Who have you told?

mommytimesfour · January 2016

Time is ticking along and some of us have had ultrasounds already, so I'm curious to know who's revealed their news? I'm excited and bursting at the seams waiting to share, but I really want to wait until after my first scan to make sure everything is going well. Looks like I have another 3ish weeks.

mali0902 · January 2016

I can't keep secrets for the life of me! After dh, the first person I technically spilled to was my BFF the day after bfp. (DH still doesn't know I told her. I'll tell him eventually

) Aside from that, we decided to tell dh's mom, dad and sister last weekend (it felt so incredible!) and we are telling my parents this Saturday! Eep! I'm so excited. Will tell my sister and grammy soon, but everyone else will have to wait a little longer

irishblessings916 · January 2016

I've told my best friend and my co-worker, who spilled it to my boss. But he's not said anything to me yet. I only told my co-worker bc our schedule is better her and I. So I figured if I needed to switch her a day, she'd ask. So I just told her. Other than that I'm waiting until after my first appt.

irishblessings916 · January 2016

*between. Dumb auto correct.

nicosh8 · January 2016

My husband is the Only one who knows! We will tell our parents and siblings after our first u/s on Feb 9 at 10 weeks.
It's so hard not to blab though!

bettertogether27 · January 2016

I'm bursting at the seams! I've already told my parents and sisters, haven't seen my brother in a while, and we've told SO's parents and his sister. I'm ready to tell all my friends though! I don't want to hide all my pinteresting finds —they gave me away with DS.

Sporty1216 · January 2016

We told our parents a week after I got my BFP (and had taken additional tests daily)! We'll tell the rest of our family after our dating scan. Then we'll probably tell friends after the 12 week appointment.

zrain · January 2016

We told a few of our friends who were staying with us when i got my BFP because I needed someone else besides my DH to tell me there was a second line (DH said he couldn't see it). I also told my two best friends and DH's parents, and we'll tell my parents next week when they're up here visiting. I figure I'm close enough to all those people that I would want their support if something went wrong. I also told the staff where I'm getting physical therapy in case in impacts my treatment.

mom2adoodle · January 2016

At 6 weeks today I have told.....

DH
My mom
My sister
(waiting to tell my dad who has a big mouth)
My 3 closest friends
My colleague who helped tremendously when I went through a miscarriage

CRich15 · January 2016

We've told my really close friends and my boss. We are going to wait to tell family until after we get our first U/S. We are still trying to think of a cute way to include our kids in the announcement.

blondie080300 · January 2016

I am so grateful for this community! It has been the best outlet for me since I haven't told anyone except my DH (I am 4 weeks 5 days). It is so hard keeping this a secret! DH and I want to wait until our confirmation appoint on 2/1 before telling our parents and siblings (I'm going to try to hold out until Valentine's Day). We then want to wait until after the first trimester before sharing with everyone else.

homebird · January 2016

Daughter. Sister. Parents and In-laws. I'll need their support no matter what!

LizC216 · January 2016

We've told my parents and my 3 sisters. I really wanted to wait, but when I got that horrible migraine last week, I needed help. My mom asked if I was pregnant so I just told her. One of my sisters asked, noting that I was very emotional at Christmas...I cried multiple times. Turns out I was, but even I didn't know at that point.

Hopefully once I'm out of the first trimester we can start sharing the news.

Whoops...after I wrote all this, I forgot I told my best friend. She was trying for a Sept baby and asked me about our status, so I was honest with her.

marikkita12 · January 2016

We have told everyone and their mother. This is our first and also our parents' first grand baby on both sides. We are too excited to wait 7 more weeks

mrt · January 2016

We told our parents and siblings right away. We also told the friends we visited on New year's eve. It was going to be pretty obvious when I didn't drink at all.

My husband apparently told a couple of his coworkers.

KayJDT3 · January 2016

I've told my husband, my mom and stepdad, and 2/3 of my siblings. DH told some of the folks he's working with. When my husband gets home we'll tell our kids together. We'll wait another month or so before telling anyone else, including his family.

mali0902 · January 2016

@mom2adoodle I was nervous about telling both my SIL abd MIL because they have the biggest mouths. SIL already almost got herself in trouble when a friend texted her that she was getting baby vibes from me. SIL later says to me "thank god she didn't ask me in person!" Yea.....thank god

And my MIL has 4 siblings she gossips about everything with, and I can see her saying "Now you can't tell anyone, but...." and then all 20 of DH's cousins would know. It would just completely take the wind out of my sails if they tell people. I guess I shouldn't be worrying about hypothetical situations, but I always find myself playing out the worst case scenario in my mind, for any situation really.

jilligirl16 · January 2016

DH and I only told my sister and my aunt. I asked both of them to keep it discreet. Well, I find out the other day that my sister told another sister, and that sister told my parents. Supposedly she thought they already knew. Which I think is a lie.

I am beyond offended that my sister would go and tell people that behind my back. I had specific reasons for not wanting my parents to know just yet. I had specific reasons for wanting to be the one to tell them and share the news with them.

My sister is an idiot and just doesn't get it. She has never tried to get pregnant, and she never has been pregnant. I think that if she had been, she would've been a bit more understanding. But even still… Whether she can understand me or not, is that really an excuse for her to break my trust? Sorry this turned into a huge rant ladies.

tieragonz · January 2016

My husband was there when I tested, and I told my sister yesterday. We are planning on keeping it quiet from everyone else until the end of March. My parents are celebrating their 20th wedding anniversary then and we were thinking about giving them a photo or something for their anniversary announcing the baby.

diagonalley · January 2016

I'm still super close with my first BMB which transitioned to FB after our babes were born, so they knew right after DH. And I'm terrible at keeping it a secret so I told my parents and brother that day, too. The first day back to work I told my closest friends, one of which wanted to get pregnant when I was with my first and finally got her BFP in October so we're both super psyched to finally be pregnant together

Otherwise mum is the word. I'm going to try and keep it from getting out at work otherwise because I'm hoping they'll switch me to a different position and I don't want to give them any ammo not to. We'll see how long I can physically hide it though. I didn't show til about 18 weeks last time around but I always hear the 2nd shows earlier.

JennM205 · January 2016

Other than DH, I told one of my sisters and my best friend right away. (Both knew we were trying and are also people I'd want in my corner if anything happened.) Outside of them, I prefer to be in the "wait to tell" camp but, due to circumstances, we told my Mom and my other sister pretty much right away too. (We stayed with them for five days straight over Christmas and it would have been impossible to keep secret. Plus, both of them have no filter so if they suspected something, I wouldn't put it past them to ask us in front of a bunch of people. So, to avoid them outing us unintentionally, we just told them and asked them to keep it secret.) After another couple of weeks, we told my brother-in-law. Still earlier than I would have liked but he lives with us right now so it was getting hard to keep the secret in my own house 24/7. We plan on telling my Dad and his wife and my brother after the first scan, assuming all is good. DH's Mom won't know until we're ready to tell the world because she blabs too much.

camichael84 · January 2016

DH and I are the only ones that know. Right now the plan is to tell family after our first u/s at the beginning of February. I made it no secret to anyone we were going to start trying in 2016, so I don't think anyone will be that surprised. However, I got pregnant sooner than either of us thought would happen, and we aren't feeling any rush to share yet.

izzetoot · January 2016

We've told my parents and family and DHs parents. I magically hid it from my boss at our meeting this week. Im in the wine industry and we had a Christmas party/meeting Monday and there's only 5 of us and there were 6btls of wine on the table. I was the first to ask for a spit cup and got the side eye, but blamed it on having to drive 3hrs back home. Whew...

Beegey33 · January 2016

We have pretty much told the important people that are in our lives daily. Best friends, siblings and parents. My bosses also know. We decided that these are the people we would want and need support from if we lost the baby. I also don't think it is something to keep a secret. I think it is exciting and okay to tell if you want. However I wont post on social media until after our appt.

Missladyj631 · January 2016

I am 6 weeks and a day and due on 9/6/16 with baby #2!

We've been trying for a year and 4 months so we are super excited!! We've told my father, Mother in law, Father in Law, Sister in law and a few best friends. Been for my initial visit and blood work. First sono is next Friday

mrsevyrew · January 2016

Besides DH, no one else knows. He says I'm not "officially pregnant" until my first Dr's appointment. We're waiting to tell everyone until the risk of miscarriage goes down some more. It's getting really hard not to tell some people. One of my sisters has been asking if I've been pregnant for over a year! She really wants a little niece/nephew to spoil.

AshleySparkle720 · January 2016

Dh knows and we are announcing at Dh's first birthday party on the 30th. I will be 8 weeks then so we are okay with telling people at that point.

JasonKristen · January 2016

DH, a co-worker, and about 300 women who are from my first two BMB which transitioned to FB groups.

missteacherlady16 · January 2016

@nicosh8 - i was just stalking you and wanted to first say

1. Hello old friend - I've missed you!

2. Congrats on your BFP - fx for a sticky baby!

3. YGPM

chickendancefever · January 2016

I told my two closest friends right away. Then we told my parents, brother, and sister in law this past weekend. We are going to visit his parents in about two weeks to tell them in person. Everyone knew we were going through infertility and if it ends in a mc, it will be helpful to have their support.

Smallangel · January 2016

6w+4 and had my first scan already but only told my parents and DH's parents.

At this point these are the only people I would want to know this early as I've already had 2 unsuccessful pregnancies.

The rest of the family and close friends will know around 12w after my second scan and then everyone else and social media will know at around 16w's (If I can hide it that long as I'm petite so may start to show quickly)

Tennis11785 · January 2016

Hey! Right now, only DH knows.

I'm waiting until the first Dr. appointment (1/28) before telling anyone else but my best friend. We don't live in the same state, but we will be together before then, so I'm going to tell her in person.

I'm having a hard time deciding when to tell family. If something were to go wrong, I can totally see myself wanting to punch every word that comes out of my mother-in-law's mouth. She means well, but she's just overwhelming and our styles are opposite. I can just see her being one of those people who tries to offer a ton of advice and talk about it, and I'll just get annoyed and think "leave me alone!"

We're still debating when to tell friends. I've got a close group of friends that we've all confirmed with each other extremely. DH isn't on board, but I think he's coming around to the idea of me sharing it with them once we've had a scan.

AnnaS930 · January 2016

So far just me and my husband know (and I've whispered it to our 1 year old son, but he's not spilling the beans to anyone!!) Oh - and a small group of mamas from my Dec14 board that moved to a private FB group, maybe 25-30 of us in there... I had asked them for good vibes while trying to conceive so I had to tell them when I saw the first light line. Last time we waited until our first appointment/dating ultrasound which was somewhere around 10 weeks to tell our parents and my sister, and waited until after the first trimester to tell friends,coworkers, facebook.

This time my first appointment is Jan 28, and by ovulation that'll put me a little over 8 weeks, a little over 9 maybe by LMP. Will wait to spread any news until I see a heartbeat on the US as that's what makes it feel real to me

Megz1902 · January 2016

Only DH and I know right now. We will probably tell our parents and siblings soon. Then the rest of the family after the first U/S as well as our workplaces. Then we will make it "Facebook official" at 12 weeks. Thinking up cute ways to tell our families...

fkennard · January 2016

Only 5w, but I'm horrible at keeping my own secrets........so our parents, siblings, a bunch of close friends and a handful of coworkers know! I'm a nurse, so we all tend to "overshare" about everything in our lives!

revlaurawittman · January 2016

We went public after our us yesterday. But my husband and I are both pastors and after all the morning sickness I've had most people we know have figured it out anyway. Word spreads fast in a church. Haha.

MoonInOr · January 2016

We have told our parents, BIL, my best friend, and our whole dinner club - of 10 friends

MoonInOr · January 2016

Ack, the bump missed half of my post! Telling our 2 sons after 1st appt on 1/25, and a few more close friends. Social media public at about 10-12 wks probably. It's killing me not telling our boys, but they are at the age that they might tell people, and we don't want the world to know quite yet!

amandam925 · January 2016

I'm 7 weeks 2 days and have had my first scan already, but apart from the medical professionals involved, just my DH and I know.

This is our first and the first grandchild on both sides, but our moms would both tell everyone and we're not ready for everyone and his/her mother to know. We've decided to wait to spill until after we get the result of our NIPT testing -- we're having the testing done at 10 weeks so, as long as everything is okay then, that would put us telling around the end of the first trimester.

mevans25 · January 2016

My parents, brother and SIL, FIL & MIL, his grandfather (who has dementia), a few close friends, some coworkers (I world in the medical field so it is hard to explain why you can't lift patients alone when you have been doing it alone for 4 years), nosy coworkers that looked at my chart after I had peg test and they seen on billing sheet (beyond upset about that), my husband has tools a few guys he works with. Everyone else which seems like a short list after typing this will find out after my first scan. We are telling rest of family the day of scan and social media on Valentine's day. I will be 10 weeks.

mevans25 · January 2016

Preg* autocorrect is the devil

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