Hi ladies. I wanted to see if anyone had any recommendations on how to mentally prepare for a transfer. I had my ER earlier this month and am schedule for a FET on March 4. I was SO excited and generally pretty positive during my stim days and during the ER process. Sure, I had my hormonal moments but overall I felt pretty good. I met with my doc yesterday to schedule my FET and after I left I just started crying. I feel so overwhelmed with anxiety about the part of IVF where we will determine if it will result in a BFP or a BFN. This is my first transfer but I have experienced a chemical pregnancy from an IUI previously and the grief from that has left me terrified to try again. Just thinking about being in the TWW makes me want to cry. I know that is a difficult time for everyone but I want to get my mind right before March. I don't want to go into it thinking I will get a BFN or experience another loss. I don't even know if I feel comfortable going through with the transfer if I'm in this negative place. Blah I hate hate hate this process.
**BFP and loss warning**
Me: 29
DH: 29
Us: Married Valentine's Day, 2015
DH: No issues.
Me: PCOS, unexplained infertility (whatever that means!!)
June 2015 Medicated TI cycle: BFN
July 2015: Medicated TI cycle: BFN
August 2015: IUI: BFP. Chemical pregnancy
October 2015: IUI: BFN
January 2016: Egg retrieval: 10 frozen embryos!
March 2016: FET Cycle- 2 embryos transferred!: BFP !
Re: Overwhelmed with anxiety about FET (Loss mentioned)
Also, using relaxation techniques can help. Maybe try meditation, acupuncture, yoga, massage, bubble bath..... Plan activities you enjoy during the dreaded TWW . I always schedule date nights, a girls night or double dates. Treat yourself to a manicure or something special at the store. Most of all take time for yourself!!
I am not sure if you are religious but praying and reading scripture has also helped me immensely. I will be thinking about you and wish you the best of luck! Know that we are all here if you need to vent or need support
Hey @chicandbubbly thank you for your sweet response! I am currently seeing a counselor and that definitely has helped. I feel good after I see her and then a few days later I'm back in my negative spot. I know I need to be better about doing yoga and meditating. Acupuncture has been great, too though.
I am religious but to be honest this whole struggle has really tested my faith. I also need to pray more and get back in touch with my faith so I can be more hopeful and grateful for all the things I do have.
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I've done both now, ER and ET in November and FET last week.
For my body the FET was much more relaxing which made it possible to use my energy on my mind.
I do/did go to an acupuncturist, I feel so comfortable at her place that I feel so relaxed afterwards.
Planning stuff for your TWW does help, but do plan like you can easily cancel without feeling bad. I was pretty exhausted last week.
Maybe you can book a trip away?
It's very hard to not stress and worry about that BFN, as that's all we have had. But try to remember that it should be your time soon, and whom says it's not this try?
Only go forward with it when you are ready...I wasn't ready after my ER and ET to start a new FET. My body was still full of hormones and I lost all control. I hopped over a month, and then when AF came I was ready and it was the first time I was this relaxed.
So take your time. I'm sending you lots of positive vibes xoxo
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***TW****MC mentioned & BFP mentioned***
TTC#1 since July 2014
AMH 0.1, DOR, Poor responder
Moved to Prague, Czech Republic for IVF
DE attempt in Czech Republic!!
March trip to Prague canceled due to Pancreatitis.
Headed to Prague April 30
3 different donors resulted in 1 PGS tested embryo and 1 fresh embryo
BFP on 5/15/16 at 5dp5dt
My blog: www.wearethehammitts.blogspot.com
I wish you all the best and my fx that all goes well. Try to focus on the good stuff right now. I have my cheering team that 100% positive, and they swear everything is going to work perfectly during our up coming IVF cycle (fx). This. Way I get to be cautiously optimistic but still have all the positive energy surrounding me.
Thinking about you.
Beta 5/9/2016 BFP!!
Embryo transfer scheduled for April 28, 2016 and beta test May 9, 2016 (day after Mother's Day!)
Transfer Meds include: Lupron Depot (4/1), Minivelle Patch (every 3rd day), Estradiol (3x daily), Amoxicillin, Progesterone in Oil, Methylprednisonlone. Lovenox and baby asprin added after transfer.
3/22/16 - Sono Saline ultrasound cyst to be aspirated on 4/1/16 if not cleared up by 3/29 US - It cleared on its own
Retrieval 3/4/16 - 26 eggs retrieved, 23 mature, 20 fertilized, 14 embryos currently frozen
Starting IVF Stims on +/- Feb 22, 2016
HSG scheduled for 1-26-16 - All clear "beautiful uterus" (though inverted)
Switched clinics and now prepping for IVF in February / March
Trying to conceive since November 2012
This is the Hypnosis for IVF that I have used in prior IVF cycles. I really love it. I can so relate to feeling anxiety. The cycle where I got pregnant I used the above mentioned playlist as well as this one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RQLXTF7FT_c
It is only 10 minutes long and totally doable each evening. I picture myself very pregnant during this meditation. Sending you big (creepy internet) hugs.
***TW****MC mentioned & BFP mentioned***
TTC#1 since July 2014
AMH 0.1, DOR, Poor responder
Moved to Prague, Czech Republic for IVF
DE attempt in Czech Republic!!
March trip to Prague canceled due to Pancreatitis.
Headed to Prague April 30
3 different donors resulted in 1 PGS tested embryo and 1 fresh embryo
BFP on 5/15/16 at 5dp5dt
My blog: www.wearethehammitts.blogspot.com
I would recommend jumping on the February/March IVF/FET thread. We're a fun group, and it is great having others to talk to who are going through the same thing at the same time. I too dread the TWW, but luckily at my clinic I only have to wait 10 days after transfer! I try to keep busy during my wait. I especially enjoy binge watching tv shows!
Me - 28, Lean PCOS
DH - 31
Married June 2010, TTC since March 2014
Blog: ourbinarystar.com
FET cycle #3 Transfer July 28th 2016, Triplets born healthy on February 26th 2017 at 33w1d!
https://www.circlebloom.com/frozen-embryo-transfer-program/
https://vibrationalchild.com/
I've found them really helpful in getting ready for our upcoming treatment cycle. Big hugs to you. I know how emotional this process is. Like @AandDM2014 said - you should join us on the Feb/Mar board.
Started TTC April 2011
Me: 32, DH: 32
Diagnosis: Endometriosis
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