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Wondering if I'm doing something wrong

Knottie16288692Knottie16288692 member
in November 2015 Moms
A friend of mine had a her baby in December. Her daughter is almost two months and my son is almost three months. My son was born with very good head control. The pediatrician couldn't get over how well he could hold his head up for a newborn. I didnt really think much about tummy time. My mom said she never did it and her kids turned out fine lol I buy toys and he shows little interest in them. I actually read to him or talk with him the most. He loves when you make funny faces. My friend told me her daughter was rolling over and almost picking herself up during tummy time. So I decided to try this tummy time business... my son hates it and he most certainly cant pick himself up and he's not trying to roll over. He just screams. I researched and I found where you just introduce it to him a few brief times a day and use a boppy pillow. The boppy pillow helps some but he still doesnt try to lift his arms. He kicks like crazy and can hold his head up. Should I be worried? Admittedly I hold him a lot, but I've been trying to break out of that. I know kids develop at their own pace and I'm definitely going to talk to my pediatrician about it. I just wondered if anyone else was experiencing the same thing?
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  • JacqwhitJacqwhit member
    I am in the same boat! I do hold LO a lot though; I hardly ever put him down. We tried tummy time a few times in the first month or so and he just screamed until I picked him up. Now, I've just started trying again because my pediatrician told me he should be trying to roll over, and he still hates it so much. And he definitely isn't trying to roll over!
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  • Knottie16288692Knottie16288692 member
    I was too scared to try tummy time in the first month but maybe thats where I went wrong! I read that if you just stick to it they get used to it. I try to use toys and I even get down on the floor with him! Occasionally I'll sit him on top of me and he tolerates that for about two minutes lol I can't stand to listen to him cry the way he carries on. He likes play time when I prop him up, but God forbid I put the child on his stomach lol Every week he does something new so I'm hoping in the next week he will show some signs of new development as far as rolling over or do a mini push up. Good luck to you!
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  • Jtk13Jtk13 member
    Try tummy time on a tabletop or a surface where you can get eye level with LO. My baby (8 wks) only likes it if she can see me. I also only do tummy time in that (very brief) time when she is awake and not hungry but hasn't just eaten. I don't get that window of time most days, haha.
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  • ShianeNicoleShianeNicole member
    @Jtk13 We are in the same boat with that time frame. Elliot hates tummy time. She's 9 weeks and just screams or goes to sleep. She can lift/hold her head while I hold her but she won't even attempt it while doing tummy time.
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  • kmd91kmd91 member
    Waylon is almost 12 weeks and is just now making an effort when it comes to tummy time on the floor. Before he would just keep his face planted on the floor and scream his head off. So I did most of our tummy time on me, because then he would at least work those muscles. Now he will tolerate it for a couple minutes and pick his head up and look around. Yesterday I even got him to crack a smile during tummy time. But I definitely do have to time it just right when he's in a decent mood.
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  • Ceridwen77Ceridwen77 member
    https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12650516/tummy-time
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  • Unica1302+Unica1302+ member
    @Knottie16288692 my situation is exactly like yours. I go back in forth in being worried about it and not. Baby saw pediatrician yesterday, we were told to keep trying for muscle development but dr had no concerns. Baby is doing different things everyday so I think she's ok, Dr mentioned it seemed baby wanted to stand during the exam,lol. Maybe baby will skip steps...jk.
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  • sarahsnowballsarahsnowball member
    You're right when you say that all babies develop at their own pace. There will likely be someone who tells you about how their child hit each milestone (as your child approaches each one) and you can't help but wonder if your child is 'normal' and if you're doing things right. I experienced this with DS1 - even when he would hit a milestone early I ended up worrying about that too!
    Keep doing what you're doing and don't worry, it sounds like you're doing a great job.
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  • Unica1302+Unica1302+ member
    Also as a side note- have you seen this rolling over happen with your friends baby? My mother is completely enamored with my daughter and swears my two month old is "trying to sit up"...no lady she passing gas shes just leaning forward bc shes propped up on a pillow. And my baby did do tummy time 2-3 times in the first week. I propped her on a pillow and she promptly "rolled over"- cause of the incline... I'm not saying your friend is lying but people do exaggerate sometimes.. .
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  • kmd91kmd91 member
    Unica1302+ said:

    Also as a side note- have you seen this rolling over happen with your friends baby? My mother is completely enamored with my daughter and swears my two month old is "trying to sit up"...no lady she passing gas shes just leaning forward bc shes propped up on a pillow. And my baby did do tummy time 2-3 times in the first week. I propped her on a pillow and she promptly "rolled over"- cause of the incline... I'm not saying your friend is lying but people do exaggerate sometimes.. .

    Yes, this! I always take that into consideration when people are talking about when their kids do what. A lot of mommies tend to think so highly of their children they may exaggerate their achievements. Like this little boy I nannied. At 6 months he was making attempts to crawl, maybe occasionally getting a knee forward. It wasn't until about 7.5 months he was actually crawling, but his mom says he crawled at 6 months to everyone.
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  • DogLoverX3DogLoverX3 member
    edited January 2016
    I just wanted to pop in here and say that just like all things with kids, they all develop so differently, whether 2 months or 2 years! My daughter started rolling at 2 weeks and never stopped, but she was on her stomach A LOT because of GERD. My nephew, 8 weeks older, didn't roll till just recently at 3.5 months. Here's a pic of them together, and you can clearly see the difference in them. This pic Charlotte is 10 weeks and Thomas is 18 weeks. Her pediatrician is absolutely fine with Thomas' progress, so I don't think it's something to worry about. He might crawl or walk before C, or vise versa. But there is such a huge range of normal at this age I think?


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  • mamavbsmamavbs member
    Baby centre says at 3 months to roll over is very advanced... I personally don't know any baby who has rolled properly before 4! I'd say your baby is probably in the majority. Don't panic and feel like you have to put him down more, these early days are so precious and you don't want to miss them. If he's on you with his belly to you, that's good as he can practise lifting his head. Also on your knees, or maybe on a sofa with you. I've even got on the the play mat with my son so he's distracted.

    But as lots of people have said- every baby is different. It's a slippery slope comparing kids! By all means if you have serious concerns then bring them up with your dr but your son will do things in his own time :) My ds rolled at 4 months, was crawling at 6 and walking at 11. I thought he was so advanced... Then my DD came and rolled at 4, crawled at 5 and literally just stood up and walked across the room at 8 months 3 weeks!!!! (She is tiny so it looked hilarious, like someone had wound up a baby doll). With my youngest I'm actually hoping he's a bit slower with all of it, I want my baby for as long as poss!

    Anyway, you're not doing anything wrong. Find what works for you two and ignore anyone else
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  • Christa410Christa410 member
    If your baby has a favorite toy etc that's a good start. My little man absolutely loves this leapfrog puppy "my pal scout". It sings songs to him and lights up and he tolerates tummy time to look at the stuffed animal. We don't do it a lot but each time he tolerates it better and longer.

    Also he may have rolled over the first time to try and watch TV. Oops. (He really seems to be enthralled by the TV as well....) He's only rolled from belly to back once since then too.
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  • Ceridwen77Ceridwen77 member
    edited January 2016
    And remember rolling over early isn't a good thing. It can be s sign of abnormal reflexes/cerebral palsy.
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  • Pontot31Pontot31 member
    Ceridwen77 said:

    And remember rolling over early isn't a good thing. It can be s sign of abnormal reflexes/cerebral palsy.

    *Can* be. My daughter was rolling consistently by 2 months and has no issues. My son has no desire.
    And just because DD rolled early didn't mean she did anything else early. She didn't crawl until 8 months and walked the day before she turned one.
    Babies all do things on their own time.
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  • ElleMF728ElleMF728 member
    I did want to pop in and add that our moms didn't do or need tummy time because we were put to sleep on our tummies so there were a lot of opportunities to practice these skills. Part of the emphasis is because our LOs spend so much time on their backs. 

    Don't worry about being behind, all babies develop at their own pace.  DS2 rolled over fairly often around 6 weeks and then lost the skills shortly after and wasn't able to again until he was older. Being worn in certain positions count as tummy time if your LO really fights it.  
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  • doodleoodledoodleoodle member
    Christa410 said:
    If your baby has a favorite toy etc that's a good start. My little man absolutely loves this leapfrog puppy "my pal scout". It sings songs to him and lights up and he tolerates tummy time to look at the stuffed animal. We don't do it a lot but each time he tolerates it better and longer. Also he may have rolled over the first time to try and watch TV. Oops. (He really seems to be enthralled by the TV as well....) He's only rolled from belly to back once since then too.
    We have My Pal Violet! Haha that's how we get through tummy time too. My LO loves Violet.
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