My FFFC is that I'm tempted to fail about half my students right now because they aren't even trying. Ugh.
FFFC...
We have semester long classes, and I turned in grades today.
I did fail 45% of my students.
I'm going to fail quite a few of my students, too. Progress reports are due on Monday, and most of my students are giving up already. Usually they wait until April to do that.
My FFFC is that I'm tempted to fail about half my students right now because they aren't even trying. Ugh.
FFFC...
We have semester long classes, and I turned in grades today.
I did fail 45% of my students.
I'm going to fail quite a few of my students, too. Progress reports are due on Monday, and most of my students are giving up already. Usually they wait until April to do that.
My school (alternative) has adult students, Who something's just so coming, but we don't expel them until they reach 15 consecutive absences. I have students who seriously show up every two weeks to not get withdrawn. My grades are ridiculous. Students either pass or get, like, a 14%.
My FFFC is that I do not find newborn babies to be cute/adorable/beautiful. Maybe that'd change if it were my own kid, but when they're all cone-headed with vagina juices and stuff on them.. I just don't see it.
They're way cuter once the vagina juices have been washed off.
Lmao, after a few days they tend to start getting cute.. But any baby I've seen that first day, when they're still fresh to the world, I just have not found adorable. My cousin had her baby last month, and I saw the pictures of when she was first born, and then I saw her in person on day two, and it was like two different babies.
I felt this way until I had my LO. He was stinking adorable even after birth. Maybe because he was barely 4 pounds and a c section? I have pics for proof
@britters314@longliveregina@BerkeBaby we turn in grades for the semester next week, and mine are already done. Half my kids are failing. Like. How do you fail 9th grade English? A trained monkey could pass 9th grade English.
@dogmomwantinghuman This is something that is worth it to practice until you get there! I am not a vibrator fan. I use my fingers and go slow, giving myself time to enjoy it and not making it about the orgasm (pressuring myself to get off is the surest way to make sure I won't EVER get there). I like Literotica too, but if you're uncomfortable with that option skip it. Close your eyes and think about something you find sexy: maybe your DH, maybe someone famous. If you're not sure where to start, pick up a cheesy bodice ripper and base a fantasy on that. If you are embarrassed or uncomfortable about what you're doing, that could have some impact as well.
I have never o'd. Not on my own or with sex. I have tried vibrators. I haven't really tried porn yet (not sure why not). I get the closest when he goes down on me, but he hates doing that so I'm lucky if I get it once a year.
I would try some porn or literotica material. I am a mental orgasmer (not sure if that's a word) but I need to be mentally in it. If my mind is not into, physically I will never orgasm. I prefer literotica (.com) for some erotic reading but will also check out some porn sometimes if I'm feeling lazy. @dogwantinghuman
@lindeyrva said that is if you do want to. As she said, it's okay if you just aren't a sexual person as well.
I can't O without clitoral stimulation, so I've never Od from sex alone. It's frustrating actually. I have a rabbit and it's a godsend - penetration + clit stimulation. My bullet is good too, but I feel like I don't use it that often and the batteries are always dead.
I also am a "mental orgasmer", so I enjoy some good literotica. Can we start a sub-thread of this thread for good websites? I frequent literotica(.com) and sexstoriespost(.com)
My confession is that anal sex gets me closer to O than anything else...add in double penetration (vibrator, not another guy) and I'm pretty much there.
This is going to sound weird, but whenever I O have to get myself into a mental "place". It's not intentional, but it's what happens. Like, one time it was a purplish dark woods and I was like, riding a horse. I think what it accomplishes is that it takes me out of my distracting surroundings and I'm concentrating on achieving it--if the bed's creaking or something, I'm done. Not going to happen.
Anyway, for me being on top helps out a lot. Just a suggestion!
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@britters314@longliveregina@BerkeBaby we turn in grades for the semester next week, and mine are already done. Half my kids are failing. Like. How do you fail 9th grade English? A trained monkey could pass 9th grade English.
Our district adopted Standard-Based Grading. It is the bane of my existence. I HATE it. The kids work the system and somehow a D is now passing. UGH! I teach a 9th grade and a 10th grade level English classes and somehow they still manage to fail. It's irritating.
@MamaMunn - my confession is that I stared at your GIF of the lighter for waaaaaaayyyyyy too long. I think I have a little bit of pyromania in me because I found it fascinating. Edit to add: I swear I am neither drunk nor under the influence of any sort of drug right now.
Me: 30 DH: 32 ~~ TTC #1: Sep 2015 ~~ BFP: Mar 2016 ~~ Daughter: Nov 2016 TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
I've adopted the saying, "That's sounds like a YOU problem," in response to my students this year. They are complaining a lot more this year about how I am screwing THEM over, instead of looking at their own behavior.
"Miss! I'm failing your class!" "That sounds like a YOU problem."
I guess here is my FFFC... I have never been able to make myself orgasm. I don't really care for "alone time". I think I am to emotional about sex, to much in my head. I need DH. It just seems weird and fake and forced when I am by myself. I do know what feels the best for me and help DH out getting it right. But, by myself I just can't. I could get somewhat close, but not all the way. DH is pretty good at it though. I orgasm over 50% of the time we have sex for sure. It is probably closer to around 75%. The only time I didn't was when I was pregnant and had zero sex drive, so no orgasms. He is pretty good at stimulating me at the same time as penetration. Most of the time he gets me to finish first with his fingers and then we have sex and there is a good chance if I finished the first time I will finish again with intercourse. If I couldn't finish with his fingers or vibrator I usually won't finish no matter what. Sometimes it just isn't in the cards. Ok, so that was probably way to much information about my sex life. oh well.
Me: 28 year old SAHM/Birth Doula DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
Married: October 8, 2011
DD1: September 24, 2013 BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016 DD2: April 16, 2017 BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
@BerkeBaby "That sounds like a personal problem" and "I didn't fail you, YOU failed you" are my mantras in the classroom. Also, "you can't control other people; you can only control you." But that one applies mostly to fighting. #innercityproblems
Just want to jump in on the porn thing. I think the key is to not make it a habit, in order to avoid that desensitization process. Once I realize I'm starting to look for raunchier stuff I take a break. I'll mentally go to one of my go-to fantasies, then to literotica for a random story, then to experimenting or roleplaying with DH, then to a book passage that did it for me... you get the picture - keep it interesting. It's been about two months now since my last visit to redtube or youporn and when I feel like I'll enjoy watching it again it will titillate at the same level it did the first time.
I guess what I'm saying is do the work to build a nice, deep, broad mental library of stuff that gets you off. I really really need it because plain physical stimulation of the hot spots just doesn't do it. Good luck!
PS - Is there an onscreen or lit couple that you thought had a ton of chemistry but never got to see bang? There's a lot of decent fanfic out there.
Me: 36 | DH 35, Married 2007
TTC #1 June 2015 April 2016 - AMH, FSH, Progesterone normal June 2016 - HSG clear *TW* BFP - Aug16, demise confirmed Sep16, incomplete m/c, D&C Nov16 BFP 3/27/17, edd 12/7/17 DS - 12/9/17 TTC #2 December 2018 BFP 2/22/19, edd 11/4/19 DD - 11/1/19 My Chart
I think this porn discussion has been so great, but I'll jump in and say that I have never felt desensitized. I'm gonna go ahead and admit that my tastes are pretty out there, but I still get turned on by some romantic-ass lovemaking. Everyone is different.
I think this porn discussion has been so great, but I'll jump in and say that I have never felt desensitized.
Yeah, that's a great point. I should have finished my second sentence with something like, "if you think that [desensitization] might become an issue for you."
Me: 36 | DH 35, Married 2007
TTC #1 June 2015 April 2016 - AMH, FSH, Progesterone normal June 2016 - HSG clear *TW* BFP - Aug16, demise confirmed Sep16, incomplete m/c, D&C Nov16 BFP 3/27/17, edd 12/7/17 DS - 12/9/17 TTC #2 December 2018 BFP 2/22/19, edd 11/4/19 DD - 11/1/19 My Chart
@Whiska no disrespect meant to anyone who has experienced a sense of desensitization - it's definitely a legitimate thing that happens. I posted my reply quickly and should have added that, as well. I think there are as many legitimate responses to sexual stimulus as there are humans. We're all speshul snowflakes in that way.
@skiingstark Yes. Yes, it does. A girlfriend of mine was listening to it while driving on audible and had to pull over into an empty parking lot after the wedding night. lol
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
Married May 2014 TTC Nov 2014-Aug 2016 Aug 2015 Dx: Thyroid Cancer and Hashimotos Total Thyroidectomy October 2015 Ovarian Cystectomy Nov 2015 CANCER FREE and resumed TTC Dec 2015.
DCHokiemom I am exactly the same way. I think I'm just so frustrated with my doctor's news that I'm taking it all out on DH. Same thing with laundry, one morning he ignored the puppy at 3am who needed to go out, and he's not an emotional guy so I get on his case when I'm upset and he's not. I then promptly apologize when I come to my senses. We're very lucky to have such understanding husbands.
Re: FFFC
We have semester long classes, and I turned in grades today.
I did fail 45% of my students.
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Started TTC #1 November 2015
BFP 6/10/2016 - EDD 2/22/2017
DX Diminished Ovarian Reserve, Factor V Leiden Mutation, Secondary Infertility
MFI (SA #1Count 11mill, Motility: 18%, Morphology: 1%)
AMH .328 | FSH 13.2
I am not a vibrator fan. I use my fingers and go slow, giving myself time to enjoy it and not making it about the orgasm (pressuring myself to get off is the surest way to make sure I won't EVER get there). I like Literotica too, but if you're uncomfortable with that option skip it. Close your eyes and think about something you find sexy: maybe your DH, maybe someone famous. If you're not sure where to start, pick up a cheesy bodice ripper and base a fantasy on that.
If you are embarrassed or uncomfortable about what you're doing, that could have some impact as well.
I also am a "mental orgasmer", so I enjoy some good literotica. Can we start a sub-thread of this thread for good websites? I frequent literotica(.com) and sexstoriespost(.com)
My confession is that anal sex gets me closer to O than anything else...add in double penetration (vibrator, not another guy) and I'm pretty much there.
Anyway, for me being on top helps out a lot. Just a suggestion!
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
Edit to add: I swear I am neither drunk nor under the influence of any sort of drug right now.
TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
"Miss! I'm failing your class!"
"That sounds like a YOU problem."
It's quite liberating!
NTNP: May 2015
TTC #1: late August 2015
PCOS Dx: January 2016, starting Femara Feb 2016
BFP: 2/29/16 - Happy Leap Day!
DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016
DD2: April 16, 2017
BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
DS: 5 years old
TTC #2 since August 2015
July 2016: Testing cycle with 100 mg Clomid = BFN
August 2016: 50 mg Clomid + IUI = BFN
October 2016: IVF#1 - 13 retrieved / 12 mature / 9 fertilized / 2 blasts
November 2016: FET#1 = chemical
January 2017: FET#2 = chemical
March 2017: IVF#2 - 18 retrieved / 18 mature / 16 fertilized / 5 blasts
May 24, 2017: FET#4 - BFP! - Beta #1 151 - Beta #2 503 - Due date 2/9/18
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Started TTC #1 November 2015
BFP 6/10/2016 - EDD 2/22/2017
I guess what I'm saying is do the work to build a nice, deep, broad mental library of stuff that gets you off. I really really need it because plain physical stimulation of the hot spots just doesn't do it. Good luck!
PS - Is there an onscreen or lit couple that you thought had a ton of chemistry but never got to see bang? There's a lot of decent fanfic out there.
April 2016 - AMH, FSH, Progesterone normal
June 2016 - HSG clear
*TW* BFP - Aug16, demise confirmed Sep16, incomplete m/c, D&C Nov16
BFP 3/27/17, edd 12/7/17
DS - 12/9/17
TTC #2 December 2018
BFP 2/22/19, edd 11/4/19
DD - 11/1/19
My Chart
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Started TTC #1 November 2015
BFP 6/10/2016 - EDD 2/22/2017
April 2016 - AMH, FSH, Progesterone normal
June 2016 - HSG clear
*TW* BFP - Aug16, demise confirmed Sep16, incomplete m/c, D&C Nov16
BFP 3/27/17, edd 12/7/17
DS - 12/9/17
TTC #2 December 2018
BFP 2/22/19, edd 11/4/19
DD - 11/1/19
My Chart
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Started TTC #1 November 2015
BFP 6/10/2016 - EDD 2/22/2017
Married to my Soul Mate since 09/06/09
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Married May 2014
TTC Nov 2014-Aug 2016
Aug 2015 Dx: Thyroid Cancer and Hashimotos
Total Thyroidectomy October 2015
Ovarian Cystectomy Nov 2015
CANCER FREE and resumed TTC Dec 2015.
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