Boy moms: have you and SO discussed circumcision yet?

spicedice · January 2016

With DS1, DH and I debated for ages before coming to an agreement about circumcision. We haven't discussed yet if we plan on doing the same thing or doing the opposite. Have the rest of you boy moms discussed it with your partners yet? I'm not really interested in the for/against debate, since I already know where I stand on that, and I feel like that would lead to a bloodbath. With >3 months to go, I think it's about time we all started thinking about birth plans.

jkeezy · January 2016

Yes and yes

spicedice · January 2016

I keep forgetting to talk to DH about it. We didn't have DS1 circumcised, so I keep assuming we just won't again with DS2. Then again, you know what they say about assuming...

ivyvines6 · January 2016

Yes and we're still arguing about it...

elasticheart13 · January 2016

Yes and we don't want to

loveymay · January 2016

Yes and we are not having it done. Apparently where I live, its still pretty routine. My OB office automatically adds a circ fee ($426) to everyone's account, before you even know what the sex of the baby is. I think that is backwards, they should only add that fee if you specifically request it. I had them remove the fee from my account, and the lady asked me "oh are you having a girl?" I'm like no, its a boy but we don't want it done. I guess nationally the rates of it being performed are down, but not in my area. I think to each their own, but in our case we decided against it.

brie_and_almonds · January 2016

I'm not having a boy, but Dh and I discussed this a little bit before we knew and couldn't decide. I was leaning toward not, but I'm relieved we haven't had to choose. Good luck to those of you still trying to make a decision!

K&Elizabeth · January 2016

We've discussed it, but haven't decided yet. I'm leaning toward not doing it.

momofmanyinthemitten · January 2016

We did with DS1, but it was botched and he had to have it redone at a year. I'm leaning toward not, but DH wants to again.

thaisac1 · January 2016

We've discussed it briefly, and both of us are for it, so we haven't talked about it again.

olivemomma · January 2016

Very quickly discussed it - this may not be very 'mom' of me but I told DH it was really up to him. I could honestly go either way but he really cares about having it done so we will. It was about a 2 minute conversation.

zazouille · January 2016

No, because it goes without saying that we will not be doing it.

ladylolly89 · January 2016

Yes, we will be doing it. It barely even needed a discussion!

St0v3s · January 2016

We didn't really need to discuss it because I already knew his viewpoint. However I asked him to be 100% sure and we both agree on doing it.

DougalMcG · January 2016

Briefly discussed it and yes we are doing it

imrachellea · January 2016

We're having a girl, so it isn't an issue this time around. They always ask this question in the intake appt at the beginning of pregnancy at our practice. With my first (girl) I hadn't heard anything for or against so just said whatever DH wants. This time around, I had heard a lot of conversation about not doing it, so I told DH he had to research it and it was still going to be his decision. He never got around to researching it, but doesn't matter since we have another girl. But I will leave that decision up to him in the future for any boys we may have.

wildtot · January 2016

Yes discussed it a bit and we will be doing it. I kinda had already decided before hand and he just agreed.

rebelone · January 2016

We have already discussed it and due to a list of reasons we won't be doing it.

spicedice · January 2016

loveymay said:
Yes and we are not having it done. Apparently where I live, its still pretty routine. My OB office automatically adds a circ fee ($426) to everyone's account, before you even know what the sex of the baby is. I think that is backwards, they should only add that fee if you specifically request it. I had them remove the fee from my account, and the lady asked me "oh are you having a girl?" I'm like no, its a boy but we don't want it done. I guess nationally the rates of it being performed are down, but not in my area. I think to each their own, but in our case we decided against it.

They seem to always make the assumption that you want to have it done regardless of where you live. The rates of it are really down in my area (I live the in super hipster Portland-metro area in Oregon), but I still had to keep reminding the nurses that we did not want to have it done... They kept coming back, looking at DS1's chart, and asked if I was scheduling his circumcision for another day. DS1's first pediatrician did the same thing... Every appointment she asked if I wanted to schedule it for a later date. His second doctor never asked about it once. She just looked down, said, "You decided on no circumcision," and then moved on.

damjem8415 · January 2016

I voted no because this is boy #3 for us. We had the first two circumcised and will have this little guy circumcised too.

mrstrax · January 2016

I said yes but it was technically last night and it went like this:
Me - hey did I ever actually ask you to be the one to research and decide about circumcision?
DH- yup, I'm on it.

So idk what the end decision will be yet, but I trust DH to look at the medical research along with any social pros/cons that I don't think I will ever fully understand since I (surprise) don't have a penis myself.

brit&nate2010 · January 2016

Our son is circ. And if this baby is a boy, he will be too

Somersky · January 2016

I feel strongly about not doing it, so we'd had the discussion before ever getting pregnant. Just one of those topics we talked about at some point in our 10 years together. We are team green, so 50/50 odds the question will even come up when baby arrives.

amandac12581 · January 2016

I'm Team Green but DH and I briefly spoke about it. I told him that this decision is his to make.

Ready4theParty · January 2016

We don't have to make this decision but DH and I discussed this at length for the first 20 weeks. With DH not being circunsized we thought it might be better is a DS wasn't too.

cosmobella · January 2016

Third boy on the way. We haven't discussed it because we've already decided against it with the other two.

Goldsgirl9 · January 2016

DS was circumcised so this lo will be as well. No need for a discussion, I know how DH feels about it already and we are on the same page.

AliSummer · January 2016

Yes, we discussed it, DH and DS1 are both circumcised, so there wasn't much to talk about. Kudos to everyone on here for talking about such a sensitive topic without spazzing.

gracehopper27 · January 2016

We've talked about it and I told him that it was ultimately up to him. I felt that DH was in a better position to decide but we did discuss some of the pros and cons together. I think we ultimately will end up circumcising.

sarahufl · January 2016

We are team green. Haven't discussed, guess we should

amaniupendo · January 2016

I was hoping to avoid this discussion again. I think we won't have it done, but partially out of laziness (we'd have to go an hour away to have it done).

I have no strong opinion either way.

RoseShadow873 · January 2016

We discussed it and decided not to do it.

fourtsixand2 · January 2016

Circumcision wasn't even a discussion for us. It was yes, yes and more yes.

AnyaZM · January 2016

my first son had it, since my husband insisted on it.we are having a boy again, so haven't even discussed it: kind of given that we are doing it this time too.

Joness11 · January 2016

We discussed it and we aren't doing it.

Missingchampagne · January 2016

It was a very brief discussion, we will be having him circumcised.

MrsZko · January 2016

DS is circumcised and I want baby boy to be the same as him and his dad. I'm not excited about it...it went well the first time but in hindsight I'd probably not bother with it.

redselig · January 2016

We discussed it prior to knowing we were having a boy. We won't be doing it.

spicedice · January 2016

Finally talked to DH. We both are in agreement to not do it with DS2. Phew. Last time we couldn't come to an agreement until after DS1 was born!

cmjenkies · January 2016

Following my research, I still don't have a string opinion one way or another. There are so many factors that comes with having a penis that I will never truly understand and so I left the ultimate decision to DH with DS. He said yes, and that was that. We're having a girl this time around, but if it was a boy, I'd think we would still do it again. When DS was born, the intactivism movement was not really a thing. I'm all for informed healthcare decisions one way or another.

mrstrax · January 2016

cmjenkies said:
Following my research, I still don't have a string opinion one way or another. There are so many factors that comes with having a penis that I will never truly understand and so I left the ultimate decision to DH with DS. He said yes, and that was that. We're having a girl this time around, but if it was a boy, I'd think we would still do it again. When DS was born, the intactivism movement was not really a thing. I'm all for informed healthcare decisions one way or another.

That was my thinking completely. I'm inttigued to see what DH ultimately chooses.

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