I dont understand how people can NOT research what is happening to their bodies, or what to expect, during pregnancy. I don't think you need to have a background in scientific research or anything, but pick up a book - there are hundreds out there related to pregnancy! Sorry, the amount of "dear diary" posts recently is grating on me. Maybe not a UO, but just felt like I needed to get that off my chest and out into TB universe...
Related to @yogahh post, sometimes during my pregnancy I have wished there was no internet. I am a natural worrier, and I hate how it's so easy for me to google something like "23 weeks pregnant no movement" and fall down the rabbit hole of horror stories. I wish there was an app that could tell when you're obsessively googling something and would just stop you.
@yogahh it's laziness. Why read when you can just ask. I'll admit I was a special snowflake with my first...I was doing nothing but puking so I was not reading anything, but I called my ob every 5 minutes I think. I read the books with my second and they make everything easier! Just do it!
@AnastasiaBeaverhausen09 Google is the devil! I had this huge bruise on my hand a few weeks ago and I had no clue where it came from. Googled it and naturally it went straight to death. My ob said it's normal and she's surprised this hasn't happened to me before considering how easily I bruise when not pregnant! Ugh
Idk how unpopular this actually is, but it sure is unpopular with my family. I LOVE pictures. We get family pictures taken every march, the kids have birthday sessions at their birthdays every year. My MIL is also obsessive and we get big family pics done once a year or once every other year. I do not feel this is a waste of money. It's a keepsake and worth every single penny!
Here's one that I'm totally prepared to be flamed for (maybe I should save it for tomorrow's FFFC!): I don't think that children are/should be more sympathetic crime/accident victims than innocent adults. Before you light your torches, let me explain what I mean. Recently, in my hometown (where I no longer live), a young child was killed in an auto accident caused by a drunk driver. The same thing happened about two years ago to an acquaintance of mine who was about my age (30's). Both were very sad and unfortunate incidents caused by selfish people committing senseless crimes, and neither victim did anything to put him/herself in harm's way. But, the public outrage over this child's death was so much more intense than when the same thing happened to the woman I knew. I have seen Facebook petitions being circulated, calling for a harsher sentence for the drunk driver in the child's case. There have been candlelight vigils at the crash site and nearby park. Don't get me wrong; I don't think there's anything wrong with people being outraged over this poor child's death and reacting in this way to it. It is horrible, and people should be outraged. But, what bothers me is that these same people didn't have the same reaction when the woman I knew died in the exact same way.
The woman I knew was a successful attorney who was driving home from the airport late the night she was killed, after returning home from a professional networking conference. She was in her early 30's, owned her own successful law firm, was recently engaged, committed her spare time to doing pro bono legal work for the city's poor, and was an all-around good person with tons of friends and a family who loved her very much. Where was the public outrage for her? Sure, she wasn't a child, but - just like the child - she did nothing wrong and was in no way responsible for what happened to her. She left behind a fiance, family, friends, and clients who needed her and who had built relationships with her over many years that are now shattered. The toddler who died recently hadn't done anything with his life yet (maybe he would have done something great, or maybe he would have grown up to be a criminal - who knows), he had no friends yet, and his family had only had about a year or so to start building a relationship with him. So, why then did the public think his life was somehow worth more than hers? I'm not saying I think the toddler's life was worth less, but I don't see why people thought it was worth more or why people were more upset when it happened to him than when it happened to the woman I knew. In sum, I don't get why people think an innocent child's death is more egregious than an innocent adult's death. I just don't think the loss of the life that "could have been" is any sadder than the loss of the life that "was." Go ahead, flame away!
I don't understand selfies in general. Especially selfies of people sitting in a car, wtf? Selfies are much too narcissistic for my tastes.
Remember ever snapping a picture or two back in the day of you and another person with your camera, and it was infrequent, not a 15x daily thing? I took selfies before selfies became 'cool'
I really enjoyed the glucose drink just now. Like, REALLY liked it.
I like it, too! I'm in my one hour wait as I type. Ready to do the blood work and go straight to the drive thru
Which flavor did you get? I got the fruit punch and thought it was good too! Just tasted like that super sweet sugary juice they serve at birthday parties for kids haha
I really enjoyed the glucose drink just now. Like, REALLY liked it.
I like it, too! I'm in my one hour wait as I type. Ready to do the blood work and go straight to the drive thru
Which flavor did you get? I got the fruit punch and thought it was good too! Just tasted like that super sweet sugary juice they serve at birthday parties for kids haha
Mine was orange but I had fruit punch with my first pregnancy and liked it even better!
@ladysamlady and @txmamatobe - I didn't mind it either! I made DH take a sip first to see what it was like!
My UO this week is that I don't understand the appeal of this swing, even if a lot of women swear by them. It reminds me of something out of the Jetsons...
Me neither!!!! Dave is whiny and so many of his seeming millions of songs sound exactly the same yet his superfans flock to his concerts year after year after year. I don't get it.
@ladysamlady and @txmamatobe - I didn't mind it either! I made DH take a sip first to see what it was like!
My UO this week is that I don't understand the appeal of this swing, even if a lot of women swear by them. It reminds me of something out of the Jetsons...
To me the appeal is the size, not so much the aesthetic of it. It definitely looks futuristic but it is much smaller than most other swings.
@ladysamlady and @txmamatobe - I didn't mind it either! I made DH take a sip first to see what it was like!
My UO this week is that I don't understand the appeal of this swing, even if a lot of women swear by them. It reminds me of something out of the Jetsons...
We saw these the other day at our first visit to BRU. We didn't know what to think, and called it the "gyrating egg." But I kinda want one...
I really enjoyed the glucose drink just now. Like, REALLY liked it.
I like it, too! I'm in my one hour wait as I type. Ready to do the blood work and go straight to the drive thru
Because of my aforementioned googling problem, all I had read was stories about people throwing the drink up, etc. I had five minutes to drink it and took it down in about two gulps. I have also taken the three hour test and even though that drink is twice the glucose, I still liked it!
his family had only had about a year or so to start building a relationship with him
and?? I've had 16 months with my son and love him more than anyone I have known for the last 29 years of my life. I loved him more than anyone the moment I gave birth to him. Length of time knowing him/building a relationship with him doesn't mean anything.
Here's one that I'm totally prepared to be flamed for (maybe I should save it for tomorrow's FFFC!): I don't think that children are/should be more sympathetic crime/accident victims than innocent adults. Before you light your torches, let me explain what I mean. Recently, in my hometown (where I no longer live), a young child was killed in an auto accident caused by a drunk driver. The same thing happened about two years ago to an acquaintance of mine who was about my age (30's). Both were very sad and unfortunate incidents caused by selfish people committing senseless crimes, and neither victim did anything to put him/herself in harm's way. But, the public outrage over this child's death was so much more intense than when the same thing happened to the woman I knew. I have seen Facebook petitions being circulated, calling for a harsher sentence for the drunk driver in the child's case. There have been candlelight vigils at the crash site and nearby park. Don't get me wrong; I don't think there's anything wrong with people being outraged over this poor child's death and reacting in this way to it. It is horrible, and people should be outraged. But, what bothers me is that these same people didn't have the same reaction when the woman I knew died in the exact same way.
The woman I knew was a successful attorney who was driving home from the airport late the night she was killed, after returning home from a professional networking conference. She was in her early 30's, owned her own successful law firm, was recently engaged, committed her spare time to doing pro bono legal work for the city's poor, and was an all-around good person with tons of friends and a family who loved her very much. Where was the public outrage for her? Sure, she wasn't a child, but - just like the child - she did nothing wrong and was in no way responsible for what happened to her. She left behind a fiance, family, friends, and clients who needed her and who had built relationships with her over many years that are now shattered. The toddler who died recently hadn't done anything with his life yet (maybe he would have done something great, or maybe he would have grown up to be a criminal - who knows), he had no friends yet, and his family had only had about a year or so to start building a relationship with him. So, why then did the public think his life was somehow worth more than hers? I'm not saying I think the toddler's life was worth less, but I don't see why people thought it was worth more or why people were more upset when it happened to him than when it happened to the woman I knew. In sum, I don't get why people think an innocent child's death is more egregious than an innocent adult's death. I just don't think the loss of the life that "could have been" is any sadder than the loss of the life that "was." Go ahead, flame away!
I think people have a visceral reaction to a child dying, because their life has barely started. Someone else (the drunk driver) took away what could have been of that child's life. The attorney's life was taken away as well, but I think people look at that as she had a chance to build a life, albeit short, while this child will not have that same chance.
his family had only had about a year or so to start building a relationship with him
and?? I've had 16 months with my son and love him more than anyone I have known for the last 29 years of my life. I loved him more than anyone the moment I gave birth to him. Length of time knowing him/building a relationship with him doesn't mean anything.
I respectfully disagree that length of the relationship "doesn't mean anything" in terms of a bond with someone. My relationship with my family and MH (built over many years) is stronger than my bond with my niece (who is 2 months old). That doesn't mean I love my niece any less than my sister, my parents, or MH. It just means that I would be at least as (and perhaps more) devastated if something were to happen to one of my other family members who I had a stronger bond with. Maybe that will change when I become a mom, but it's my opinion for now (told you it was UO). I don't think your opinion is unjustified; it's just not the same as mine on this subject.
@swflJD I hear you. My thought, I guess, is that strangers can sympathize more easily with a toddler than with an individuated adult. Even if your friend's death left a bigger hole because more people knew her and depended on her, other people who did not know her or depend on her just assume she's like every other stranger they ignore on the bus every day.
On the flip side, it sounds like she had an amazing life--really impressive and already having done a lot of good and built loving relationships--while the toddler didn't have a chance to have one...
But the outrage should be equal, I agree. The driver did the same thing in both cases, and should be regarded the same.
@vinerie Duckface makes your face look narrower and your cheekbones more pronounced and your lips fuller. People who do it know that it looks fake and silly, but they don't look fat and they look a little more like supermodels, and that's really what matters.
Evidence for this theory is that the same people of my acquaintance who now do duckface on FB were the same people who insisted on only being shot from one angle, vetting every picture before assenting or deleting it, and refused to be in pictures if they thought they looked fat that day. Now, they just do duckface!
So they can look thin, modelesque, *and* ironic at the same time. Win-win.
his family had only had about a year or so to start building a relationship with him
and?? I've had 16 months with my son and love him more than anyone I have known for the last 29 years of my life. I loved him more than anyone the moment I gave birth to him. Length of time knowing him/building a relationship with him doesn't mean anything.
I respectfully disagree that length of the relationship "doesn't mean anything" in terms of a bond with someone. My relationship with my family and MH (built over many years) is stronger than my bond with my niece (who is 2 months old). That doesn't mean I love my niece any less than my sister, my parents, or MH. It just means that I would be at least as (and perhaps more) devastated if something were to happen to one of my other family members who I had a stronger bond with. Maybe that will change when I become a mom, but it's my opinion for now (told you it was UO). I don't think your opinion is unjustified; it's just not the same as mine on this subject.
Edited because I can't seem to spell today!
------QBF-------
When it comes to your child, length of time means nothing. That's what I was referring to. The thought of someone in my family passing is devastating...the thought of my son passing? I would want to die. I know that sounds nuts...that's what being a mom does to me
I hate when people try to relate to literally EVERYTHING. It seems like you can no longer say anything without someone jumping in and saying , "oh that happened to me, but it was even WORSE..." or "I have a friend that this happened to, so I know what you are going through." Can't people just listen to someone without thinking about what they are going to say next?
Re: UO Thursday 1/28
DS: Born 5-17-16
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
My face when I read this!
DS: Born 5-17-16
The woman I knew was a successful attorney who was driving home from the airport late the night she was killed, after returning home from a professional networking conference. She was in her early 30's, owned her own successful law firm, was recently engaged, committed her spare time to doing pro bono legal work for the city's poor, and was an all-around good person with tons of friends and a family who loved her very much. Where was the public outrage for her? Sure, she wasn't a child, but - just like the child - she did nothing wrong and was in no way responsible for what happened to her. She left behind a fiance, family, friends, and clients who needed her and who had built relationships with her over many years that are now shattered. The toddler who died recently hadn't done anything with his life yet (maybe he would have done something great, or maybe he would have grown up to be a criminal - who knows), he had no friends yet, and his family had only had about a year or so to start building a relationship with him. So, why then did the public think his life was somehow worth more than hers? I'm not saying I think the toddler's life was worth less, but I don't see why people thought it was worth more or why people were more upset when it happened to him than when it happened to the woman I knew. In sum, I don't get why people think an innocent child's death is more egregious than an innocent adult's death. I just don't think the loss of the life that "could have been" is any sadder than the loss of the life that "was." Go ahead, flame away!
Oh, and I kinda liked the glucose drink too
Remember ever snapping a picture or two back in the day of you and another person with your camera, and it was infrequent, not a 15x daily thing? I took selfies before selfies became 'cool'
@ladysamlady and @txmamatobe - I didn't mind it either! I made DH take a sip first to see what it was like!
My UO this week is that I don't understand the appeal of this swing, even if a lot of women swear by them. It reminds me of something out of the Jetsons...
Orange! I could have had a second bottle.
DS: Born 5-17-16
Edited because I can't seem to spell today!
On the flip side, it sounds like she had an amazing life--really impressive and already having done a lot of good and built loving relationships--while the toddler didn't have a chance to have one...
But the outrage should be equal, I agree. The driver did the same thing in both cases, and should be regarded the same.
@vinerie Duckface makes your face look narrower and your cheekbones more pronounced and your lips fuller. People who do it know that it looks fake and silly, but they don't look fat and they look a little more like supermodels, and that's really what matters.
Evidence for this theory is that the same people of my acquaintance who now do duckface on FB were the same people who insisted on only being shot from one angle, vetting every picture before assenting or deleting it, and refused to be in pictures if they thought they looked fat that day. Now, they just do duckface!
So they can look thin, modelesque, *and* ironic at the same time. Win-win.
I will dedicate the only slight dry heave I just had reading that to you, dreadddddddddddding it.
My MAJOR pet peeve is someone posts a video selfie talking in the car. While driving.
Edited because I can't seem to spell today!
------QBF-------
When it comes to your child, length of time means nothing. That's what I was referring to. The thought of someone in my family passing is devastating...the thought of my son passing? I would want to die. I know that sounds nuts...that's what being a mom does to me
I hate when people try to relate to literally EVERYTHING. It seems like you can no longer say anything without someone jumping in and saying , "oh that happened to me, but it was even WORSE..." or "I have a friend that this happened to, so I know what you are going through." Can't people just listen to someone without thinking about what they are going to say next?