My UO is while I do believe you should occasionally indulge your cravings, pregnancy doesn't mean you eat like a hobbit. A friend of mine just posted on facebook how she thinks pregnancy is a time to have a free pass to eat whatever you want.
eta - honestly what pissed me off about her post is that she was shaming women who've lost weight or haven't gained much. Lots of women lose weight in the first tri from morning sickness and others lose weight throughout from eating better.
I feel like this is an UO cause it seems like I'm in the huge minority when it comes to these mom groups I'm in, but I'm going to try my hardest not to co-sleep. Of course LO will spend the first months next to us in the bassinet but after that I will try very hard to maintain that the crib in her room is her sleeping area. I'm a bigger girl and a deep sleeper so I just don't see co-sleeping working for us.
My UO is people who get their children (like a 5-6 year old) a puppy for Christmas and honestly expect them to be able to do everything for the dog and then take it to a shelter, without even trying to rehome it themselves, when they have to start caring for it. Congratulations; you're an asshole. Sorry that your 5 year old can't walk a lab at 3 am on their own. In all reality it doesn't matter who's dog it is, it will become a family task at times. (Yes, someone ha already "returned" their Christmas puppy..) ETA: sorry if this is a repeat I'm just so pissed off about it.
I feel like this is an UO cause it seems like I'm in the huge minority when it comes to these mom groups I'm in, but I'm going to try my hardest not to co-sleep. Of course LO will spend the first months next to us in the bassinet but after that I will try very hard to maintain that the crib in her room is her sleeping area. I'm a bigger girl and a deep sleeper so I just don't see co-sleeping working for us.
I am with you! My friend is practically shaming me for the thought of it. I have myself, my husband, and my soon to be 12 year old dog in the bed. Half the time I wake up being crushed by DH. Why would I want her in that situation? We were given a cosleeper for the side of the bed but I'm trying to resist using it. I need to be responsible enough to actually get up for her. (Getting up is hard for me)
I feel like this is an UO cause it seems like I'm in the huge minority when it comes to these mom groups I'm in, but I'm going to try my hardest not to co-sleep. Of course LO will spend the first months next to us in the bassinet but after that I will try very hard to maintain that the crib in her room is her sleeping area. I'm a bigger girl and a deep sleeper so I just don't see co-sleeping working for us.
I am with you! My friend is practically shaming me for the thought of it. I have myself, my husband, and my soon to be 12 year old dog in the bed. Half the time I wake up being crushed by DH. Why would I want her in that situation? We were given a cosleeper for the side of the bed but I'm trying to resist using it. I need to be responsible enough to actually get up for her. (Getting up is hard for me)
Exactly! I think it's getting to the point where co-sleeping is now the norm, which is fine if that's what your comfortable with but even when my little mini dachshund sleeps with us I always push over to DH because between my weight, my deep sleeping, and I tend to roll around a lot I never feel like she's safe near me. And then there's the fact that when they get bigger and you co-sleep with your toddler you wake up constantly to being hit and kicked in the face (according to my SIL who loves co-sleeping yet always complains about it) it just doesn't seem like it's for me.
I feel like this is an UO cause it seems like I'm in the huge minority when it comes to these mom groups I'm in, but I'm going to try my hardest not to co-sleep. Of course LO will spend the first months next to us in the bassinet but after that I will try very hard to maintain that the crib in her room is her sleeping area. I'm a bigger girl and a deep sleeper so I just don't see co-sleeping working for us.
I'll not be co-sleeping either. Harrison's crib is in the room next door and it's probably 10 steps from my bed to his.
My UO is while I do believe you should occasionally indulge your cravings, pregnancy doesn't mean you eat like a hobbit. A friend of mine just posted on facebook how she thinks pregnancy is a time to have a free pass to eat whatever you want.
eta - honestly what pissed me off about her post is that she was shaming women who've lost weight or haven't gained much. Lots of women lose weight in the first tri from morning sickness and others lose weight throughout from eating better.
Not a UO. Especially the last part. My doctor actually told me to "eat whatever I wanted" because I wasn't gaining weight due to sugar/iron issues. But I still feel bad when I have the eat everything in sight days.
My UO is people who get their children (like a 5-6 year old) a puppy for Christmas and honestly expect them to be able to do everything for the dog and then take it to a shelter, without even trying to rehome it themselves, when they have to start caring for it. Congratulations; you're an asshole. Sorry that your 5 year old can't walk a lab at 3 am on their own. In all reality it doesn't matter who's dog it is, it will become a family task at times. (Yes, someone ha already "returned" their Christmas puppy..) ETA: sorry if this is a repeat I'm just so pissed off about it.
I really want to punch people in the face that do this.
My UO is while I do believe you should occasionally indulge your cravings, pregnancy doesn't mean you eat like a hobbit. A friend of mine just posted on facebook how she thinks pregnancy is a time to have a free pass to eat whatever you want.
eta - honestly what pissed me off about her post is that she was shaming women who've lost weight or haven't gained much. Lots of women lose weight in the first tri from morning sickness and others lose weight throughout from eating better.
Completely agree with this! That is the one piece of advice that I followed from my friends who have just had babies. They told me not to go in thinking "I'm eating for two" because they did and regretted it big time. I was overweight to start with but I watched what I was eating big time, cutting out sweets, soda and junk food. I do give in once in a while but nothing compared to what I was at before and I have lost weight almost the whole pregnancy. I am slowly starting to gain a little back now but I'm still down from pre pregnancy and people have shamed me for it when they ask me how much I have gained and I say nothing. I don't get it.
ETA: I don't want to be "one of those people" It is just frustrating to me because I tried real hard to make sure that I was eating good and trying to break my bad habits even through my cravings and I've been super proud of myself and to have people shame me and try telling me I'm not eating enough for my baby and trying to shove food down my throat (mostly during the holidays around family) sucked because it was difficult not to indulge in things I wanted to all pregnancy.
No co-sleeping here either. I'm with @DrillSergeantCat their room is right next door. i have a baby monitor, and I have to get up anyway b/c i'm formula feeding.
My UO is people who get their children (like a 5-6 year old) a puppy for Christmas and honestly expect them to be able to do everything for the dog and then take it to a shelter, without even trying to rehome it themselves, when they have to start caring for it. Congratulations; you're an asshole. Sorry that your 5 year old can't walk a lab at 3 am on their own. In all reality it doesn't matter who's dog it is, it will become a family task at times. (Yes, someone ha already "returned" their Christmas puppy..) ETA: sorry if this is a repeat I'm just so pissed off about it.
Yes, yes, and yes! Agree 100%. If that dog grew up and bit someone, it would be the adults responsibility and problem, not the 5 or 6 year olds, therefore it's the adults dog. Drives me crazy when people come into my work with their child (one kid was like 14-15) and leave all the responsibility up to them. I'm asking the mother if she would like to schedule the spay and she looks at the kid. Come on now. I ask if she wants it microchipped and again she looks at her son. He doesn't even know what I'm talking about. People drive me crazy, I understand teaching responsibility, but I feel like there are other ways to do this. Or with a kid that age, maybe have them do some research BEFORE you buy them a puppy. Ugh okay, rant over. Sorry. Not an UO. Lol
Also, about co-sleeping, what happened to it being not recommended because the risks outweigh the "benefits"? I'm a FTM, and no judgement here, but I was always under the impression that co-sleeping was a huge no-no? I don't plan on co-sleeping for this exact reason and also I don't really want to.
My UO is while I do believe you should occasionally indulge your cravings, pregnancy doesn't mean you eat like a hobbit. A friend of mine just posted on facebook how she thinks pregnancy is a time to have a free pass to eat whatever you want.
eta - honestly what pissed me off about her post is that she was shaming women who've lost weight or haven't gained much. Lots of women lose weight in the first tri from morning sickness and others lose weight throughout from eating better.
THIS! I've lost 15 pounds since my first doctors appointment at 8 weeks due to a combination of morning sickness and eating better. I was sick all through the 1st and 2nd trimesters and to help ease the sickness I cut out eating a lot of fried and junk food. I have also learned how to listen to my body so I no longer over eat. I get so annoyed when people try to make me eat more food or more often than I want to. I've even been told that I'm basically neglecting my LO because I don't have the desire to eat any and everything in sight. Which, my LO is measuring ahead... which usually makes them shut up. Ladies, you know what your body needs and if your doctor doesn't have any concerns neither should you!
Also, about co-sleeping, what happened to it being not recommended because the risks outweigh the "benefits"? I'm a FTM, and no judgement here, but I was always under the impression that co-sleeping was a huge no-no? I don't plan on co-sleeping for this exact reason and also I don't really want to.
They mentioned this in my newborn care class i attended and completely agree that there are hazards and it should be avoided, especially with babies. I think what's happening is co-sleeping is being extended towards toddlers and upwards of 5+ years old. I get the occasional scary nightmare happens, but i recently read a thread in this local FB group and it seemed like all the moms who responded still co-sleep with their kids. Again, do as you wish, but that definitely isn't for me.
@paytonpedro I don't think cosleeping (as in bed sharing) is recommended by any mainstream organizations. But it seems to be a big thing among some online mommy groups, I'd guess those that are more inclined to attachment parenting.
I'm planning on sleeping in the same room, but not the same bed as my little one. We'll see how he does when he gets here. I don't know that I'd feel comfortable bed sharing, especially when he's tiny. So I'm not sure what I'll do if he's a super velcro baby.
I guess my OU is that I'm sort of glad that I ended up being an older Mommy. Seeing and hearing about all the judgement new Moms get has just floored me. I think it really would have messed with my head when I was younger. But I'm 38 years old. I'm happy to hear other people's experiences, but in the end I'm going to make the best choices I can for myself and my baby and anyone (especially a stranger) who wants to judge can bite me.
@paytonpedro I don't think cosleeping (as in bed sharing) is recommended by any mainstream organizations. But it seems to be a big thing among some online mommy groups, I'd guess those that are more inclined to attachment parenting.
I'm planning on sleeping in the same room, but not the same bed as my little one. We'll see how he does when he gets here. I don't know that I'd feel comfortable bed sharing, especially when he's tiny. So I'm not sure what I'll do if he's a super velcro baby.
I guess my OU is that I'm sort of glad that I ended up being an older Mommy. Seeing and hearing about all the judgement new Moms get has just floored me. I think it really would have messed with my head when I was younger. But I'm 38 years old. I'm happy to hear other people's experiences, but in the end I'm going to make the best choices I can for myself and my baby and anyone (especially a stranger) who wants to judge can bite me.
I think there's a definite difference between bedsharing and co-sleeping. I know they make co-sleepers that just kind of push up to the bed, but is still a separate space for baby.
I'm 38, too and I hear all the time about how crazy I am to be having a baby at my age.
I guess mine will be the UO, lol. I'm 100% eating whatever I want when I'm pregnant. Yeah so what if I gained close to 70 lbs, I know I'm gonna lose it all after. And my baby is still healthy regardless, so idgaf. Especially since I don't normally eat crap all the time.
Benjamin born on - 4/5/12 BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
I guess mine will be the UO, lol. I'm 100% eating whatever I want when I'm pregnant. Yeah so what if I gained close to 70 lbs, I know I'm gonna lose it all after. And my baby is still healthy regardless, so idgaf. Especially since I don't normally eat crap all the time.
Benjamin born on - 4/5/12 BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
I think I mean bed sharing when I say co-sleeping. My child will not sleep in my bed. We do have a bassinet set up in our room for the first month or two because his room is on another floor, so is that co-sleeping?
Before I had a kid I was anti-co-sleeping and bedsharing. Then I actually became a parent and I learned how much easier it is. (Hint: WAY freaking easier!) Now our son is two and he sometimes sleeps in his bed and sometimes sleeps in ours. It works well for us.
We plan to Co-sleep like we did (a bassinet next to our bed) for the first month or two. I won't say that I will not bed-share, as there were days when my first was several months old, when the 4am feeding was done in our bed and we bed shared until I had to get up for work. It was easier than rocking him back to sleep just to find myself wide awake at 5am, struggling to fall back to sleep before my alarm went off for work. So even after he started sleeping in his crib, we bed shared often after early morning feedings. Once I mastered side nursing, it really helped allowing me to get some more sleep. He is now 2 and half, and never sleeps in our bed and never asks to sleep in our bed and we never really had any lingering issues with occasional bed-sharing during the first year.
I'd love to see how many anti co-sleepers/bed sharers are doing it in another couple months. I've had several friends who swore they'd never do it. Well, guess where they are now.
We had LO side-carred in a crib next to us until I went back to work at 4 months. I was far too exhausted to get up and nurse after that (she nursed every 2-3hrs at night until she was close to a year), and let me tell you, whipping my boob out and going back to sleep was the best solution ever. We had no issues transitioning her to her bed when she turned 2.
I Agree 100% with adventure mama and monkey butt 80. I was anti Co sleeping but some nights especially when they are sick are rough. We occasionally let dd sleep with us if there is a need for rest. Like when I still have to get up and go to work but dd wanted to be wide awake cause she was teething at 3 am. Not fun, but she would eventually settle and go back to sleep with us! You do what you gotta do some nights. She is 2 now and sleeps in her big girl bed by herself most nights. So no habits were formed.
I'm a STM and I did not co-sleep with DS and will not DD. We have a pnp with the bassinet feature set up in our room like we did last time. But honestly DS was in it for maybe 5 nights before he was in his room because I just couldn't sleep with him in the room. During the first few months, if he was in the same room as me then I couldn't sleep. I heard every sigh, wiggle shift, breath, twitch. My brain just wouldn't turn off from straining to hear what he was doing. It was much better for him to be in his crib.
I'm pregnant with my fourth baby and I never co-slept with any of my children. They were in a bassinet or crib. I love that my kids have been in their own beds since day 1 and still sleep in their own beds/rooms. I will not co-sleep with my next baby as well.
@paytonpedro I've always had a dog, but until my 9th birthday it was my parents dog. When I turned 9 and showed my parents I could handle the basics they gave me a "certificate" of authority to have my own dog. Of course they were in charge of the big stuff. But they made me work to even say "this is my dog" I love them so much for that! The first dog that was "mine" is the one I have now still. But the bet decisions always came down to my parents. I Even had to tell my mom to set down and let me handle it when I turned 19, it was a little funny. I get letting the kid have a say, but leaving it to them entirely just baffles me. I'll be doing the same thing with my daughter that my parents did though. Making her do what she can (while supervised) and earning the right to a dog. I hate with a burning passion people who treat their animals as a toy. You wouldn't leave your 5 year old solely in charge of a newborn..
When I hear co-sleeping I always think of what my friend does- baby goes in between them in their bed and they use pillows and blankets to make "borders" to keep him from rolling over.
To me it just sounds terrifying and like a great way for one - or all- of us to suffocate her. I mean honestly DH doesn't even pay attention when he gets up either. He just steps on us. (Me and the 10-11 pound dog..) We have the "arms reach cosleeper) that goes next to our bed (like i mentioned earlier) but I really don't want to be using it. Her actual bed is in the same room and would be only 3 feet from the one that connects to the bed. And I have a feeling the dog may try sleeping in the cosleeper with her. I'm very anti-bed sharing I guess, to specify. I'm unsure and would like to not use the cosleeper. But I know never say never and we will have to see how it goes.
I guess mine will be the UO, lol. I'm 100% eating whatever I want when I'm pregnant. Yeah so what if I gained close to 70 lbs, I know I'm gonna lose it all after. And my baby is still healthy regardless, so idgaf. Especially since I don't normally eat crap all the time.
I've never actually paid attention to what I eat. I've been eating whatever I want too, but within limits. I don't like when I'm actually full and I keep trying to eat. And I hate hearing people say "you're eating for two". I think it really only matters if the way you're eating is a way that would actually affect your or the baby's Health or if you eat when your body begs you to stop, just because it sounds good.
I'm stuck in the middle of yours and @DrillSergeantCat 's opinions I suppose.
So the toilet paper at my work sucks. With all the swelling going on it's been impossible to achieve my usual cleanliness after my potty breaks. My opinion, which may be quite popular, is that the clean catch moist towelettes should be given to us freely at each appointment so I don't have to sneak a handful everytime I leave my urine sample. It's technically stealing and I feel really ornery doing it.
They are so perfect and individually packaged for my convenience and discretion.
I'm also anti bed sharing, maybe because there's so many commercials and such highlighting how many babies have died just in our city. I know people might say drugs maybe we're involved but I'd guess sleep deprivation which can be just as bad. I'm a light sleeper but given that I'd never be able to fall asleep knowin baby was in my bed. Like pp I couldn't sleep well with baby in the same room because I could hear every gurgle, wiggling, grunting etc. I don't mind getting out of bed and walking to the other bedroom to nurse 10 times a night.
I'd love to see how many anti co-sleepers/bed sharers are doing it in another couple months. I've had several friends who swore they'd never do it. Well, guess where they are now.
We had LO side-carred in a crib next to us until I went back to work at 4 months. I was far too exhausted to get up and nurse after that (she nursed every 2-3hrs at night until she was close to a year), and let me tell you, whipping my boob out and going back to sleep was the best solution ever. We had no issues transitioning her to her bed when she turned 2.
Exactly. My world changed drastically when I learned to nurse lying down. SO MUCH MORE SLEEP!!!! It was revolutionary. My H and I also just really enjoyed having him snuggle between us. It's cozy and nice. If you do it safely, studies indicate that risk of SIDS actually goes down when your infant is in the same room or bed as you. I always thought I'd be too hard of a sleeper to be able to, but I am weirdly aware of where my baby is when he's next to me. Yet I still feel rested. Nothing wrong with having them in their own beds. Just have to throw my two cents about bedsharing into the ring.
This is like... A really heavy UO. So *Trigger warning*
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I don't find the whole "Haha, they'll get what's coming to them in prison! Prisoners love _____!" (certain crimes tend to be mentioned more). I don't think that should be such a joke in our society. Rape is rape, and it's never okay or any kind of laughing matter, no matter who the victim is.
A friend of mine, who has a 1yo kid, who sleeps in their bed, said recently, that he does not remember when was the last time he had sex... About the weight gain. I did not gain much and very happy about it: compared to what I read on TB, I walk normally, able to get out of my bed by myself, wipe my butt by myself, do not have much pain in any part of my body, able to put my socks and shoes by myself. I know that stretch marks are mostly genetic, but, I bet, if I gained a 100lbs like my another friend, I would be covered in them
A friend of mine, who has a 1yo kid, who sleeps in their bed, said recently, that he does not remember when was the last time he had sex... About the weight gain. I did not gain much and very happy about it: compared to what I read on TB, I walk normally, able to get out of my bed by myself, wipe my butt by myself, do not have much pain in any part of my body, able to put my socks and shoes by myself. I know that stretch marks are mostly genetic, but, I bet, if I gained a 100lbs like my another friend, I would be covered in them
There are plenty of women on TB who have gained very little weight but still haven't had an easy pregnancy. Nice to hear that you're enjoying pregnancy though! Way to go!!
My UO - pregnant women should not be asked to fast for six hours. I usually snack every few hours to keep my stomach settled, and I had to fast today for a procedure. Torture!
(Obviously I would rather fast than aspirate during a potential emergency c-section. Just whining.)
I'm a STM and I did not co-sleep with DS and will not DD. We have a pnp with the bassinet feature set up in our room like we did last time. But honestly DS was in it for maybe 5 nights before he was in his room because I just couldn't sleep with him in the room. During the first few months, if he was in the same room as me then I couldn't sleep. I heard every sigh, wiggle shift, breath, twitch. My brain just wouldn't turn off from straining to hear what he was doing. It was much better for him to be in his crib.
This exactly for me too. I didn't co-sleep/bed share with DS and I don't plan to with this baby either. I'm a light sleeper and probably would never sleep if he was always in the same room. Plus, the dogs sleep in our room and I don't want them waking him up or him keeping DH up half the night when he works early. Definitely nothing against people who do though! It just doesn't work for us.
Benjamin born on - 4/5/12 BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
@AdventureMama have you been following the Holtzclaw case? I live in OKC, or a suburb of it...Moore. It's national news now of course but the comments on the threads are as disturbing as the case to me. Agree with that UO.
A friend of mine, who has a 1yo kid, who sleeps in their bed, said recently, that he does not remember when was the last time he had sex... About the weight gain. I did not gain much and very happy about it: compared to what I read on TB, I walk normally, able to get out of my bed by myself, wipe my butt by myself, do not have much pain in any part of my body, able to put my socks and shoes by myself. I know that stretch marks are mostly genetic, but, I bet, if I gained a 100lbs like my another friend, I would be covered in them
There are plenty of women on TB who have gained very little weight but still haven't had an easy pregnancy. Nice to hear that you're enjoying pregnancy though! Way to go!!
My UO - pregnant women should not be asked to fast for six hours. I usually snack every few hours to keep my stomach settled, and I had to fast today for a procedure. Torture!
(Obviously I would rather fast than aspirate during a potential emergency c-section. Just whining.)
This is like... A really heavy UO. So *Trigger warning*
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I don't find the whole "Haha, they'll get what's coming to them in prison! Prisoners love _____!" (certain crimes tend to be mentioned more). I don't think that should be such a joke in our society. Rape is rape, and it's never okay or any kind of laughing matter, no matter who the victim is.
As Gandhi said; an eye for an eye will make the whole world blind.
It's hypocritical to punish someone for something and then say you hope it happens to them. Someone being violently sexually assaulted because they did it to another person does not stop the original victims nightmares. It does not erase the pain, it creates another set of nightmares, another victim. The argument that they will "feel guilty" once they've experienced it is total BS. It's been proven that serial rapists and serial killers have an actual abnormality in their brian which causes them to enjoy the suffering of others and they are unable to feel remorse.
Like there's an episode of criminal minds (spoiler alert**) where the man who molested Morgan and countless other kids back in the day was in jail but no one in prison with him knew why. At the end of the episode Morgan gives a speech about how he knew what said unsub was feeling because he also was a victim of this guys abuse. Well the molester winds up being killed in prison when this is released and it doesn't help anyone. In fact Morgan appears almost upset at the end of the episode. It helped no one. (I am of course blanking on the characters name and it's making me super mad..)
@AdventureMama have you been following the Holtzclaw case? I live in OKC, or a suburb of it...Moore. It's national news now of course but the comments on the threads are as disturbing as the case to me. Agree with that UO.
Not purposefully following it, but that is what prompted my UO! I happened to read the comments on an article about it.
Re: UO Thursday
eta - honestly what pissed me off about her post is that she was shaming women who've lost weight or haven't gained much. Lots of women lose weight in the first tri from morning sickness and others lose weight throughout from eating better.
Congratulations; you're an asshole. Sorry that your 5 year old can't walk a lab at 3 am on their own. In all reality it doesn't matter who's dog it is, it will become a family task at times.
(Yes, someone ha already "returned" their Christmas puppy..)
ETA: sorry if this is a repeat I'm just so pissed off about it.
My doctor actually told me to "eat whatever I wanted" because I wasn't gaining weight due to sugar/iron issues. But I still feel bad when I have the eat everything in sight days.
ETA: I don't want to be "one of those people" It is just frustrating to me because I tried real hard to make sure that I was eating good and trying to break my bad habits even through my cravings and I've been super proud of myself and to have people shame me and try telling me I'm not eating enough for my baby and trying to shove food down my throat (mostly during the holidays around family) sucked because it was difficult not to indulge in things I wanted to all pregnancy.
DD1: 9/19/11
DS: 1/1/14
DD2: 1/31/16
Also, about co-sleeping, what happened to it being not recommended because the risks outweigh the "benefits"? I'm a FTM, and no judgement here, but I was always under the impression that co-sleeping was a huge no-no? I don't plan on co-sleeping for this exact reason and also I don't really want to.
I'm planning on sleeping in the same room, but not the same bed as my little one. We'll see how he does when he gets here. I don't know that I'd feel comfortable bed sharing, especially when he's tiny. So I'm not sure what I'll do if he's a super velcro baby.
I guess my OU is that I'm sort of glad that I ended up being an older Mommy. Seeing and hearing about all the judgement new Moms get has just floored me. I think it really would have messed with my head when I was younger. But I'm 38 years old. I'm happy to hear other people's experiences, but in the end I'm going to make the best choices I can for myself and my baby and anyone (especially a stranger) who wants to judge can bite me.
I'm 38, too and I hear all the time about how crazy I am to be having a baby at my age.
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
Now our son is two and he sometimes sleeps in his bed and sometimes sleeps in ours. It works well for us.
We plan to Co-sleep like we did (a bassinet next to our bed) for the first month or two. I won't say that I will not bed-share, as there were days when my first was several months old, when the 4am feeding was done in our bed and we bed shared until I had to get up for work. It was easier than rocking him back to sleep just to find myself wide awake at 5am, struggling to fall back to sleep before my alarm went off for work.
So even after he started sleeping in his crib, we bed shared often after early morning feedings. Once I mastered side nursing, it really helped allowing me to get some more sleep. He is now 2 and half, and never sleeps in our bed and never asks to sleep in our bed and we never really had any lingering issues with occasional bed-sharing during the first year.
We had LO side-carred in a crib next to us until I went back to work at 4 months. I was far too exhausted to get up and nurse after that (she nursed every 2-3hrs at night until she was close to a year), and let me tell you, whipping my boob out and going back to sleep was the best solution ever. We had no issues transitioning her to her bed when she turned 2.
To me it just sounds terrifying and like a great way for one - or all- of us to suffocate her. I mean honestly DH doesn't even pay attention when he gets up either. He just steps on us. (Me and the 10-11 pound dog..)
We have the "arms reach cosleeper) that goes next to our bed (like i mentioned earlier) but I really don't want to be using it. Her actual bed is in the same room and would be only 3 feet from the one that connects to the bed. And I have a feeling the dog may try sleeping in the cosleeper with her.
I'm very anti-bed sharing I guess, to specify.
I'm unsure and would like to not use the cosleeper. But I know never say never and we will have to see how it goes.
I think it really only matters if the way you're eating is a way that would actually affect your or the baby's Health or if you eat when your body begs you to stop, just because it sounds good.
I'm stuck in the middle of yours and @DrillSergeantCat 's opinions I suppose.
They are so perfect and individually packaged for my convenience and discretion.
Nothing wrong with having them in their own beds. Just have to throw my two cents about bedsharing into the ring.
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I don't find the whole "Haha, they'll get what's coming to them in prison! Prisoners love _____!" (certain crimes tend to be mentioned more). I don't think that should be such a joke in our society. Rape is rape, and it's never okay or any kind of laughing matter, no matter who the victim is.
About the weight gain. I did not gain much and very happy about it: compared to what I read on TB, I walk normally, able to get out of my bed by myself, wipe my butt by myself, do not have much pain in any part of my body, able to put my socks and shoes by myself. I know that stretch marks are mostly genetic, but, I bet, if I gained a 100lbs like my another friend, I would be covered in them
My UO - pregnant women should not be asked to fast for six hours. I usually snack every few hours to keep my stomach settled, and I had to fast today for a procedure. Torture!
(Obviously I would rather fast than aspirate during a potential emergency c-section. Just whining.)
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
It's hypocritical to punish someone for something and then say you hope it happens to them. Someone being violently sexually assaulted because they did it to another person does not stop the original victims nightmares. It does not erase the pain, it creates another set of nightmares, another victim. The argument that they will "feel guilty" once they've experienced it is total BS. It's been proven that serial rapists and serial killers have an actual abnormality in their brian which causes them to enjoy the suffering of others and they are unable to feel remorse.
Like there's an episode of criminal minds (spoiler alert**) where the man who molested Morgan and countless other kids back in the day was in jail but no one in prison with him knew why. At the end of the episode Morgan gives a speech about how he knew what said unsub was feeling because he also was a victim of this guys abuse. Well the molester winds up being killed in prison when this is released and it doesn't help anyone. In fact Morgan appears almost upset at the end of the episode. It helped no one.
(I am of course blanking on the characters name and it's making me super mad..)