UO 2/4

texasmama2014 · February 2016

cm716 · February 2016

I think kids should be potty trained at two. I know a lot of moms who do it at three and even four. I don't get that...

DDRRT1982 · February 2016

cm716 said:

I think kids should be potty trained at two. I know a lot of moms who do it at three and even four. I don't get that...

Lol, i think it's none of your business whether my two year old is potty trained. You aren't changing her diaper.

texasmama2014 · February 2016

@cm716 while that would be ideal, not all children are ready, nor should they be forced to do something they are not developmentally ready for.

texasmama2014 · February 2016

I don't understand the point of being in the waiting room when the baby is born.

Unless you're in the room I think its pointless to be there before an hour or more after the baby is born.

bearsandbeets7 · February 2016

@cm716 before I had a kid I was very judge-y of parents who didn't take the pacifier away after they turned 1 and potty training at 3 or so. I now realize that pretty much every aspect of parenting relies solely on when your child is ready for new steps. They give you signs of when they're ready and trying to force them to do things before they are is pointless and could cause them to do things even later than they would've.

pelorunningmama · February 2016

I may be completely alone on this one, but I've never liked it when people reference their unborn baby as "squishy" or "squish."

texasmama2014 · February 2016

@LWC1112 doesn't bother me, but I hate when people call their kids "littles", so same concept.

the_other_mother · February 2016

I agree with the potty training thing, which should be a seriously UO considering I have no kids. I can understand kids not being ready at the same age, but a lot of it is inconsistency with parents and lack of effort.

charmedlifex3 · February 2016

@lwc1112 Mine is when people refer to children as "Spawn"

And yes, I know multiple people who do this.

jamiesc58 · February 2016

@Allisun85 I have never personally heard anyone use the word "Spawn" to refer to their unborn child, but I would definitely not like that one either!

charmedlifex3 · February 2016

My UO - I'm actually a little offended / annoyed my mom is refusing to have ANYTHING to do with the birth. She's very much of the opinion "Let me know when it's all over, and I'll swing by with cookies." Also, she made this clear very soon after I announced, completely taking the option of asking for her support off the table, before I could even consider if I *wanted* my mother there!

My best friend offered, my husband is amazing and we hired a doula, so I will be fine, and have plenty of support - but it would have been nice for my mom to at least OFFER. Even if it was in the context of "I'd prefer not, but if you need me, I'll be there."

*putting on my big girl panties now, and getting over it*

charmedlifex3 · February 2016

@jamiesc58 - Not just unborn child. Like, "Oh I have to go pick up the Spawn after school today, he missed the bus."

Shudder.

tresamigos · February 2016

Something about mothers referring to themselves as "mommy" when having an adult conversation (without kids around) really annoys me. "Mommy is very tired today."

.....no.

bearsandbeets7 · February 2016

@rikopy the only time I refer to myself as mommy is when I'm talking to my daughter! I can't stand when people do that!

ThisisNumber3 · February 2016

DDRRT1982 said:

cm716 said:

I think kids should be potty trained at two. I know a lot of moms who do it at three and even four. I don't get that...

Lol, i think it's none of your business whether my two year old is potty trained. You aren't changing her diaper.

There are kids that aren't fully walking until 18 months, or like my kid that is barely talking. So how exactly do I potty train? Most people I've talked to its a 6 month process. Yes, the final step may be a 3 day method, but there was prep and practice before then.

LEOwife726 · February 2016

I can't stand the word 'prego'. Or 'preggers'. They make me feel uncomfortable. Really I don't like the word 'pregnant', but at least it's a real word.

WinnieLou82 · February 2016

I hate gender reveal parties and think they're a colossal waste of everyone's time.

tresamigos · February 2016

@LEOwife726 I agree! I have friends that call me prego now and I cringe every time I hear it.

Bookhousegirl · February 2016

@cm716 @Lydiadiane yikes, that's some serious judgey-mommy type stuff. Before I had a kid I was slightly more willing to make sweeping statements like that, but once I had to actually be the parent, dealing with a child who isn't ready to hit milestones at the specific time my tune quickly changed. DS didn't walk until over 15mnths old and it was certainly not for lack of "consistency" or "lack of effort", I was researching and trying every trick in the book, but he wasn't ready and that was that. Potty training is in the same boat and I refuse to traumatize my kid just because of some arbitrary standard. As someone who works as a counselor to young children, I've heard lots of parents talk about how they potty trained early and then had a drawn out regression later on because the child wasn't originally ready.

DDRRT1982 · February 2016

Lydiadiane said:

I agree with the potty training thing, which should be a seriously UO considering I have no kids. I can understand kids not being ready at the same age, but a lot of it is inconsistency with parents and lack of effort.

Wow, wow, wow! You have a lot to learn.

lalalorelai · February 2016

I hate those headbands people put on their baby girls with the massive flowers or bows or whatever. I get it, you want the world to know your child belongs to the female half of the population, but isn't there a less-ridiculous way to do it? I can't imagine the baby likes it much either.

Also, I'm a FTM so I think I should keep my fat mouth shut about when other people's kids should meet developmental milestones.

texasmama2014 · February 2016

@lalalorelai Yes to the headbands/bows!

DDRRT1982 · February 2016

texasmama2014 said:

@lalalorelai Yes to the headbands/bows!

Gimme all the headbands! If this one is a girl I cannot wait to by them again.

bearsandbeets7 · February 2016

My UO is I can't stand when people are so uneducated about pregnancy. Note: this is mainly towards someone I saw on FB today who was asking if it was possible to go into labor at 8 weeks pregnant because she lost some of her mucus plug and leaking fluid and wasn't sure if her water broke. I don't know this woman personally but she already has 2 kids.

I knew nothing about being pregnant when I found out I was pregnant with DD. But, I googled, read books, and was given information by my OB. While I felt I still had a few dumb questions I pretty much understood the basics.

bananers · February 2016

To those judging potty training with zero experience: I hope your kid likes to finger paint with poo.

That is all.

ginger819 · February 2016

I love the big bows and headbands. DD started pulling them out or else she would still be wearing them (I can still sneak little bow clips in if she isn't tired, otherwise she pulls her hair when shes tired and rips them out).

It annoys me to see people just let their kids run free through the mall/store/restaurant. I get sometimes kids do what they aren't supposed to, but at least care that your kid is being a nuisance, don't just keep carrying on as if you don't see them swinging from the clothes racks or screaming their way through the rows of tables.

DDRRT1982 · February 2016

Well fuck! I hope I never see any of you guys in public, because I'll have my two year old that is still in diapers and my two toddlers are definitely not always on their best behavior. Sometimes I am that mom that still has to grocery shop even though my kids are being brats.

edit clarify two almost three yo still in diapers

Bookhousegirl · February 2016

@DDRRT1982 I'll be right there with you... DS threw a tantrum at CVS today and I had to just shop right through it. Taming a two year old in a store that stocked with every snack and toy his heart could desire is next to impossible. It's either a tantrum now or a spoiled child later who learns I'll buy him whatever he wants if he fusses a bit. I'll take the former, and everyone else will just have to deal.

Hummingbird125 · February 2016

I also think the big flower headbands are butt-ugly and I honestly hate seeing any very young babies in "fancy" clothes. I've already told my mom to not bother buying any newborn-size dresses/shoes/what-have-you - I want my kid in cotton onesies and other comfortable options! I see so many photos on FB of tiny little girls in frilly dresses, and I've even seen faux leather leggings - I just cringe imagining how uncomfortable they must be.

I also judge the parents of kids who are SUPER picky eaters. I recognize that I'm not a parent yet and may be eating (haha) my words a few years from now, but... My parents didn't give me a zillion options of what to eat for dinner when I and my sisters were little. We eat what they ate.. Or we were hungry. Some nights we cleaned our plates and other nights we maybe just picked at the yucky-er items, but eventually we learned to eat up and shut up.

DDRRT1982 · February 2016

I'll give you head nod of understanding that only non santimommies know about, @Bookhousegirl

karaszoo1 · February 2016

Hahaha u all would hate me irl apparently. ... I use the word prego,my daughter will (and my step daughter 3yrs does )wear big ass bows ,when I was pregnant with my now 18 mo old son we referred to him as "super spawn"(reasoning behind it was because he was conceived after 15 years infertility when we had given up hope and stopped trying so initial it was Supersperm which then turned into super spawn and plus also was so active in utero that I was just waiting for a hand or foot to pop out one day) I do think kids should behave for the most part in public and not run around and act like wild baboons and I have kids so I have plenty of experience to speak from lol
As for my uo, I'm so over people that think their opinion is the only one that is right or matters. Like you all have diff opinions and that's awesome by me ,we are all different ,it's what makes the world go round ! None of us is a better or worse parent because we have a different style .

Duffgurl · February 2016

cm716 said:

I think kids should be potty trained at two. I know a lot of moms who do it at three and even four. I don't get that...

Some children are just not ready and no child should be forced to do something that they are just not ready for.

bananers · February 2016

bananers · February 2016

I should also add, I think there's a big difference between ignoring a tantrum because giving in will make things worse, and allowing your child to run around and be a nuisance in "adult" places like restaurants. Kids are unpredictable and tantrums are embarrassing but inevitable. But some parents truly do allow their kids to do whatever they want and that's not cool.

Katienu · February 2016

I like bows on little baby girls but the massive ones look so silly. I tried one on my daughter and we had a good laugh.

haboobjob · February 2016

I love the big headbands/bows. When DD was really little, she was super bald and I was sick of people calling her a boy since she wasn't in head to toe pink. I would always put one on her before we went out but she always ripped them off almost immediately. She hated them and I hated struggling to keep them on so that ended quickly and now they just sit in a lovely untouched pile in her closet. Such. A. Waste. Of. Money.

ginger819 · February 2016

I agree with @bananers. I'm not talking the temper tantrum so much as kids just left to do as they please. For instance DH and I went to the mall yesterday and heard this kid screaming. I assumed it was just a toddler having a fit, but as they passed us it was a 4 or 5 year old girl who was screaming, running, and swinging on displays and being just unruly. She was not upset, her parents, who were walking along ignoring her, just didn't care that she was screaming and swinging on things she had no right being on. I also think that at restraunt your kids need to sit in their seat and not be running around (trust me I've been the mom with an unhappy kid at a restraunt, but running around is not acceptable to us as parents).

Pepper6 · February 2016

I judge people who don't vote (if they are capable) and then complain about whomever gets elected.

kriley602774 · February 2016

I have to agree with the picky eaters comment, @Hummingbird125

I have one LO who is 17 months old and from the beginning I've made sure to give him a variety of foods to try. I don't make a seperate meal for him; he eats what we eat! That's how it was in my house growing up!

Slightly off topic, but I absolutely cringe and despise when people tell me they "have" to buy junk food like chips and Oreos for their kids (when I challenge them to rid their house of these foods when they are being seen for weight management). Last I checked, Oreos weren't an essential nutrient for kids. (Just my pregnant self right now, LOL).

JournoGrl23 · February 2016

@Hummingbird125 right there with you on picky eating. I'm not a mom yet but I won't let my kids be picky. They'll either eat or they won't. That's how I was raised. DH is a super picky eater because he was raised that way with his parents thinking it's cute to tell people you're allergic to the foods you don't like so you don't have to eat them. I've gotten him to try so many foods and he loved them all. Just goes to show if his parents hadn't taught him to be picky he probably wouldn't be. He wouldn't eat a single vegetable until he met me. And I'm one of those people who eats everything and has no dislikes.

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