PGAL (Pregnant after a loss) Check-in Jan 11

Fremdschamen · January 2016

Hope you are all doing well today!

Weeks:

What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to):

Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes:

GTKY: Totally unrelated! Did you do any post-secondary education or training? Where and what was it for?

Fremdschamen · January 2016

Weeks: 7w1d

What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): Doctor's appointment tomorrow and midwife the following week

Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: Lots of symptoms and a positive feeling today. But I wish my pregnancy were public knowledge so I could explain to my boss that I feel crappy.

GTKY: Totally unrelated! Did you do any post-secondary education or training? Where and what was it for? I did my BA at the University of Victoria (Canada) and my law degree at the University of Alberta (Canada). My BA is in History and Political Science. I'm a lawyer now, so I use my law degree, but not so much my BA.

ThisisNumber3 · January 2016

I really need help ladies. PGAL brain is really kicking in. I had a bad headache last night (not enough water) and I just feel like thats it, this one is gone).

Weeks: 9 weeks tomorrow

What's next? Busy week at work conference this week (I think I packed enough clothes that will hide the bloat). Then two LONG weeks in the office before my next appointment 2/1 when I'll be 12 weeks. I'm really debating seeing if I can get it moved to the week prior so I can ease my mind and it puts a good space between that OB appointment and the 13 week NT scan.

Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I had a headache and was bummed I couldn't take my usual meds that would have kicked it for sure.

GTKY: Totally unrelated! Did you do any post-secondary education or training? Where and what was it for?

Great question! I have my MBA and looking back I think it really helped my career. I wish I had more management training though (how to organize staff and motivate them).

1faceinacrowd · January 2016

Weeks: 9w6d

What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): Just my 12 week appointment later this month. Can't wait to see baby moving around in there!

Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I'm going through a weird mid-twenties crisis right now trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up (I'm already in a well-established career). I'm seriously considering maybe studying law, or working my way into a Board of Governors/Board of Directors type of position. Blah, I don't know!

GTKY: Totally unrelated! Did you do any post-secondary education or training? Where and what was it for?
I received an Associate's degree in Business Management last year at a local community college and I'm now enrolled at Bellevue University studying Business Analysis and Management. I graduate next February!

mouse1029 · January 2016

Weeks: 8w5d

What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to):
next appt is 2/1. Also meeting with the mfm on 2/4 to discuss genetic testing.

Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I feel like crap. Its hard to stay positive when you want to be laying in bed. And I've had to tell a few people because I couldn't hide being sick and that wasn't what I wanted to do. I would have preferred to wait.

GTKY: Totally unrelated! Did you do any post-secondary education or training? Where and what was it for?
Nope. I am not a fan of school. I may take some individual classes though to help further myself, but I don't think I'll ever enroll in another degree program.

Fremdschamen · January 2016

@ThisisNumber3 Sending you lots of hugs and sticky baby vibes. No harm in seeing if they'll move your appointment up a week.

ramoseecology · January 2016

Weeks:
9w5d

What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to):
Blood work/nurse appointment tomorrow, then doctor's appointment Wed. morning, where she'll do a quick scan.

Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: Feeling nauseous and tired but not too bad. I'm running out of clothes fast....

GTKY: Totally unrelated! Did you do any post-secondary education or training? Where and what was it for?
Bachelor's degree from UC Berkeley in conservation and resource studies. Nothing beyond that except for a few accounting classes, and other miscellaneous. I work in higher education but have no desire to get a graduate degree.

Bookhousegirl · January 2016

Hugs to you @ThisisNumber3 !! I definitely have those days too, where I can't seem to stay positive.

Weeks: 9w

What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): 2nd appt next Wednesday and then the NT scan/blood work the following week.

Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I forgot to take my progesterone yesterday, which my doctor said is fine since I'm only on it for one more week, but I was so relieved that I still felt like crap and I didn't have any bleeding. I know it probably wouldn't have allowed my levels to drop that significantly but it gives me a little peace of mind.

GTKY: Totally unrelated! Did you do any post-secondary education or training? Where and what was it for?
I have a BA in philosophy and a Master's in Social work from NYU. I am constantly toying with the idea of getting my doctorate but I doubt I'll do it anytime soon.

JournoGrl23 · January 2016

Weeks: 9 weeks today!

What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): I'm getting blood and urine work done on Tuesday and then my next appointment in early February. I'm really looking forward to the next appointment because I get to listen to the heart beat!

Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I wish the nausea would go away. It's breaking through my medication. I'm ready for the second trimester!

GTKY: Totally unrelated! Did you do any post-secondary education or training? Where and what was it for?
I got a B.S. In journalism with a minor in political science. I still regret not becoming an equine vet or doctor instead though.

bananers · January 2016

Weeks: 8

What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): appointment with the RE Wednesday. Another u/s and going over the results of my RPL bloodwork. I'm dying to know if it turned up anything.

Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I'm in maternity pants today. At 8 weeks. I feel partially ridiculous and partially superstitious (Is it too soon? I had pulled out the maternity pants a week before our loss at 13 weeks last time), but the bloat is so out of control this time (blame the progesterone sups?) that I just could not get comfortable. I'm scared and pgal brain is out of control.

GTKY: Totally unrelated! Did you do any post-secondary education or training? Where and what was it for?

Nope!

ETA: I was thinking grad or vocational training when I read post-secondary. I do have a BA in communication, which I use in my career in PR/marketing.

ThisisNumber3 · January 2016

Thanks all. I'm still just not feeling pregnant (not symptom wise just instinct). This week will be busy at this conference and when I get back I think I'm going to call my OB. No sense in stressing if they will let me run in for an early check.

nellybellycat · January 2016

@ThisisNumber3 girl, im right there with ya. This is my 3rd pg after 2 MMC and I just dont feel pregnant. I know symptoms mean nothing. My 1st two pgs were so different but ended the same way. I feel terrible thinking this way, but we cant control our pgal brains. We WILL be ok!

Week: 9w 4days

Whats next: first u/s on friday

nervous as hell but if it doesnt go well, ive been there before. I feel like my mind has already decided something is wrong. Ive already taken Monday off work just in case I need another DNC (wtf, right?!) so I guess I can only be pleasantly surprised on Friday. Both of my previous losses happened at 7-8 weeks so if all is well, its the furthest we've gotten.

Rants/raves-pgal brain. Just cant shake it

GTKY: have a BA in poli sci from The Ohio State University (Go Buckeyes!). I have 1 year of vet school then realized it wasnt for me. I happily work in clinical research in the Oncology dept. We are encouraged to cont our education-masters, PhD, but there is no real incentive $$ and We all already work long hours so im not sure when cont edu would be feasable

shelbiboston · January 2016

Weeks: 10w3d

What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): I go for blood work next Friday to find out the gender. We will have the results back by early February.

Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: The nausea is getting the best of me and I can't really eat. And I'm so lazy its unreal. All I want to do is nap lol. Come on, second trimester!

GTKY: Totally unrelated! Did you do any post-secondary education or training? Where and what was it for?

Nope.

Catie08 · January 2016

8w3d

What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): 1st ultrasound is on Thursday! Hoping to hear the heartbeat.

Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I felt okay most of last week. I hit 8 weeks and boom, nausea is back in full force. I'm also more tired this week. PGAL brain is on high alert. I didn't make it to my first appointment last time.

GTKY: Totally unrelated! Did you do any post-secondary education or training? Where and what was it for? I obtained my BA in Business and Psychology at Austin College (small, private liberal arts school in Sherman, TX an hour north of Dallas) and my MBA from University of Texas at Arlington.

Abcd7890 · January 2016

Weeks: 8 w 5 d

What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): Next appt is the end of January. I look forward to sleep any chance I get. I've never been this tired!

Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I just want to send positive vibes to everyone. Its tough staying positive all the time when everything is so uncertain. We need others to do it for us sometimes.

GTKY: Totally unrelated! Did you do any post-secondary education or training? Where and what was it for?
BA in Mathematics and Masters in education. Wish I would have spent my money on a masters in math though. Feel a little stuck in education. It may just be the seven year itch though.

ThisisNumber3 · January 2016

@nellybellycat good luck at your appointment. My two losses were at different times so that makes it tough. But the third pregnancy after the two losses resulted in my son. So fingers crossed third time is your lucky number too.

I think I'm going to call and try to move my appointment. Right now I had my US last week at 8w, next scheduled for 12w and NT for 13w. I want to see if I can get checked between week 10-11 instead.

crob5685 · January 2016

Weeks: 7 w 6 d

What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): Appt with my OB next Tuesday. He will take a quick second peak. I will be 8+5, will feel a lot better after a second ultrasound if all is well.

Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I know this is a common one but I can help but be freaking out that my only real symptoms are being really tired and having to pee a lot. Makes me anxious to get to the stage where I will see physical changes.

GTKY: Totally unrelated! Did you do any post-secondary education or training? Where and what was it for?
BS in Hospitality Management from Purdue. MBA from the Kelley School of Business (Indiana University)

Abcd7890 · January 2016

I was just wondering if you ladies do anything, small or big, to commemorate the EDDs of your losses? I feel like I need to do something but am stuck on what. Thanks!

bananers · January 2016

Abcd7890 said:
I was just wondering if you ladies do anything, small or big, to commemorate the EDDs of your losses? I feel like I need to do something but am stuck on what. Thanks!

I don't. But the days don't go unnoticed. It's usually a day of quiet reflection for me. Same with loss anniversaries.

revlaurawittman · January 2016

Weeks: 7w4d

What's next? Our next appt is our nt scan on February 15!

Rants/raves/positive vibes: we had our first ultrasound yesterday and baby was perfect! Strong heartbeat and everything. I'm feeling so relieved and excited! If I could just get rid of this awful morning sickness....

gtky: I have a masters of divinity from duke university. I'm an ordained elder in the methodist church.

crob5685 · January 2016

Abcd7890 said:
I was just wondering if you ladies do anything, small or big, to commemorate the EDDs of your losses? I feel like I need to do something but am stuck on what. Thanks!

I never officially had a due date which is kind of weird but in some ways it also has made it so I haven't been dreading a specific day. My EDD would have been sometime around now give or take a week or two though, so definitely have been thinking about how I'm just at the beginning again and that if things had gone well the last time that I could have a baby now, and that's hard. Anyway, I think you should do something if you feel that is what you need to do, but don't have any ideas.

Fremdschamen · January 2016

Good question, @Abcd7890 I will hopefully be 20 weeks pregnant with this baby on the EDD of my previous pregnancy. I don't have anything planned yet. I think DH and I will probably just talk about it and shed some tears. I actually think the loss anniversary will be harder for me. My loss was somewhat traumatic and I am still easily triggered when I think about it (I drove by the hospital yesterday and spontaneously started bawling).

misslissa32 · January 2016

I found out I was pregnant on my EDD of my loss. Helped take the sting out a little. Just trying to stay positive and remember this is a different pregnancy, different baby and different ending.

Abcd7890 · January 2016

Thanks for the input. I really appreciate the sharing. I know its not easy to talk about. I feel better just being able to talk about it with people that understand. Experiencing a lot of mixed emotions but trying to stay positive and remember this is different like you said.

@crob5685 ours was also to be around this time. You'll be in my thoughts.

nellybellycat · January 2016

I needed to share. I had my 1st u/s today and it's real!!!! There is a baby with a heartbeat and it was wiggling all around! I was so convinced this was going to be mmc#3 bc I have felt nothing. I was even measuring 11weeks when we thought I was 9. This is so unreal. Im in shock. Due to my previous losses and bc im 34, we're having additional testing and scan done soon. I think if all goes well at that appt, we'll be comfortable telling our family and friends.

bunfactory · January 2016

Weeks: 9w2d

What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): 3rd ultrasound on Monday. At least, after so many losses they give lots of opportunities to make sure everything is okay.

Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: bit of a rant, but the number of times I see people referring to "board organisation" is making me feel a bit... stifled. I am a FTM and I don't frequent many message boards so I am unfamiliar with many of the concepts that are discussed. The only thing i really understand is, DON'T START A THREAD!!

GTKY: Totally unrelated; Did you do any post-secondary education or training. Where and what was it for?
I have taken a few college classes and i always talk about going back, but the reality is that I am already very senior in my position for my age, so I can't imagine accumulating so much debt for... what, at this point? I was told several times that I reached my career peak without a degree, only to exceed that each time. I talk a lot about it with my mentor.

crob5685 · January 2016

Abcd7890 said:
Thanks for the input. I really appreciate the sharing. I know its not easy to talk about. I feel better just being able to talk about it with people that understand. Experiencing a lot of mixed emotions but trying to stay positive and remember this is different like you said.

@crob5685 ours was also to be around this time. You'll be in my thoughts.

Thanks! You'll be in mine as well @Abcd7890

gadzooks_3 · January 2016

11w0d

What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): NT is coming up in a little over a week and we ate waiting on NIPT results which has me very very nervous. Clenching my jaw in my sleep nervous.

Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: My lower back snd hips are killing me, so sore, gotta get back to yoga!

GTKY: Totally unrelated! Did you do any post-secondary education or training? Where and what was it for?

I am currently a Doctoral Candidate in sociology.

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