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FTM in terrible distress: was told 1 of my unborn twins has a birth defect

Has any other mom been told the devastating news at a 2nd trimester ultrasound that one of your babies had a serious birth defect? If so, I would love to hear your experience and any advice you can give.

Re: FTM in terrible distress: was told 1 of my unborn twins has a birth defect

  • One of our twins has an abdominal wall defect omphalocele, though it not as severe as originally thought.
    H: 34 dx Azoospermia due to CBAVD from CF  
    ME: 39 IS FINE!!!  DOR and poor AMH/FSH/LH
    IVF/ICSI/PESA #1 Beta 1 373 Beta 2 1783 BOY/GIRL TWINS!! Born April 2010!!
    Natural FET 5/26/12 2 blasts Beta 1 207 Beta 2 513 Beta 3 1377 U/S 6/28 Pregnancy not viable d & c scheduled :( 
    IVF/ICSI/PESA #2 ER 11/15/12 Nothing to transfer :( 
    IVF/ICSI #3 April 2013 MDLF 3dt of 3 embryos, chemical :(  
    IVF #4/ICSI/MESA/CCS/FET EPP April 2015
    ODWU CCRM with Dr. Sch COMPLETE!!!! Put on acai supplement they are studying for DOR and embryo quality.
    DAY 3 Labs Drawn 2/26 put on vitamin D and calcium supplements
    Regroup and Protocol Reveal 3/04 "Bazooka Protocol" EPP with MDLF "Protocol 6 with patches"
    ER/MESA 4/10 ER 9 eggs retrieved MESA success found live swimmers :)
    Fertilization Report 6 eggs mature and ICSI'd 4 eggs fertilized normally
    Day 6 Report to Blast for CCS 4/16: 2 DAY 5 BLASTS BIOPSIED FOR CCS a 4AB and a 3AB!!!!
    CCS Results BOTH BLASTS CCS NORMAL!!!!!!  call on 4/24
    Regroup call to discuss CCS results and FET call on 5/20
    FET prep: CD 1 6/08 CD 3 Start BCP 6/10, HSG 6/12 Lupron Start 10 iu 6/17 End BCP 6/21 CD 1 6/23!!!
    Start vivelle patches 6/25 change e/o/d reduce Lupron to 5iu 6/25 Blood Draw 7/01, 7/08, 7/15, 7/19
    Increase vivelle patches 7/03 2 change e/o/d and 7/05 change e/o/d 3 and 7/07 4 change e/o/d add vaginal estrace 2x a day
    Lining Check/Blood Draw 7/08 and 7/15 End Lupron 7/18  Start PIO 1ml daily 7/18  Blood  Draw 7/19
    Flight to clinic 7/22
    FET 2 CCS BLASTS :):)  7/23 :):) YES YES both thawed and both fully expanded :):)
    7/26 :):) 3dp5dt PM very very faint positive FRER
    7/27: 4dp5dt Neg Digi AM but very very faint positive FRER PM POSITIVE DIGI CLEARBLUE PREGNANT 1-2 :):) 
    7/31:8dp5dt AM POSITIVE DIGI CLEARBLUE PREGNANT 2-3!!!! :):) 
    Beta 1 8/01= 408!!!!!!!!!! at 9dp5dt FET
    Beta 2 8/03 = 1014!!!!!!!!!! at 11dp5dt FET
    8/05/2015 AM POSITIVE DIGI CLEARBLUE PREGNANT 3+!!!! :):) 
    First Ultrasound: 8/20!!!!!! TWINS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Genetics says BOTH BOYS!!!!!!!!!
    Second Ultrasound: 9/03!!!!!!!!!!


  • When we went in for my 18 week appt to find out the sexes of our twins, the doc also checked anatomy which we weren't expecting. The doc basically said baby b might have Down syndrome. He also started pushing termination which royally pissed me off. This is the same doc that hinted towards my firstborn having Down syndrome! Needless to say, and I know you can relate, my pregnancies were very stressful and in a lot of ways ruined. All 3 of my boys from both pregnancies are just fine. I swear if we have a 4th baby I will not be seeing that doctor again. All I can say to you is do your very best not to worry & stress! It's bad for you & babies! What will be will be. Stay positive & embrace whatever has been given to you. I remember for me, the way I turned my stress around was I started reading blogs & books written by parents of special needs children. I became informed & learned to accept it. In the end I didn't need any of it, but in a weird way I feel like I'm a stronger woman because of the experience & preparing for the unknown. 
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  • Thanks @SBmomma! I would love to find out that the dr was wrong about his diagnosis but I would be surprised if that happened. Right now we just need more tests to find out the severity of my baby girls heart defect. Praying she's gonna be a fighter and a year from now we will all be smiling and healthy. I am definitely trying to find out moms who had a baby with this defect to form a support system for these next few months and the rest of my baby's life. I don't want to let this news ruin me, my pregnancy or my marriage. So I'm trying to stay hopeful until someone tells me otherwise.
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