Baby at 8-12 weeks

laurabwalker · February 2016

So I keep being told that "things get better" for moms and babies during 8-12 weeks. In my case I hope this means less purple crying, less baby gas, and hopefully at least three hours of sleep. Any STM find this to be true? any ftm have a baby in this age range and have noticed a difference?

Gingermom15 · February 2016

Henry's almost 11 weeks and yes, things have smoothed out quite a bit. He's sleeping longer and eating less at night. He is more awake and happy during the day.

Mizuiro007 · February 2016

It definitely gets better. It got better with DS and is starting to with DD. She's 10 weeks and slept through the night last night for the first time. (I fell asleep thinking she'd wake me up like she normally does and 5 am rolled around, I woke up and she's still peacefully sleeping in her crib). She's been so uncomfortable most nights with gas she doesn't normally sleep more than a couple hours ever so this is huge for her.

ATolentino89 · February 2016

Cole is 9 weeks and it's sooo much better! He is now happy and smiles, grabs things, has interest in stuff besides my boob. He only wakes me up at 1 and 5 and he has no patience for shenanigans during those feedings. It takes 20 minutes tops to change and feed him so we're back to sleep in no time. Daytime is so much more amusing for the both is us! And there is always a reason he cries.

Edited because use my I phone still autocorrects my sons name to Coke

laurabwalker · February 2016

This all sounds wonderful

thatgirlree24 · February 2016

I just posted on the other thread how LO sleeps more during the day and he'll be 2mos tmrw (9 wks on Monday). It definitely does get better

cedixon2 · February 2016

My twins are 9 weeks. They are still waking up every 2 to 3 hours. I get a 6 hour nap in from 6-midnight thanks to DH. I will miss this stage when they finally do sleep longer.

breezypip · February 2016

@laurabwalker from your posts it sounds like your little one was how my parents describe me as a baby -- horrible colic with non-stop inconsolable crying -- and my dad said at 3 months it was like a light switch and I was a whole new baby. And I was so bad that my dad took a month off of work because no one would watch me, and I cried so bad for hours on end he took me to the hospital but nothing was wrong. Hope it clears up quickly for you!

jenEP · February 2016

I just had lunch with a few girlfriends who have older babies and they all said it gets better at 8 weeks and even better at 12 weeks. My DD is colicky so I am so ready for this to happen. DD is 7 weeks and she's still fussy in the evenings. However, just this week she has become more content to just chill in her seat during the day, and we have gotten longer sleep stretches at night (almost 5 hrs on a few occasions!).

laurabwalker · February 2016

Yes once the colic passes I think it will be much better, also watching her cry like that is painful

laurabwalker · February 2016

jenEP said:

I just had lunch with a few girlfriends who have older babies and they all said it gets better at 8 weeks and even better at 12 weeks. My DD is colicky so I am so ready for this to happen. DD is 7 weeks and she's still fussy in the evenings. However, just this week she has become more content to just chill in her seat during the day, and we have gotten longer sleep stretches at night (almost 5 hrs on a few occasions!).

That sounds promising!!! I hope the colic passes quickly for you

laurabwalker · February 2016

@breezypip that sounds good to me! Thank you

misamima · February 2016

Yes, for sure it gets so much better! DD started smiling and cooing at 8 weeks so that was fun. She also started STTN at 9 weeks. I'm hoping LO takes after her sister.

There's hope, ladies! I promise!

kdoak2015 · February 2016

I'm with you @laurabwalker my DD is almost 10w and still goes through her witching hours, cries everytime she's beings burped, cries when she's waking up. Cry cry cry. I go by her due date though so technically she's 8w so I have to wait and extra 2 weeks for everything. I hope they are right and things get better 3/4 months.

mltarrio · February 2016

This thread is so encouraging ❤️

esscapelle · February 2016

mltarrio said:

This thread is so encouraging ❤️

I was going to say the same thing. Please Lord let this be true for my DS.

angelicac06 · February 2016

Only difference for my LO at 9 weeks is sleeping longer. He has one long stretch 6-9 hrs now. Aside from that, same fussy self during the day. I hoping thing will just "click" in the next 2 and a half weeks so I don't have to leave my career.

laurabwalker · February 2016

angelicac06 said:

Only difference for my LO at 9 weeks is sleeping longer. He has one long stretch 6-9 hrs now. Aside from that, same fussy self during the day. I hoping thing will just "click" in the next 2 and a half weeks so I don't have to leave my career.

I hope things really even out for you

misamima · February 2016

angelicac06 said:

Only difference for my LO at 9 weeks is sleeping longer. He has one long stretch 6-9 hrs now. Aside from that, same fussy self during the day. I hoping thing will just "click" in the next 2 and a half weeks so I don't have to leave my career.

Try not to give yourself a deadline. I know it's easier said than done, especially with your situation with having to entertain your LO literally all day, but give him some time. It really does get better.

groovylocks · February 2016

mltarrio said:

This thread is so encouraging ❤️

Was so about to say the same thing. Olive is already a pretty good little sleeper in that she doesn't TEND to cry through the night (some nights it happens of course) - but she's like a little clock. 9pm. 1:30am, 4:30am, 6:45am and then she's VERY awake until about 8am. Sometimes she'll mix it up and throw 11:30 pm in there. I feed her lying in bed so it's not terrible but I'm looking forward to the frequency dying down a bit. From the sounds of things, that might be coming soon.

laurabwalker · February 2016

Ellie eats every 2 hours, sometimes 1.5, and last night ate from 3-530, maybe a bit of a cluster feed?
I just feel like people act like she's not normal, they want her to be awake for hours and hold her, but the main way I stave off the purple crying now is to make sure I can get her to sleep after being up for an hour, maybe once a day she is up two hours. My mom said to me "it doesn't sound like she's on much of a schedule" is she supposed to be? She's just 5 weeks old. I feel like because she is a big girl (11.2 lbs) people think and expect her to be older almost. What kind of schedule can a 5 week old be on? All the sleep books I have said don't start a schedule till 3.5-4 months.

oregonmommy-2 · February 2016

@laurabwalker I'm the opposite my 8 week old is awake a lot during the day which I love because he sleeps better at night that way. He usually takes cat naps throughout the day and maybe 1 or 2 longer naps.. When he wakes up I could probably rock him back to sleep, I just don't feel I should be forcing sleep on him during the day. He is starting to interact a lot and coo and smile and all that. But when people want to visit they are constantly trying to rock him to sleep and it makes me crazy.. They think he just needs to be asleep all day. I know he is cute and snuggly when he's sleeping.. But this mama needs her sleep at night!! I feel like I'm constantly saying "no he doesn't need to sleep all day when he's not eating!"

mltarrio · February 2016

@laurabwalker My 5 week old is not on any schedule except the one she sets for herself. She put herself on a fairly reliable night time schedule around 3 weeks, but during the day is a free for all. I know some people might disagree, but I think she is too young to be forcing her into a rigid schedule. FWIW, her pediatrician agrees.

Gingermom15 · February 2016

Henry is 11 weeks as of tomorrow and seems to be gearing up for his 12 week leap. His sleep at night isn't disrupted, yet. but he's certainly cluster feeding like a maniac and so alert and aware of everything around him. For the last couple of days only napping 15-20 minutes at a time during the day and keeping himself awake, clinging to us and crying for an hour if he sees SO walk out of the door for work. He's a big Daddy's boy, only cares about Mom's boobs

. He refuses to let himself get drowsy if he is being held and keeps himself awake at night if he can see/hear me. It's weirdly easier and harder at the same time.

ETA the absolute best thing is he hasn't had Zantac for a few days and slept flat for the first time ever last night.

soccsm13 · February 2016

ATolentino89 said:

Cole is 9 weeks and it's sooo much better! He is now happy and smiles, grabs things, has interest in stuff besides my boob. He only wakes me up at 1 and 5 and he has no patience for shenanigans during those feedings. It takes 20 minutes tops to change and feed him so we're back to sleep in no time. Daytime is so much more amusing for the both is us! And there is always a reason he cries.

Edited because use my I phone still autocorrects my sons name to Coke

My son will be 3 in April and my phone still autocorrects Cole to Coke! Soooo annoying! Nice name choice btw

pupsicle23 · February 2016

@laurabwalker My little girl is 8 weeks and still not following a schedule. She naps within a 2 hour awake window during the day, and we have a bedtime routine. I got really worked up about it when she was 6 weeks, and then I talked to moms with older babies who said not to worry about it. So I'm not.

jkloeppel · February 2016

Every baby is different. DD is 10 weeks. She cries less, but has also been sleeping less. A lot less.

teachmegs817 · February 2016

We are at 7w, and LO has gotten worse, so I really hope within the next 4-5 it gets better. His every 3, possibly 4 hour schedule is out the window. It varies so much now. As consistent as we try and keep it, he is bound and determined to decide for himself. Generally he sleeps decent during the day. He naps maybe 2-3 times for about 2 hours max. Sometimes it'll go 2 1/2. His nighttime routine has turned into every 2.5-3 hours, and that's not him getting sleep for that time, it's from beginning of last feed to the next. He sleeps about 4-5 hours less each night now since he was 2 weeks old. And he is WAY more irritable at night now. Gas pains/bowel movements are an on going issue and I really hope he grows out of them in the next couple of weeks because j think it's the only thing in our way and his, of getting him into a routine and schedule. The pain and straining wake him up and cause him to be so squirmy that he can't settle unless we are right there putting a pacifier back into his mouth to soothe him.

Bombmom3 · February 2016

Kid #1 had horrible colic and screamed all day every day. It got way better when she hit 3.5/4 months old and then life was scream free (colic wise) by 6 months. Hang in there!

ksrkim · February 2016

I can't remember exactly but I know this: with my first son, I remember thinking to myself, "this kid is so unpredictable, how am I going to go back to work?" But by 12 weeks he had normal bedtime and was easier to predict and manage. He was still waking for night feedings though but that was because I was still nursing.

JLS12JSP · February 2016

My LO was very colicy the first 6 weeks and waking about every 4 hours at least at night. Anytime he was awake I was anxious because I knew he'd be screaming soon. Then about 7 weeks is when I noticed little changes and less screaming. At 9 weeks there's minimal screaming and he's sleeping through the night! It definitely gets better and much more fun to get all those smiles and coos

angelicac06 · February 2016

misamima said:

angelicac06 said:

Only difference for my LO at 9 weeks is sleeping longer. He has one long stretch 6-9 hrs now. Aside from that, same fussy self during the day. I hoping thing will just "click" in the next 2 and a half weeks so I don't have to leave my career.

Try not to give yourself a deadline. I know it's easier said than done, especially with your situation with having to entertain your LO literally all day, but give him some time. It really does get better.

@laurabwalker thank you! Likewise!

@misamima Thanks, will do. I'm okay with him needing as much time as he needs. I am just scheduled to return to work on the 24th so its why I hope he gets a little better by 12 weeks so theres a positive experience with a caregiver so I don't have to resign from my position.

Taylovesbrad · February 2016

My man got better at 8 weeks and seems to be progressing. Looking forward to the stomach maturing and to him feeling better

caketimes · February 2016

My baby girl got worse at 8 weeks, she now (9 weeks) will cry purple cries during the day and at night, which she never did before. I can calm her, but she's harder to feed and predict these days. I think she gets tired but wants to stay awake which causes her to get over stimulated. Anyone else have this issue? I am hoping it ends soon!

laurabwalker · February 2016

caketimes said:

My baby girl got worse at 8 weeks, she now (9 weeks) will cry purple cries during the day and at night, which she never did before. I can calm her, but she's harder to feed and predict these days. I think she gets tired but wants to stay awake which causes her to get over stimulated. Anyone else have this issue? I am hoping it ends soon!

Yes my girl gets overstimulated leading to the crying as well. I try so hard to get her to sleep and I find the first nap of the day is crucial to keeping her well throughout the day and napping. Because she's 5 weeks I try hard to get her to sleep after she has been awake one hour, if I can do this, and sometimes it takes some serious rocking and shushing, she won't end up purple crying. Gah, it's so much work!

BellaM110 · February 2016

So glad for this thread as it gives us all hope, especially us new moms! I can't wait for things to improve. My son is almost 8 weeks. He does well at night at this past week he started sleeping thru the night and if he woke up it was only once.

During the day however is a whole diff story. This kid constantly wants to be in my arms. The minute I put him down its hysterics and he will have bouts of purple crying also. I'm really hoping things get better cause getting things done during the day around the house is so difficult. Sometimes i have to just put him down and let him cry it out so I can get stuff done. Breaks my heart.

pupsicle23 · February 2016

I think there are two things to consider if any babies are 8 weeks old and not getting "better." One is that most of these things are measured from due date, not birth (at least based on what I've read). There's also a leap that happens around this time. DD is 9 weeks today, and has had a rough few days. However, she's 7 and change from her due date. I checked the Wonder Weeks chart and, sure enough, she's in the middle of a storm cloud week and showing all of the signs listed in the app.

dmendo01 · February 2016

This makes me feel better for my DD also who will hopefully cry less and be a better self soother by then!

oregonmommy-2 · February 2016

My son is 8 weeks old and sleeps great at night but my worry is he will only take one nap during the day for about and hour in the morning. Then he is basically awake the rest of the day. Is this normal for anyone else's LO? I'm worried he isn't getting enough sleep during the day.

teachmegs817 · February 2016

@mhuber223 I was originally using DS's birth date for the WW app and then realized it goes by due date, a couple of weeks into having it.

DS will only be 2w adjusted age (8w based on birth date) this Wednesday. It is in the back of my mind in regards to getting over certain hurdles and knowing that he may be further along birth date wise, before growing out of some of the early newborn stuff.

Taylovesbrad · February 2016

This past week at 9 weeks he started doing 6 hours

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