So, as I mentioned in my intro post last week, it feels like every person on Facebook is currently pregnant (except for me, of course), men included (they like to share their wives details). I've been trying to find ways to get away from their lives, yet still be engaged and show my support (it's not their fault that I'm silently suffering). I've started commenting and liking their posts, then in the top right corner, I click on "turn off notifications for this post" so that I don't have to see everyone else posting after mine and keep being reminded. Then I unfollow them for a few days and go visit when I'm back in a manageable mentality. Anyone else have some social media hacks for those who are ttcal?
Re: How to deal with pg friends on FB
I also stopped following friends that are due over the next few months, I didn't think I could handle it at first.
BFP1 04/24/2015 EDD Dec 2015 MMC 10W5d;
BFP 2 09/25/2015 EDD June 2016 MMC 9wks;
BFP 3 03/22/2016 EDD Dec 6th 2016
I started noticing that no matter how good my mood was before I'd log on Facebook, I'd always log off at least mildly depressed. For me it was an easy decision once I realized that. I decided that keeping up with the lives of people I don't know well enough to even know what's going on in their life otherwise simply wasn't worth robbing myself of my mental health and happiness. Obviously, my family and close friends I still see and talk to on the phone and such. So I know what is going on in their lives without Facebook. I don't feel as if I've lost anything except an unnecessary source of pain.
But everyone is different and you may not be ready to give up Facebook. My advice, if you're not ready to give it up completely would be to at least pare it down to the people you actually really want to know about. Like ask yourself "if this person got pregnant and I didn't know, would I feel like I'd missed out on something important? Would it upset me more not to know in the long run than it would to know?" If the answer is yes, keep them as a friend. If the answer is no just get rid of them. There is no point in hurting yourself to see announcements from people you don't really care about. The average person has "friends" from Facebook they haven't seen or talked to in years. That's just silly. You don't need to know that the girl you had English 101 with and haven't spoken to since is having triplets or something. Once you've pared your friends list down to people you legitimately care about then at least you're only having to be upset my announcements from people that, once you've taken some time, you'll be happy for. Although, I'd assume most people on this list you'd see and/or talk to without Facebook. So back to how you could probably just get rid of Facebook.
As far as how I personally feel about Facebook in my own life: F*** Facebook. Seriously.
TTC#1: January 2015- September 2016
Infertility, Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
Rainbow baby born June 6, 2017 ❤️
Baby #2 due June 12, 2018
And I need FB to keep in touch with friends and family that live far away - I've got close family (e.g., Nonna and sister) in Italy for example. I don't call them much, I hate the phone, so I use FB for that. I need to pare down Instagram, there is at least one person who I don't know well who is due in the same month I was due. I'm not going to want to see that - and looking at her past month of photos, I won't be missing anything interesting...
Me: 33 & DH: 33
Married: 07/2006
TTC: 10/2015
BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017
I still have Instagram though. I follow a lot less people on there so it's manageable.
@NamelessAria your reply on this topic is bang on. Agreed agreed agreed.
TTC #1 started Aug 2014
BFP Apr 3 2015
natural M/C April 20 2015 @ 6w6d
BFP Nov 18 2015
natural M/C Nov 23 2015 @ 5w4d.
BFP #1 Nov 2015 ended in MC Dec 26 2015
BFP #2 Feb 2016, EDD Nov 8 2016