Change of Heart About MIL Vent

Re: Change of Heart About MIL Vent

• rachellegiacco member

  January 2016

  I totally get that. My husband had been a work in progress for 5 years now. Granted he has come a long way from the 20 year old I met but he is still a child. I tell him that he is the role model our daughter is going to compare her bf to. So if he wants a good SIL he better set the bar high. Seems to really work. But he is terrified of her dating so I use that.

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• LoveLee85 member

  January 2016

  My MIL waited on her DH, and my son, hand and foot. She also worked full time, did 100% of the cleaning, cooking and child raising! This made my one time clean boyfriend, a VERY messy adult. He literally quit cleaning and doing things when I moved in. I have to resort to post it note reminders and nagging to get him to attempt to do his part. It's so frustrating. I have been working on " Put your dirty laundry in the laundry room" for 3 years now. AHHHH! I could train a monkey faster than him. He grew up like that but I didn't. I don't want to call his way 'wrong' it's just different, and unfair!! My son will learn how to pick up after himself, clean and do chores. All I can do is break the cycle and teach him that household things are SHARED responsibilities. Do your part.

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• ambernhelland member

  January 2016

  I feel you! My hubby grew up with a mom who was too busy doing drugs and other stupid crap to even think about cleaning or feeding her kids and his stepdad worked nights and slept all day. His bio Dad lived about 8 hours away and didn't meet him until he was about 14. FIL has told me horror stories about how dirty the house was when he went to pick my hubby up for visits. Garbage up to your ankles...
  When we started dating 7 years ago I of course knew none of this and he kept his house super clean, we moved in together 6 months later and he slowly stopped trying to impress me haha. Now I'm staying at home with the kids and don't ask much of him since he works hard to support us, BUT if you take your socks off when you get home put them in the damn laundry basket, not in the middle of my floor! Or rinse dishes and stick them in the dishwasher instead of just dumping them in the sink! Men.

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• mdk2015 member

  January 2016

  Im going to teach mine how to shampoo carpets today & how much easier it is to leave dirty boots at the door!

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• imsoexcited915 member

  January 2016

  @rachellegiacco that is an excellent suggestion I am going to use! I like the thought process of saying he is DD role model for a good man and set the bar high for our future SIL.

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