It's not Thursday but I'm posting anyway. I've been reading when to go to the hospital with contractions, and a lot of women say their midwives said to wait for the "5-1-1" rule. I think the 5-1-1 rule is bullcrap. First, my OB has never told me this. Most importantly though, every woman is going to have a different labor experience & their bodies are going to handle it differently. Just reading in the j16 birth announcements, some women don't even feel like they're in labor. So, I vote to screw the rule. We know when something isn't normal. And if that means a trip to the hospital for something that isn't active labor, oh well. Better safe than sorry.
It's not a bonding "feeling" it's a chemical reaction that's there regardless of whether or not you feel it. And first-time marriages were never the real problem; while there have been small ups and downs, the general trend has been good there. The overall divorce rate, however, has stayed conspicuously high despite recent small decreases, the vast majority of which cite either infidelity or porn usage as a major contributor to the dissolution of the union in the papers. Because whether someone "feels" it or not, hormones and chemicals are released and can contribute to the feeling of distancing between spouses and bonds outside of the marriage.
The final word I'll say on the matter is that many mammals also eat/play with their feces and eat/kill their young. Just because something is found in nature doesn't mean I don't have a right to find it gross.
So masturbating with your partner is like double cheating on them? I'd love to see some sources on these "scientific" studies claiming its what causes divorce to be high....
I don't think porn is an issue. Men are all about visuals. That's how they are wired. Also most of our feelings are based off of chemicals being released in the body. There can be problems over the chemicals being too much or too little or even a problem with the site receiving the chemicals. There are a lot of different variables. To each their own. No one is the exact same. We all have a different biochemistry. And right now my body and biochemistry tell me it's all about naps!
This maybe a little more than y'all want to learn about me lol. I am pro-porn : have you ever watched it? It's hilarious! It's great to get the mood going. Pro-masterbating: I mean dont do it all day everyday wherever you like. But to relieve some tension is a-ok. I mean, you get the urge while your SO/DH is at work, do you expect him to drop everything and satisfy your needs? You waiting til he gets home just makes for a irritated woman I'm just saying.
I don't think these things are "sinful" It's a natural instinct in the human body. Well porn isn't lol but masterbation is, we all get the urge.
My SO and I take trips to the "adult" stores to spice up our sex life. Doing the same things over and over again gets boring after awhile. I'm all for adding and trying new thing to keep the romance and sexual experiences alive. Science or not if you lose interest then that's what's causing divorce.. Not porn or masterbating. I'm just saying.
This maybe a little more than y'all want to learn about me lol. I am pro-porn : have you ever watched it? It's hilarious! It's great to get the mood going. Pro-masterbating: I mean for do it all day everyday wherever you like. But to relieve some tension is a-ok. I mean, you get the urge while your SO/DH is at work, do you expect him to drop everything and satisfy your needs? You waiting til he gets home just makes for a irritated woman I'm just saying.
I don't think these things are "sinful" It's a natural instinct in the human body. Well porn isn't lol but masterbation is, we all get the urge.
My SO and I take trips to the "adult" stores to spice up our sex life. Doing the same things over and over again gets boring after awhile. I'm all for adding and trying new thing to keep the romance and sexual experiences alive. Science or not if you lose interest then that's what's causing divorce.. Not porn or masterbating. I'm just saying.
Really personal story time is over lol
Totally agree. We always find new ways to spice things up. You do the same thing over and over you get in a rut and bored. Sex is very important to a relationship. I don't get upset knowing my husband self pleasures. Especially lately when I just cant find energy to do it. Not saying we don't do it just not as much lately. And like you say if hes at work and I'm in the mood why not satisfy myself. I don't think theres anything wrong with it. There's nothing wrong if youre not into it either. I just think everyone is different and some just don't like it. No judgement here. And as for porn, lets face it sometimes its just hilarious what they come up with, but its a good way to get things going or gives ideas. Again no judgement if you don't like it, no judgement if you do.
It's not Thursday but I'm posting anyway. I've been reading when to go to the hospital with contractions, and a lot of women say their midwives said to wait for the "5-1-1" rule. I think the 5-1-1 rule is bullcrap. First, my OB has never told me this. Most importantly though, every woman is going to have a different labor experience & their bodies are going to handle it differently. Just reading in the j16 birth announcements, some women don't even feel like they're in labor. So, I vote to screw the rule. We know when something isn't normal. And if that means a trip to the hospital for something that isn't active labor, oh well. Better safe than sorry.
My midwives have a 5-1-1 guideline (not a rule), but it's on a piece of paper with a dozen other "when to call us" guidelines too. I honestly think 5-1-1 is more about giving us something tangible to work with. If my midwife said, "go to the hospital whenever you think it's time", I would be way more stressed trying to figure out when that would be.
Re: UO Thursday
I am pro-porn : have you ever watched it? It's hilarious! It's great to get the mood going.
Pro-masterbating: I mean dont do it all day everyday wherever you like. But to relieve some tension is a-ok. I mean, you get the urge while your SO/DH is at work, do you expect him to drop everything and satisfy your needs? You waiting til he gets home just makes for a irritated woman I'm just saying.
I don't think these things are "sinful"
It's a natural instinct in the human body. Well porn isn't lol but masterbation is, we all get the urge.
My SO and I take trips to the "adult" stores to spice up our sex life. Doing the same things over and over again gets boring after awhile.
I'm all for adding and trying new thing to keep the romance and sexual experiences alive.
Science or not if you lose interest then that's what's causing divorce.. Not porn or masterbating. I'm just saying.
Really personal story time is over lol