having a boy that I was in complete shock until the next day. I was actually in tears after we found out we were having a girl. It wasn't that I was upset about a girl, I had just convinced myself we were having a boy. Looking back I'm still glad we did it and I couldn't imagine it any other way. I also now have a fun story of how we found out.

Kristin712 · February 2016

Are you actually going to be disappointed if it's one sex versus the other?

My guess is no. You might feel surprised but I doubt you'll be that upset or disappointed that it shows on your face. I was kind of leaning toward thinking it was a girl, but that did not prevent 100% joyful feelings upon learning it was a boy.

lalalorelai · February 2016

This is one of the many reasons why I'm anti-reveal. If it's causing you a lot of anxiety over finding out in front of people, find out before and use your party as a way to announce it to your family. If you decide you want to be surprised in front of your family, go for it. I agree with others that you will probably be excited either way even if it's not the result you're expecting or hoping. But if it's still a few days away and you're freaking out this much over it just find out now. You're going to find out one way or another, why does the means matter?

bananers · February 2016

Kristin712 said:

Are you actually going to be disappointed if it's one sex versus the other?

My guess is no. You might feel surprised but I doubt you'll be that upset or disappointed that it shows on your face. I was kind of leaning toward thinking it was a girl, but that did not prevent 100% joyful feelings upon learning it was a boy.

This. Also, for me, finding out what we were having made it feel more real, and those feelings completely overshadowed any "wait, are you sure?" feelings (I was convinced DS was a girl - ya know, "mother's intuition" and all - psshh!)

But seriously, ask yourself what your expectations are, and envision either scenario. Are you actually, legitimately disappointed in one? If so, maybe you should find out privately. I'd be annoyed if I went to a gender reveal party and one or both of the parents were disappointed. (But you all probably know how I feel about gender disappointment by now and we don't need to resurrect that dead horse.

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kcolly32 · February 2016

I threw a gender reveal party for my friend back in December and the way she found out was by being sprayed with silly string. She thought for sure it was a boy but it was a girl and only I and her sister really knew. She definitely cried once she saw the pink string but it was because she was so surprised! It ended up being a great party. I however don't want a gender reveal party because I want to find out with just DH and then we'll let everyone else know. I also hate having all the attention on me, which might be a reason your anxious about it? Since it's already planned I would wait and make it a surprise. I think you'll find you will be so happy/surprised at what your having you won't be concerned about everyone else. Goodluck and have fun!

Fremdschamen · February 2016

I agree with @Kristin712 and @bananers. If you think you might show disappointment, get your friend to tell you ahead of time, and then have the party be all about your closest family and friends finding out.

With my first, I knew I wanted a girl, so we found out privately (just DH and I). Now that I've had a loss, I just want a baby, so the sex of the baby makes absolutely zero difference to me, and I would be more comfortable sharing that moment with others. Nevertheless, I think we will just find out with our family and maybe BFF and her family.

nanner26 · February 2016

It sounds like you are just really nervous about having everyone watching to see how you'll react. I'm an overthinker and I think my default plan would just be to just smile and hug DH. I'm sure you will have a load of emotions. Worst case scenario, you cry and no one knows whether it's happy or sad tears? I'm sure you will find yourself happy either way once it becomes "real".
I think if I found out beforehand then I would worry my reaction would look fake? You could always tell people you already know and the surprise is really for your guests.

misspuppychow · February 2016

So we found out last night. My best friend drove 2 hours down (the only person who knew). She filled a cute little pinata with M&Ms and then brought a gift. I poured out the M&Ms into my DH's hand and they were all PINK! She then had the cutest little pink sleeper for me. We're SO incredibly excited to share this with our family on Sunday. I wouldn't have changed it for anything

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lucypod · February 2016

Forgive me if this should be on another post but I didn't see any other threads about gender reveal...

We are going to find out gender (assuming the little peanut cooperates) at our 20 week ultrasound. I was cool with a gender reveal but DH hates surprises, so we agreed on a compromise - we'd find out just the 2 of us at the U/S but we'd do a cute reveal for our families. The issue is it will probably be hard to get them all together, so we are trying to think of something that we can repeat, and, this is very important, is NOT messy. Does anyone have any good ideas?

One of my thoughts is to just tie a blue or pink bandana around our dog's neck and have her walk into the house (we'll go see them all separately over the weekend if we did it this way), but I think we can do better than that. That will be our back up plan if we can't come up with anything more exciting.

Help!

riveridgional · February 2016

@lucypod Maybe you can bring them cupcakes or cake pops. You can either make them all pink or blue or make only one of them for each family/stop you're making pink or blue and have the others white, so they can each pick a cupcake or cake pop from the batch for that house and go around taking a bite until it's revealed.

THATdisneyMom · February 2016

I don't want to so a big reveal where everyone is staring at My reaction so I don't blame you for doing it that way. I plan on findING out then having a party where it's either already decorated blue or pink or maybe having my 3 year old daughter open a present with a pink or blue onsie..? I dunno. It's mostly an excuse to have a party we just bought a new house and I've been so sick not many people have seen it. Plus maybe do a diaper raffle since I won't be getting a baby shower for #2.

lucypod · February 2016

@THATdisneyMom you can tell I'm new at this and haven't been to many baby showers... what's a diaper raffle??? sounds kinda cool.

beenabee · February 2016

lucypod said:

@THATdisneyMom you can tell I'm new at this and haven't been to many baby showers... what's a diaper raffle??? sounds kinda cool.

Everyone who brings a pack of diapers is entered into a raffle to win a prize at the end

Lynna813 · February 2016

BrunetteBabe722 said:

lucypod said:

@THATdisneyMom you can tell I'm new at this and haven't been to many baby showers... what's a diaper raffle??? sounds kinda cool.

Everyone who brings a pack of diapers is entered into a raffle to win a prize at the end

I have been to two baby showers now where they had them. Bringing diapers was completely optional which was nice. If you brought diapers (any size and count) you were entered to win a 25.00 gift card. I'm hoping to have one at mine...it's a good idea that way you get more diapers

There's also a "Man Shower" where the guys get together they bring a pack of diapers and drink beer and do whatever guys do

Lynna813 · February 2016

We are having a gender reveal/my birthday party in March. DH and I will already know what we are having. Some will say its not fun to go to a gender reveal if the couple already knows. I disagree and my friends and family do too. They are all looking forward to it and know that we will already know. Its a reason to get together and have fun. I was just going to do a birthday get together and I thought why not tell everyone what we are having as well?

Good luck to you! We find out Monday!!!

Edited for typo's

ShanRum3 · February 2016

I want to do something cute to reveal, especially to our other 2 kids, but DH is just like whatever.. We'll just tell them when we get home.

I really like the cake pops idea, or I'm also thinking just a box filled with balloons in either pink or blue, for the boys to open. I had originally thought about taking them to the U/S with us (they are 6 and 11) but hubby doesn't like that idea either. I'm really torn!

Brenanamae · February 2016

With my son the only people that knew the gender was the ultra sound tech and the people at the party store. We watched the ultra sound until it was time to figure out the gender and she turned the screen away. After we went out into the waiting room she wrote the gender on a piece of paper and sealed it in an envelope! That was taken to the party store by a family friend she told them to fill the box with blue or pink baloons that would fly out when opened. And one baloon that says its a boy or its a girl anchored! Not one person at the party knew until we opened the box! We plan on doing something similar for this baby but not exactly sure what kind of reveal this time! Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

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