*TW- loss and TMI* Lurker from another board here. I don't want to butt in, OP, but I wanted to say I have been in your situation, and I think the best thing I did for my body and mind was to wait, even when that seemed like the hardest thing to do. I had an MMC at 10 weeks in May of last year, and I bled for a full month after. I bled initially, then it stopped, then I'd bleed again...Heavily, on and off, with tennis ball sized clots. For a whole month. My Dr said she hadn't seen my situation before and didn't have much to tell me, either. So I waited. As much as I wanted another baby right away, I waited for my body to heal, which in turn healed my mind. Like a PP said, your body goes into all sorts of screwy modes after miscarriage or birth, and may be unpredictable. Before my MC, I had 28 day cycles, perfectly time-able, and bled for almost exactly 3 days each time. So it was hard and frustrating to figure out this post-MC body that couldn't be mine, but was. I can't imagine having to try and maneuver possible early pregnancy while dealing with excess bleeding and infection. Waiting until your cycle gets back to normal again may help bring more clarity and peace to your TTC journey...even though I recognize waiting for a baby can be the hardest thing after loss!
Thank you for your advice and guidance, I am very sorry for your loss and hope and pray you get you bfp soon, and we've decided to wait for a while until I feel normal and we are both ready. Thank you and good luck x
I'm gonna echo @KaylaR628 as that was similar to my experience....I had a MMC at 12.5 weeks and bled for two weeks, then spotted, then back to bleeding. I passed an intact sac so I did not have an ultrasound to verify any retained tissue. I didn't get a real actual period for 7 weeks after my miscarriage, and I knew that because I started temping in between. And I'll admit, I was so desperate to get pregnant again that I did the next cycle, even though my doctor told me to wait at least one cycle to heal and normalize and all that. I cant say for certainty that me doing that impacted my next pregnancy being ectopic, resulting in the loss of a tube and nearly dying, but I'll say that i WISH i had waited. I get the emotions you are feeling right now. They will change though, and in the meantime, taking back some control by temping, opks, and just grieving for a minute are the best advice I can give. I wish I had listened to literally everyone here and on the "other website" that told me all of what PP are saying to you now, but I was angry and hurt and just wanted to hear what I wanted to hear. Best of luck.
BFP #2 4/3/15= ectopic treated with methotrexate 5/1, YET ruptured 5/18/15= One Tube Wonder!
2 Cycles of Femara, Ovidrel, & Progesterone= BFP #3 DS born 5/17/16 TTC #2 March 2017 (initially med free) BFP #4 8/14/17 *natural cycle* EDD= 4/25/18, MC @5-6w D&C 9/22/17 BFP #5 12/29/17 w/ Femara/Ovidrel/Progesterone/Synthroid, EDD= 9/11/18 found out 1/18 ITS di/di TWINS!!! DS and DD born 8/21/18
I'm gonna echo @KaylaR628 as that was similar to my experience....I had a MMC at 12.5 weeks and bled for two weeks, then spotted, then back to bleeding. I passed an intact sac so I did not have an ultrasound to verify any retained tissue. I didn't get a real actual period for 7 weeks after my miscarriage, and I knew that because I started temping in between. And I'll admit, I was so desperate to get pregnant again that I did the next cycle, even though my doctor told me to wait at least one cycle to heal and normalize and all that. I cant say for certainty that me doing that impacted my next pregnancy being ectopic, resulting in the loss of a tube and nearly dying, but I'll say that i WISH i had waited. I get the emotions you are feeling right now. They will change though, and in the meantime, taking back some control by temping, opks, and just grieving for a minute are the best advice I can give. I wish I had listened to literally everyone here and on the "other website" that told me all of what PP are saying to you now, but I was angry and hurt and just wanted to hear what I wanted to hear. Best of luck.
I am so sorry for both of your losses, I can't imagine what you've gone through. I will wait and have abstained from anything until I've had a proper cycle. Thank you for all of your guidance, I was never given any information from the hospital or the doctors. So I was clueless hoping that I can have a normal cycle, then maybe I can be in the best possible state to carry again. Wishing you all the luck, thank you x
OP, I think you need a new doctor. You've been on and off bleeding since your loss, they didn't do an ultrasound to make sure you passed everything, and they are not discouraging you from TTC for at least a cycle to let your body heal. There are alarm bells going off everywhere. Also, EWCM does not always indicate ovulation! It can occur multiple times throughout your cycle, especially when your body has just experienced something so drastic. Please, please go see a new OB/Gyn, and stop TTC until you have some real answers. You need to be 100% sure that your reproductive organs are healed and healthy before TTC again, and based on all of the bleeding and symptoms you've been having, you aren't physically ready yet.
OP I am sorry your doc hasn't been helpful. I have agree with PP that a new doc might be a good idea. Also, please don't be afraid to ask your doc questions! Answering your health questions is part of their job, and your job is to advocate for yourself. Many docs seem to forget that their patients don't have medical knowledge and need explanations. Great docs ask if you have any questions, but even if they don't, it's okay to ask. If your doc still doesn't answer your questions, it's time to get a new one.
PS - I also get that the MC process is frustrating. I hope it gets better for you soon.
OP: I think you've gotten great advice so far. I'm sorry for your loss and I know how confusing this all can be. After my first loss, I had a lot more ewcm than usual, and multiple times, but that first cycle was also longer than usual - I wasn't temping then but, based on cm and my cycle length, I must've geared up to O but didn't until later.
All that to say that your previously normal cycles can now vary a lot, unfortunately. While you're waiting for your body to heal, I'd recommend reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility and start tracking your bbt. It really gave me a better feeling of control and awareness about what was going on with my body.
I'm sorry again for your loss and wish you the best moving forward.
TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
Re: Please help me- TW mentions current loss
TTC #2 March 2017 (initially med free)
BFP #4 8/14/17 *natural cycle* EDD= 4/25/18, MC @5-6w D&C 9/22/17
BFP #5 12/29/17 w/ Femara/Ovidrel/Progesterone/Synthroid, EDD= 9/11/18 found out 1/18 ITS di/di TWINS!!!
DS and DD born 8/21/18
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
PS - I also get that the MC process is frustrating. I hope it gets better for you soon.
Me: 33 H: 36
Married: 12/14/13 DS: 1/29/09
BFP2: 10/9/15 MMC: 11/12/15
BFP3: 4/6/16 DD: 12/12/16
All that to say that your previously normal cycles can now vary a lot, unfortunately. While you're waiting for your body to heal, I'd recommend reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility and start tracking your bbt. It really gave me a better feeling of control and awareness about what was going on with my body.
I'm sorry again for your loss and wish you the best moving forward.