Listen, guys, I think all of us are making a really big mistake by not living in Canada. Perhaps we should buy a plot of land, start a commune, and raise our babies/yell at each other for a year.
Come one, come all. We welcome anyone and anything north of the boarder.
Depending on who gets elected for president, I might have to take that offer.
Listen, guys, I think all of us are making a really big mistake by not living in Canada. Perhaps we should buy a plot of land, start a commune, and raise our babies/yell at each other for a year.
Come one, come all. We welcome anyone and anything north of the boarder.
Depending on who gets elected for president, I might have to take that offer.
I'm saving up PTO at the moment, but do plan to take two weeks prior to my due date off regardless. I also loathe my job and owe them nothing so I don't really feel bad at all.
Ditto. Though I'm planning to work til the end of June (Due the 4th), so unless baby comes early I should have a week or so. If I wasn't going to milk them for the benefits during maternity leave I'd just give them the big ol finger at the end of the day.
My heart breaks for you in the states who only get 3 or 4 months of mat leave! That's not enough at all. Maybe I'm spoiled but in Canada, I'm going off at 30-32 weeks and taking a full year once baby is born. And even then I cringe at the thought of leaving them with a sitter.
Listen, guys, I think all of us are making a really big mistake by not living in Canada. Perhaps we should buy a plot of land, start a commune, and raise our babies/yell at each other for a year.
Come one, come all. We welcome anyone and anything north of the boarder.
Depending on who gets elected for president, I might have to take that offer.
Listen, guys, I think all of us are making a really big mistake by not living in Canada. Perhaps we should buy a plot of land, start a commune, and raise our babies/yell at each other for a year.
Come one, come all. We welcome anyone and anything north of the boarder.
Depending on who gets elected for president, I might have to take that offer.
Listen, guys, I think all of us are making a really big mistake by not living in Canada. Perhaps we should buy a plot of land, start a commune, and raise our babies/yell at each other for a year.
Come one, come all. We welcome anyone and anything north of the boarder.
Depending on who gets elected for president, I might have to take that offer.
I would trade this:
For this:
Any day!
He's also a feminist! This ^ "Because it's 2015" was in response to someone asking why he prioritized having 50% women on his cabinet. His cabinet is also pretty diverse which is awesome. He has talked about raising his daughter to see herself as equal to boys, and his sons to be feminists, and said "we shouldn't be afraid of the word feminist. Men and women should use it to describe themselves anytime they want". I just love him.
With DD I planned to work as long as possible, but I was put off a month early due to blood pressure. The month before was a medical leave at full pay, and then my maternity leave started on my due date (I was almost 2 weeks overdue). Had to go back to work a few weeks before my daughter's 1st birthday.
Look into your maternity leave policy - For mine (Canada) you could set your start date of maternity leave whenever, but the latest it could be was your due date (although I didn't have to have a doctor verify my due date, it was self-submitted). I got a year off, on maternity leave EI from the government (a percentage of my wages), and a top up from work for the first 5 months.
It was kind of nice having a month off to relax and prepare, but it wasn't really necessary. I don't plan to do that this time around if I can help it. Since I don't have a position (I'm casual) I would not get medical leave from my employer, so if I get put off for medical reasons I'll have to start mat leave early. I also won't get the maternity leave top up.
I'm planning on stopping work a month before. Most of it will be paid vacation time. It may not be necessary but I am nervous about my epilepsy and the lead up to (and including) giving birth.
I'm saving up PTO at the moment, but do plan to take two weeks prior to my due date off regardless. I also loathe my job and owe them nothing so I don't really feel bad at all.
Ditto. Though I'm planning to work til the end of June (Due the 4th), so unless baby comes early I should have a week or so. If I wasn't going to milk them for the benefits during maternity leave I'd just give them the big ol finger at the end of the day.
Yup, DH even said stick it out so you can stick it to them. What's up 5 min notice. I was thinking of even bringing the baby in and be like "look can I just drop my badge off we have important things to do now".
My heart breaks for you in the states who only get 3 or 4 months of mat leave! That's not enough at all. Maybe I'm spoiled but in Canada, I'm going off at 30-32 weeks and taking a full year once baby is born. And even then I cringe at the thought of leaving them with a sitter.
Please don't "cringe". Having your child in daycare or with a nanny isn't the plague. I know you probably didn't mean it to come off that way, but it sounded a little insulting.
I was on bed rest last time for 2 months due to PTL. I'm a little concerned about what it's going to be like to work while super pregnant, but I'm a teacher, so I'm going to try to make it until the end of the school year (June 8).
I was lucky with my 1st, because he was born at the beginning of August and I was done teaching mid-June. This time I will probably stop 4 weeks before my due date, which will mean missing the last week or so of school. I had SPD issues last time and getting around was very painful, so I'm guessing that may happen again this time. I won't be able to use any sick days after the baby is born since its summer break. Not sure if I'm allowed to use sick days beforehand if my midwife gives me a note.
This is a good thread I haven't thought about it I'm planning on working until I pop but I might take pto around due date if I haven't gone yet but without much pto it seems like a risk if I went past that to have to go back to work
It's something that's been on my mind, that's why I needed all your ladies point of view, Thank you.
My heart breaks for you in the states who only get 3 or 4 months of mat leave! That's not enough at all. Maybe I'm spoiled but in Canada, I'm going off at 30-32 weeks and taking a full year once baby is born. And even then I cringe at the thought of leaving them with a sitter.
Please don't "cringe". Having your child in daycare or with a nanny isn't the plague. I know you probably didn't mean it to come off that way, but it sounded a little insulting.
Thank God I have a family that will be there for me and my baby, when I go back to work , Even though they also work and have their own lives , but thats live , not everyone has it easy , Thank you Ladies for all the feedback.
School gets out mid-June, so I plan on working until the end of the school year. Then, hopefully, I'll spend a few weeks sitting my massively pregnant ass in the ocean until the baby comes. I'm definitely taking off September, and I'm up in the air about when and how I'll go back next year. My boss is cool with me bringing the baby, and she's also open to me working anywhere on the spectrum of part time to full time. So right now I think I'll plan on taking the baby into school with me for 4-5 hours a day, as long as it's not a screamer.
I plan on working until I go into labor lol. I have a desk job so not much physical activity. I think I'll be fine to wait it out and then get as much time off after LO is born as possible.
My heart breaks for you in the states who only get 3 or 4 months of mat leave! That's not enough at all. Maybe I'm spoiled but in Canada, I'm going off at 30-32 weeks and taking a full year once baby is born. And even then I cringe at the thought of leaving them with a sitter.
Please don't "cringe". Having your child in daycare or with a nanny isn't the plague. I know you probably didn't mean it to come off that way, but it sounded a little insulting.
I don't know if I'm off base but I don't think she meant anything judgy by saying she cringes at the thought of leaving her baby with a sitter. I read it as meaning that she knows she has to do it once her mat leave ends and she is not looking forward to that stage.
I love my job, I love working, and I always knew I'd be a working mother. Now that we're in a good flow I think working outside of the home makes me a better mom (for me, personally - SAHM, WAHM, whatever works for each person is great). BUT - I dreaded starting work and sobbed every day for a week the whole drive to work when my leave ended. I felt so guilty and I was heartbroken about the time I was missing. Then, it got easier, DD was happy, well adjusted, and thriving, and I came home refreshed and excited to spend quality time with her. We got to know and trust our daycare provider and soon I could go a whole day without worrying about her. I am also thrilled at the idea of being home with DD (and new baby) again when I go on mat leave, and also hate the thought of leaving my next baby for the first time just as much as I did with DD. I'm sure I'll cry. I know daycare can be good for kids, and good for parents, that doesn't make it easy! (for me, anyways. I have a friend who LOVED going back to work, awesome mom, loves her kids, had no guilt and no tears)
I'm planning on working up to the due date (July 26th) if my doctor doesn't put me on bed rest first. I'm kind of hoping they do because standing up for 8 hours a day, 40 hours a week is already getting extremely tiring.
I have an in home daycare so I will be working until end of June. The families I provide childcare for are teachers. So I have my summers off, but because of this I will only have maybe 4 or 5 weeks of maternity leave before starting back up in September and that is only if the baby arrives around due date. If this one is like my first she was 2 weeks overdue, so I will get even less time.
I will work right until I'm due. You're going to want every single one of your leave days after the baby! I worked Friday, water broke at 4:30am Saturday.
If you can wait to decide, I would. You might feel completely fine to continue working right up till labor. Even if you take off right before your due date many FTM especially will go a week or two overdue. If you are worried about making it to the hospital in time more than likely you will have plenty of time to make it home, get your bags, and then head to the hospital. You don't go in as soon as contractions start. The general rule is contractions are 5 minutes apart, lasting about 1 minute, for 1 hour then you go in.
With my first I was 6cm at my last appt and was absolutely terrified I wouldn't make it to the hospital. Terrified. I got to the hospital at 1:30am and he wasn't born till almost 9am.
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I stopped working a few weeks ago. DH and I just moved back from TN and I'm going to be a SAHM and it didn't make any sense for me to work for a few months.
I'm planning to work until I go into labor. I can only take 6 weeks of maternity leave as I won't be eligible for FMLA and any time I take off before the birth will cut into my time after baby is born. Fortunately our work really slows down in the summer and my boss is really awesome so I'll probably be able to come in late and leave early if necessary some days in the final stretch.
I'm a teacher. With my son, the last day of school was June 13th and he was born June 20th. I worked the whole time. Yes, in the end it wasn't very fun. However, I wouldn't want to take time off before unless I have to. My biggest fear is being put on bed rest and being unable to work through the pregnancy. So, this time, I'm not worried at all. Hopefully everything goes smoothly and I am able to work until the last day of school.
Re: When stop working.,
Very good point.
Married: May 16th 2015
I would trade this:
For this:
Any day!
I would trade this:
For this:
Any day!
Edited - qbf
brb, moving to Canada.
He's also a feminist! This ^ "Because it's 2015" was in response to someone asking why he prioritized having 50% women on his cabinet. His cabinet is also pretty diverse which is awesome. He has talked about raising his daughter to see herself as equal to boys, and his sons to be feminists, and said "we shouldn't be afraid of the word feminist. Men and women should use it to describe themselves anytime they want". I just love him.
Look into your maternity leave policy - For mine (Canada) you could set your start date of maternity leave whenever, but the latest it could be was your due date (although I didn't have to have a doctor verify my due date, it was self-submitted). I got a year off, on maternity leave EI from the government (a percentage of my wages), and a top up from work for the first 5 months.
It was kind of nice having a month off to relax and prepare, but it wasn't really necessary. I don't plan to do that this time around if I can help it. Since I don't have a position (I'm casual) I would not get medical leave from my employer, so if I get put off for medical reasons I'll have to start mat leave early. I also won't get the maternity leave top up.
Married: May 16th 2015
DD #2: EDD July 2016
I love my job, I love working, and I always knew I'd be a working mother. Now that we're in a good flow I think working outside of the home makes me a better mom (for me, personally - SAHM, WAHM, whatever works for each person is great). BUT - I dreaded starting work and sobbed every day for a week the whole drive to work when my leave ended. I felt so guilty and I was heartbroken about the time I was missing. Then, it got easier, DD was happy, well adjusted, and thriving, and I came home refreshed and excited to spend quality time with her. We got to know and trust our daycare provider and soon I could go a whole day without worrying about her. I am also thrilled at the idea of being home with DD (and new baby) again when I go on mat leave, and also hate the thought of leaving my next baby for the first time just as much as I did with DD. I'm sure I'll cry. I know daycare can be good for kids, and good for parents, that doesn't make it easy! (for me, anyways. I have a friend who LOVED going back to work, awesome mom, loves her kids, had no guilt and no tears)
With my first I was 6cm at my last appt and was absolutely terrified I wouldn't make it to the hospital. Terrified. I got to the hospital at 1:30am and he wasn't born till almost 9am.
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