anyone planning the next LO already?

Re: anyone planning the next LO already?

• mcdoug211 member

  January 2016

  You're not the only one! I think about it daily that I would be ok if I surprise got pregnant any day lol he's ok with more but he's got 2 that come for the summer so the smart choice is prob to see how this summer goes and my
  Little is older before we have another but I'm ready for number 2! ))

  Report1 Reply
• Loading the player...
• Ceridwen77 member

  January 2016

  https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12657166/dont-tell-my-hubby

  Report2 Reply
• itstheblackwidowbaby member

  January 2016

  Talk to your doctor about your time frame - I was told to avoid getting pregnant until Spawn is at least a year old to allow my uterus to fully heal from my c-section. She worded along the lines of 'if you got pregnant you'd probably be fine, but I advise against it just in case'.

  Report0 Reply
• ShianeNicole member

  January 2016

  Thank you for that post! I hadn't seen that yet. I'm looking more for advice of people who have been there. Like @itstheblackwidowbaby said to discuss the time with the doctor. He said I could have more but we didn't discuss when. We were just looking more at my blood/body and how it went back to normal again. Well not normal for the average person, but normal for me. Thank you! I would be ok with waiting a year but not much longer than that. I will talk to my doctors.

  Report0 Reply
• smnewby member

  January 2016

  My SIL is an OB and she said there are a lot of recent studies that really point to waiting 18m before having another child. I have friends w children spaced closer and they are all healthy but appearantly it increases the risk of autism and a few other conditions.

  Report0 Reply
• cbolton19 member

  January 2016

  smnewby said:

  My SIL is an OB and she said there are a lot of recent studies that really point to waiting 18m before having another child. I have friends w children spaced closer and they are all healthy but appearantly it increases the risk of autism and a few other conditions.

  Do you have any links to those studies? I hadn't heard that. We'd like to start trying for the next at the end of the summer. So the closest they would be is 18 months. I'm definitely excited for another one!

  Report0 Reply
• smnewby member

  January 2016 edited January 2016

  I wanted my kids to be very close in age too. Thats how we ended up on the subject. I'll ask her for links if they are availible online.
  
  Im at work but I did google it. Mayo clinic & cdc have papers & articles online with recommendations and what the second child is at an increased risk for.
  
  

  Report1 Reply
• rubirubi89 member

  January 2016

  After being up from 3 to 6am because my son did NOT want to go to sleep on a TUESDAY, the only thing I'm planning is the giant cup of coffee I'm waiting for as I type this. Good luck with that.

  Report12 Reply
• cbolton19 member

  January 2016

  @smnewby Thank you! I'll check that out. Good to know before we start planning so we can weigh the risks.

  Report0 Reply
• MargaretC5 member

  January 2016

  My OB recommended a year before trying get pregnant again since I had a CS, but mentioned waiting a year is good for all women. She said if I got pregnant before a year the pregnancy would be considered higher risk and no VBAC.
  I BF DS and did not get my period back until he was 14 months old, then got pregnant with this one when he was 16 months. No real advise so far. I like the age gap we have. About getting a 2nd crib we chose not to and just got DS a toddler bed. DS is very easy going and handles change well, if he had a harder time with change I probably would of gotten a 2nd crib. We had no issues changing him to the toddler bed (I think he was about 20 months when he changed).

  

  Report0 Reply
• eamarat member

  January 2016

  https://www.thealphaparent.com/2012/07/what-no-one-tells-you-about-child.html?m=1

  Report2 Reply
• mcandice16 member

  January 2016

  The age difference between my first and second is 17 months. We transitioned him over to a toddler bed when he was a year old. I wanted him to get use to sleeping in a toddler bed long before the baby came. The only trouble I'm having is one wakes up the other one but that is due to our living situation. Otherwise they are really good. Oliver, my oldest, loves to sit and hold the baby. He also likes to play in his activity gym with him.
  

  image.jpeg 2.4M

  Report7 Reply
• ShianeNicole member

  January 2016

  Oh my goodness! They're too cute!

  Report0 Reply
• ShianeNicole member

  January 2016

  Are any c-section ladies still having some pain in Thier incision area? My LO is 8 weeks old and I still have times where I have pain when I lift my leg or sit down sometimes. It comes and goes at random times. Is that normal?

  Report0 Reply
• doodleoodle member

  January 2016

  ShianeNicole said:

  Are any c-section ladies still having some pain in Thier incision area? My LO is 8 weeks old and I still have times where I have pain when I lift my leg or sit down sometimes. It comes and goes at random times. Is that normal?

  I'm 11 weeks out and I wouldn't say I feel pain, but my incision is uncomfortable if I overdo it. Most of the time it just feels numb though.

  Report0 Reply
• mrsgabus member

  January 2016

  ShianeNicole said:

  Before you ask if I'm crazy, I probably am. I had a horrible pregnancy as a lot of you know from reading my story. Six doctor appointments a week for the last 10 weeks of pregnancy. Also had a horrible 25 hour labor with no epidural until the end where I ended up having a very scary emergency c-section. After all this I still find myself planning the next one. I got a clean bill of health from my doctors and they see no reason why I can't have another baby. I have always wanted my kids to be close together. I am not on birth control but I am breastfeeding. I know that's not a reliable source of birth control and I'm ok with that. I'm seeking advice from second time moms who have LOs close in age. We'd like to get pregnant by the time she's a year. What advice can you offer? What did you find easy/hard? What do you wish someone would have told you? I find myself thinking about the little things. Should we buy another crib since Elliot's converts all the way up. Would it be easier to move her to a toddler bed and give our next baby the crib? Will she even be old enough for a toddler bed? I know that nobody can plan my life obviously, just looking for some advice to help my husband and I along this journey since I'm worried about the smallest things!
  
  Also, is anyone else thinking of the next LO yet or am I the only crazy one?

  Your not crazy. My OB gave me the go ahead at my 6 week after I adviced her we would not be using BC since we hoped to have another sooner rather than later. We are thinking somewhere around 6 month mark and we will try again
  
  However I've always had a gap between children so l can't advise much in what the pros and cons would be.
  

  
  

  Report0 Reply
• NovemberSno member

  January 2016

  eamarat said:

  https://www.thealphaparent.com/2012/07/what-no-one-tells-you-about-child.html?m=1

  We wanted to start trying for our next baby at the end of April or may. Got the ok from the OB when LO is 6 months because I insisted we wanted them close in age. But after reading this I'm really not sure at all now that's a good idea. The risk outweigh the benefits health wise and I don't like the thought of that. Yikes! I'm kind of sad now.

  Report1 Reply
• itstheblackwidowbaby member

  January 2016

  ShianeNicole said:

  Are any c-section ladies still having some pain in Thier incision area? My LO is 8 weeks old and I still have times where I have pain when I lift my leg or sit down sometimes. It comes and goes at random times. Is that normal?

  I wouldn't call it pain, but there's still a...tightness in my pelvis from lack of better term. It's uncomfortable if I overdo it, but I usually only feel it if I move a certain way.

  Report0 Reply
• helsbels222 member

  January 2016

  ShianeNicole said:

  Are any c-section ladies still having some pain in Thier incision area? My LO is 8 weeks old and I still have times where I have pain when I lift my leg or sit down sometimes. It comes and goes at random times. Is that normal?

  Yes it's normal. My LO is also 8 weeks and my dr said it could take anywhere from 6-9 months to go away. As long as it comes and goes. If it is constant then I would call the dr.

  Report0 Reply
• Cook3133 member

  January 2016 edited January 2016

  
  ️️Mommy of 4 here. My oldest will be 6 feb 25th. My first two are 2 weeks shy of 2 years apart, #2 & #3 are 2y 2m apart and #3 & #4 are 19m apart. My first 3 were not planned! We started trying for our last one when #3 was about 3/4m old. I love having my kiddos so close in age but honestly have to say the 2 years apart is better. It's harder for #3 to grasp having to be gentle. It was also harder for me to love on #3 a ton because of a big belly and nursing so much the first month. He is a good sport about it and loves his brother a ton but it was easier with the 2 year gap. I also like that they all fall in where there is one year in between them school wise. So I will only have 2 in high school at the same time (when my oldest is a senior my second will be a sophomore)

  image.jpg 1.4M

  Report4 Reply
• Bootsie81 member

  January 2016

  my older two are 19 months apart and I love their spacing.  They have a built in playmate and I feel that 19 months was a pretty good age to introduce a newborn.  He wasn't jealous at all but was old enough to know he had to be careful with the baby.  My nephews are only 15 months apart and my SIL had a really hard time in the beginning.  She said she wished they were further apart when they were babies but she likes it now that they are a little older. 

  

  

  Report0 Reply
• katrinasmith17 member

  January 2016

  Cook3133 said:

  
  ️️Mommy of 4 here. My oldest will be 6 feb 25th. My first two are 2 weeks shy of 2 years apart, #2 & #3 are 2y 2m apart and #3 & #4 are 19m apart. My first 3 were not planned! We started trying for our last one when #3 was about 3/4m old. I love having my kiddos so close in age but honestly have to say the 2 years apart is better. It's harder for #3 to grasp having to be gentle. It was also harder for me to love on #3 a ton because of a big belly and nursing so much the first month. He is a good sport about it and loves his brother a ton but it was easier with the 2 year gap. I also like that they all fall in where there is one year in between them school wise. So I will only have 2 in high school at the same time (when my oldest is a senior my second will be a sophomore)

  Awww - beautiful boys

  Report1 Reply