Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
PinkPrincessPiper
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Re: Making/Storing Baby Food
Another question ladies, do any of you own the Baby Bullet or any other baby food makers you would recommend?
I want to start some basic combos, single grain oatmeal & banana for example, but I'm not sure if that would be too much for her little system right now! I might wait another week or two. Thoughts?
So pinterest has tons of great info about making baby food, even making rice cereal if you're interested
My question is how much does a 6 month old eat? A few spoonfulls?
Does anyone have any favorite baby spoons?
I was gifted a baby bullet so I'll try that! And I think it says that frozen food is good for a month
https://www.growingyourbaby.com/category/baby-bullet/
@cmommy13 I like these spoons. They have a built in spoon rest that keeps them of the table/away from germs. Bonus, they're only like $3.
@chelseajeanene That's awesome! Did you have to cook them beforehand, or does the blender steam as well?
These are some simple purees. I'm trying our first combination today, bananas + oatmeal. I'm going to mix it with BM, but I'm thinking I could use juice too when she gets a little older to add in flavor & aid with digestion.
I made a small batch of avocado purée that I immediately froze. I attempted to thaw it yesterday to feed to LO but as soon as it started thawing it also started turning brown! I personally wouldn't eat an avocado that's turned brown so I didn't feed it to LO.
My question is how do you prevent those types of fruits and vegis (apples, bananas, avocados, etc) from turning brown while making or thawing LOs food?
https://www.amazon.com/Real-Baby-Food-All-Natural-Recipes/dp/0544464958/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1454432691&sr=8-1&keywords=real+baby+food
https://www.amazon.com/Little-Foodie-Recipes-Babies-Toddlers/dp/1942411049/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1454432718&sr=8-1&keywords=baby+foode
The second book is written by a woman who also has a blog, the website is www.babyfoode.com. Tons of recipes there!
I'm a FTM, so I don't have recommendations based on experience yet. We are using these silicone ice cube trays for food: https://www.amazon.com/Tovolo-Perfect-Cube-Trays-Stratus/dp/B000QIU7X6/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1454432806&sr=8-1&keywords=tivoli+ice+cube+trays
I'm planning to make some food soon, freezing in the small trays and mixing things once we know he reacts well to them. I'm excited for this stage of eating! He'll be 5 months on Friday, but we'll probably wait a little longer before feeding him solids. I think I'll start making food this weekend though.
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/01/10/keeping-avocados-from-turning-brown_n_1196633.html
HAS ANYONE MADE GREEN BEANS OR PEAS? How did you do it? I would like to start my LO on these but not sure how to make them. Thanks!
I loved the oxo tot spoons with DS1.
Also, I wasn't given a ton of direction from my pedi the first time around in terms of what and when to feed and I found this website really helpful.
https://wholesomebabyfood.momtastic.com
It goes along with my resolution to start cooking more meals this year instead of frozen pizzas