I think it is redundant to call any kind of shower "gift grabby."
YES. I want to ask for children's board books or picture books in lieu of cards (or at least offer it up as an option), and my mom, who is throwing the shower, is saying it's gift grabby. She is also saying it's unnecessary since we probably still have a lot of books from when I was little because obviously nothing new has come out in the last 29 years.
My confession is that I don't wear makeup. Ever. And I never have.
Me neither. I don't even know how to properly put on makeup. I did have someone put makeup on me for my wedding. My wedding is also the only time I've ever gone for a mani/pedi. And I don't think I've worn nail polish since!
Same. Except for the nail polish, I do my nails maybe once a year. They always look pretty terrible because I don't have the practice to make it look decent.
I think it is redundant to call any kind of shower "gift grabby."
YES. I want to ask for children's board books or picture books in lieu of cards (or at least offer it up as an option), and my mom, who is throwing the shower, is saying it's gift grabby. She is also saying it's unnecessary since we probably still have a lot of books from when I was little because obviously nothing new has come out in the last 29 years.
It's grabby because it's telling your guests to buy something in addition to their gift. What if a guest was planning on buying you a nice book as their gift? Then they get the invite and see that a book isn't a 'real' gift, it's what you buy on top of something else.
I think it is redundant to call any kind of shower "gift grabby."
YES. I want to ask for children's board books or picture books in lieu of cards (or at least offer it up as an option), and my mom, who is throwing the shower, is saying it's gift grabby. She is also saying it's unnecessary since we probably still have a lot of books from when I was little because obviously nothing new has come out in the last 29 years.
It's grabby because it's telling your guests to buy something in addition to their gift. What if a guest was planning on buying you a nice book as their gift? Then they get the invite and see that a book isn't a 'real' gift, it's what you buy on top of something else.
My point is that any party that includes a registry is obviously one in which gifts are expected. That is kind of the point of a shower, to "shower" the person with gifts. It isn't gift grabby, it's just a shower.
I think it is redundant to call any kind of shower "gift grabby."
YES. I want to ask for children's board books or picture books in lieu of cards (or at least offer it up as an option), and my mom, who is throwing the shower, is saying it's gift grabby. She is also saying it's unnecessary since we probably still have a lot of books from when I was little because obviously nothing new has come out in the last 29 years.
It's grabby because it's telling your guests to buy something in addition to their gift. What if a guest was planning on buying you a nice book as their gift? Then they get the invite and see that a book isn't a 'real' gift, it's what you buy on top of something else.
Eh. I actually loved it the first time I was invited to a shower and was asked to bring a book instead of a card. You spend like five bucks on a piece of paper that someone is going to throw away...you can easily go to Half Price Books and get one just as cheap. Plus you get to write in it & that child will keep it for a long time. I don't view it as "gift grabby"...I actually think it's a nice sentiment.
I think it is redundant to call any kind of shower "gift grabby."
YES. I want to ask for children's board books or picture books in lieu of cards (or at least offer it up as an option), and my mom, who is throwing the shower, is saying it's gift grabby. She is also saying it's unnecessary since we probably still have a lot of books from when I was little because obviously nothing new has come out in the last 29 years.
It's grabby because it's telling your guests to buy something in addition to their gift. What if a guest was planning on buying you a nice book as their gift? Then they get the invite and see that a book isn't a 'real' gift, it's what you buy on top of something else.
But the guests aren't FORCED to bring a book instead of a card, it's just a suggestion (at least in my eyes). I see it as similar to the diaper raffle - I don't have to bring a pack of diapers, and yes there is a prize for the raffle, but it isn't like I'm going to be looked down upon for not participating. We are doing the books-for-cards idea at my shower, and if someone chooses to buy books for their gift and brings a card, that's fine by me!
I've been picked in jury duty for a 2 week trial. I'm enjoying being home at night with DH and DD. We've had a ton of QT and I don't ever want to go back to my job.
Been married since 2009. Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter) Several MCs DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
And on this next one, don't get me wrong, I'm grateful to be pregnant, but at this point I kind of wish the pregnant part was over and I could meet my baby girl already. My anxiety is starting to get to me thinking about labor and pain and stitches and lots of blood and discomfort, etc, etc, etc. I just want to get all that part over with so I don't have to torture myself thinking about it. I don't think about it on purpose. It just seems like it is always on the back of my mind.
I just spent the past six hours gaming in Lord of the Rings Online. It is 3am right now. I really needed that escape from reality.
It's not Friday so I know I'm breaking the rules but I need somewhere to vent.
Im tired of people trying to push their old baby gear off to me. Maam your youngest child is 12... HELL NO I don't want your old high chair that's been collecting dust in your attic. I know people mean well and their trying to help but I'm a FTM. I want new stuff. Just because that bouncer holds sentimental value for you doesn't mean I think it's cute and I don't want it. Purge people! Donate your old baby gear, sell it, throw it away but don't make your prego friends feel bad for not wanting it.
@Charla1224 I totally agree!! My older sister keeps sending me posts and texts about used baby stuff she finds online asking if I want it. She got all new stuff so why she thinks I would want used items is beyond me! Like a stroller and diaper bag... I don't care if it is "mint" condition, I can afford to get NEW items! Also, I'm sure I'll be getting a ton at my baby shower. I already know my mother and grandmothers are going in on the stroller I want. It's really annoying I totally agree!
My confession is that I don't wear makeup. Ever. And I never have.
Me neither. I don't even know how to properly put on makeup. I did have someone put makeup on me for my wedding. My wedding is also the only time I've ever gone for a mani/pedi. And I don't think I've worn nail polish since!
Same. Except for the nail polish, I do my nails maybe once a year. They always look pretty terrible because I don't have the practice to make it look decent.
I go to Nordstrom about every other year and get my makeup done by the Bobbi Brown team when they come through. They show me how to do it, what to buy, and then I get a couple of the things so I can wear makeup for big meetings or special occasions (I still go without makeup 99% of the time though). This has been a big help - but if you're happy never wearing makeup at all, then even better! But this is a good way to get your foot in the door if you want to start figuring things out. I like when makeup makes me look extra fancy, not when I wear it so frequently that I look weird without it.
Re: FFFC 1/29/16
She gave a MOH speech at my wedding five years ago and oh payback is going to be so so sweet.
What if a guest was planning on buying you a nice book as their gift? Then they get the invite and see that a book isn't a 'real' gift, it's what you buy on top of something else.
Edited because I accidentally posted too soon
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
And on this next one, don't get me wrong, I'm grateful to be pregnant, but at this point I kind of wish the pregnant part was over and I could meet my baby girl already. My anxiety is starting to get to me thinking about labor and pain and stitches and lots of blood and discomfort, etc, etc, etc. I just want to get all that part over with so I don't have to torture myself thinking about it. I don't think about it on purpose. It just seems like it is always on the back of my mind.
I just spent the past six hours gaming in Lord of the Rings Online. It is 3am right now. I really needed that escape from reality.
First Pregnancy
Second Pregnancy
- BFP: 09/11/2015
- EDD: 05/25/2016
Baby Born04/15/2016
PGAL
Im tired of people trying to push their old baby gear off to me. Maam your youngest child is 12... HELL NO I don't want your old high chair that's been collecting dust in your attic.
I know people mean well and their trying to help but I'm a FTM. I want new stuff. Just because that bouncer holds sentimental value for you doesn't mean I think it's cute and I don't want it. Purge people! Donate your old baby gear, sell it, throw it away but don't make your prego friends feel bad for not wanting it.
DD: 05/14/16