If you found out gender via genetic test, when are you sharing?

kwilliams3402 · February 2016

For those that did the Harmony or other tests, if you found out gender, are you telling people now? Is it weird to share the gender at 13 weeks?

We are so thankful to have good results of a healthy baby boy, but now that we know and it's clearly so much earlier than the normal 20 weeks when an anatomy ultrasound shows gender, I wonder... Do we tell people gender now? Is it weird?

Thanks for sharing your thoughts with this first time mom!!

presh116 · February 2016

I told close relatives and work. My sil said you can't find out from blood work. I told her to google verfi test and that shut her up. I think personally its your prefrence

BritMC18 · February 2016

We've told our parents and that's it. We actually aren't certain if we're going to "reveal" the gender to anyone else. If we do it will only be very close friends, and it won't be until after our 16 week heart beat scan.

danahorowitz · February 2016

That's a good question. Probably when we tell people. We have a 3 year old daughter and we found out with genetic testing that we have a baby boy on the way. DH and I have opposite views on circumscion, so I'd like for us to come to a decision before we share that it's a boy. In our faith the circumscion is done at a religious ceremony (a Bris) and I want to have an answer if people, especially my parents, are going to ask if we're having one.

bananers · February 2016

I think the genetic testing is becoming so much more common that many people won't even bat an eye if you announce the sex this early. And if they ask, you can tell them all about it.

Kristin712 · February 2016

We told my parents the next day when we saw them. We are telling my ILs when we see them this upcoming weekend. Once we share with them, we will tell anyone and everyone who asks.

smilormarie · February 2016

I've had long distance friends who usually have to share the news of pregnancies via email unless it matches up with a perfectly timed trip back home (rarely). They usually say "I'm almost 12 w with another boy!" Doesn't seem weird at all to share the gender but then again I know about the availability of genetic blood tests.

kwilliams3402 · February 2016

Thanks, all!

texasmama2014 · February 2016

With DD we told everyone that I was pregnant and having a girl at the same time. It shut down a lot of questions.

possitivethoughts · February 2016

we shared right away. it was at the 12 week mark and that's when we shared and revealed a baby girl on the way. I don't think its weird, a lot of people did ask how we know so soon, apparently the genetic blood work is not very well known about.

DisneyIsabelle · February 2016

We got the results yesterday I told my mom, a few friends, my SIL, and my employees. I'll tell people as I see them. Honestly I'm not making a big thing of it because does anyone else really care what we are having? I feel like people are happy for us regardless of the sex.

I will say I feel like a terrible person that I really kind of hoped for a girl, but kind of knew all along it was a boy and indeed it is. Mostly importantly I'm thankful to be pregnant and healthy and to have low risk test results, but I'd be more excited right now if it was a girl. I'm certainly not crying about it or anything, but I kind of feel like a terrible person for having a preference. Mainly thankful because I know some people would give anything for any pregnancy, and certainly I would have felt that way as well if I had struggled to conceive.

Wow, sorry for going off topic, I just haven't wanted to tell anyone I know that I'm just a little bummed.

smilormarie · February 2016

It's ok to have gender disappointment. I actually feel bad for people when they say they are having a girl. I'm a boy mom at heart and having a boy furst is so amazing. As much as I know I should want a little girl, mother daughter relationships can be tricky and boys need brothers. 18 months from now you will look back and laugh at yourself for ever thinking you wanted a girl. It will be alright!

Ceventa · February 2016

Congrats on your baby boy! We are planning on sharing as soon as we find out.

jskarr7 · February 2016

We got the results on a Tuesday (week 11), opened the envelope with each other right before skype'ing our families to share the news that Saturday, and revealed publicly the next day, Sunday. I honestly wanted to wait a couple more weeks, but I was tired of trying to keep DH from shouting from the rooftops, "It's a girl!!!!"

DisneyIsabelle · February 2016

@smilormarie Thanks

This is our first, and my husband is the oldest with two younger sisters. So it's a nice idea that there will be a big brother..I just hope he isn't going to be a big brother to like 3 more boys hahaha

misspuppychow · February 2016

We found out gender via Panorama. We got the results back at 12.5 weeks. We're sharing at 14.5 weeks with family as WE don't know the gender.. my best friend coordinated a cake

Samm116 · February 2016

@DisneyIsabelle we found out today we are also having a boy. I really wanted a girl, and DH said he always dreamed he would be the father of a little girl. I have felt from the start that it was a boy. It was heartbreaking to tell him today. I'm AMA and this very well could be the only child we have, and I know we should be happy that everything is going good, we struggled a few years to get here. I'm right there with you about feeling like a terrible mom for wanting one gender over the other.

DisneyIsabelle · February 2016

@Samm116 There's some comfort in knowing other people understand the feeling. I was afraid of being bashed on here as I've seen happen to many, but being a bit disappointed about something doesn't mean one isn't so grateful for a healthy pregnancy or anything like that. Funny that you also felt it was a boy, I was pretty sure all along as well. I'm glad DH and I are still in 20s and most likely would like two kids close together, but if they are both boys I imagine I'll wait till they start school and try for a third (I don't think I could handle three boys lol, I mean technically I could but...).Most importantly, I love this baby and am so excited to meet him. I try to remind myself that if there was something wrong with the health of my baby I wouldn't be thinking at all or caring at all about whether its a boy or girl, just that baby is healthy.

Don't worry you never know, you may be a)totally satisfied and smitten with having your son, b)get pregnant again quickly or c)consider other options.

charmedlifex3 · February 2016

My cousin (also due in August ... oddly enough) just shared she is having a baby girl. We mailed our families gender announcements. We're having a little boy.

Before we were expecting I really wanted a girl, but from the start I've known he was a boy. I actually think I would have been disappointed with a girl (even though that is what I wanted) because he's been a he in my heart all this time. My husband told me to stop calling him he until after we found out, and I had bought some boy-leaning items, which made my DH roll his eyes. I was *convinced* - and luckily right!

My husband really wants another (actually, he wants three, I want one) so when we found out it was a boy he said "Does this mean we get to try again!?!?"

amberh2008 · February 2016

Hey I had a question about the genetic test as I go for my twelve week appointment next week. Did insurance cover the cost or how much did it cost if not. Thanks for info.

smilormarie · February 2016

My OB only does panorama when I asked for MaterniT21. I was quoted $199 after insurance. But I was advised if I have financial hardship I can contact the company and they'll accept what I can pay and write off the rest. (Which I won't be doing).

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