I think there should be one thread pined at the top for newbie intros instead of individual posts.
Someone said this awhile ago, but nothing ever happened. I think there's wayyyyy too many pinned posts already, so newbs should just jump in and post an intro in the WTO/TWW threads. Or some of the pinned posts should be axed.
My UO is likely to be VERY unpopular. I loathe when people post pictures of their babies and caption with things like "#blessed" or "Christmas came early!" or "our little miracle" or something else cheesy. Granted, I get that the child may seem like a miracle because it took forever or you had to get a bunch of treatment, or something like that. I guess I'm just too much of a newbie to get it, plus I'm not particularly emotional/sentimental when it comes to stuff. It may change in the future, but that's my UO now.
I think there should be one thread pined at the top for newbie intros instead of individual posts.
Someone said this awhile ago, but nothing ever happened. I think there's wayyyyy too many pinned posts already, so newbs should just jump in and post an intro in the WTO/TWW threads. Or some of the pinned posts should be axed.
My UO is likely to be VERY unpopular. I loathe when people post pictures of their babies and caption with things like "#blessed" or "Christmas came early!" or "our little miracle" or something else cheesy. Granted, I get that the child may seem like a miracle because it took forever or you had to get a bunch of treatment, or something like that. I guess I'm just too much of a newbie to get it, plus I'm not particularly emotional/sentimental when it comes to stuff. It may change in the future, but that's my UO now.
Maybe if you have to wait and wait and wait or suffer loss after loss you might get it. (I hope you don't have to experience either of those things though)
My UO - I don't like the interpersonal drama happening here right now. It's pissing me off. I don't want puppies and rainbows; I like snark. But I hate seeing people push buttons. No more bannings, BGs,you got that?
ETA: #TeamShell because I realized my post is rather ambiguous.
Ok I feel so clueless ....what is the #teamshell for? What happened?
My UO is likely to be VERY unpopular. I loathe when people post pictures of their babies and caption with things like "#blessed" or "Christmas came early!" or "our little miracle" or something else cheesy. Granted, I get that the child may seem like a miracle because it took forever or you had to get a bunch of treatment, or something like that. I guess I'm just too much of a newbie to get it, plus I'm not particularly emotional/sentimental when it comes to stuff. It may change in the future, but that's my UO now.
Maybe if you have to wait and wait and wait or suffer loss after loss you might get it. (I hope you don't have to experience either of those things though)
My UO is likely to be VERY unpopular. I loathe when people post pictures of their babies and caption with things like "#blessed" or "Christmas came early!" or "our little miracle" or something else cheesy. Granted, I get that the child may seem like a miracle because it took forever or you had to get a bunch of treatment, or something like that. I guess I'm just too much of a newbie to get it, plus I'm not particularly emotional/sentimental when it comes to stuff. It may change in the future, but that's my UO now.
Maybe if you have to wait and wait and wait or suffer loss after loss you might get it. (I hope you don't have to experience either of those things though)
I get it. Which is why I knew it would be an UO
FWIW, I thought it was cheesy as fuck too, but the events of the last few months have left me referring to DS as my "miracle baby" and has me overly sentimental about my potential second (and last) baby.
I think there should be one thread pined at the top for newbie intros instead of individual posts.
Someone said this awhile ago, but nothing ever happened. I think there's wayyyyy too many pinned posts already, so newbs should just jump in and post an intro in the WTO/TWW threads. Or some of the pinned posts should be axed.
I wonder if they could revise the "Welcome, New Members!" thread to eliminate the part that says to introduce yourself. ETA: I know that's the only reason I posted an intro.
I think there should be one thread pined at the top for newbie intros instead of individual posts.
Someone said this awhile ago, but nothing ever happened. I think there's wayyyyy too many pinned posts already, so newbs should just jump in and post an intro in the WTO/TWW threads. Or some of the pinned posts should be axed.
I wonder if they could revise the "Welcome, New Members!" thread to eliminate the part that says to introduce yourself. ETA: I know that's the only reason I posted an intro. Who needs to be notified to do this? The BGs?
Me: 33 DH: 31 DS: 5 years old TTC #2 since August 2015 July 2016: Testing cycle with 100 mg Clomid = BFN August 2016: 50 mg Clomid + IUI = BFN October 2016: IVF#1 - 13 retrieved / 12 mature / 9 fertilized / 2 blasts November 2016: FET#1 = chemical January 2017: FET#2 = chemical March 2017: IVF#2 - 18 retrieved / 18 mature / 16 fertilized / 5 blasts
April 24, 2017: FET#3 - BFN May 24, 2017: FET#4 - BFP! - Beta #1 151 - Beta #2 503 - Due date 2/9/18
I think there should be one thread pined at the top for newbie intros instead of individual posts.
Someone said this awhile ago, but nothing ever happened. I think there's wayyyyy too many pinned posts already, so newbs should just jump in and post an intro in the WTO/TWW threads. Or some of the pinned posts should be axed.
Maybe weekly thread post?
The intro threads have been bothering me a lot lately, too. I don't think it would hurt to add one more pinned thread as a master intro thread that also tells newbies not to post their own intro threads. Is there any way to get some of the unnecessary threads unpinned? Just for the sake of board organization, I think a master intro thread would clean up a lot of the intro intro intro newbie intro intro garbage.
@PeggyOlsonFTW really??? I mean, that discussion got a little heated, but it didn't seem like anything worth reporting? Or did I not read it that carefully?
@PeggyOlsonFTW really??? I mean, that discussion got a little heated, but it didn't seem like anything worth reporting? Or did I not read it that carefully?
I think that was the final straw, so to speak. I didn't see anything either. I think that people are upset because some relative newbs abused the report button which resulted in the banning. I think that's the issue anyway...
I think that was the final straw, so to speak. I didn't see anything either. I think that people are upset because some relative newbs abused the report button which resulted in the banning. I think that's the issue anyway...
@soda23 FWIW, I think #blessed is annoying regardless of the topic. Although I won't promise not to hashtag the shit out of baby pics when we get a sticky one. I might even give the kid his or her own annoying personal hashtag. I'm a bit of a #hypocrite, I guess.
@shaami1986 I'm with you. Canned tuna is the grossest creation ever.
@PeggyOlsonFTW really??? I mean, that discussion got a little heated, but it didn't seem like anything worth reporting? Or did I not read it that carefully?
I think that was the final straw, so to speak. I didn't see anything either. I think that people are upset because some relative newbs abused the report button which resulted in the banning. I think that's the issue anyway...
Did it maybe have something to do with her admitted alter ego? I know those are against the TOS on the Knot but I haven't been around here long enough to know how the BGs deal with them.
My UO opinion is that I am glad powerball mania is over so that we can all go back to our regularly scheduled lives. And I think the people celebrating at the 7 11 store that sold one of the winning tickets were morons. Dude, you all live in proximity to a convenience store that randomly churned out numbers that are valuable to someone who is not you. I don't get how this is a source of town pride.
DH and I: Early/mid 30s Married 7/15
TTC #1 as of 8/15
BFP 11/21/15 -- MC confirmed 12/1/15 BFP #2 2/18/16
I know I post frequently on BMBs or the Trimester boards and every now and then someone gets upset because I'm "not even pregnant". It's not cool to exclude someone who may offer a different and helpful point of view because they don't "belong" on this board. I understand having hard TTC days (I've had more than I can count). As long as the expecting ladies are respectful (TW's, Lurking Warning, not gloating about their BFP, or saying anything hurtful) I think they should be welcomed here as we would welcome anyone TTC. If I ever get my BFP, I'm sure I'll pipe in every now and then if I have some information to share.
I don't like the "inhibiting my enjoyment" TOU. That, to me, feels like anything anyone says could be reported and is most likely why Pocket got banned.
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I agree that the intro threads are getting to be a little much. Could we maybe consolidate/unpin some of the threads at the top and add an "INTRODUCE YOURSELF HERE" one, with instructions that people could also introduce themselves in WTO/TWW? I feel like that would help minimize the separate threads at least somewhat.
DH and I: Early/mid 30s Married 7/15
TTC #1 as of 8/15
BFP 11/21/15 -- MC confirmed 12/1/15 BFP #2 2/18/16
Couldn't someone just start an intros thread? There's new intros daily so it would keep getting bumped to the top until we were able to get it pinned. At least that would get the ball rolling. Idk just an idea, maybe that's not how these sort of things work
Me: 28 DH: 29 Married: August 2014 TTC #1 Since March 2015 Diagnosed with PCOS March 2016 SA results normal April 2016 3 rounds clomid + trigger + TI = BFN 3 rounds clomid + trigger + IUI = BFN Uterine polyp removed July 2017 Round 1 IVF January 2018
Couldn't someone just start an intros thread? There's new intros daily so it would keep getting bumped to the top until we were able to get it pinned. At least that would get the ball rolling. Idk just an idea, maybe that's not how these sort of things work
Anyone can. Then we just have to ask the BGs to sticky it over and over again
You know, I get annoyed with the intro threads, too, but I can also kind of see their purpose. Some people get their ya yas out in that first post - making etiquette mistakes, asking weird questions, etc. some people need to make a nice big gaffe and get called on it before they settle into the swing of things. I like the idea of doing a weekly or monthly newbie thread. It would consolidate everything and give people the chance to embarrass themselves real quick before getting into the flow.
My UO today is that one of my coworkers is teasing me relentlessly about TTC and I'm kind of enjoying it. Something about the way she's handling it is very sweet and loving. She doesn't even know I'm trying - it's just that I've been married for 2 months now, and she feels it would logically follow that I get KU right away. That mindframe bugs the hell out of me most days, but I weirdly don't mind it from her. I'm sure it also helps that I am still so early in this process and I'm lucky enough to feel casual about it, but the source of the comment matters to me.
Couldn't someone just start an intros thread? There's new intros daily so it would keep getting bumped to the top until we were able to get it pinned. At least that would get the ball rolling. Idk just an idea, maybe that's not how these sort of things work
Anyone can. Then we just have to ask the BGs to sticky it over and over again
Is everyone cool with me writing one? High points:
-Please introduce yourself here -For the sake of board organization, please do not create your own thread/new discussion solely for the purpose of introducing yourself -Please do lurk the TWW/WTO threads and introduce yourself there when you're ready to participate
My UO... I may be the only person who is not yet pregnant and have never been pregnant, but I love reading birth stories! What drives me UP THE WALL is when people say their baby "landed earth-side", or welcome to planet earth etc. You do realize your womb is on this planet right? Your baby has never been anywhere BUT earth-side. Just because you can't see your in utero baby, doesn't mean they don't exist!
wait... What?
I'm sure it's just a poor use of words, poor phrasing, but I can't figure out what that is supposed to mean either!
-------- anticipated qbf-------
my guess is that OP meant "I may be the only [non-pregnant/ never-been-pregnant] lady *who* enjoys reading birth stories."
That's exactly what I meant! Sorry... Words are hard. I have never had a baby. I like reading birth stories. --- QBF, come on bump app! --- No, it's okay. I was sure it wasn't meant the way I read it, but I could not for the life of me come up with the right way to read it!
Me: 30 DH: 32 ~~ TTC #1: Sep 2015 ~~ BFP: Mar 2016 ~~ Daughter: Nov 2016 TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
Is everyone cool with me writing one? High points:
-Please introduce yourself here -For the sake of board organization, please do not create your own thread/new discussion solely for the purpose of introducing yourself -Please do lurk the TWW/WTO threads and introduce yourself there when you're ready to participate
anything else?
I think this is a great idea. Something to think about though, Should you address how to respond to the intros? Can people say "welcome" to each individual person. It will gain a high post count that way. But it may not matter about a lot of posts because it's all in one place now.
I don't have an opinion either way, but just thought I'd bring it up.
Me:27 DH: 28 Married May 2012 TTC#1 July 2013 - July 2015 (no success) Again TTC#1: Dec 2015 First RE visit: Feb 2016 BFP: 9/16/16 EDD:5/26/17
@PeggyOlsonFTW really??? I mean, that discussion got a little heated, but it didn't seem like anything worth reporting? Or did I not read it that carefully?
I think that was the final straw, so to speak. I didn't see anything either. I think that people are upset because some relative newbs abused the report button which resulted in the banning. I think that's the issue anyway...
****quote box fail**** The abuse of the report button is ridiculous. People essentially use it as a "dislike" button.
In my hopefully not UO opinion, it should really only be for major TOU violations (if someone goes BSC and starts calling people c u next Tuesdays, etc.). But for regular disagreements, even if they're heated, I don't see any need to report things. Instead of tattling to the BGs, better to just put on the big girl panties and roll with it.
TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
@PeggyOlsonFTW really??? I mean, that discussion got a little heated, but it didn't seem like anything worth reporting? Or did I not read it that carefully?
I think that was the final straw, so to speak. I didn't see anything either. I think that people are upset because some relative newbs abused the report button which resulted in the banning. I think that's the issue anyway...
****quote box fail****
The abuse of the report button is ridiculous. People essentially use it as a "dislike" button.
In my hopefully not UO opinion, it should really only be for major TOU violations (if someone goes BSC and starts calling people c u next Tuesdays, etc.). But for regular disagreements, even if they're heated, I don't see any need to report things. Instead of tattling to the BGs, better to just put on the big girl panties and roll with it.
Exactly. I know the three of us had our moments on that thread, but neither of you said anything that warranted being banned.
I don't think I'm going to tell any (hopeful) future children about Santa, or I am at least going to make it more about him just being a fun character/mascot of Christmas, and not as someone magical who travels the world bringing all of your presents.
Last night I had to tell DS the truth, he had been asking and said he wasn't sure if he was real, and he flat out asked me. I didn't feel like I should lie to him when he was having doubts and looking to me for answers and truth. He was completely devastated and cried for an hour. Now I feel like a candidate for worst mom in the world and I feel like I should have just kept lying to him.
ETA: I don't know if that was really a UO but it's been weighing on me today. I guess the part about not telling kids about Santa might be a UO, the rest was just a vent. Sorry.
DS: June 2008 Married: July 2015 BFP: 5/20/16 | EDD: 1/28/17 | Twin boys born 1/16/17
I don't think I'm going to tell any (hopeful) future children about Santa, or I am at least going to make it more about him just being a fun character/mascot of Christmas, and not as someone magical who travels the world bringing all of your presents.
Last night I had to tell DS the truth, he had been asking and said he wasn't sure if he was real, and he flat out asked me. I didn't feel like I should lie to him when he was having doubts and looking to me for answers and truth. He was completely devastated and cried for an hour. Now I feel like a candidate for worst mom in the world and I feel like I should have just kept lying to him.
I don't want to tell any of my kids about Santa either, but I don't know if I should just let them believe based on what they hear from other people and then just not lie if they ask me or if I should tell them right away Santa isn't real...
My mom did the same thing you did for my three sisters and me and I was the only one who cried about it lol (though she did tell me instead of letting me ask because she thought I already knew)
Okay, this is what I have so far (see below). It seems a bit long to me already, and I feel like if it gets too long, no one will actually read it. I'm very open to edits/suggestions. - - - - - - - - Welcome to the Trying To Get Pregnant community! This is a great place to learn about your body, your cycle, and give and get support from other ladies who are also trying to conceive.
If you are new to TTGP, please feel free to introduce yourself in this thread. For the sake of board organization and minimizing clutter, we ask that you not create a whole new discussion/thread for your intro.
We highly recommend participating in the daily WTO (waiting to ovulate) and the TWW (two week wait) check-in threads as you move through the different stages of the month. When you post in those threads for the first time, feel free introduce yourself there as well.
My UO is likely to be VERY unpopular. I loathe when people post pictures of their babies and caption with things like "#blessed" or "Christmas came early!" or "our little miracle" or something else cheesy. Granted, I get that the child may seem like a miracle because it took forever or you had to get a bunch of treatment, or something like that. I guess I'm just too much of a newbie to get it, plus I'm not particularly emotional/sentimental when it comes to stuff. It may change in the future, but that's my UO now.
@soda23 - I'm with you. Also, while we are on the topic... My UO is that I can't stand the term "blessed". I'm not religious so there is that, but even if I were, I think it would still rub me the wrong way. For me, it sounds like the person is saying "I'm God's favorite and he divinely steps in to give me good things...nanana boo boo." Like... what is that saying about the people who have not received such "blessings"? I get it is a way of saying they are thankful or grateful, but why not just say that instead?
@sldp123 - FWIW I used to think about how to handle this too, until I saw this letter. This is exactly how I hope to handle the situation when the day comes.
@Tippy05 yes!! I had that letter pinned, but I thought I still had some time so I was not prepared. But I actually did read it to him - it went over like a lead balloon, haha.
DS: June 2008 Married: July 2015 BFP: 5/20/16 | EDD: 1/28/17 | Twin boys born 1/16/17
This I going to make me sound so heartless, but i can't roll my eyes hard enough at the people on Facebook who are crying (actual crying, not just posting RIP and moving on) over Alan Rickmans death. I agree its sad, death is always sad, but to actually literally cry for almost an hour over it. That's too much. I feel this way about all celebrity deaths though.
Me:27 DH: 28 Married May 2012 TTC#1 July 2013 - July 2015 (no success) Again TTC#1: Dec 2015 First RE visit: Feb 2016 BFP: 9/16/16 EDD:5/26/17
This I going to make me sound so heartless, but i can't roll my eyes hard enough at the people on Facebook who are crying (actual crying, not just posting RIP and moving on) over Alan Rickmans death. I agree its sad, death is always sad, but to actually literally cry for almost an hour over it. That's too much. I feel this way about all celebrity deaths though.
I cried when Robin Williams died. I get it's annoying when people are AWs, but even though you don't know a celebrity personally doesn't mean they didn't have an impact on someone's life. People deal with grief in different ways. Crying over the death of anyone doesn't seem like too much to me.
I do agree though that I roll my eyes so hard at people who use celebrity deaths as a way to make them look good, bring attention to themselves, shallow bandwagoning, or hijack it to promote some other cause.
Just caught up-- I've been jotting notes as I read...
-- #TeamShell here too.
-- re: Intros : sadly the folks that need to read & use such a consolidated thread will most likely not read it. Much like the terms if service, but you can try.
-- Team Traditional Names & traditional spellings here. I really really really despise all the off-the-wall spelling trends. I lurk babycenter (more than I will admit) and for you to share in my pain: https://community.babycenter.com/post/a60966349/?cpg=3#c2520335727
These kids have to get jobs & be taken seriously! Also-- can you imagine the fraud capabilities? Some asshat fakes your name and trying to convince the official powers that be that your artfully designed misspelled name is legit? It's a real pain.
One of my mom-friend's name is Rainbow Joy-- no shit, that's her name. She had someone commit some CC type fraud & she's still battling with the documentation to prove that this is her real ID.
Think people!! Your baby will be an adult. It's not an imaginary friend, puppy or baby doll.
-- I love Taylor Swift. She's a guilty pleasure of mine. She's pop though-- not really country.
-- re: TTGP Grads posting in threads. If they are threads like last night's kjack85 fiasco or to answer questions with their experience (IF or OPK or charting) it doesn't bother me at all. Starting random threads or something? Generally it's been seen as a no-no since I've been participating here. The tolerance for the posting by grads waxes & wanes depending on the regs of the moment. You used to get flamed to heck & back if you posted pregly on TTGP. Now there is more tolerance.
However, if enough folks express discomfort we could always ask the grads to try to confine their responses to the grad thread. Public board & all-- it gets dicey when you (general you) try to police who posts where. Etiquette-wise, generally I've felt that the grads have been respectful.
I'm absolutely sure the regs that are KU aren't out to hurt anyone though. So I think jumping to the conclusion that they are rubbing anything in anyone's face by trying to be helpful is a stretch. I've been on both sides now-- so I am more tolerant I think. However, I sympathize with the trigger aspect. Maybe if more folks speak up then the KU TTGP Grads that lurk can take it under advisement.
@soda23 : I didn't struggle or wait very long to have my two kids. I still feel very blessed to have them. I think it's odd to get Judgy about it because it gets into policing other folks' feelings.
If someone feels blessed/thankful (not always a religious term FYI) then let them feel what they feel, man.
My feelings are if I scroll past food posts, workout posts & all the people trying to sell me shit-- I really enjoy the #blessed posts with kids & animals. They make my FB feed a lot brighter. It's nice to have positive vibes to celebrate or just be happy for other people. Not saying you have to feel a certain way, but saying they are obnoxious is taking a dump on people's happiness & that sucks.
I guess my UO is I LOVE pictures of babies, ultrasounds, announcements & all that sunny rainbow crap on my FB. I'll take it over political BS or someone trying to get my money.
-- We do Santa, but for fun. Honestly it's not that serious IMHO.
Re: UO Thursday
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BFP #4 1/2016, DD born 10/2016
Married to my Soul Mate since 09/06/09
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BFP #4 1/2016, DD born 10/2016
I really enjoyed that kitty litter comment that got reported. People suck.
I get it. Which is why I knew it would be an UO
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BFP #4 1/2016, DD born 10/2016
Who needs to be notified to do this? The BGs?
DS: 5 years old
TTC #2 since August 2015
July 2016: Testing cycle with 100 mg Clomid = BFN
August 2016: 50 mg Clomid + IUI = BFN
October 2016: IVF#1 - 13 retrieved / 12 mature / 9 fertilized / 2 blasts
November 2016: FET#1 = chemical
January 2017: FET#2 = chemical
March 2017: IVF#2 - 18 retrieved / 18 mature / 16 fertilized / 5 blasts
May 24, 2017: FET#4 - BFP! - Beta #1 151 - Beta #2 503 - Due date 2/9/18
LFAF April Siggy: TV/Movie BFFs
BFP #4 1/2016, DD born 10/2016
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BFP #4 1/2016, DD born 10/2016
@shaami1986 I'm with you. Canned tuna is the grossest creation ever.
Me: 33 H: 36
Married: 12/14/13 DS: 1/29/09
BFP2: 10/9/15 MMC: 11/12/15
BFP3: 4/6/16 DD: 12/12/16
My UO opinion is that I am glad powerball mania is over so that we can all go back to our regularly scheduled lives. And I think the people celebrating at the 7 11 store that sold one of the winning tickets were morons. Dude, you all live in proximity to a convenience store that randomly churned out numbers that are valuable to someone who is not you. I don't get how this is a source of town pride.
Married 7/15
BFP #2 2/18/16
I know I post frequently on BMBs or the Trimester boards and every now and then someone gets upset because I'm "not even pregnant". It's not cool to exclude someone who may offer a different and helpful point of view because they don't "belong" on this board.
I understand having hard TTC days (I've had more than I can count). As long as the expecting ladies are respectful (TW's, Lurking Warning, not gloating about their BFP, or saying anything hurtful) I think they should be welcomed here as we would welcome anyone TTC.
If I ever get my BFP, I'm sure I'll pipe in every now and then if I have some information to share.
3/2015: Start TTC
8/2015: PCOS Dx
4/2016: BFP, Loss (4+5)
2/2017: BFP
Honorable mentions: Biggest IF support sister, sweetest bumpie, most genuine, LFAFer you'd most like to visit, great things come in small packages, pocket sized babe
Married 7/15
BFP #2 2/18/16
Me: 28 DH: 29
Married: August 2014
TTC #1 Since March 2015
Diagnosed with PCOS March 2016
SA results normal April 2016
3 rounds clomid + trigger + TI = BFN
3 rounds clomid + trigger + IUI = BFN
Uterine polyp removed July 2017
Round 1 IVF January 2018
I lurk. I snark. I offer sound advice if you're not BSC. You may not like me. I'm okay with it.
LFAF April Siggy: TV/Movie BFFs
BFP #4 1/2016, DD born 10/2016
My UO today is that one of my coworkers is teasing me relentlessly about TTC and I'm kind of enjoying it. Something about the way she's handling it is very sweet and loving. She doesn't even know I'm trying - it's just that I've been married for 2 months now, and she feels it would logically follow that I get KU right away. That mindframe bugs the hell out of me most days, but I weirdly don't mind it from her. I'm sure it also helps that I am still so early in this process and I'm lucky enough to feel casual about it, but the source of the comment matters to me.
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Started TTC #1 November 2015
BFP 6/10/2016 - EDD 2/22/2017
-Please introduce yourself here
-For the sake of board organization, please do not create your own thread/new discussion solely for the purpose of introducing yourself
-Please do lurk the TWW/WTO threads and introduce yourself there when you're ready to participate
anything else?
--- QBF, come on bump app! ---
No, it's okay. I was sure it wasn't meant the way I read it, but I could not for the life of me come up with the right way to read it!
TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
I don't have an opinion either way, but just thought I'd bring it up.
Married May 2012
TTC#1 July 2013 - July 2015 (no success)
Again TTC#1: Dec 2015
First RE visit: Feb 2016
BFP: 9/16/16 EDD:5/26/17
****quote box fail****
The abuse of the report button is ridiculous. People essentially use it as a "dislike" button.
In my hopefully not UO opinion, it should really only be for major TOU violations (if someone goes BSC and starts calling people c u next Tuesdays, etc.). But for regular disagreements, even if they're heated, I don't see any need to report things. Instead of tattling to the BGs, better to just put on the big girl panties and roll with it.
Last night I had to tell DS the truth, he had been asking and said he wasn't sure if he was real, and he flat out asked me. I didn't feel like I should lie to him when he was having doubts and looking to me for answers and truth. He was completely devastated and cried for an hour. Now I feel like a candidate for worst mom in the world and I feel like I should have just kept lying to him.
ETA: I don't know if that was really a UO but it's been weighing on me today. I guess the part about not telling kids about Santa might be a UO, the rest was just a vent. Sorry.
Married: July 2015
BFP: 5/20/16 | EDD: 1/28/17 | Twin boys born 1/16/17
I don't want to tell any of my kids about Santa either, but I don't know if I should just let them believe based on what they hear from other people and then just not lie if they ask me or if I should tell them right away Santa isn't real...
My mom did the same thing you did for my three sisters and me and I was the only one who cried about it lol (though she did tell me instead of letting me ask because she thought I already knew)
Okay, this is what I have so far (see below). It seems a bit long to me already, and I feel like if it gets too long, no one will actually read it. I'm very open to edits/suggestions.
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@soda23 - I'm with you. Also, while we are on the topic... My UO is that I can't stand the term "blessed". I'm not religious so there is that, but even if I were, I think it would still rub me the wrong way. For me, it sounds like the person is saying "I'm God's favorite and he divinely steps in to give me good things...nanana boo boo." Like... what is that saying about the people who have not received such "blessings"? I get it is a way of saying they are thankful or grateful, but why not just say that instead?
Married: July 2015
BFP: 5/20/16 | EDD: 1/28/17 | Twin boys born 1/16/17
Married May 2012
TTC#1 July 2013 - July 2015 (no success)
Again TTC#1: Dec 2015
First RE visit: Feb 2016
BFP: 9/16/16 EDD:5/26/17
I do agree though that I roll my eyes so hard at people who use celebrity deaths as a way to make them look good, bring attention to themselves, shallow bandwagoning, or hijack it to promote some other cause.
BFP on 7/2/2013
-- #TeamShell here too.
-- re: Intros : sadly the folks that need to read & use such a consolidated thread will most likely not read it. Much like the terms if service, but you can try.
-- Team Traditional Names & traditional spellings here. I really really really despise all the off-the-wall spelling trends. I lurk babycenter (more than I will admit) and for you to share in my pain:
https://community.babycenter.com/post/a60966349/?cpg=3#c2520335727
These kids have to get jobs & be taken seriously! Also-- can you imagine the fraud capabilities? Some asshat fakes your name and trying to convince the official powers that be that your artfully designed misspelled name is legit? It's a real pain.
One of my mom-friend's name is Rainbow Joy-- no shit, that's her name. She had someone commit some CC type fraud & she's still battling with the documentation to prove that this is her real ID.
Think people!! Your baby will be an adult. It's not an imaginary friend, puppy or baby doll.
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-- re: TTGP Grads posting in threads. If they are threads like last night's kjack85 fiasco or to answer questions with their experience (IF or OPK or charting) it doesn't bother me at all. Starting random threads or something? Generally it's been seen as a no-no since I've been participating here. The tolerance for the posting by grads waxes & wanes depending on the regs of the moment. You used to get flamed to heck & back if you posted pregly on TTGP. Now there is more tolerance.
However, if enough folks express discomfort we could always ask the grads to try to confine their responses to the grad thread. Public board & all-- it gets dicey when you (general you) try to police who posts where. Etiquette-wise, generally I've felt that the grads have been respectful.
I'm absolutely sure the regs that are KU aren't out to hurt anyone though. So I think jumping to the conclusion that they are rubbing anything in anyone's face by trying to be helpful is a stretch. I've been on both sides now-- so I am more tolerant I think. However, I sympathize with the trigger aspect. Maybe if more folks speak up then the KU TTGP Grads that lurk can take it under advisement.
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If someone feels blessed/thankful (not always a religious term FYI) then let them feel what they feel, man.
My feelings are if I scroll past food posts, workout posts & all the people trying to sell me shit-- I really enjoy the #blessed posts with kids & animals. They make my FB feed a lot brighter. It's nice to have positive vibes to celebrate or just be happy for other people. Not saying you have to feel a certain way, but saying they are obnoxious is taking a dump on people's happiness & that sucks.
I guess my UO is I LOVE pictures of babies, ultrasounds, announcements & all that sunny rainbow crap on my FB. I'll take it over political BS or someone trying to get my money.
-- We do Santa, but for fun. Honestly it's not that serious IMHO.
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