I got another one. I just called my OB office about filling out MLOA papers and requested 12 weeks and they said they can only give me SIX WEEKS depending how my wound heals, with a cesarean!!! WTF!!
6 weeks seems short, but 12 seems long. I know the standard around here is 6 weeks for vaginal delivery, 8 for c-section.
Well hell, I'd take the 8 weeks, which I got two years ago with my last C Section. But this time they're only saying I can only get six.
That's weird. Like @AEG84 I've heard that you get 6 for vaginal and 8 for c/s. Why the hell would they only give you 6? Maybe they don't want to commit to it til it's time? Are you scheduled for c/s again or trying vbac?
@RoseShadow873 depending on where you live, could he apply for a DOD job? I think the website usajobs.gov has a huge listing and gives vets preference. More jobs would be available near a post of some sort, but there's stuff all over. A buddy of mine just got out and is moving to St. Louis to archive documents - no degree, and making a really good wage.
@nikkinbonnie don't take this the wrong way, but after working with men on the autism spectrum and in a facility for the developmentally disabled, I want to find your sister and run her over with my car for speaking about her son that way. For speaking about ANYONE that way.
Sonic brought my cheese sticks out with no Marinara this morning and thought that'd be okay since they were out...after I had ordered extra.
Don't be all pissed at me when I don't want them without marinara.
lol this morning? I didn't know they served cheese sticks for breakfast. I got pissy the other day when I went through the drive thru and waited FOREVER for my strawberry milkshake and after they asked me twice (once through the box and once when I paid) if I wanted whip cream (uh, duh) they handed me the milkshake with no whip and said "Sorry we're out"...I was gonna drink it anyway but they should have prepared me. I was pretty bummed for a moment.
Sonic serves their entire menu all day...which is a total win IF they have said menu items in stock. Sorry to hear about your whipless milkshake...I would have been upset about that too.
Omg if I hadn't posted this today I swear I wouldn't be dealing with it yet. Mom got her tax return. Went to buy stroller and called me in hysterics. I got the it in the mail today and was assembling it when she called. She started yelling at me that I didn't tell everyone that she was going to buy it for me, and that it was the ONLY thing in my registry she actually liked, and that she knew I would use all the time. (I didn't even feel like being annoyed or offended about her bitchy attitude about the things I've chosen for my child. I've done that on here enough.) Ugh I told her Matt's mom bought it and it probably slipped her mind that I said numerous times you were buying it and yeah. My shower next week is going to be fun -.-
She didn't like any of the ideas I had for her and spent the rest of the time telling me that Jackson isn't going to love her as much because she can't spend as much money on him. I pointed out that he's going to be spending a lot more time with her than FMIL because we live so much closer to you and she has a full time job anyway. That seemed to make her feel better.. (Not even going to get into how annoyed I am that FMIL didn't bother to wrap it and bring it to the shower... Like seriously?)
I hate seeing how hurt my mom is over this. I know it'll be ok, and I'm hoping I can convince her to do something "showy" at the shower to make herself feel/look superior, as petty as that sounds.
My BFM goes to my best friend's parent. So for those who have been on the board know my best friends lost their pregnancy back in December, they were about 6 weeks behind us.
Prior or to that they had been seeing a midwife practice as high risk. During that time they basically had to beg the husband's parents, specifically the mom, to watch their son. She always made a huge deal about how inconvenient it was for her. God forbid she miss her painting class. The only time she would actually do it was when they told her my mom would take him. Then how dare they ask someone else.
Well his parents BOUGHT THE HOUSE ACROSS THE STREET and waited until it had closed before telling them. Which initially wasn't a big deal because they were going to rent it out for a while. Then 3 weeks ago decided they want to move there. They have since been popping over to my best friends' house whenever they please.
So today the mom calls and tells the wife that "just because we live across the street doesn't mean we can be used as a daycare service." WTH!?! It blows my mind because the wife's family lives in NH and would give anything to be close enough to be a more active part of their life. My mom wants to be a part of their son's life more than his parents. My dad will never get to be a part of my daughter's life but he was so happy to be a papaw. DH's parents are excited for our LO as well. So it just makes me sad and angry for them.
@JulienneNicole WOW! I feel really bad for your friend. We use to live 5 minutes from my in laws and they watched DD every week day once I went back to work (though she did run an in home daycare at the time). But she has since retired and still loves to watch DD when I need her to. I couldn't imagine my MIL telling me that she doesnt want to watch her grandkids. I hope things get better for them and MIL stops being so mean.
@JulienneNicole that's awful. And completely the MILs loss, but how awful for your friend that on top of her loss, she now has to live across the street from the witch.
So not quite a BFM to be honest... It's more of a complaint for a future bitchfest that's going to come soon...
One of my sisters went to buy me the glider rocker I put on my Amazon registry, and it has already been purchased so she called me to ask who did it and what to get me instead. Amazon has a thank you list you can look at. Turns out it was my grandma, and my sister wasn't actually all that upset about it.
Here is the problem. My mom has wanted to buy us the stroller/car seat combo since I picked it out in like October. She's been setting aside small bits of money for it and was going to use some of her tax return for it. I have told EVERYONE on the planet that my mom is getting this for us, so don't get it. There are a billion other things we need. I just saw my FMIL bought it. Now my mom is going to go batshit crazy when she can't buy us one of the bigger items, and it's going to add fuel to the fire in the invisible feud they are in against each other (read as my mom is crazy and thinks there is an actual competition, when I dislike both of them equally)
The only other "large item" is the changing table/dresser which is more money, and I'm sure my mom won't be able to come up with the other $50 for it on her own. I might offer to cover the difference when she discovers this on her own, but I am NOT going to bring it up or tell her before she finds out...
Now I'm trying to wrestle with not being ridiculously angry with FMIL because I told her so many fucking times my mom is getting that for us that it came up EVERY SINGLE TIME we have seen them in person. I'm sure she wasn't thinking "I'm going to piss off Ivy, because I don't really like her, and screw her mom too!" But some days I wonder if she does think like that... She's nice-ish to me? But I always get the sense of her thinking I'm not good enough for her son. And of course I can't confront her about it because A: I was peeking when I shouldn't have, and B: I can't really justify yelling at someone for buying us a present, no matter what the circumstances are surrounding it.
(BTW told my fiancé's about this all last night and he looked me dead in the eye and said "Your mom is going to go insane when she finds this out." And proceeded to laugh because what can you do? I on the it her hand get to deal with the emotional fallout of my mom >.<)
This is the exact reason I told my dh I didn't want any of the grandparents buying big items, because there are 3 sets of grandparents and I didn't want there to be any hurt feelings if one set bought the crib and another set bought a nice outfit. My MIL asked if she could buy the glider, this was 5 minutes after we announced our pregnancy to her. We told her we are buying all the nursery furniture. She asked dh again last week if she could buy the glider. I don't understand? Dh asked me if we could let her get it and just Not tell the others that MIL bought it, but I told him no. My mom had wanted to buy a glider too but I gave her my reasoning why I didn't want her to, and she respected it. Idk why mil keeps pushing it.
@nikkinbonnie Wow. Props to your sister for navigating it well though, and to you for taking the high road.
@Knottie9983816 Damn. Your relationship with your mom sounds very complicated and she sounds very strong-willed, so I'm sure you didn't need that. Agree with the PP suggestions about a carseat you'll use when the baby grows out of the infant one, you can find one that matches the travel system that she still likes perhaps. I think going in person to a baby store and letting her select it may help her feel important.
This is a late BFM...BFT perhaps? I came into work this morning to an email that one of our cooks in the cafe has left the company. Her specialty was desserts.....I am so sad. Now I will have to start raiding the vending machines again.
@TKaiser91@AmadorRose I hope it gets better too. But on the bright side the house we are buying is 4 minutes from theirs so I told them they are always welcome to come hide over there.
They are starting to try again later this month so hopefully they will get another BFP soon after. She gets pregnant fairly easily, but she had an undiagnosed clotting disorder that is what has caused her multiple losses. She now has a doctor instead of a midwife and they ran all the tests the midwife group kept putting off. They told her it would take 3 back to back losses for that to be necessary. Insane! But the great news is supposedly as long as she takes an aspirin daily and is monitored she should have no problem carrying the next LO. So fingers crossed that is true!
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@nikkinbonnie don't take this the wrong way, but after working with men on the autism spectrum and in a facility for the developmentally disabled, I want to find your sister and run her over with my car for speaking about her son that way. For speaking about ANYONE that way.
She didn't like any of the ideas I had for her and spent the rest of the time telling me that Jackson isn't going to love her as much because she can't spend as much money on him. I pointed out that he's going to be spending a lot more time with her than FMIL because we live so much closer to you and she has a full time job anyway. That seemed to make her feel better.. (Not even going to get into how annoyed I am that FMIL didn't bother to wrap it and bring it to the shower... Like seriously?)
I hate seeing how hurt my mom is over this. I know it'll be ok, and I'm hoping I can convince her to do something "showy" at the shower to make herself feel/look superior, as petty as that sounds.
My BFM goes to my best friend's parent. So for those who have been on the board know my best friends lost their pregnancy back in December, they were about 6 weeks behind us.
Prior or to that they had been seeing a midwife practice as high risk. During that time they basically had to beg the husband's parents, specifically the mom, to watch their son. She always made a huge deal about how inconvenient it was for her. God forbid she miss her painting class. The only time she would actually do it was when they told her my mom would take him. Then how dare they ask someone else.
Well his parents BOUGHT THE HOUSE ACROSS THE STREET and waited until it had closed before telling them. Which initially wasn't a big deal because they were going to rent it out for a while. Then 3 weeks ago decided they want to move there. They have since been popping over to my best friends' house whenever they please.
So today the mom calls and tells the wife that "just because we live across the street doesn't mean we can be used as a daycare service." WTH!?! It blows my mind because the wife's family lives in NH and would give anything to be close enough to be a more active part of their life. My mom wants to be a part of their son's life more than his parents. My dad will never get to be a part of my daughter's life but he was so happy to be a papaw. DH's parents are excited for our LO as well. So it just makes me sad and angry for them.
@Knottie9983816 Damn. Your relationship with your mom sounds very complicated and she sounds very strong-willed, so I'm sure you didn't need that. Agree with the PP suggestions about a carseat you'll use when the baby grows out of the infant one, you can find one that matches the travel system that she still likes perhaps. I think going in person to a baby store and letting her select it may help her feel important.
They are starting to try again later this month so hopefully they will get another BFP soon after. She gets pregnant fairly easily, but she had an undiagnosed clotting disorder that is what has caused her multiple losses. She now has a doctor instead of a midwife and they ran all the tests the midwife group kept putting off. They told her it would take 3 back to back losses for that to be necessary. Insane! But the great news is supposedly as long as she takes an aspirin daily and is monitored she should have no problem carrying the next LO. So fingers crossed that is true!