Like a few PP, my fear is that once I finally do go into labor it will be so fast that I won't make it to the hospital or won't have time to get an epi. Last pregnancy I wasn't dilated much before hand and even though my contractions were 3-5 min apart they wouldn't admit me. This time I'm 3.5cm and 70% effaced ahead of time. I'm afraid to bounce on a ball because I'm afraid to keep dilating without contractions.
I actually wanted a home birth but my husband and his entire side of the family (90% of whom work in the medical field) won't even hear of that so I think it's a little funny that some of you fear not making it to the hospital where I would be totally ok having my baby at home. I live next door to a doctor so I'm good hahaha!!! My biggest fear is going straight into hard labor while out at the store or something and not being able to get back home by myself and being stuck on the floor of the cereal aisle.
I did in fact hemorrhage on the table and came close to dying in labor from HELLP Syndrome. My blood wouldn't clot and I had 12 bags of blood transfused. My body continued to crash even after they stopped the bleeding. It was an absolutely terrifying experience for my poor husband and my family but here I am alive! Typing this to you all. That was my biggest fear; it happened, and because we live in a wonderful age of medical advances and technology I am okay and my babies are okay.
So whatever your biggest fears are, remember they are extremely unlikely. And in the event you are in the unlucky group like me, I think and hope you will be blessed with good doctors and medical staff like I was.
I had a crying episode today due to fears of losing my baby, my 2yr old, husband, parents, dogs or any other loved ones. My mind just started racing with fear. I really feel this has to be do to some change in hormones at the end of pregnancy.....sigh
I had a crying episode today due to fears of losing my baby, my 2yr old, husband, parents, dogs or any other loved ones. My mind just started racing with fear. I really feel this has to be do to some change in hormones at the end of pregnancy.....sigh
This is so me but just been diagnosed with OCD which manifests itself in intrusive & often disturbing thoughts. What you described in your breakdown/freak out is normal for me. Try and visualise the opposite or think of a happy time it place (works for me). The more you think about it the worse it gets unfortunately. Try and enjoy day to day life and be in the moment xxx
My irrational fears:
1. Going overdue and having a 9lb plus baby (others were all progressively bigger).
2. Baby getting stuck (again) as happened with kids 2 & 3 worse pain ever and apparently I was begging them to kill me!!!!
3. Hubby not making it home and no one else being around to look after the kids - so effectively being stranded, in pain, in labour and having to deal with my other kids!!?
4. Something being wrong with baby due to GBS (I tested positive).
@Karenin my epidural only worked on one side --- but the good news is, if that happens they can just replace it (eg give you another one). And as long as you can be still to get it, they told me there really isnt a time limit on when it can be administered - I got my second one 2 hours into pushing. So don't worry---even if it doesn't work, they can try again!
the nurse told me at like 32 weeks that he was really long. My mother in law said DH had really wide shoulders when he was born..
So now I have it in my head that he's this huge baby, whose going to weigh like 10+ lbs.
So I'm afraid he's going to get stuck in the birth canal, or I'm going to get his head out and they're gonna have to push it back in and take me via c section...
Yeah. I'm a crazy person.
my second LO was 10 lbs 3 oz and I'm a very petite person but the birth was not bad! My DH is a foot taller than me and a broad shouldered person Henry my massive kids lol but fbthis is your fear I can tell you that big babies aren't always rough deliveries. It was much harder work pushing than with my first, who was 8.5, but that was the only difference. Hope that helps a tiny bit!
@Karenin my epidural only worked on one side --- but the good news is, if that happens they can just replace it (eg give you another one). And as long as you can be still to get it, they told me there really isnt a time limit on when it can be administered - I got my second one 2 hours into pushing. So don't worry---even if it doesn't work, they can try again!
Well now I have a pretty irrational fear of hearing "it's a boy!" on the big day. I was pretty confident after all of our ultrasounds were "turtle-free" but people who see my 38-week bump say it's highly unlikely I'm carrying a girl the way I am. For real? I'm gonna let old wives tales give me panic attacks this late in the game?
Maybe I just carry babies weird. I dunno. Shut up and stop scaring me.
@Karenin My mom had my sister second, who was a 9lb baby. She said it was the worst delivery of the three of us kids. She tore really bad with my sister. And I heard you can follow in your mothers steps with this stuff. (Don't know if that's true). But that hasn't helped my fears any.
I'm trying to not think about it though. DS1 was only 6lbs 13oz, so I hope DS2 isn't too much bigger. Though I'm now over my due date with DS2, and I had DS1 at 37weeks. So It'll be a surprise.
My other irrational fear is that my last labor with my daughter was so intense and fast that this one will be much easier (maybe slower??)so that I won't realize it's time to go in until too late! I'm not sure if that's a fear or a hope though lol!
Re: Irrational Fears Friday
My biggest fear is going straight into hard labor while out at the store or something and not being able to get back home by myself and being stuck on the floor of the cereal aisle.
So whatever your biggest fears are, remember they are extremely unlikely. And in the event you are in the unlucky group like me, I think and hope you will be blessed with good doctors and medical staff like I was.
My irrational fears:
1. Going overdue and having a 9lb plus baby (others were all progressively bigger).
2. Baby getting stuck (again) as happened with kids 2 & 3 worse pain ever and apparently I was begging them to kill me!!!!
3. Hubby not making it home and no one else being around to look after the kids - so effectively being stranded, in pain, in labour and having to deal with my other kids!!?
4. Something being wrong with baby due to GBS (I tested positive).
5. Dying and leaving my kids without a mum.
Think that's it! Lol xxxx
my second LO was 10 lbs 3 oz and I'm a very petite person but the birth was not bad! My DH is a foot taller than me and a broad shouldered person Henry my massive kids lol but fbthis is your fear I can tell you that big babies aren't always rough deliveries. It was much harder work pushing than with my first, who was 8.5, but that was the only difference. Hope that helps a tiny bit!
Maybe I just carry babies weird. I dunno. Shut up and stop scaring me.
My mom had my sister second, who was a 9lb baby. She said it was the worst delivery of the three of us kids. She tore really bad with my sister.
And I heard you can follow in your mothers steps with this stuff. (Don't know if that's true).
But that hasn't helped my fears any.
I'm trying to not think about it though. DS1 was only 6lbs 13oz, so I hope DS2 isn't too much bigger. Though I'm now over my due date with DS2, and I had DS1 at 37weeks. So It'll be a surprise.