So apparently Alan Rickman has passed away. While I thought he was a great actor, I cannot muster up more than a "oh, that's sad" for him. Same goes for David Bowie, Robin Williams, Health Ledger, and every other celebrity I've seen an outpouring of sympathy for after their death. I didn't KNOW these people, nor anyone who was personally close to them - so I just can't imagine having real, intense sadness over their deaths. I just do not get it.
I got rubbed the wrong way yesterday, so here's mine.
Mothers who say things like "I stay at home because I don't want someone else raising my kids" are the reason for mommy wars. Period.
agreed, especially insulting when you consider how commonplace and successful alloparenting is for non-western cultures that encourage shared and communal responsibility of childrearing.
When people find out we are pregnant and asked if we "were trying" ugh I hate it phrased that way. All I can picture is having lots of unprotected sex and hoping that's not what the other person is envisioning! At least say "was it planned?" that sounds so much better to me! Either way that is a pretty personal question!
Me - 33; DH - 33 Dating 1/18/06 Married 9/21/13 BFP #1 12/15/15 - C Born 8/27/16 BFP #2 1/10/20 - EDD 9/8/20
@texasmama2014 I couldn't agree more. Just because my son goes to daycare does not mean that his teachers are raising him. Are they important people in his life? Without a doubt, and I love that, because they're amazing! But DH and I still make all of the important decisions for him and carry the load of the responsibility. When kids go to school we don't suddenly say their teachers are raising them, so why is it any different with daycare/babysitters?
I hate the what am I having posts! You can't tell by how you are carrying, or by symptoms or by HB or by the side the placenta is on. They are all old wives tales every pregnancy is different the only way to tell is by blood test, Ultrasound after 18 weeks or by waiting it out the old fashioned way.
When people find out we are pregnant and asked if we "were trying" ugh I hate it phrased that way. All I can picture is having lots of unprotected sex and hoping that's not what the other person is envisioning! At least say "was it planned?" that sounds so much better to me! Either way that is a pretty personal question!
This! We get asked this since our DD is only 17 months. yes this baby was a shock but why do you need to know that? doesn't mean this baby is any less loved.
I hate the what am I having posts! You can't tell by how you are carrying, or by symptoms or by HB or by the side the placenta is on. They are all old wives tales every pregnancy is different the only way to tell is by blood test, Ultrasound after 18 weeks or by waiting it out the old fashioned way.
I totally agree. I'm also not looking forward to all the "it's a..." posts. Look, we all know boy/girl is 50/50. If I don't know you, I really don't care what you're having because I'm assuming it's one or the other. But if you must AW the sex of your baby, at least put boy or girl in the title. To make someone open the post to see what it is assumes people care a lot more than they do.
I hate the what am I having posts! You can't tell by how you are carrying, or by symptoms or by HB or by the side the placenta is on. They are all old wives tales every pregnancy is different the only way to tell is by blood test, Ultrasound after 18 weeks or by waiting it out the old fashioned way.
I totally agree. I'm also not looking forward to all the "it's a..." posts. Look, we all know boy/girl is 50/50. If I don't know you, I really don't care what you're having because I'm assuming it's one or the other. But if you must AW the sex of your baby, at least put boy or girl in the title. To make someone open the post to see what it is assumes people care a lot more than they do.
Hopefully just one thread for everyone to post would be the best option!
Me - 33; DH - 33 Dating 1/18/06 Married 9/21/13 BFP #1 12/15/15 - C Born 8/27/16 BFP #2 1/10/20 - EDD 9/8/20
@Hummingbird125 Normally, I totally agree with you. I am a huge, nerdy Harry Potter fan and love Alan Rickman mostly because of his portrayal of Severus Snape. We even had a quote from the book of his on our toasting glasses at our wedding and cake topper. I'm going to be blaming it on pregnancy hormones, but I spent the better part of an hour trying to not cry about it.
I hate the what am I having posts! You can't tell by how you are carrying, or by symptoms or by HB or by the side the placenta is on. They are all old wives tales every pregnancy is different the only way to tell is by blood test, Ultrasound after 18 weeks or by waiting it out the old fashioned way.
I totally agree. I'm also not looking forward to all the "it's a..." posts. Look, we all know boy/girl is 50/50. If I don't know you, I really don't care what you're having because I'm assuming it's one or the other. But if you must AW the sex of your baby, at least put boy or girl in the title. To make someone open the post to see what it is assumes people care a lot more than they do.
Hopefully just one thread for everyone to post would be the best option!
Fingers crossed that people read and post in the thread. I also loathe reading posts about is it a boy or girl... Can we just keep it simple and asks for a healthy baby.
I'm building on my uo from last week. I hate when people name their children after random objects. Bridge is not a name. Neither is rocket or rabbit or pomegranate.
I'm tired of hearing that I'm stressed out just because I break down sometimes out of no where or because baby is making me sick I'm just fckn hormonal!!!!! Excuse my french!!!! That just makes me upset and start crying gah
I don't get this whole Ramzi thing. Which I believe is the same thing some of you are talking about. I have no idea what it is and I certainly can't tell you if it's a boy or girl by looking at an ultrasound. I can't tell from mine either. Looks like a baby with a big head and a big belly and that makes me happy. I'll just be happy if I have a healthy baby. I'm not worried about the sex of the baby; I'm worried about simply making it through the first trimester with no miscarriage again.
I don't get this whole Ramzi thing. Which I believe is the same thing some of you are talking about. I have no idea what it is and I certainly can't tell you if it's a boy or girl by looking at an ultrasound. I can't tell from mine either. Looks like a baby with a big head and a big belly and that makes me happy. I'll just be happy if I have a healthy baby. I'm not worried about the sex of the baby; I'm worried about simply making it through the first trimester with no miscarriage again.
When people find out we are pregnant and asked if we "were trying" ugh I hate it phrased that way. All I can picture is having lots of unprotected sex and hoping that's not what the other person is envisioning! At least say "was it planned?" that sounds so much better to me! Either way that is a pretty personal question!
This! We get asked this since our DD is only 17 months. yes this baby was a shock but why do you need to know that? doesn't mean this baby is any less loved.
I was asked this a couple times before my husband and I started TTC, and I was really tempted to respond with, "Are you really asking me if my husband and I are having lots of unprotected sex? How do you think that is any of your business?"
Re: UO Thursday
Mothers who say things like "I stay at home because I don't want someone else raising my kids" are the reason for mommy wars. Period.
Me - 33; DH - 33Dating 1/18/06
Married 9/21/13
BFP #1 12/15/15 - C Born 8/27/16
BFP #2 1/10/20 - EDD 9/8/20
We get asked this since our DD is only 17 months. yes this baby was a shock but why do you need to know that? doesn't mean this baby is any less loved.
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
Me - 33; DH - 33Dating 1/18/06
Married 9/21/13
BFP #1 12/15/15 - C Born 8/27/16
BFP #2 1/10/20 - EDD 9/8/20
Fingers crossed that people read and post in the thread. I also loathe reading posts about is it a boy or girl... Can we just keep it simple and asks for a healthy baby.
Baby #2: Emmeline Grey - August 2016
Baby #3: BFP 9/7/18 | EDD 05/24/19
.... I kinda miss the daily check in threads. (UO)
Also, I know I am a day late!