@PinkLady2015 DH actually had hernia surgery and was very freaked out by how it looked down there. When they did the first side they shaved half of his hair off and it was all he could talk about coming out of anesthesia. So when the second side needed done he completely shaved himself to prevent being lopsided for the Drs and nurses. Plus it was good to not have him talking about the shaving of his privates for 7hours post surgery.
@DominiqueU I know I pooped on the table. I had an epidural and a booster one, too, but I felt the poop happening. And the wiping the nurse did for me. I was concerned about it, but I was more concerned with getting that baby out so the ridiculous pain would stop. Ring. Of. Fire.
TTC Since January 2012
Me:37 DH:34 DX July 2013: Unexplained Infertility New DX Dec 2013: DOR
At 14.5 weeks I'm finding it getting a little hard to bend over and shave my legs without getting out of breath let alone my bush lol. My OB hasn't asked me to remove my pants so I've just been trimming and as previous posters said, nobody cares - the hair is there naturally it's something we all have and it is nothing to be embarrassed about
@DominiqueU I am fairly confident I will poop on the table. My DH is already fully aware and it will come to no ones shock when it happens. I have such a regular excretory system that there is no way I can avoid it. I will however be maintaining my bush because the thought of hair getting stuck in the stitches makes me cringe!
I don't think I've ever seen more angst over how one's vagina will be perceived by their doctor prior to this BMB. Despite that, I truly think a doctor won't care so long as one is clean.
1. I've had 2 pelvic exams since I got pg. (One was for spotting.) 2. Before the dr lifted the drape, she asked if I had any hemorrhiods. I said no and she said, "Yet. Everyone gets them eventually." (At least that will take our minds off the state of our pubic hair, eh?) 3. I've come to terms with the fact that I may poop on the table, but it never occurred to me that someone would wipe me. ...Back to square one on coming to terms with it.
TTC#1 since Jan 2015 BFP 2/19/15 • MMC found at 9 wks • D&E at 11 wks (age 36) BFP 8/29/15 • CP (age 37)
BFP 11/18/15 • DD born at 41 weeks (age 37/38)
TTC#2 since May 2017 BFP 10/18/17 • MMC found at 8 wks • Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39) BFP 2/16/18 • CP (age 39) BFP 4/13/18 • CP (age 39) BFP 5/07/18 • MMC found at 10.5 wks • D&E at 11.5 wks • Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40) 9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied) RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy. BFP 9/24/18 • CP (age 40)
BFP 5/11/19 • Fraternal twins • MMC found at 10w5d (Baby A 6w, Baby B 10w) • Misoprostal at 11 weeks (age 41)
I trim whenever I feel like it. I don't do anything before appts, but my OB doesn't look, except for last time when they did a pap.
When I gave birth to DD, I'm pretty sure my bush was a giant mess. But by the end of everything, when they were stitching up my tear and anyone who walked by could see errrrything, I really didn't give a shit. Speaking of shits, you might shit on the table. At that point, who cares what everything else looks like, amiright?
You guys... I really don't want to poop on the table. I know that should be the least of my worries, but it is high up on my concerns. It sounds like not a fun thing to do.
Did you know that they used to give women enemas while in labour to clean out their bowels? Yup this was a thing - at least in South Africa when my mom had my sister and I. Can you imagine being in labour and then getting an enema??? I'd much rather poop on the table than get an enema.
TMI Story: My mom was at a dinner party when she went into labour with me, but she really wanted the chocolate mousse dessert so she didn't tell my dad until dessert was finished. Then she turned to him and said "I think we should go to the hospital." She said they were adamant about giving her an enema despite her telling them she could feel me coming. She remembers sitting there thinking I was about to be born into the toilet. Thankfully she made it but I was born shortly after she finished. I can't remember if they tried to make her do it with my younger siblings (born in Canada).
At my 8 week appt I had a regular pap done and I was all cleaned up and down there, however I've totally let go and stopped caring. At 15 weeks I went in for cramps and a tiny bit of spotting, in which she did another exam down there, and I couldn't care less what it looked like. I'm pretty sure she didn't either.
As a nurse I can promise nobody cares about how your pubic hair looks. Just take a shower or do a quick wash up. I've seen hundreds of genitals and the only ones that stuck out in my mind are the ones that were unclean/smelly.
As for nurses wiping up your poop - that's just a day in the life. It's really not a big deal and doesn't phase us in the least to clean someone up. If we were grossed out by it we probably wouldn't be nurses. It's just another body function.
I keep myself trimmed for my own comfort, and found post-partum that I felt cleaner that way. I used a cheap electric razor from Walmart, with the smallest guard on, so I could trim without the risk of cutting myself when I couldn't see. Actually one reason I'm excited for a planned c-section this go around is no guess work of when I'll have the baby so I won't have to stay on top of it as much as I did towards the end last time.
I had a pap at my last appointment, but I just showered the night before (early morning appointment). I usually just trim the bush down and in the summer I clean up around the edges so it doesn't stick out of my swim suit. I just stuck with my usual because it felt odd to me to do something special for my doctor. Also, with my first I was concerned about pooping on the table. When the time came there was so much going on that it was the last thing on my mind. Since my first was born I got my CNA license and I can tell you that cleaning up a little poo is NBD to nurses or aids.
@TattoosandLace when I read your post I totally took that as you blow died your bush. And I was like is that a thing? Then I realized you probably meant the hair on your head...
I'm dying laughing. Yes, I meant the hair on my head.
Soooo. I made the comment to my husband as he was getting out of the shower and into his hunting clothes that if he wanted any oral in the future he had some serious manscaping to do. He typically never lets his get out of control. But his bush is bigger than my bush at the moment. Then as soon as he left for the stand I shaved my legs, arm pits, and trimmed up the down town so I wasn't hypocritical. Lol
I like a brazillian wax. Ive heard that it gets more sensitive towards the end of pregnancy. Shaving leaves me stubbly with red bumps and itchy. wish I could get them more often.
Totally subscribe to the 'neat & clean' theory but... What about all the extra discharge? I can be crystal clean and about an hour later, especially if I've been walking, I can have a bit of a mess going on. It's not smelly, but isn't clean either. I've been going to the toilet right before appointments to check and wipe up, but I don't know if I can do much else?
Totally subscribe to the 'neat & clean' theory but... What about all the extra discharge? I can be crystal clean and about an hour later, especially if I've been walking, I can have a bit of a mess going on. It's not smelly, but isn't clean either. I've been going to the toilet right before appointments to check and wipe up, but I don't know if I can do much else?
Try panty liners they help me and then just do whatever needs to be done during bathroom trips.
Totally subscribe to the 'neat & clean' theory but... What about all the extra discharge? I can be crystal clean and about an hour later, especially if I've been walking, I can have a bit of a mess going on. It's not smelly, but isn't clean either. I've been going to the toilet right before appointments to check and wipe up, but I don't know if I can do much else?
lol, this reminds me of Amy Schumer:
“Tonight I had one goal and that was to just be able to take my underwear off at the end of the night and have it not look like I blew my nose in it. And don’t look disgusted, guys, because your underwear looks like a coal miner wiped their brow at the end of a shift.”
It's a vagina, darling, discharge comes with the territory.
Also, who's OB is getting all up in their business at every point that smell would even be an issue... I had a transvaginal u/s and was standing in front of the machine and didn't even bend down to insert the wand...
Re: Your bush....
@DominiqueU I know I pooped on the table. I had an epidural and a booster one, too, but I felt the poop happening. And the wiping the nurse did for me. I was concerned about it, but I was more concerned with getting that baby out so the ridiculous pain would stop. Ring. Of. Fire.
4 rounds of clomid, 2 with IUI = BFN
I don't think I've ever seen more angst over how one's vagina will be perceived by their doctor prior to this BMB. Despite that, I truly think a doctor won't care so long as one is clean.
*typo
BFP 2/19/15 • MMC found at 9 wks • D&E at 11 wks (age 36)
BFP 8/29/15 • CP (age 37)
TTC#2 since May 2017
BFP 10/18/17 • MMC found at 8 wks • Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39)
BFP 2/16/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 4/13/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 5/07/18 • MMC found at 10.5 wks • D&E at 11.5 wks • Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40)
9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied)
RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy.
BFP 9/24/18 • CP (age 40)
TMI Story: My mom was at a dinner party when she went into labour with me, but she really wanted the chocolate mousse dessert so she didn't tell my dad until dessert was finished. Then she turned to him and said "I think we should go to the hospital." She said they were adamant about giving her an enema despite her telling them she could feel me coming. She remembers sitting there thinking I was about to be born into the toilet. Thankfully she made it but I was born shortly after she finished. I can't remember if they tried to make her do it with my younger siblings (born in Canada).
As for nurses wiping up your poop - that's just a day in the life. It's really not a big deal and doesn't phase us in the least to clean someone up. If we were grossed out by it we probably wouldn't be nurses. It's just another body function.
I keep myself trimmed for my own comfort, and found post-partum that I felt cleaner that way. I used a cheap electric razor from Walmart, with the smallest guard on, so I could trim without the risk of cutting myself when I couldn't see. Actually one reason I'm excited for a planned c-section this go around is no guess work of when I'll have the baby so I won't have to stay on top of it as much as I did towards the end last time.
Also, with my first I was concerned about pooping on the table. When the time came there was so much going on that it was the last thing on my mind. Since my first was born I got my CNA license and I can tell you that cleaning up a little poo is NBD to nurses or aids.
Then as soon as he left for the stand I shaved my legs, arm pits, and trimmed up the down town so I wasn't hypocritical. Lol
lol, this reminds me of Amy Schumer:
“Tonight I had one goal and that was to just be able to take my underwear off at the end of the night and have it not look like I blew my nose in it. And don’t look disgusted, guys, because your underwear looks like a coal miner wiped their brow at the end of a shift.”
It's a vagina, darling, discharge comes with the territory.
Also, who's OB is getting all up in their business at every point that smell would even be an issue... I had a transvaginal u/s and was standing in front of the machine and didn't even bend down to insert the wand...