Zero sex drive! Anyone else?

Alexandra0223 · February 2016

i think the last time we DTD was in December. I was sick most of January but despite that I just don't want to be touched.... At all.

Same thing happened during pregnancy with DS, I'm lucky I'm still married.

araecasey · February 2016

NO. No. I'm so horny. But on pelvic rest. We've dtd three times since August and it's horrible.

Jparke2 · February 2016

Yeah, December was the last time for me too.... I have these ridiculous sex dreams, which makes me think that I want sex, but then I have zero drive. Its annoying!

PYLWhammy · February 2016

Same. My sex drive went kaput very early in the pregnancy and has yet to come back. I can't even remember when we last DTD!

tripledaggerWed95976 · February 2016

Yep. I'm really embarassed to admit that we haven't had sex since my bfp :-( thank god my husband is a very understanding man... I just hate being touched right now

Alexandra0223 · February 2016

Glad to hear I am not the only one!

ayeshaohara · February 2016

I'm the same too. Husband not enjoying it at all!!

Jenly17 · February 2016

You're not alone. Mine is shot and my husband is not very understanding. It's frustrating to me. No matter how I explain that it's nothing to do with him, he can't wrap his head around it. We did have a very healthy sex life before this, so I'm trying to put myself in his shoes, but it's not my fault. Stupid hormones aghhhh

nerdymama15 · February 2016

I lost most of my drive right around 21 weeks (last time dtd was around 18 or 19 weeks). Every now and then I'll feel like something, but usually when I do, the DH isn't feeling it so it has been a while

TheThornBird · February 2016

Mine's gone down quite a bit as well, although I do get these random out-of-control-horny times. What sucks is I can't O, so I get pretty frustrated a lot, ha.

This will probably be a pretty unpopular opinion, but I still have sex with DH as much as I can- even when I really don't want to- since it makes him happy. But I was once in a relationship with someone who had zero sex drive due to medical reasons, and it was absolutely awful (it was absolute hell, to be honest). So I have a pretty good idea what DH would feel like if we weren't dtd, and I don't want him to go through that. It takes so little time and makes him so happy

PYLWhammy · February 2016

TheThornBird said:

This will probably be a pretty unpopular opinion, but I still have sex with DH as much as I can- even when I really don't want to- since it makes him happy. But I was once in a relationship with someone who had zero sex drive due to medical reasons, and it was absolutely awful (it was absolute hell, to be honest). So I have a pretty good idea what DH would feel like if we weren't dtd, and I don't want him to go through that. It takes so little time and makes him so happy

No, I agree with you. In my case, DH has a low sex drive too due to a medication he started taking shortly after we conceived. So the lack of sex thing has really not been an issue for us. But as much as I dislike the idea of 'duty sex' - if DH wanted it, I'd oblige. After all, he does all sorts of things every day just to keep me happy

rlworzalla · February 2016

TheThornBird said:
This will probably be a pretty unpopular opinion, but I still have sex with DH as much as I can- even when I really don't want to- since it makes him happy. But I was once in a relationship with someone who had zero sex drive due to medical reasons, and it was absolutely awful (it was absolute hell, to be honest). So I have a pretty good idea what DH would feel like if we weren't dtd, and I don't want him to go through that. It takes so little time and makes him so happy

I've done the same thing a few times. I figure it's not DH's fault (not mine either) but he's been very accommodating and it's the least I can do. It's not like I'm forcing myself twice a day just to please him.

My sex drive was high in first trimester, when it's said to be lower than normal, and now it's NOTHING. I'll get in the mood and then it just crashes. I'm not sure if it's the hormones or just my belly, but right around Christmas when we found out LO was a boy and gave him a name is when it really went away. I'm glad I'm not the only one!

bkjade · February 2016

TheThornBird said:
This will probably be a pretty unpopular opinion, but I still have sex with DH as much as I can- even when I really don't want to- since it makes him happy. But I was once in a relationship with someone who had zero sex drive due to medical reasons, and it was absolutely awful (it was absolute hell, to be honest). So I have a pretty good idea what DH would feel like if we weren't dtd, and I don't want him to go through that. It takes so little time and makes him so happy

I agree with you here. Sometimes when DH is feeling frisky and I'm exhausted, I just go for it anyway. After we start, I'm always like ohhhhhh yeah why would I *not* want this!!? More often than not though, I'm the frisky one trying to instigate when he is tired, and he does the same for me so it goes both ways.

As far as sex drive, I'm fortunate that it hasn't changed much, but I am getting tired of the same old woman on top thing (which is usually my favorite!) Need to find some new positions to accomodate the bump.

bookelf221 · February 2016

tripledaggerWed95976 said:

Yep. I'm really embarassed to admit that we haven't had sex since my bfp :-( thank god my husband is a very understanding man... I just hate being touched right now

same here. Luckily my hubby has never been an overly physical person (I never thought I'd say 'luckily' in that way), and I just don't want to be touched, mostly because my boobs are just too sensitive!

Merciel · February 2016

I'm kind of in the opposite situation: I think (actually, am pretty sure) he's indulging my unreasonable demands. I want to bang all the time always and I KNOW he's super weirded out by the big belly and occasionally visible baby movements, but somehow he always manages to do whatever the dude equivalent is of "lie back and think of England."

I try not to dwell on that too much because it would probably do a number on my self-esteem if I did, but mostly I'm just glad he humors me.

sparkledonuts · February 2016

I have some crazy sex dreams but thats as good as it gets for me ! hahaha .. he tries to touch my nipples and I freak out and I'm so swollen down there I can't even ✋

GoatSnakeMouse · February 2016

YEP. I thought I'd have all these crazy pregnant lady horny hormones, but instead I'm just not interested at. all. Sometimes I'll go for it anyway, but meh.

mumbolino · February 2016

araecasey said:

NO. No. I'm so horny. But on pelvic rest. We've dtd three times since August and it's horrible.

I feel your pain @araecasey :-( Bohoooo. And it's not like you give birth (either vaginal or csection) and jump right back in the sack....

DCStalzer · February 2016

What's up with the vivid, vivid (some times with exes or, even, faceless!) sex dreams yet disinterest while awake. I'll respond if he initiates but sort of out of sight, out of mind. Any suggestions of ways to spark my interest?

bkjade · February 2016

HA! Oh my god @Merciel! You've described EXACTLY what's been going on at my house! Made me laugh to read "lie back and think of England".

araecasey · February 2016

mumbolino said:

araecasey said:

NO. No. I'm so horny. But on pelvic rest. We've dtd three times since August and it's horrible.

I feel your pain @araecasey :-( Bohoooo. And it's not like you give birth (either vaginal or csection) and jump right back in the sack....

For reals. This is what's extra killing us. We know the sex famine that is to come.

clbness · February 2016

DCStalzer said:

What's up with the vivid, vivid (some times with exes or, even, faceless!) sex dreams yet disinterest while awake. I'll respond if he initiates but sort of out of sight, out of mind. Any suggestions of ways to spark my interest?

Right?! Last nights escapade for me was Peyton Manning! While he IS the QB for my beloved Broncos...I don't find him sexually attractive in the real world.

I wish I had suggestions, but unfortunately, we're in the same boat!

baby-2-due · February 2016

I'm having the same problem and when we DTD I can't kiss him, I just want to be touched as little as possible, but when I say no he gets frustrated though he won't tell me he is upset I can tell by his face. I hate it because before my bfp we DTD daily and it's been over a month now but V-day is coming and he is always so sweet and thinks of the best surprises so I will definitely give in for him.

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