My UO is that I have no problem with DH playing video games even though I never join him. It's how he relaxes and stays in touch with some of his buddies. I might feel differently if he neglected other responsibilities but since he doesn't, I'm happy to sit on the couch and watch him play while I see or crochet.
Okay I have a good one (I think) and I think not everyone would agree with me here so I'm prepared with my flame retardant suit. I want to talk about the Oscars. Will Smith, Jada Pinkett, and a few others are boycotting the Oscars because all the nominees are white. I feel as if they want to make the Oscars an"equal opportunity" event and they want their ethnic group represented. Here's my thing: If you're not going to be in a movie that's worth any notable nominations then how is it The Academy's fault? It's nobody's fault that you were in a crappy movie but your own. And as far as I'm concerned Will Smith has not been in any decent movies lately. Blame yourself for not making the cut. I think the special treatment and entitlement demands are BS. Sure, there's things in place for ethnic groups that are totally needed and necessary, but the Academy Awards? Come on. And no, I'm not white.
My UO is that I have no problem with DH playing video games even though I never join him. It's how he relaxes and stays in touch with some of his buddies. I might feel differently if he neglected other responsibilities but since he doesn't, I'm happy to sit on the couch and watch him play while I see or crochet.
I don't mind when mine plays video games either. It means I get control of the remote! I still interact with him, and it keeps him home and entertained. There are far worse hobbies a man could have.
My UO is that I have no problem with DH playing video games even though I never join him. It's how he relaxes and stays in touch with some of his buddies. I might feel differently if he neglected other responsibilities but since he doesn't, I'm happy to sit on the couch and watch him play while I see or crochet.
Amen! When it does become an actual issue (as it has been lately) we discuss it and he cuts back. I've been in relationships where video games WERE more important than me, and yeah... Grow up buddy!
My UO is that I have no problem with DH playing video games even though I never join him. It's how he relaxes and stays in touch with some of his buddies. I might feel differently if he neglected other responsibilities but since he doesn't, I'm happy to sit on the couch and watch him play while I see or crochet.
My only problem is that some of them have the most repetitive and obnoxious soundtracks ever. DH has an old PS2 game he busts out for nostalgia and the main character has a weight limit for stuff he can collect - and then repeats "can't carry anymore" over and over and over (and over...) until you sell stuff. Aah!!!
DH and I have realized that neither of us will understand the other's emotional response to video games or books (he's not a reader) but to try to pretend we do. He doesn't understand why I would choose to get emotionally invested in fictional characters and I don't understand the desire to play a game that just frustrates him to no end, but hey, whatever works.
Okay I have a good one (I think) and I think not everyone would agree with me here so I'm prepared with my flame retardant suit. I want to talk about the Oscars. Will Smith, Jada Pinkett, and a few others are boycotting the Oscars because all the nominees are white. I feel as if they want to make the Oscars an"equal opportunity" event and they want their ethnic group represented. Here's my thing: If you're not going to be in a movie that's worth any notable nominations then how is it The Academy's fault? It's nobody's fault that you were in a crappy movie but your own. And as far as I'm concerned Will Smith has not been in any decent movies lately. Blame yourself for not making the cut. I think the special treatment and entitlement demands are BS. Sure, there's things in place for ethnic groups that are totally needed and necessary, but the Academy Awards? Come on. And no, I'm not white.
So much this. I don't pay attention to pop sculpture outside of what I can't avoid, but how often do Hispanic, Asian, or Native American people get nominations? I may find some boycotters if I cared enough to look, but I haven't heard anything about George Lopez or that badass female from the fast & furious movies say anything about the lack of diversity. Maybe it was just a bad year for movies.
Also, isn't Chris Rock hosting? That seems to be a thought-out attempt at diversifying. Sorry Will Smith, but your movies are no better than your "rap career."
My UO is that I have no problem with DH playing video games even though I never join him. It's how he relaxes and stays in touch with some of his buddies. I might feel differently if he neglected other responsibilities but since he doesn't, I'm happy to sit on the couch and watch him play while I see or crochet.
DH and I are both gamers. I go through extended periods of time when I won't play anything, and I totally don't care that DH doesn't have those breaks like I do. I'm currently in the middle of a break, since in too tired to take time to play. I also don't want to spend money on my monthly subscription to Final Fantasy XIV at the moment.
Okay I have a good one (I think) and I think not everyone would agree with me here so I'm prepared with my flame retardant suit. I want to talk about the Oscars. Will Smith, Jada Pinkett, and a few others are boycotting the Oscars because all the nominees are white. I feel as if they want to make the Oscars an"equal opportunity" event and they want their ethnic group represented. Here's my thing: If you're not going to be in a movie that's worth any notable nominations then how is it The Academy's fault? It's nobody's fault that you were in a crappy movie but your own. And as far as I'm concerned Will Smith has not been in any decent movies lately. Blame yourself for not making the cut. I think the special treatment and entitlement demands are BS. Sure, there's things in place for ethnic groups that are totally needed and necessary, but the Academy Awards? Come on. And no, I'm not white.
While I agree that it shouldn't be a forced 'equal opportunity' situation, the fact is that many actors of color were in some AMAZING movies this year, including ones they were recognized for by the Golden Globes and it's interesting when they aren't included in the Oscar noms. Will Smith was probably in his most incredible role to date in Concussion, his accent was on freakin' POINT. Samuel L. Jackson was Pulp-Fiction awesomeness in The Hateful Eight. Idris Elba in Beasts of No Nation? Just incredible, but he's pretty much awesome in anything he's in.
It's just interesting the difference in the nominations....
Okay I have a good one (I think) and I think not everyone would agree with me here so I'm prepared with my flame retardant suit. I want to talk about the Oscars. Will Smith, Jada Pinkett, and a few others are boycotting the Oscars because all the nominees are white. I feel as if they want to make the Oscars an"equal opportunity" event and they want their ethnic group represented. Here's my thing: If you're not going to be in a movie that's worth any notable nominations then how is it The Academy's fault? It's nobody's fault that you were in a crappy movie but your own. And as far as I'm concerned Will Smith has not been in any decent movies lately. Blame yourself for not making the cut. I think the special treatment and entitlement demands are BS. Sure, there's things in place for ethnic groups that are totally needed and necessary, but the Academy Awards? Come on. And no, I'm not white.
I haven't been keeping up to date on movies that have recently been released, so I don't even know if there is someone they skipped over that they shouldn't have.
While I agree that it shouldn't be a forced 'equal opportunity' situation, the fact is that many actors of color were in some AMAZING movies this year, including ones they were recognized for by the Golden Globes and it's interesting when they aren't included in the Oscar noms. Will Smith was probably in his most incredible role to date in Concussion, his accent was on freakin' POINT. Samuel L. Jackson was Pulp-Fiction awesomeness in The Hateful Eight. Idris Elba in Beasts of No Nation? Just incredible, but he's pretty much awesome in anything he's in.
It's just interesting the difference in the nominations....
My definition of amazing may differ than someone else's amazing. When it comes to "Concussion," that being an amazing movie is also debatable. Also, Golden Globe nomination/awards do not obligate the same movie/actor(ess) for an Oscar nomination/award.
So much this. I don't pay attention to pop sculpture outside of what I can't avoid, but how often do Hispanic, Asian, or Native American people get nominations? I may find some boycotters if I cared enough to look, but I haven't heard anything about George Lopez or that badass female from the fast & furious movies say anything about the lack of diversity. Maybe it was just a bad year for movies.
Also, isn't Chris Rock hosting? That seems to be a thought-out attempt at diversifying. Sorry Will Smith, but your movies are no better than your "rap career."
Chris Rock's peers are pressuring him to withdraw.
AGREE on the Oscars! I typically haven't seen many of the movies that end up with nominations. So I'm saying this without actually knowing. While there may have been plenty of people of color who had amazing movies this year, are the ones that beat them out any less amazing? I mean, a sports team can have a great season, their best even, and still not win because there were others that were better. Why why WHY must everything be made into a race issue lately? I'm not one that usually recognizes color differences, but honestly all if this "stuff" lately is making me see the color lines way more than I ever did before. And don't people "want" the opposite, isn't that the point, or at least what they SAY they're aiming for?
@rebelone I definitely agree the movie itself was not amazing. But his role in it was great, as well as his interpretation of the real person. I know the nominations don't have to reflect one another between the different awards, but I do find it intriguing when they differ. That being said, I'd probably only go to bat for Idris Elba as a true 'snub.'
My UO is that I have no problem with DH playing video games even though I never join him. It's how he relaxes and stays in touch with some of his buddies. I might feel differently if he neglected other responsibilities but since he doesn't, I'm happy to sit on the couch and watch him play while I see or crochet.
DH has Tuesday game night with his friends. I go watch tv and knit in bed and he games downstairs. It's nice having a set night he always plays so I'm not annoyed. He plays other nights too (mostly because I go to sleep way before him) but those times I can always ask for him to not play so we can hang out and he complies 99% of the time.
My UO is that I have no problem with DH playing video games even though I never join him. It's how he relaxes and stays in touch with some of his buddies. I might feel differently if he neglected other responsibilities but since he doesn't, I'm happy to sit on the couch and watch him play while I see or crochet.
DH has Tuesday game night with his friends. I go watch tv and knit in bed and he games downstairs. It's nice having a set night he always plays so I'm not annoyed. He plays other nights too (mostly because I go to sleep way before him) but those times I can always ask for him to not play so we can hang out and he complies 99% of the time.
Is it bad if I enjoy his game time because it gives me "me time?" I love him dearly, but I'm used to having time with my thoughts. I know this will change when baby comes, but I'm doing my best to enjoy it while I can!
This is probably more FFFC, but some of the questions that get asked on here sometimes...good Lord. Like, have some people read zero baby books, websites, etc.? Do they not know a single person who has a child? It's kinda scary.
This is probably more FFFC, but some of the questions that get asked on here sometimes...good Lord. Like, have some people read zero baby books, websites, etc.? Do they not know a single person who has a child? It's kinda scary.
What really scares me is that no one knows how to use google either >.<
This is probably more FFFC, but some of the questions that get asked on here sometimes...good Lord. Like, have some people read zero baby books, websites, etc.? Do they not know a single person who has a child? It's kinda scary.
Aww, do you mean me? I have never in my life been around a baby so I know nothing.
I LOL every time I read a grown woman post that she has never held a newborn baby or changed a diaper.. Even some of you beautiful regulars that I adore.. but really?
Then I imagine you being handed your fresh little baby and having that awkward "what do I do with my hands?!" moment and I chuckle inside.
Side note, I like having pockets on things or something to hold onto because I'm awkward and have a lot of those "don't know what to do with my hands" moments in daily life.
@cmjenkies I've held and nannied several newborns and still don't know what to do with them. I don't like newborns. They freak me out. Unfortunately, I'm also not willing to push out a baby the size and with the motor control of a 6-month-old, so...trade offs.
I don't have a very big family and I don't make friends easily. I moved away from my home state right after high school and so I have basically been alone since then. I have been trying to learn about babies and yes I did get a book but there are so many things not covered and it is very overwhelming. I thought this site was an internet learning source.
@RoseShadow873 I haven't bought any baby books and I don't feel bad about it. If I do buy any books, it'll be on sleeping schedules because if I read too much, I'll freak myself out. I know enough about labor and delivery to be comfortable but no one method works for everyone. I won't know what works for my girl until she's here and I don't see the point in getting all wrapped up in other people's opinions on things that may never happen. When I have questions, I ask my mom or sisters. I know enough about possible interventions during birth to feel comfortable making a decision should the need arise but I'm not going to agonize over something that may never happen or that I'll have no control over if it does.
Neither DH nor I had changed a diaper when DD1 was born, and we had spent little time around newborns. I'm not sure when I would have ever had the opportunity to learn about caring for a newborn, maybe if I lived in the same place as family members as an adult. The good news is that diaper changing is a breeze (although it gets harder with an active toddler who prefers to stand on the changing table and dance!) and the main attribute you need to bring to infant care is stamina and patience rather than substantive knowledge. I read a lot of books before DD1 was born. The one I found most practical for those first weeks was "Heading Home With Your Newborn: From Birth to Reality."
@cmjenkies and @NOLA520. This is me... when I was handed my first son after giving birth, that was literally the first time I'd held a newborn. I think I held an older baby (maybe 3 mos old?) when I was a kid, but that's it. My mom was a very secluded person and we didn't have any family or friends period, let alone those who had babies. And I got married and had my first kid young, so we were the first in our group of friends to have kids. It was seriously bizarre to me that the hospital let me go home with this new little person not even knowing if I'd had the experience to care for him, LOL!
I LOL every time I read a grown woman post that she has never held a newborn baby or changed a diaper.. Even some of you beautiful regulars that I adore.. but really?
Then I imagine you being handed your fresh little baby and having that awkward "what do I do with my hands?!" moment and I chuckle inside.
Side note, I like having pockets on things or something to hold onto because I'm awkward and have a lot of those "don't know what to do with my hands" moments in daily life.
I'm mostly just shocked that it's even possible to have literally never interacted with a baby in one's entire life. Like nobody in your family has ever had a baby? No friends? Ever?!
But also, even if you're a FTM and know nothing about babies, and you've never had a single experience with a baby, I feel like it's a logical and hugely beneficial step to be like "Oh, I'm pregnant, maybe I should read up about babies so I'm not stumbling blindly into this 'having one' thing." Yeah, a lot of raising a child is figuring it out as you go, but you can at least prepare yourself a little bit! And the internet is a vast place full of information that's basically there for the taking. You don't even have to buy books or leave the house.
Like, I had a very heavy hand in raising my nephew, so even though I'm a FTM, I'm not totally inexperienced, and I've still been reading and researching tons. I'm sure a lot has changed in 13 years, and it's not like a refresher is a bad thing.
Yuuuuuup. Not only have I never held a baby or changed a diaper, I've never been left in charge of a child of any age, ever. Siblings were close to me in age (so I never babysat them), and I was never interested in babysitting for cash growing up. A few of my relatives had babies when I was between 8 and 14, but there were always enough people interested in the babies at family gatherings that I never really interacted with the kids until they got old enough to be legitimately interesting to me. I always preferred adult company. My husband's in the same boat. We're the first of our friends (at least the ones nearby) to have a baby, too; the few folks we know who'd already had kids when we met them we're not close with, so we haven't really had the opportunity to spend time with their offspring.
I've done some reading, but I suspect that I still don't even know what I don't know at this point. I'm expecting I'll ask a LOT of stupid questions around here once baby arrives. I could be wrong, but y'all seem more trustworthy and intelligent than most internet strangers.
My UO is that I have no problem with DH playing video games even though I never join him. It's how he relaxes and stays in touch with some of his buddies. I might feel differently if he neglected other responsibilities but since he doesn't, I'm happy to sit on the couch and watch him play while I see or crochet.
I don't mind when mine plays video games either. It means I get control of the remote! I still interact with him, and it keeps him home and entertained. There are far worse hobbies a man could have.
Finding a good balance between real life and VGs the #1 thing we fight about. I didn't mind it at all before kids and when our first was little (I actually played hours and hours of WoW with him). But once our we started adding more kids, more work, more responsibility, it was really hard for him to cut out the VGs. With added pressure of life, he had more to escape from. He's gotten a lot better, but it's still an issue. I love him and he's a great husband in most areas, but he doesn't get that the work just doesn't end. And when he leaves to go play a VG, I'm the one left dealing with everything. (Rant over).
My UO is that I have no problem with DH playing video games even though I never join him. It's how he relaxes and stays in touch with some of his buddies. I might feel differently if he neglected other responsibilities but since he doesn't, I'm happy to sit on the couch and watch him play while I see or crochet.
I don't mind when mine plays video games either. It means I get control of the remote! I still interact with him, and it keeps him home and entertained. There are far worse hobbies a man could have.
Finding a good balance between real life and VGs the #1 thing we fight about. I didn't mind it at all before kids and when our first was little (I actually played hours and hours of WoW with him). But once our we started adding more kids, more work, more responsibility, it was really hard for him to cut out the VGs. With added pressure of life, he had more to escape from. He's gotten a lot better, but it's still an issue. I love him and he's a great husband in most areas, but he doesn't get that the work just doesn't end. And when he leaves to go play a VG, I'm the one left dealing with everything. (Rant over).
My ex used to spend 20+ hours a day playing some computer game and failed out of college because of it. DH asks me before he even buys a new game if it costs more than $10, so I'm not terribly worried about it. He's also been very good in the past about adjusting to my needs so long as I vocalize them, but I need to be very blunt about my needs and expectations or he doesn't quite get it. If he weren't so receptive, I could definitely see it being a reason to be upset.
Also, he loves babies and kids so I know he'll choose snuggle time over games. I'm just assuming the only time I'll be allowed to hold LO is when I'm feeding, and I'm A-OK with that.
Okay, I'm sure this is going to be flame worthy and I strongly debated not posting but here it goes - i wish adoption didn't have to take such a back seat to all of the advancements in reproductive assistance and fertility treatments that are available. I feel I know so many people of our generation who were adopted into wonderful homes but I know no one who is adopting now because there are so many other resources available to them. I think it's great they are there but at the same time it makes me kind of sad
I agree with you. Adoption was something we always wanted to do, so when we faced fertility issues, it was a natural choice to adopt an existing child who needs a family rather than fork over $$ for fertility treatments. And once we learned more about the kids in foster care who need stable, loving families, it's hard to turn around and ignore that.
I know LOTS of people who have adopted, and in our community it's totally normal to adopt. We've adopted one little girl from foster care and are in the process of adopting another. Yes, foster-adoption is heart-wrenching and there's no guarantees. But honestly, it's no different than pregnancy. None of us are guaranteed our babies. When we got pregnant, there was a 1/3 chance we'd miscarry. And then we spend the next 7 months worrying about every little thing. Adoption is no different. All I can hope is that those of us who have a heart for adoption talk boldly about it, encourage others to consider it, and it just becomes a normal thing.
Okay, I'm sure this is going to be flame worthy and I strongly debated not posting but here it goes - i wish adoption didn't have to take such a back seat to all of the advancements in reproductive assistance and fertility treatments that are available. I feel I know so many people of our generation who were adopted into wonderful homes but I know no one who is adopting now because there are so many other resources available to them. I think it's great they are there but at the same time it makes me kind of sad
I agree with you. Adoption was something we always wanted to do, so when we faced fertility issues, it was a natural choice to adopt an existing child who needs a family rather than fork over $$ for fertility treatments. And once we learned more about the kids in foster care who need stable, loving families, it's hard to turn around and ignore that.
I know LOTS of people who have adopted, and in our community it's totally normal to adopt. We've adopted one little girl from foster care and are in the process of adopting another. Yes, foster-adoption is heart-wrenching and there's no guarantees. But honestly, it's no different than pregnancy. None of us are guaranteed our babies. When we got pregnant, there was a 1/3 chance we'd miscarry. And then we spend the next 7 months worrying about every little thing. Adoption is no different. All I can hope is that those of us who have a heart for adoption talk boldly about it, encourage others to consider it, and it just becomes a normal thing.
DH were talking about adopting if clomid didn't work out. DS stuck on the first round. Later down the road, if we do decide to adopt, I want to adopt an older child. It always seems like the younger the child, the higher the chances are that they will be adopted, so I want to adopt a teenager. Yes, I would miss out on raising then for almost all of their childhood, but I would want to help out someone who has probably been stuck in the system for quite a while.
Sadly, the rate for miscarriages is actually higher than 1 in 3 if you include women who actually never realize that they are pregnant and just think that they are having their period. The new estimate is now about 50% of all pregnancies end in a miscarriage. I stopped testing the week of my period or before for this very reason. We lost two before getting on clomid and conceiving DS, and both of those were only at about 4/5 weeks along. I had tested early, got my little +, and then a few days later lost the pregnancy. My BFF is currently going through something similar. She's stopped testing early because of all of the losses she's had in her TTC journey.
I feel the same way about Michael Kors MKs everywhere. I like simple purses without the designer logo all over. These designers do make gorgeous purses w/o the logos.
I feel the same way about Michael Kors MKs everywhere. I like simple purses without the designer logo all over. These designers do make gorgeous purses w/o the logos.
I can't stand people who let their kids be around guns. My BIL and SIL recently posts a picture of my nephew holding a RIFLE. He's 15 months old. They've also given him you guns and have proceeded to teach him how to "shoot people."
I can't stand people who let their kids be around guns. My BIL and SIL recently posts a picture of my nephew holding a RIFLE. He's 15 months old. They've also given him you guns and have proceeded to teach him how to "shoot people."
I'm all about teaching kids to be respectful of firearms, but that's pretty young. Funny in a you have to be kidding way, but not something I'd let my own do...that's entirely to understand firearm safety and the repercussions of pointing a gun at anything you don't intend to kill. I was probably around 8 the first time I held or shot a gun, and my dad always kept them locked in a gun safe.
I can't stand people who let their kids be around guns. My BIL and SIL recently posts a picture of my nephew holding a RIFLE. He's 15 months old. They've also given him you guns and have proceeded to teach him how to "shoot people."
Ok, it's one thing to teach your kids gun safety. DH has done that with the two older boys (youngest is 6 and couldn't care less about learning). But that is insane!
I can't stand people who let their kids be around guns. My BIL and SIL recently posts a picture of my nephew holding a RIFLE. He's 15 months old. They've also given him you guns and have proceeded to teach him how to "shoot people."
I'm all about teaching kids to be respectful of firearms, but that's pretty young. Funny in a you have to be kidding way, but not something I'd let my own do...that's entirely to understand firearm safety and the repercussions of pointing a gun at anything you don't intend to kill. I was probably around 8 the first time I held or shot a gun, and my dad always kept them locked in a gun safe.
I wouldn't let kid be around guns until they are old enough to learn and understand gun safety... I also wouldn't teach my kid to SHOOT PEOPLE. It's one thing to teach your child how to hunt and that a firearm should be used in defense, but just flat out teaching your kid to shoot people? My ILs constantly have weapons on them or out, which freaks me out. They're always over at my MIL's, who is DS's babysitter. The more I see them do, the less safe I feel leaving my son around them. My SIL's family got my nephew a KNIFE for Christmas. Seriously? Why would you give a toddler a knife? It was TODDLER SIZED TOO.
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DH and I have realized that neither of us will understand the other's emotional response to video games or books (he's not a reader) but to try to pretend we do. He doesn't understand why I would choose to get emotionally invested in fictional characters and I don't understand the desire to play a game that just frustrates him to no end, but hey, whatever works.
Also, isn't Chris Rock hosting? That seems to be a thought-out attempt at diversifying. Sorry Will Smith, but your movies are no better than your "rap career."
It's just interesting the difference in the nominations....
My definition of amazing may differ than someone else's amazing. When it comes to "Concussion," that being an amazing movie is also debatable. Also, Golden Globe nomination/awards do not obligate the same movie/actor(ess) for an Oscar nomination/award.
Chris Rock's peers are pressuring him to withdraw.
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
Then I imagine you being handed your fresh little baby and having that awkward "what do I do with my hands?!" moment and I chuckle inside.
Side note, I like having pockets on things or something to hold onto because I'm awkward and have a lot of those "don't know what to do with my hands" moments in daily life.
For real, everything you just said is so full of yes.
I've done some reading, but I suspect that I still don't even know what I don't know at this point. I'm expecting I'll ask a LOT of stupid questions around here once baby arrives. I could be wrong, but y'all seem more trustworthy and intelligent than most internet strangers.
My ex used to spend 20+ hours a day playing some computer game and failed out of college because of it. DH asks me before he even buys a new game if it costs more than $10, so I'm not terribly worried about it. He's also been very good in the past about adjusting to my needs so long as I vocalize them, but I need to be very blunt about my needs and expectations or he doesn't quite get it. If he weren't so receptive, I could definitely see it being a reason to be upset.
Also, he loves babies and kids so I know he'll choose snuggle time over games. I'm just assuming the only time I'll be allowed to hold LO is when I'm feeding, and I'm A-OK with that.
I know LOTS of people who have adopted, and in our community it's totally normal to adopt. We've adopted one little girl from foster care and are in the process of adopting another. Yes, foster-adoption is heart-wrenching and there's no guarantees. But honestly, it's no different than pregnancy. None of us are guaranteed our babies. When we got pregnant, there was a 1/3 chance we'd miscarry. And then we spend the next 7 months worrying about every little thing. Adoption is no different. All I can hope is that those of us who have a heart for adoption talk boldly about it, encourage others to consider it, and it just becomes a normal thing.
I know LOTS of people who have adopted, and in our community it's totally normal to adopt. We've adopted one little girl from foster care and are in the process of adopting another. Yes, foster-adoption is heart-wrenching and there's no guarantees. But honestly, it's no different than pregnancy. None of us are guaranteed our babies. When we got pregnant, there was a 1/3 chance we'd miscarry. And then we spend the next 7 months worrying about every little thing. Adoption is no different. All I can hope is that those of us who have a heart for adoption talk boldly about it, encourage others to consider it, and it just becomes a normal thing.
DH were talking about adopting if clomid didn't work out. DS stuck on the first round. Later down the road, if we do decide to adopt, I want to adopt an older child. It always seems like the younger the child, the higher the chances are that they will be adopted, so I want to adopt a teenager. Yes, I would miss out on raising then for almost all of their childhood, but I would want to help out someone who has probably been stuck in the system for quite a while.
Sadly, the rate for miscarriages is actually higher than 1 in 3 if you include women who actually never realize that they are pregnant and just think that they are having their period. The new estimate is now about 50% of all pregnancies end in a miscarriage. I stopped testing the week of my period or before for this very reason. We lost two before getting on clomid and conceiving DS, and both of those were only at about 4/5 weeks along. I had tested early, got my little +, and then a few days later lost the pregnancy. My BFF is currently going through something similar. She's stopped testing early because of all of the losses she's had in her TTC journey.